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Testing Patience

Faith and patience are two of the most important traits that we must develop if we want to get through life with dignity. Unfortunately, not everyone is equipped with the same level of resilience, which can make it difficult when it comes to disagreements or moments where our opinion differs from others. When those moments occur, it’s important for us to remain in control of our actions and behavior, no matter how much our feelings want to tell us otherwise.

Have Patience

In such cases, praying can often help guide us towards making the right decisions, allowing God to handle matters as best as possible. It’s important that we do not give in to any rash impulses during these times; instead, take a few moments to breathe and collect yourself so that you may assess the situation in a better way before attempting to find an appropriate solution. Only then will you be able to act out of character without regretting it later on.

When we encounter situations that test our faith and patience, it can be a difficult experience to get through. When two people have different views, disagreements can arise and lead to arguments or hurt feelings. In these cases, it’s important to know how to handle the situation in a positive way that doesn’t cause more harm or emotional pain. The first step is to take some time and think before speaking. When emotions are running high, it can be easy to react without considering the consequences of your words. Pause and reflect on what the other person has said instead of instantly reacting. It may even be helpful to take a break from the conversation altogether if necessary in order to regain composure and ensure you won’t regret your words later.

Once you are able to discuss the situation with a calmer headspace, express your opinion respectfully. Be open minded and try not to talk over one another – take turns when talking about the issue at hand and let each person have their say. Listen actively for what the other person is saying rather than merely hearing them out and already formulating a rebuttal in your head as they speak. Ultimately, this will help foster understanding on both sides as well as build empathy which could ultimately bring you closer together as opposed to driving further apart. Even if you don’t agree with the other person’s opinion or perspective on things, respect their right to have it nonetheless. Showing acceptance even in times of disagreement will go a long way.

Maintaining peace between two people with opposing beliefs or opinions while still allowing both sides the freedom to share their point of view; without feeling judged or attacked by the other party involved. By testing our faith and patience with difficult conversations and tough topics, we have an opportunity for growth – if handled correctly. Rather than looking at such situations as “painful experiences”, view them instead as potential lessons that can bring us closer together as we learn from each other with mutual understanding and compassion rather than simply competing against each other for who can “win” in any given argument or debate.

Conflicting views or relationships can trigger our mental health issues. How we are able to balance conflict is a matter of patience. Even though our patience can be tested, you are in control. You are able to change a defusing situation by your mindset. It can be easy to speak out of character but to resolve the matter with patience, takes practice. High emotions will not help the situation. Emotions will only trigger action or behavior that can escalate the situation. Trying to be calm is a practice that involves breathing technique, that relaxes the mindset. Giving the ability to rethink the message sent by the other person. Once a balance of acceptance is clear the views can point in the right direction.

As we all know, being open minded is important to convey the point of view in a suitable environment. Allowing the mental process to view the empathy behind the intention. Most likely being level headed will defuse the matter to an understanding. Giving the parties opportunity to rationalize through knowledge vs. action. Not every situation can be resolved peacefully. However minimizing the behavior will prevent further conflict. The best scenario is to conquer with kindness. Your resistance to listen or view the perception will determine the end result. Do take a minute to level down and communicate effectively. Take a minute to regroup the mindset so testing patience, will resolve efficiently.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much. Remember Everyday Minds Matter. -Della 💞🦋

Where Every thought is processed


Personal Quotes By – Della

“Fear triggers Wisdom, connecting knowledge to life” – Della Lonaker🦋

“Without experience, Life shows no Emotion”. – Della Lonaker 🦋

“Life has a way to bruise us up, those scars are being barefooted along the way” – Della L.🦋

“Love is hard, Love is deep, Love is universal- hot glue; without it we crumble”. – Della L.🦋

“Fly once – enjoy the view, Fly twice you repeat the ride, and third time you’re ready for a new route. To Fly one must have different scenery to live Life”. -Della L🦋

“To cry is cleansing the soul, to hold back tears, – backing up emotions, don’t spoil a good heart.”. -Della L.🦋

“If you run fast enough, you miss the most important part – stop and pace yourself – not everyone gets to run again tomorrow “. – Della L.🦋

“Life has two features play or stop – pause and rewind are not options.” – Della L. 🦋

“Play fair and carefully, Life’s sudden twisted changes, determines who comes out to play tomorrow”. -Della L. 🦋

“The mind is like a butterfly, wondering from flower to flower. A gust of wind can change direction, as a damaged wing, can delay the journey. And the power of the mind can speed up recovery.”. – Della L🦋

How to Cope With Life’s Stressors and Be Honest

It’s no secret that life can be stressful. Whether it’s juggling a busy work schedule, caring for a family or managing finances, we all have our share of stressors. But what do you do when those stressors start to take a toll on your mental and physical health?

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In this blog post, we’ll explore how to cope with lifes stressors and be honest with ourselves. We’ll look at how to identify our stressors, develop coping strategies and stay true to our needs. So if you’re feeling overwhelmed, read on for some helpful tips.

Identify your stressors.

Make a list of your stressors

Making a list of your stressors is the first step in identifying them. This can be done by brainstorming or keeping a journal of things that cause you stress. Once you have a list, you can start to look for patterns and identify which stressors are within your control and which are out of your control.

Determine which stressors are within your control

Some stressors will be within your control, such as deadlines at work or personal relationships. Other stressors, like the weather or traffic, will be out of your control. Identifying which stressors are within your control can help you develop a coping strategy (see

Develop a coping strategy.

Identify your healthy coping mechanisms

There are a number of healthy coping mechanisms that can help you deal with stress. Some of these include exercise, relaxation techniques, journaling, and spending time with friends and family. It’s important to find what works best for you and to have a few different coping mechanisms that you can rely on when needed.

Avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms

There are also a number of unhealthy coping mechanisms that can make stress worse. These include things like using drugs or alcohol to cope, overeating or undereating, avoidance, and self-harm. If you find yourself relying on unhealthy coping mechanisms, it’s important to seek professional help.

Seek professional help if needed

If you’re struggling to cope with stress on your own, it’s important to seek professional help. A therapist can provide you with support and guidance as you learn how to deal with your stressors in a healthy way.

Be honest with yourself.

Acknowledge your feelings

Don’t bottle up your emotions

Seek help if you’re struggling to cope

It’s important to be honest with yourself when you’re feeling stressed out or overwhelmed. Acknowledging your feelings and taking the time to process them is crucial for managing stress in a healthy way. Bottling up your emotions can lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as self-medicating with alcohol or drugs. If you find yourself struggling to cope, it’s important to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor.

The most important thing to remember when coping with stressors is to be honest with yourself. Acknowledge your feelings, don’t bottle up your emotions, and seek help if you’re struggling to cope. By following these steps, you can develop a healthy coping strategy that works for you.

🤯 My Mind Over thinking 🤯

Sleep is Healthy
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Either it be a night out or night in, our mind determines our night, night time. We can try our darndest to stay awake for short spans. The long haul staying awake for days is merely, impossible. Once the brain gets to a certain point, it shuts down. Auto pilot, the brain shuts off, can no longer function. The body and mind reset to re-energizer. Long periods of no sleep is unhealthy as behavior is abnormal, hallucinations, slow thinking and response time begin.

How to Get More Restful Sleep

If you can’t sleep because your mind is racing, then you aren’t alone. It runs through the day’s events and to-do list before you are even ready to go to bed. This keeps you from getting much sleep, and it makes you unable to accomplish anything. You are not getting the rest that you need or deserve, and you are feeling stressed and frustrated. Fortunately, there are ways to help you get more restful sleep.


Depending on the cause of stress, there are several possible ways to reduce it. You can use mindfulness exercises, and you can also download stress apps to help you reduce the amount of stress you feel. Mindfulness is a process of focusing on the present moment without any external distractions. Other effective stress management methods include eating healthy and exercising regularly. Staying away from caffeine, alcohol, and processed foods will also help reduce the stress you feel.

Excessive thinking before going to bed

Excessive thinking before going to bed can have a negative effect on your sleep. Research shows that it can cause insomnia. This occurs because your mind races through things and you can’t shut off the thoughts. Whether you’re worried about work, life, relationships, or any number of other issues, racing thoughts can disrupt your sleep. Fortunately, there are ways to manage your racing thoughts before you hit the hay.

One way to deal with excessive thoughts before you go to sleep is to practice mindfulness. Mindfulness involves training your mind to be more present and in the present moment. For instance, while you’re driving, you could notice how you’re thinking about a different situation. Another method is to set aside a certain time to worry or solve a problem. If you’re finding this difficult, you should speak with your GP.

Keeping a notepad next to your bed can help you focus on your worries before bed. While this doesn’t work the same way as a structured worry session, it can help you feel more relaxed and sleep better. A good way to do this is to write down the things that are worrying you and make a plan to resolve them.


Visualization is a technique used to create an image of the future in your mind. This picture can be anything you want and can help you achieve your goals. It is a powerful tool that many people use to achieve success and relax. It also helps build your self-confidence. Using visualization exercises can help you get ahead in your career and life. Here are a few ways to use visualization to your advantage.

The technique is proven to be effective for a wide range of physical and stress-related conditions. In addition to helping you reach your goals, visualization can also improve your concentration, memory, and brain power. In addition, it is an excellent way to manage difficult emotions. It can also help you create a peaceful place in your mind where you can concentrate more effectively. It can also help you relax and sleep better. If you can’t seem to get enough sleep at night, visualization can help you create a safe place to retreat to.

The first step to visualization is to visualize a peaceful scene. This can be a real or imaginary scene. You can imagine yourself in a place you like or a place you’ve visited that has helped you feel calm. Another technique is to imagine your body relaxing and your breath coursing through your body. By visualizing your body relaxed, you can push unwanted thoughts out of your mind.


There are a few different types of treatment for My Mind never sleeps. Some treatments use cognitive behavioral therapy, which teaches patients how to change their thinking and behavior to help them sleep. This treatment is often used for anxiety and other mental health problems, but it’s also useful for people who can’t sleep. It can take anywhere from six to 12 weeks to see results, and it helps people identify the triggers that cause their insomnia and learn ways to avoid them.

Sleep is important for a healthy mind and body. We all are guilty of staying up late on occasion. But when stress and overthinking keep our mind awake, it maybe time to seek professional advice. It’s okay for thinking to take place more so at times. The problem forms when we allow the disruptions of daily routine. Never under estimate a sleep deprived mind. It’s your mind that’s in charge of night, night.

Until our beautiful minds meet again. Be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter 🦋 -Della🦋💞

🌐 The Science of Behavior: How Psychology Deciphers the Mysteries of the Mind 🌐

Mysteries of the Mind

Have you ever wondered why certain people seem to be more successful than others? Or why some people are drawn to unhealthy eating patterns, while others remain healthier? The answer lies in the science of behavior—psychology’s explanation of how behaviors work and how they relate to the mind. Behavior can be broken down into three specific categories: biological, cognitive, and behavioral. Learning the basics of each will help you explain why other people may act the way they do in certain situations.

✔️ Research the Science Behind Behavior

Why do we do what we do? It’s a question that has been asked for centuries, but it is only now that psychologists are beginning to understand how behavior influences our minds. The science behind behavior is complex and multifaceted, with various factors all working together to produce thoughts and emotions. This includes biological factors such as genetics, brain chemistry and environment. Understanding the science behind behavior can help us better understand ourselves and those around us. For example, there is much research surrounding depression and anxiety which suggests they stem from chemical imbalances in the brain. Similarly, understanding the theory behind obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) can help explain why someone might compulsively wash their hands or check a lock over and over again.

✔️ Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

Cognitive-behavioral therapy is a form of psychotherapy that involves changing thoughts and behaviors in order to manage feelings and improve mental health. With CBT, clients learn more effective ways to deal with life’s challenges by examining the relationship between their thoughts, feelings, and behaviorbehaviorss. It encourages them to think about how they react differently when they are feeling certain emotions and then try new things until they find healthier responses. The emphasis on this therapy is on what people can do in the present moment to change problematic patterns without dwelling too much on why these problems happen or fixating on past events.

✔️ Parenting & Childhood Mental Health

Childhood mental health is an issue that parents all over the world struggle with. It’s difficult to know if your child is struggling or not because there isn’t always a clear sign. But, it is important to be aware and sensitive to your child’s needs so you can be proactive in preventing problems from arising.
There are many factors that play into mental health issues, but one major contributor is behavior which leads back to psychology. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), the study of human thought, emotion, and behavior focuses on how these things impact people’s lives. Studies show that behavior affects brain chemistry as well as levels of neurotransmitters like serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin – chemicals that help control moods – which also affect our moods. In other words, how we behave dictates how we think and feel as well as how we treat others.

✔️ Trauma, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), & Mental Health Conditions

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a type of anxiety disorder that can occur after a person has been exposed to a traumatic event, like military combat, sexual assault, or natural disasters. It’s not uncommon for someone who suffers from PTSD to experience nightmares and flashbacks for years after the event. People with PTSD often find it difficult to experience positive emotions like happiness and pleasure because they fear being retraumatized by everyday life. Individuals who suffer from PTSD also have a greater risk of developing other mental health conditions like depression and substance abuse. The prevalence rates for these other conditions in people with PTSD are high at about 76%.
But here’s where things get interesting–it’s not just those with PTSD that are affected. Family members of those who live with this condition also show symptoms of distress including severe insomnia, feelings of hopelessness, feelings of anger and sadness towards the individual with PTSD.

✔️ Mental Health Disorders by Category

Psychology and mental health are a multifaceted field that is still being researched and studied. Mental health disorders are diseases that affect people’s mood, thoughts, behavior and physical well-being. There are many people, and many different kinds of mental illness. Which can be further categorized into types such as personality disorders, schizophrenia or bipolar disorder. While these all have different symptoms, treatments vary from counseling to medication. The science behind how psychology deciphers the mysteries of the mind is still being explored but it has been found that by understanding how we act on behaviors it may help us better understand our minds. It seems like a paradox but if one wants to change their current state they must first study their own behavior in order to understand what about themselves needs changing.

The connection to the mind and behavior is interesting. So much can affect the reaction of behavior. The mind is a powerful foundation to life. Thinking, functioning, and living impact behavior as we know it. The connection will always be mysterious, if you really think about it. 🦋

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter – Della💞🦋

😇Why Everyday Mind’s Matter

Everyday Minds Matter was envisioned from thoughts or brain storming written regularly. Those writings from a seven year old. The brown hair, brown eyed girl, designed a dream; written with crayon and marker – Everyday Minds Matter. The final dream; folded up, sealed with a heart, that shined in pink nail polish. Protected within a jewelry box that latched without a lock. Security was tight, upon opening the box; music played as the ballorina circled in dance formation. Everyday Mind’s Matter protected in deep secret held for 34 years. A secret only known by the designer, treasured for many years.

A treasured dream to helping others overcome mental challenges and obstacles faced daily. Offering resources, techniques, and personal connections that support each individual needs.

Everyday Minds Matter goal is to welcome everyone regardless of your challenges. As our own challenges differ not every one shares the same results. What helped me work towards a happy space isn’t always best for another. It’s okay to not be okay. Sometimes trial and error is experienced before the proper treatment is found.

Sharing your personal story, life events, and experience can be anothers blessing. To recognize positive and negative influencers can influence proper changes to avoid triggers. Educate and the practice of mind exercises can improve mental health habits.

5 Key Benefits of Everyday Mind’s Matter

1-*• Importance of Childhood Mental Development

Childhood mental health development are fundamental values that influence character and behavior, into adulthood. Just as we have always been told, “what you do today, determines your tomorrow”. Mental health has the same rules. All the environmental influences positive or negative, create behavioral response. The main areas are physical (motor), language, communication, cognitive, and social/emotional. The action that creates response can only be learnt overtime. To improve mental health; practice mind exercises applied to daily routine, like reading, writing, or audio, interaction boost cognitive development. Without fostering important skills at an early age, a child could show signs of mental health issues.

2-*• Mental Health Stages

Mental health stages are presented in stages. Acknowledge the symptoms of mental health concerns present. Being aware of a condition that’s causing issues is important. (examples: confusion, stumbling, behavioral changes, reaction delays, functioning abilities, social skills). Yes, we all ignore these normal signs. Listen to the body, mostly pay attention to sudden changes. Mental or physical delays to function and disrupt daily routines can appear quickly. In some cases, health concerns gradually build, and the issues become emergencies. These signs or early symptoms need attention of professional examination for developmental diagnosis.

3-*• Strategies Customized for You

Mental or physical evaluation determines a diagnosis for addressing the concerned issue. Understanding the mental health issue will help the recovery process. Following your Healthcare providers instructions to treatment is important. Healthcare providers such as therapist, psychologist, neurologist, counselors, customize a treatment plan to your needs.

4-*• Mind My Business

Maintaining Mind My Business means be committed to improving mental health issues. Be determined to utilize all professional care as needed. Mental health is priority to well-being, which an effect physical health create more issues. Ask questions, use resources, practice developmental skills for your diagnosis. Mind My Business is making your own mental health, healthy once again. Your Mind is important business. Be committed to the importance of healthy mental health practices.

5-*• Acknowledge, Educate, & Mindfulness

It’s not easy to accept mental health issues or concerns, when they develop. Acknowledging the effects and causes can help future prevention. Educate yourself with abilities to improve and treat the diagnosis. Understanding that assistance and resources are available. No concern or question is foolish, don’t feel ashamed to ask questions. Your mental health is the foundation to a healthy happy you. Find others who share the same experience. Sharing your story could change someone else’s life. Expressing abilities to function in everyday challenges are elements for improving well-being.

Final thoughts to acknowledge development issues can help one to take action. Early childhood mental health issues can be clearly obvious. ( anxiety, depression, motor or speech illness, more in-depth mental conditions). Mental disorders or mental illness effect thinking, behavior, mood, emotional, or combined conditions determine the disorder or illness. Mental health and physical health work together to support well being. If one is effected the other can begin to deteriorate soon, as well.

Until our minds meet again. Be safe out there, much love and blessings. Remember, Everyday Mind’s Matter🦋 – Della 🦋