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Where Every thought is processed

EVERYDAY MINDS MATTER

Personal Quotes By – Della

“Fear triggers Wisdom, connecting knowledge to life” – Della Lonaker🦋

“Without experience, Life shows no Emotion”. – Della Lonaker 🦋

“Life has a way to bruise us up, those scars are being barefooted along the way” – Della L.🦋

“Love is hard, Love is deep, Love is universal- hot glue; without it we crumble”. – Della L.🦋

“Fly once – enjoy the view, Fly twice you repeat the ride, and third time you’re ready for a new route. To Fly one must have different scenery to live Life”. -Della L🦋

“To cry is cleansing the soul, to hold back tears, – backing up emotions, don’t spoil a good heart.”. -Della L.🦋

“If you run fast enough, you miss the most important part – stop and pace yourself – not everyone gets to run again tomorrow “. – Della L.🦋

“Life has two features play or stop – pause and rewind are not options.” – Della L. 🦋

“Play fair and carefully, Life’s sudden twisted changes, determines who comes out to play tomorrow”. -Della L. 🦋

“The mind is like a butterfly, wondering from flower to flower. A gust of wind can change direction, as a damaged wing, can delay the journey. And the power of the mind can speed up recovery.”. – Della L🦋

The Art of Gathering

Times and Gathering

Oh, how the times of gatherings have lost the shine. Interactions and communication are fundamental values to our well-being. The laughter, tears, sorrows, and happiness that others give us in this lifetime. Simple moments that fill our lives with a sense of purpose. Those moments that take place when we gather. During holidays, birthdays, important milestones in our lives. Why gatherings are important and why gatherings help maintain mental health. If you’re wondering where people are gathered today – well the importance of the “Art of Gatherings” is for you.

* Gatherings I can remember as a child family gatherings included large groups of people. Family that included long friends of the family and many more. Gatherings of lots of drinking, grilling out, kids running in the yard, playing horseshoes, volleyball, badminton, belly hurting laughter, and just good times. Those memories create my foundation to my own character. We learn from our childhood how we treat and respect others. The Art of Gatherings are important elements that give opportunity for memories. As a child I had uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins, nephews, nieces that I grew up with. Those are family members that help shape who I am and have become.

* Time Changes with Age Time changes those gatherings overtime. The gatherings get smaller as loved ones age and leave this earth. We don’t notice until those gatherings are memories of those that once attended aren’t there. An empty chair at the dinner table. Those faces are with their children and grandchildren. Or maybe they have passed on. Our group has branched off to subdivide into other group gatherings. It’s not personal or your fault, life is what happened. Do they get busy with life and fail to attend gatherings? Or do they have larger functions and gatherings elsewhere? Do people still gather? Has the loss of loved ones put a toll on your Art of Gatherings?

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* Picture of Who? The old black and dark colored photos in old albums your parents or grandparents kept. Albums that pictures are falling out of. Old albums that have such high value. One thing we can’t ever replace -photos. If found please keep and protect. Who has photo albums in 2022? Who has a physical camera that takes photos? Has gatherings changed the way we create photo albums? Photo albums are antique, physical pictures are precious diamonds. Who looks at old faded books or albums of photos, these days? Honestly, I do. Those photos are one of two things that live on after we expire. Photos are forever if properly stored and valued. (The other thing that continues after we expire is your signature).

Photo albums for 2022 are cell phones. Everyone has one and those photos should be available to show off daily. But do you glance at those photos after they are saved to your phone? Friends those phones will not hold the value to a photo album. Most of us can say, dang I had 1200 photos on my old phone. Impressive, right? Then the phone broke and those photos are gone. There is no replacement for those moments. That image is stored in memory of our mind. Sadly, we can describe a perfect moment, but our minds can’t print that picture in time.

The Art of Gatherings have a purpose for memories and photos. Take time to use a camera and create a family photo album. An album you created today, is worth a million words to those who inherit the photo album. Do yourself a favor if anything else. Take time to teach your children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, neighboring children – The Art of Gatherings. Educate our future generation the value of appreciation of gatherings memories, and photo albums. The creation of a scrapbook or a family photo album teaches the value and appreciation to life. Mentally, emotionally, and physically form an attachment to memories and gatherings. The lost art of love can be reborn. Love is created by us who spread the word. Don’t continue to let technology form our future children’s beliefs. Gatherings is in person with photos to place in a photo album. Not the space and time spent on the web/internet that fills illusions of life.

In the final thoughts, The Art of Gatherings, help us deal with challenges. Challenges offer the opportunity to be “live in person”. Where feelings are felt, the good, bad, ugly raw emotions that create us. Feelings that teach us sadness, respect, happiness, love, anger, pain, and the value of an Art of Gatherings. Today is an opportunity to teach a lost value, that can live on longer after you expire. Are you teaching today? Tomorrow? Or sometime soon? I know you have amazing teaching skills. You lived life in the Art of Gatherings. You are a piece of Art that is forever through photos and your signature. Share your teaching skills, everyone’s teachable.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

👁️ Real Truth 👁️

The Mind and Eyes: End of Life – Final Days 👣 My Story My Version 👣

If life was only always so beautiful and pretty. Yes, I said pretty. We all live in that world of our own. A world that our minds will always view in our own time. Our personal way of believing and most of all thinking. To live the dream, stress free, family, children, financially stable, and be overwhelmed with happiness. I know that we dream those dreams when we are young. As adults, we are the builders to those dreams. In the eyes of our visitors, everything from the outside is beautiful. The builder of those dreams, that isn’t easy, stress free and a blissful dream. We see everyone around us building a home, for a family, it looks easier than reality offers. We are wired to see the world move in a favorable promise. Especially when others make it all seems easy . But is it really as easy, as it appears?

Life happens and situations take place.

And then…

Something happens, we hate to forcefully admit to even face the thought of – illness or sickness. But the final days of end of life – for ourselves or a loved one. In our happy minds we are all just going to live forever. Even that thought can be corrupted or faded far from our minds. Nobody wants to imagine life without someone they love dearly. Life is built around family and friends, a routine. Of course we all love those we spend time with.

Some illness can be short lived or terminal that can be life changing. Not only for the individual, but the loved ones as well. Either to help care for the person or being the one with the illness; we are involved. That’s what love is and that’s who I am. I have been on the flip side to be with loved ones who get that “news”. It is like having that illness yourself. It’s emotionally painful. That damn it moment because that settling reality takes awhile to hit home. A million and one thoughts roll through our head. Planning the care, the who, what, when, and where plays in our thoughts – Real truth.

Are we present when we get that “news”? Yes, we are, yet it’s a fogging blur to comprehend. Reality to grasp the truth is tough, as it can crawl to realize this is it. As a slow, speed of understanding and comprehension of the illness – our mind is preparing for the – real truth.. Acceptance, acknowledge, and respond. The what’s next? Our angels are present, to carry us though. Those preparation days are filled with illusions that are real. In the moment, we wonder who will take care of us? Or we are the caregiver that is right there. The crippling pain that lies ahead, good days, bad days, tears, laughter, but we are in it together. It’s not easy to watch the loved one during the final days of life. However, we are blessed for the time spent. The Final days are an insight of what’s to come. We watch our loved ones talk with those who wait and guide us through our final days. Those that may believe are hallucinations from the dying process are assumptions. The moments are not hallucinations; by far as the final days is quite interesting. Many will say it’s medication or brain activity that causes end of life responses. So much one can learn about life and death, being a caregiver or observing a loved one’s final days.

My grandma was not medicated through hospice. I controlled her intake of what medicine came from hospice. What was given was very little. Grandma was aware of what was going on around her. She was able to tell me what her needs were. If I already knew, grandma did not, I repeat did not want to be knocked out to sleep. If she slept that was that, if she was awake, she was awake.

My grandma at 92, didn’t want to leave “us”. Of course her body was tired, 92 is decades of wear and tear on a person. She never missed a day without being fully focused or alert. A woman who never smoked or drank alcohol a day in her life. Everyday hours and hours I spent as her granddaughter and caregiver. For almost 20 years, I was involved with grandma’s doctor visits and involved in her life in general. I knew Grandma well enough and talked to her daily. To know her routine, depression, and overall well-being. She always knew where she was and was alert to her surroundings.. In October 2020, during the pandemic grandma got the “news”. The damn old Cancer was back from vacation. The moment was real. No matter what I was in this for the good, bad, and the ugly. As I wheel grandma out from her cancer doctor visit, going through the motion took over. The real truth – I never really imagine life without grandma. Grandma was a huge part of my routine, my world, and who I was. To break the silence, I said well looks like you stuck with me now grandma. She said “I wouldn’t have it any other way.”. Telling grandma with this pandemic, least we don’t have to wear these mask. That did make us happy, and being grandma’s caregiver my caution to prevent covid-19 was priority.

We meet with Hospice and they would agree to check in once a week or if any concerns or questions we could call 24/7. Grandma stayed with my mom. I went over everyday from morning to evening. As I could almost pinpoint what was next. For the most part, grandma was pain-free in her final days. What’s the real truth is her final days. Having mouth and throat cancer; all medication stopped 8 days prior to – her end of life.

Here’s what some fail to notice: real truth. My experience as a granddaughter and caregiver during those last days.

In those final days, grandmas attitude and personality changed. She was happy and loving more than ever. Grandma would talk about her mom, she would say, “they talked about everything”. Grandma & I would laugh and I said, “why’s your mom coming when I’m not here”? She comes after work, grandma said she been working a lot. Asking what kind of work she did, she does what you do, check up on people. I said, grandma, she keeping her eye on you. Making sure your not out dancing and your here getting better. My mom does, she keeps me company, gives me comfort, and tells me about where she lives.. And she don’t have to do much since you do a good job. 😉 Where does your mom, stay grandma? Mom said, it’s a beautiful place, she can’t describe it. She says, I will see it soon and be very happy. Will you live with your mom, grandma? Grandma just shrugged her shoulders, as it didn’t matter. In the conversation I could feel the energy of excitement in grandma. I just listened, after a while, grandma said, we need to lock the doors and windows. Men are coming through the walls. As my response was: Dang grandma, what kind of men are coming through the walls? They will help move me and take me home, grandma smiled as she talked. It was a calm and collective tone of voice. Grandma didn’t seem worried or scared. Now, as I listen, you would think a person would be scared or afraid. However it seemed like grandma was happy and ready. To me it was like the process of end of life, something changes in a person.

Six days before my grandma passed, entering her room I stood, watched, and listened. As I saw a woman with a medium build, snow white hair, stand to the left side of grandmas bed. The conversation was unstoppable. I could hear grandma talk about her life here on earth. Grand & great grand kids, her own children, her bird, it was like catching up with an old friend. Grandma had a mouth sponge she used like a sucker. The excitement was part of her being fidgety, wide eyes, and very talkative. At this phase she had stopped eating and could not even drink or sip water. In the middle of her talking out loud I walked in the room to her presence. Her eyes were wide, her smile was endless, her excitement was felt. Greeting her as routine, ‘good morning, grandma”. Normally I get the same response, quickly. This time she couldn’t talk fast enough about the presence of her mom. She said they talked all night and she was exhausted. Grandma asked if I would be there with her that evening. I said of course, where are we going? She said, a man had to meet with her and they would have coffee and cookies – she could bring someone, then they sang and danced. It was a welcoming meeting, to mingle with others. I said, “welcome meeting”? Grandma said yes, that’s where I will be going, in a few days. The conversation:  when am I going to go home?  I said you are at home grandma. Just where you’re supposed to be. 

As I listened to her, she said we will talk more afterwards when she got better. Now the conversation got real, she said “how much time do I have to live”? I knew Grandma wanted to live forever, so my response: “what makes you think your going somewhere”? She smiled and said, Well? I spoke from my heart. Not too much longer, maybe a week.. (She didn’t know her son from out of town was coming in). Her response was okay, the guy is supposed to talk to me tonight. Grandma kinda dozed off to sleep.

I was doing my normal daily routine, cleaning her room and changing bed sheets, regular care and out of nowhere. This day Grandma was full of information and questions. Grandma asked if my mom was okay? My mom checked in on grandma and helped when I wasn’t there, as they lived together. This question I knew Grandma needed to know. . I said, “yes grandma, my mom is fine”. I knew this was that question of being okay. To have her end of life there at the house, question. When the time comes you will be here as I promised. You will have all us that love you around, in this room.. Then you can fly with the angels, as they guide you to heaven”. You will be a beautiful soul renewed once you get to heaven.. She made a smirk and whispered. Then her eyes got big and said, “yes I know.”

She said, Della call the police see there, they are large with no clothes. Large men, that have high shoulders. If they are wings they have no feathers or hair. She said that they are not very pretty. Why are they here grandma? She said, they are supposed to move me, soon. I said, you’re not moving anywhere. She just shook her head yes.

I said, “are they people, angels, or what”? “Angels, Della”! Her voice cracked when she said those words. In a few blinks grandma kind of looked scared. She stared at me, barely using the mouth sponge, just as she got lost in thought, confused, or dazed.

Grandma knew she wasn’t hallucinating and was present to awareness., Very alert. She always knew her surroundings. I said, I thought Angels, were pretty and beautiful? Grandma shook her head, whispered “they are not. I always thought that too”. She said, your collection of Angels is pretty. I said, well they are not angels. In a crackled voice, yes, Della they came, maybe 4 or 5. Then she looked as if she was lost in conversation, staring again. After moments of silence, grandma starting talking a little. I laughed saying was you day dreaming? “No, Della those Angels just glow with nice colors”. With my own eyes, I could see a ray of what appeared to be a dust glow from the window. The light shines from the side window, from the sun. It was early afternoon, it had snowed I told grandma bout the weather. Grandma looked like she was dozing to sleep, then she look up and said, “see the light”? You didn’t hear anything I was saying did you? The man I talked to last night said watch for the light. Man? Light? Della, the man came to see me last night for the meeting, remember. I said, I wasn’t there. I went home last night. He came not long after you left. It was dark then?

“Yes, it was dark my night light was on he sat next to my bed. He even lifted me up in the bed a little.”. He had nice white hair and polite. I asked what he say? “Don’t be afraid”. Was you afraid or scared? A light laugh, “no I wasn’t afraid”. He held my hand and said words, I couldn’t understand him. Then he said he was taking the cancer and sickness from me. He did something cause I could hear him better.

Who was he? He is going to take me home. My heart broke and I could feel comfort, and peace filled the room. But you are home grandma, your not going anywhere. Until you fly with the Angels.🦋

It was real, my eyes teared up. Grandma in a demanding voice, “I know where I am. Right, when the Angels come”.

Grandma knew going home to heaven was flying with the Angels. No tears or sadness when she said those words.

I just watch her stare, barely any movement, fixated, in the moment. I went to the kitchen and was telling mom some of the conversation with grandma. Mom said it must be her days of confusion. I said she was not confused. I believe her, she is actually telling us how and what the process of death is. Just her way of not saying, I’m going through the dying process. But she was and I was able to observe, listen and learn. An unbelievable deep experience.

I had never questioned grandma for information. When she spoke of things I’d listen and make conversation with her. I will say that in her last couple days of life, she slowed in talking. I could talk about how I will miss her, love her, and say it’s okay for you to fly with the “Angels”. She always said “I Love you” back to me. Even on those days, but the stare was like a transitional exiting phase. I would talk crying my eyes out, and those moments were real truth. Life after death takes all pain away. Grandma had a few single tears maybe four total. In the two days of this process. My belief of pure truth life after death. Exiting our body during death is a process with an illness. As grandma said the man who came took cancer away.

I want to share some personal experience that’s – real truth. I can say, from experience I have walked, cried, been a caregiver over the years, watched, and learnt about death. Had I ever seen my loved ones cry before passing? Maybe a single tear, but cry? I have not. Now I have been the biggest cry baby moments before and after losing a loved one. That pain is crippling and life changing. We cry for the loss of a loved one, that’s entering eternal life of happiness. In my best knowledge, our minds are the way to life beyond death. As a person that experienced a realm to life after – the real truth beyond any hallucination of life. No matter the cause of death days prior, we will know. Our sense will be in a whole different presence. Something feels good but that we can’t fully grasp. Out of spontaneous energy, our sense of closure and connection are released to others. The attachment – bonding is a form of security and the littlest gestures help release that bond. Heard the myth that those dying, wait for someone, hanging on then once they arrive, they pass?. It’s true for the closing attachment to help us through our days without them. If you take a moment to think about the prior days before, – the real truth of closure not always presented. It might have been days, weeks, but the “good-bye” is there. At some moment, it was different. But it was a blessing, between you and your loved one. An example, if you have routine dinner, that evening you may have spontaneously enjoyed the evening outside. Just talking a week prior, in which those opportunities don’t take place. It may have been a silly gesture your loved one gave before leaving your house one day. If you really let your mind show you the peace offering it will be available.

The day grandma passed was expected but never was I ready for it.. I felt numb and thoughtless – dazed, even knowing happiness and no sickness was her transition to eternal life. The attachment is why we struggle. Loving someone is a painful experience. But as humans, to live for love is our purpose. To have eternal life, love is our purpose. If failing at love is an option, I don’t want any part of it. I am not religious by preaching testimony. I do believe, and I once was afraid to die. I was afraid of leaving this earth. The feeling was like going to the middle of a desert being left alone. Actually I was terrified. I watched death from a different experience and my own eyes. When we are faced with the loss of a loved one, we are crippled. Thinking is difficult and logic is far from reality at the moment. Clear focus is by far to make decisions or choices. Our first reaction is to hide or cover the pain. So actually the real truth is – those true moments are missed. Our minds tell us differently due to the state of mind. Reality is in the moment, as loss of a loved one, takes us out of the moment. Our time is motioned by pain, anger, and disbelief. The acceptance to have to de-attach from a loved ones presence is brutally painful.

The truth is, love others like your life depends on it. Those who leave us are safe, secure, and waiting to see us again. The presence of time does not exist in eternal life. The spirit of our soul is God’s final project..

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 🦋💕

😵‍💫Troubled Minds During Developmental Growth😵‍💫

Adolescent Mental Health
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Adolescent Mental Health

Adolescents Mental Health

The gift of children is a blessing in many ways. One would believe that children are happy, loving, and learning, stress- free. Far from true, sadly children struggle mentally during childhood developmental growth. Let’s take a look into the mind of our children.

Many factors play a role in developing adolescent mental health. These include healthy sleep patterns, physical activity, and coping skills. Adolescents also need to have a safe environment where they can explore their emotions. Adolescents should also develop healthy coping mechanisms and social skills to deal with challenges in their lives. Adolescence is a critical developmental period. It is a time for emotional and social adjustment. Developing healthy sleep and exercise habits, coping skills and social relationships, and protective environments are important for mental health. In addition, exposure to violence and other traumatic events can negatively impact adolescent mental health.

Depression

When a teenager is experiencing symptoms of depression, it’s critical that they get the help they need. The first step is to get them to talk to their primary care provider about the problem. These visits are often the first contact with a mental health professional, and they can help identify issues before they become serious and refer them to appropriate treatment. While many people experience some level of depression during their adolescence, symptoms of depression in adolescents are often more complex than those experienced in adults. They can include somatic symptoms, disruptive behavior, and personality disorders.

Depression in adolescents can be caused by past trauma or recent stressful events. For instance, the loss of a loved one can trigger a depressed mood. Likewise, a teen who feels isolated and unsupported may experience depressive symptoms. Moreover, social media usage and internet use can exacerbate the feeling of being left out, which can lead to depression.

Anorexia nervosa

The treatment of anorexia nervosa focuses on helping patients regain normal weight and eating habits. It often involves a medical evaluation, but it is also important to provide a comprehensive nutritional plan. A nutritional plan should address the anxiety related to eating, promote the consumption of a variety of foods, and help patients to eat regularly. In addition, it is important to note that the treatment of anorexia nervosa often takes longer than simply restoring weight.

Anorexia nervosa is a serious condition that can impact individuals of any age and gender. It affects both girls and boys, and it is common among teenagers and older adults. It affects approximately one percent to two percent of the global population. The disorder affects approximately one in every 1,000 adolescents.

Anorexia nervosa is the most common of the eating disorders. It is characterized by repeated episodes of binge eating or purging to purge the body of food. It is estimated that one in every 100 females suffers from anorexia nervosa. This condition can have devastating effects on an individual’s life. Anorexia nervosa is a psychiatric disorder and can cause physical and psychological problems.

Bulimia nervosa

Bulimia nervosa is an eating disorder that can affect a person’s mental health, physically and emotionally. Research has shown that bulimia often develops when a person experiences trauma. The symptoms of bulimia often include purging and binge eating. These behaviors are used to reduce the anxiety and hyperarousal associated with the traumatic experiences. However, they can also perpetuate a cycle of the traumatic experiences. As a result, individuals with eating disorders are more likely to experience PTSD than those without this disorder. In fact, two major national representative studies have found high rates of PTSD in those with bulimia nervosa.

Treatment for bulimia nervosa consists of a treatment program that combines individual and family therapy with nutritional rehabilitation. This treatment typically involves a series of outpatient appointments and may involve several visits per week. In addition, patients may also need to attend weekly sessions of relapse prevention. As with other eating disorders, the approach to treatment is tailored to the needs of the patient.

Anxiety disorders

Anxiety disorders in adolescents are highly prevalent and can be very harmful for their health. Fortunately, it is possible to treat this condition. There are several strategies that can be used to treat these disorders. One of these methods is exposure therapy. This method involves exposing patients to situations or stimuli that they find frightening. This can help reduce the aversive response and eventually lead to extinction.

The first step in treating anxiety disorders in adolescents is to identify the causes. Anxiety in adolescence may be a symptom of a more serious underlying condition, such as depression or other mood disorders. Using a simple measure of anxiety can help clinicians determine whether an adolescent may have an anxiety disorder.

Another important step in treating anxiety disorders in adolescents is early intervention. The most effective treatments for anxiety disorders in adolescents include psychotherapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy, pharmacological interventions, or a combination of these techniques are recommended. Anxiety disorders in adolescents typically follow a chronic course and are associated with an increased risk for other disorders in adulthood.

Suicide is the fourth leading cause of death among 15-19 year-olds

Suicide is the fourth leading cause of death for adolescents between the ages of 15 and 19. Nearly 46,000 children between the ages of 10 and 19 die by suicide each year, with 1 child dying by suicide every 11 minutes. Worldwide, suicide prevention is an area that requires a great deal of attention. Suicide prevention strategies should be aimed at the underlying causes and at preventing the risk factors.

In Europe, suicide accounts for about one-fifth of the total deaths in this age group. Across the globe, suicide is the fourth leading cause of death for young people, after accidents, transport accidents, and assault. Suicide death statistics have not clearly declined in the past decades.

Pandemics

Adolescents who are resilient and healthy can cope with rapid changes. However, youth who have been affected by the pandemic are likely to be more vulnerable to the negative effects. This is largely due to the fact that they are at higher risk of developing depression and substance use.

The effects of pandemics on adolescents’ mental health are far reaching. In addition to disrupting school and interactions with peers, adolescents may also be subject to a range of challenges, including social and medical isolation. They may also be experiencing less advanced emotional development. The lack of health services in schools may contribute to this, as well as increased stress and anxiety.

This study shows that children who are exposed to COVID-19 and other pandemic-related diseases are at a greater risk for developing depression and anxiety. Further, the isolation experienced during the pandemic negatively affects adolescents’ adjustment months later. Although these findings aren’t conclusive, they highlight the importance of meeting the mental health needs of today’s youth now and developing effective treatment options for those affected by pandemics.

Wars

Several recent studies have examined the effects of war on young children and adolescents.

War’s impact on children’s mental health is widespread and can be severe. It has been associated with high rates of depression and post-traumatic stress disorder. Furthermore, children displaced by war and unaccompanied minors may have poor mental health, especially as a result of flight and forced migration. Further, armed conflicts impose enormous costs in terms of disruption to education and basic social services. They also decrease educational opportunities, disrupt schooling, and result in many other risks for children.

War impacts children in multiple ways: immediate stress-responses, increased risk of developing specific mental disorders, and separation from parents. These effects run contrary to the development needs of children. Therefore, it is essential to develop multilevel, trauma-informed mental health interventions for children exposed to war.

Traumatic events

Traumatic events can affect an adolescent’s mental health in many ways. Teenagers who have been through a traumatic event may experience a decline in mood, as well as increased irritability, sadness, and anger. Some of these symptoms may not be visible to parents, but they should be taken seriously. Adolescents who experience traumatic events are also at risk of self-harm.

Parents can help their adolescent through therapy if they know what to look for. They can begin by establishing open communication with the teen and assuring them that they are not being judged. Once the teen feels safe discussing the events that triggered these feelings, parents can make referrals to appropriate professionals. Parents should also be willing to make changes in roles and reduce pressure on the teen during the recovery process.

Education

The number of adolescents reporting poor mental health is increasing, and schools and parents have a responsibility to address this problem. Poor mental health affects many areas of a teen’s life, including school, behavior, and health. It often goes hand-in-hand with other health and behavioral risks, such as violence and drug use. It is also linked to an increased risk of HIV infection and STDs. In some cases, it may even lead to unintended pregnancy.

To address this problem, educators need to understand how different school climates affect adolescents’ mental health. One study found that positive school climate correlated with lower levels of psychopathology. The findings also showed that children in more positive schools experienced less depression and greater mental well-being. Even after adjustment for other operational variables, positive school climate remained significantly associated with lower levels of psychopathology and depression.

As our children grow troubles invade their minds. Depression, anxiety, emotional and mental concerns children face. As educators, parents, caregivers, and adults talking to our children is crucial. Keeping communication open with children can reduce mental health concerns. It’s important to listen to your child’s concerns. Establish a relationship to communicate in a way of helping them feel safe and secure. Listen and be understanding of their feelings and intentions. Children depend on us. Do your part protect our children and their future.

Until our beautiful minds meet again. Be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember, Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

🌐 The Science of Behavior: How Psychology Deciphers the Mysteries of the Mind 🌐

Mysteries of the Mind

Have you ever wondered why certain people seem to be more successful than others? Or why some people are drawn to unhealthy eating patterns, while others remain healthier? The answer lies in the science of behavior—psychology’s explanation of how behaviors work and how they relate to the mind. Behavior can be broken down into three specific categories: biological, cognitive, and behavioral. Learning the basics of each will help you explain why other people may act the way they do in certain situations.

✔️ Research the Science Behind Behavior

Why do we do what we do? It’s a question that has been asked for centuries, but it is only now that psychologists are beginning to understand how behavior influences our minds. The science behind behavior is complex and multifaceted, with various factors all working together to produce thoughts and emotions. This includes biological factors such as genetics, brain chemistry and environment. Understanding the science behind behavior can help us better understand ourselves and those around us. For example, there is much research surrounding depression and anxiety which suggests they stem from chemical imbalances in the brain. Similarly, understanding the theory behind obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) can help explain why someone might compulsively wash their hands or check a lock over and over again.

✔️ Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

Cognitive-behavioral therapy is a form of psychotherapy that involves changing thoughts and behaviors in order to manage feelings and improve mental health. With CBT, clients learn more effective ways to deal with life’s challenges by examining the relationship between their thoughts, feelings, and behaviorbehaviorss. It encourages them to think about how they react differently when they are feeling certain emotions and then try new things until they find healthier responses. The emphasis on this therapy is on what people can do in the present moment to change problematic patterns without dwelling too much on why these problems happen or fixating on past events.

✔️ Parenting & Childhood Mental Health

Childhood mental health is an issue that parents all over the world struggle with. It’s difficult to know if your child is struggling or not because there isn’t always a clear sign. But, it is important to be aware and sensitive to your child’s needs so you can be proactive in preventing problems from arising.
There are many factors that play into mental health issues, but one major contributor is behavior which leads back to psychology. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), the study of human thought, emotion, and behavior focuses on how these things impact people’s lives. Studies show that behavior affects brain chemistry as well as levels of neurotransmitters like serotonin, dopamine and oxytocin – chemicals that help control moods – which also affect our moods. In other words, how we behave dictates how we think and feel as well as how we treat others.

✔️ Trauma, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), & Mental Health Conditions

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a type of anxiety disorder that can occur after a person has been exposed to a traumatic event, like military combat, sexual assault, or natural disasters. It’s not uncommon for someone who suffers from PTSD to experience nightmares and flashbacks for years after the event. People with PTSD often find it difficult to experience positive emotions like happiness and pleasure because they fear being retraumatized by everyday life. Individuals who suffer from PTSD also have a greater risk of developing other mental health conditions like depression and substance abuse. The prevalence rates for these other conditions in people with PTSD are high at about 76%.
But here’s where things get interesting–it’s not just those with PTSD that are affected. Family members of those who live with this condition also show symptoms of distress including severe insomnia, feelings of hopelessness, feelings of anger and sadness towards the individual with PTSD.

✔️ Mental Health Disorders by Category

Psychology and mental health are a multifaceted field that is still being researched and studied. Mental health disorders are diseases that affect people’s mood, thoughts, behavior and physical well-being. There are many people, and many different kinds of mental illness. Which can be further categorized into types such as personality disorders, schizophrenia or bipolar disorder. While these all have different symptoms, treatments vary from counseling to medication. The science behind how psychology deciphers the mysteries of the mind is still being explored but it has been found that by understanding how we act on behaviors it may help us better understand our minds. It seems like a paradox but if one wants to change their current state they must first study their own behavior in order to understand what about themselves needs changing.

The connection to the mind and behavior is interesting. So much can affect the reaction of behavior. The mind is a powerful foundation to life. Thinking, functioning, and living impact behavior as we know it. The connection will always be mysterious, if you really think about it. 🦋

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter – Della💞🦋

💔Relationship between Psychology and Mental Health – It doesn’t have to be Complicated 💔

Pyschology and Mental Health
Psychological effects of Mental Health. Photo by elifskies on Pexels.com

Have you ever thought about the relationship between psychology and mental health? Psychology has a long history of being a discipline that addresses the mind, but it’s only recently that mental health and psychology have started to intersect.

When we talk about mental health and psychology, it’s important to remember that this is not a new concept. We’ve been talking about our mental health since the 19th century—we just didn’t have the right words for it! But as we’ve discovered more about ourselves and learned how our minds work, we’ve come to realize that there are many ways that we can improve our mental well-being.

Psychology is a field devoted to understanding the workings of the human mind. It uses behavioral science techniques like observation and experimentation to gather information about people’s thoughts, feelings, beliefs, attitudes, values and behaviors (among other things). Psychologists try to understand how those things relate to one another and how they influence an individual’s mood or behavior.

In recent years, psychologists have begun looking at how these same factors affect someone’s mental health. They use this knowledge to help individuals who struggle with anxiety or depression or other forms of emotional distress.

The relationship between mental health and psychology is a complicated one. On the one hand, there are a handful of factors that can be used to predict who will develop mental health problems: being female, having a family history of mental illness, having a low income, and so on. On the other hand, what we actually mean by “mental health” is subjective and varies from person to person. And even when we look at things like “general mental well-being,” it’s not clear whether that metric should be applied universally or only within certain populations—like young people with learning disabilities or older adults looking for new hobbies.

So what does all this mean? Well, if you’re trying to figure out if someone has problems with their mental health, you have to take into account all sorts of different factors—and no one factor can be considered more important than any other.

The psychology of mental health is a very complex subject. There are many factors that can contribute to someone having a mental disorder, and even more that can be involved in the treatment of these disorders.

In order to understand how psychology relates to mental health, it is important to first understand what psychology is. Psychology is the study of behavior, thought, and emotion. It includes not only the scientific study of these things but also their biological basis. Psychology also encompasses the social application of these theories so that they can be applied in everyday life.

Understanding how certain psychological factors may cause someone’s mental health issues can help them get better faster while they are still able to receive treatment. Options such as counseling or medication therapy, which everyone may differ due to chemical makeup are not the same for each individual.

Mental health and psychology is an important topic that should be discussed in every home. Mental health is one of the most important things in life, and it is important that you are aware of your own mental state. If you are having trouble with your mental health, then you should seek help from a professional.

Mental health can be defined as “the state of someone’s mind or emotions, especially when they are functioning well rather than being mentally unwell”. It can also include the ability to think clearly, process information and make decisions.

Mental health issues can affect anyone at any age, race or gender. There are many different types of mental health problems including depression, anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. In order to prevent these issues from occurring in the future it is important that families understand what these issues mean and how they affect people around them through their actions and words spoken aloud.”

The relationship between mental health and psychology is an interesting one, because they are both so closely related. The two fields are both concerned with the study of human behavior, but they have different goals. Psychology is focused on understanding what drives people to act in certain ways, while mental health is focused on helping people who are experiencing problems deal with those issues.

While both fields are important, it’s important to remember that there isn’t a one-to-one relationship between mental health and psychology. Some psychologists may specialize in treating mental illness, but others do not work directly with clients suffering from these conditions.

Mental health is a state of well-being, in which an individual realizes his or her own capabilities and seeks to use them for personal fulfillment. Mental health problems are diagnosed when an individual has either a clinically diagnosable mental disorder or symptoms that cause significant impairment in various life activities.

Psychology is the scientific study of behavior and mental processes. Psychologists try to understand the mind and behavior by studying both the individual and their environment, using scientific methods such as observation, experimentation, and measurement. A psychologist’s job may include researching human behavior at work or at home, designing programs to help people change their behavior, training professionals in how to treat or manage people with psychological conditions such as depression and anxiety attacks, designing programs to help children learn new skills (such as reading), testing new drugs that treat mental illnesses such as schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, or working with animals (such as dolphins) to learn more about human emotions and behavior.

Understanding that psychology is the way of thinking. Mental health is the state of mind and well- being. The ability to connect the two are fundamentals of mental health. Finding the connection can be interesting. Psychology and mental health share fascinating facts and knowledge.

Until our beautiful minds meet again. Be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember. Everyday Minds Matter – Della💞

👣 My Story My Version – Superhero👣

Superhero

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As a child, we all had/still have that superhero favorite character. The superhero who saves the world, takes all your sadness away, without saying a word. Needless to say, saved us from the boogie man under the bed- multiple times. Of course, ninja turtles, batman, Big Bird, Elmer Fdd, Robinhood, Bugs Bunny, etc., As the list goes on. That choice of superhero character grows in us as we grow with knowledge and wisdom. Consciously those characters come alive from within, unexpectedly to help us through tough times. Until age starts to help our mind relate to life, our superhero is the shit. Not one person can tell us different. Regardless what anyone has told you, our hero could hold secrets, clean up messes, keep us from an ass whipping, and fly to space; have lunch with Alf, be back by bedtime. Pretty impressive, right?

Nothing could prove us different or otherwise. Our superhero character built the image of who we are. That’s part of our driving force in life. Now your probably thinking, how is that possible if you were born in an age of no television? Well as I asked many elders in my days.. They all had the same answer. A made up vision or version of who they wanted to be. Or someone they known with special superhero powers.

Pretty amazing, our minds create a false impression or supped up character without a visual in reality to copy. If you try to vision something, you may see this guy. At one point this guy pictured below did a lot of crazy stuff. 😊

Stickman by Tom Fulp 1990’s

I bet your laughing right now. Never expected this guy – Stickman, huh? I believe its interesting to a fascination; how our memory puts something in storage and when that rotary spins around or shuffled, there it be – Stickman. With a smile on the face – incredible, Stickman made breaking news.. Resurfaced 30 years later and he still in search of his clothes. 😁

Just like our childhood superhero or favorite character, they show up least excepted.

My superhero showed up when I was only a few months old. In 1978, the house was occupied by five or more relatives. The curtains managed to tangle in a nearby box fan causing a house fire. All the commotion of getting all those in the house out. Everyone gathered outside, my oldest brother asked “where’s the baby”? Without hestitation, my big brother rescued me from the fire, smoke inhalation, and save my life. Guessing everyone, assumed someone had got me, being the bady, no one did. My superhero showed up with an invisible cape, much love, and a quick response.

As a baby, I couldn’t remember any of the event that took place. Remembering, the act of bravery once of, told and aware of the situation as a baby. Until your mind accepts reality, the impact of experience can’t be imagined. For myself, its something I am consciously appreciative to the importance of life and value of others. Why? My brother had a choice, and that choice he acted to save me is a blessing everyday. I have carried that pay it forward mentality all my life, due to his actions. His role carries a demonstration to help others, be a man, be yourself, laugh, enjoy life, and the smile he carries – is his own. Special design, created of his true character – superhero – to me my big brother – 💜

A big part of who I am, for his bravery to save my life. Some might say the house wasn’t in gulfed in flames. Or the fire was overbearing, smoke filled the house and curtains caused the house to catch fire. I was inside and anything could have prevented him from my rescue. Smoke exhaustion, inhalation, being trapped in the house, unable to reach me, or inhaling smoke being an infant all are dangerous and life-threatening. As he attempted to enter a burning house fire, my brother didn’t need a superhero suit, or a fire fighter degree, he did it out of love and character. Skills and knowledge we inherit throughout life. These are superhero skills that define our character and our person. No suit or helmet is required. Strength and awareness is required a plan of action that takes control. Thinking without thinking, acting with limits or boundaries – impulse.

This image is my original strawberry shortcake doll, ( maybe from the late 80’s. My niece played with as a child around 2013. It wasn’t her favorite character – Dora the Explorer was her chosen character. Strawberry shortcake had my heart, as my favorite childhood character. Maybe the sweet, innoncent, happy, caring, and smell good, (yes, she smelled of strawberries) was her image. Played a big role in *most my life growing up. Reflection to help others, be kind, happy, caring, and smell good. I put forth my best effort to be helpful to others; as much as possible throughout life.

Strawberry shortcake doll
My own image – Della Lonaker 2013

No matter what superhero you choose as a childhood favorite, it follows you throughout life. Our creation of character is built on our enviroment, our special thoughts, development of inner soul. Our creation is our own that no one else can copy.. No copy, repeat, image or resemblence can be deplicated. You are one special beautiful superhero. 🦋

As a reflection to my childhood, take a moment and compare your superhero or favorite character. How does your superhero compare to your own self reflection? Do you still have conscious superhero powers that get you through life struggles and challenges, current or present? We might grow in age, yet those childhood excitements never leave us.. We are just big kids that gain knowledge and height, the kid never fades away.. Its okay to be that kid at times.. It allows us to be ourselves, while we age and who we need to be.

Until our minds meet again. Be safe out there, much love and blessings. Remember, Everyday Mind’s. Matter 🦋

– Much💜, Della 🦋

🐿 Resting My Mind – May 29th – 2022

Mind resting
Resting the Mind

It shows how much overload our brains go through. Work, school, errands, kids, bills, house/ rent/ morgage payments, car payments, so much we carry on our minds. We are tough humans.. So great job for surviving the mental madness.😜 No matter whats thrown at us, we pull out the strength and push through. So I had a day of letting my mind rest.. Sometimes I still read or whatever but not extensive like normal. It just takes a day to recharge, reboot, and not overthink. This is a short post, but I’m not overthinking for the evening…😁

So I hope everyone had a great day..

Until our minds meet again, be safe out there. Much love and blessings. Remember Everyday Mind’s Matter🐿