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My Story My Version: The Ride, the Drive, and in Park.

Oh the ride through life. . . And my fortune cookie (3/16/2023) reads:

🦋🍀💞💖 (This should always be your mindset- overcome the battle win in life, being your best inspiration to others). In the positive way, overcome negative energy, with a smile, walk away and come back, in your positive resolve to win). Positive feels amazing). .🍀💞💖🦋

This is true to my character. As in My Story My Version: The Ride, the Drive, and in Park, this is my viewpoint to the world (Life) we use as our roadmap, (gps if you will.)..

The Ride

The Ride, sit in the passenger seat and as you ride through life, taking in the scenery. We are collecting all the information along the way. It’s peaceful and educational, it’s the beating and the praise that life offers us. For learning, experience, and the knowledge that makes us fail or successful. Sometimes the ride isn’t enough, so we must push for a driver to teach, guide and help us gain insight. It’s a privilege to ride, it’s a honor to ride, but our driver must influence life skills to help us not hurt us. Meaning reach good intentions and steer us from bad habits/tendencies. (You get it!) We gathering tools to make good life decisions, we explore and experience the pain, tears, and bruttle truth. We share love, joy, happiness, and compassion. The experience that guides us in life, emotional, mental, and physical awareness tools. Without these experiences we are limited to our personal growth. Development to be your best self is incomplete. Our developmental growth should never stop unless medically determined. Knowledge is a continual need to live. Just as we need water to live, something’s we can not live without.. I know everyday I’m searching for knowledge (our personal storage of wisdom) 😁 to breath and live life. The Ride is our blessing to be understanding, knowledgeable, and awareness of being good people by nature. Take in the scenery, learn and educate yourself every chance you get. It’s best if practiced daily💞 make it routine, it increases your value to life. 🦋

The Drive

The Drive is the tools applied to our life. What we are doing? Where we are going? How we are doing? And Why we are doing? It’s the purpose of who we are. The tools are used to get us through this roadmap of life. And hopefully the gps takes us to paradise one day. The fact is your belief on your terms. Mine is the Road to paradise to meet my God and praise the glory of his eternal life he has made for me or (us). Our drive is the motivation that determines our abilities to live life to it’s full potential. Be kind, be helpful, be creative, be dedicated, be honest, be hard-working, be the best you can be here on earth. What you didn’t accomplish today, tomorrow will determine your eligibility to continue your ride, drive, and park. It’s not promised, but your legacy is being documented. Your drive is here for others to remember, leave your mark with positive writing, energy, and time. Remember we are crowded here on earth, our legacy can be replaced very quickly. Think about that? Kind of a scary thought, that I did nothing with my time on earth. “Forgotten is invisible to the world” – I believe I matter more than those words. I want to help others see and be the happiness that our God foresee’s. In hopes that happiness is within my soul, shit, pain is the least need or want in my path. If all possible I will detour the road with positive energy embracing the experiences as needed to grow and learn. To enable and produce negative in my life is blocked for construction if all possible. To avoid negative, a road closure will help me fix the problem with understanding and knowledge so the road can reopen with a positive outcome. Don’t you believe you have value to life here on earth? You matter, your time is important. Fix the negative with positive energy. One thing I use as needed, when a negative energy is presented. Example: a negative person, to use kindness is a reflection of my character. If someone feels a certain negative way, that’s their inner character. To embrace positive is not in their ride, the scenery has influenced that ride. I can’t ride with them. But at the moment I can drive the positive to them. If they catch that knowledge with the experience. Then the ride can change the scenery. And hopefully when in park, the influence changed the ride. It’s the ride you choose. I can offer the ride and the park to educate your drive. But I can’t drive that route of negative. Sorry, my road trip has a detour for that ride. Just think about your road trip, it’s your choice to influence the trip. Are you gassing up for a remarkable drive to leave a positive impression..? I know, I’m trying my best 😁🦋

In Park

And finally in Park. . . We are at our thinking and our reflection in our minds and body. Actions, behavior, words, awareness, understanding and mindset We reflect how we are presented. How was your day? Was it a lazy day? That’s okay! In Park is the position in life that reflects our needs, desires, and drive. Thoughts push us in time to drive our purpose. Was it a busy productive day? The physical beating on your body but the feeling of accomplishment? How impressive, great job! No matter what your day presented, your reflection is a stepping stone. A stepping stone that represents you. What your drive determines is what, where, how, and why are life’s drive of understanding, knowledge and purpose. In park is the time to see, feel, and express cultivate your inner drive. You are checking the maintenance of your mind, body, and soul purpose. The- What’s next? What can I do to make my life positive, more for filling to my own being?

What is true happiness? All those questions are answered in Park. Our true being is found, determined, and that is Life’s happiness. Happiness is an awesome feeling. Happiness is healthy. Happiness and Love is the ride, drive and in park – purpose to Life and guide/direction to paradise. Love and let Love!!

As I have share the meaning of human life – purpose. The Ride, Drive and in Park, we can take one promise away from this blog post. A promise of learning, learning to be your best person. First for yourself to be happy- and we all know happiness feels wonderful. Second, is for others, inspire and influence positive energy. If your unsure where to start, I have a blog post for that.. ( will update soon with a link to help improve positive energy). But let me warn you it’s contagious😁 and final… .. 🍀💖

Finally, you don’t have to impress anyone. The trip is yours to enjoy and be blessed. You have to impress your final appraiser. And that judgement day is your will. Your belief and your final destination. Now, with that being said, like I said before, if paradise is my final destination – I’m going to enjoy this road trip with positive energy in hopes to have a big smile on my face when I reach – PARADISE🍀💖🦋

Life is full of the good, bad and ugly. As I know we all had the blessings of love,peace, and happiness- those negative influences have put us through “HELL”! 🍀The battle may be fierce but so is your resolve to win.🍀 My battle has made me stronger, wiser, and aware of who I am. With that being said, I worked to damn hard to go to “Hell” and burn all my valuable work! 💞💖 So I be damned, if I’m giving in to give my hard work, determination, and happiness to the Devil. Not today, Satan👹 – Resolve to win 💕💖🦋

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Much love and many blessings. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

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Breaking Down Popular Mental Health Search Terms: An Overview of Depression, Anxiety, Bipolar Disorder, Stress, and Suicide

Anxiety
Depression and Anxiety
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It’s no surprise that mental health has become a popular search topic in recent years as more information has become available on the topic. Mental health is a major concern for many people, and as more information becomes available, it’s becoming easier to learn more about it. A recent study revealed the top five mental health searched topics: depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, stress, and suicide. Each of these topics can bring about a range of feelings, behaviors, and struggles for those dealing with them, but there are a few key points that should be noted about each one. Let’s take a look at each topic in-depth.

The high number of searches on depression and anxiety likely reflects the fact that these two disorders are the most commonly diagnosed mental health conditions. They’re also often accompanied by stress, making it an important factor in understanding mental health.

Depression and Anxiety

People struggling with depression or anxiety may have difficulty focusing, become isolated from family and friends, or be unable to hold down a job. When it comes to depression and anxiety, these two mental health conditions are the most commonly diagnosed in people. They can present with a range of symptoms, from difficulty focusing to becoming isolated from friends and family. However, when dealt with early on and with the proper care and treatment, depression and anxiety can be managed.

Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder is another popularly searched mental health topic, and the amount of searches is due to the complexities of the condition. It’s characterized by extreme highs and lows in mood and energy, which can lead to unstable relationships, high risk-taking, and sudden shifts in decision making. Bipolar is difficult to balance with unpredictable highs and lows. Often times other mental health issues are present as well Treatment for bipolar disorder usually includes therapy and medications.

Stress

Stress is a common symptom of many mental health disorders, but it can also occur as a stand-alone condition. It can manifest as physical, emotional, or behavioral changes that often leads to tension, restlessness, and insomnia. People struggling with stress can benefit from therapy and stress management techniques, such as mindfulness and relaxation exercises.

Suicide

Finally, suicide is a particularly difficult topic to search and think about, yet it remains one of the most searched mental health topics. This could be attributed to the high rates of suicide around the world, and the lack of understanding surrounding this issue. The truth is that everyone is at risk of suicide and it is important to be aware of warning signs. Knowing where to get help and being a part of a supportive community are key steps in preventing suicide.

Ultimately, these are just a few of the most popular mental health searched topics and the complexities that can accompany them. It is clear that there is still much work to be done to destigmatize mental health and make it easier for people to access quality help. It is also important to keep in mind that you don’t have to struggle alone – with the right support and treatment, it is possible to live a fulfilling and meaningful life. Be mindful of those around you, life is precious. You are important you matter. Love yourself with patience and value.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Take care of yourself.. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

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Remember, When?

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It’s not easy aging, how often do you forget little common things? As we age, many things cross our minds regarding health, finances, and what the future will be. It’s normal to be scared as we age. It can actually get very scary when your mind slowly to progressively declines. Left in a world that changed so quickly, due to faded memory. Not remembering recent events, or people you spent a lifetime with, you become aggressive because it’s a deep concern. In this post, we will look more into the mind. If you’d like to understand the memory loss, then read more.

One of the most devastating mental concern I’d have to say would be dementia. Dementia is an umbrella term for various degenerative brain diseases that cause progressive deterioration of a person’s memory and cognitive abilities. While it is typically associated with older adults, it can affect people of any age. As the disease progresses, individuals may experience difficulty recognizing family members and friends, misplace things, and struggle to keep up with daily activities such as bathing and cooking. Unfortunately, it can also lead to emotional changes such as irritability, aggression, anxiety, and depression. The cognitive decline associated with dementia can be especially hard on loved ones, who must cope with watching someone they care about forget who they are. Your loved one needs to know they are safe and will be taken care of.

In these cases, it is important to keep engaging with the individual and not become overwhelmed with their struggles. Role-play can be a beneficial activity for strengthening the connection between people with dementia and their family members, particularly if the individual no longer knows who the family members are. It can be heartfelt when a loved one calls you by another name. Just take a deep breath and enjoy the bonding, let your loved one engage in activity that may help remember time. This can involve participating in everyday activities such as shopping, baking, and telling stories together. Through role-play, family members can help create positive, meaningful experiences for their loved ones, no matter their stage of dementia. As hard as it is, dementia does not discriminate. One thing that’s hard to accept is the mind is so powerful and dementia – wins overtime.

If they could only remember, when? Or who? Or why? These questions can leave a loved one confused often to even being disoriented. Dementia progresses differently with each individual, in varies ways. Interaction is important to help slow the stages of dementia. As dementia stages progress many changes take place.

Dementia can also cause individuals to become irritable and mean, and this behavior can be a source of stress and confusion for those who know and care about the person. When it is necessary, it can be helpful to gently redirect them towards other activities to reduce the agitation, while providing support and reassurance.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that dementia can affect people in many different ways and the challenges it poses can vary significantly between individuals. Finding ways to keep communicating and creating new memories with your loved one is one of the best ways to deal with these challenges.

Cognitive decline can cause dementia by reducing the overall efficiency and ability of the brain to process and store information. This may include short-term memory issues, difficulty making decisions, difficulty speaking and understanding, difficulty with activities of daily living, difficulty in understanding and interpreting language, and difficulty recognizing people or things. Over time, this can lead to changes in behavior and further mental health issues, and may eventually lead to dementia. Living with dementia can be difficult, both for the person affected and for their family and friends. As such, it is important for everyone involved to be supportive and to create an environment in which the person can receive help and support. With early diagnosis and proper treatment, the progression of dementia can often be slowed down and managed.

Have you ever wondered if there’s a cure for dementia? It’s an incredibly sad and complex illness, with no single cause or solution. However, advances in the field of psychology have brought us one step closer to unlocking the mystery of dementia. There’s no one-size-fits-all cure for dementia, as every case is different. That’s why psychologists are focusing on tailored treatments that aim to improve the quality of life for those living with the condition. From environmental stimulation and lifestyle changes to medications and cognitive training, a holistic approach to treatment is often recommended. For example, research has found that ‘talking therapies’ such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be helpful in addressing behavioral problems caused by dementia. CBT aims to provide cognitive, behavioral, and emotional guidance to individuals with dementia in order to help them adjust to their condition and live as happily as possible. On a physical level, medications such as cholinesterase inhibitors are being used to help boost levels of neurotransmitters in the brain, aiding in cognitive functions.

Let’s take a dementia can be an extremely challenging condition for sufferers and their loved ones. However, thanks to psychological research and advances in treatment, we can be hopeful for a better understanding of dementia in the future. We still don’t know if a cure for dementia exists, but with more research, we can take steps towards a better quality of life for those affected by it. With modern research and medicine, maybe in the near future a cure is found.

Until then, when our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

The Mind as a Butterfly: Cherishing Our Creative Possibilities

What an extraordinary concept – the mind like a butterfly, peaceful and beautiful. At first, it can be hard to truly imagine, but take a moment to think about what your mind has the potential to be like. Imagine a butterfly fluttering from flower to flower, freely exploring the world around it. That’s the beauty of the mind – like a butterfly, it can transport you to another place entirely, where all things seem possible.

Our minds possess a power like no other. With the right motivation, we can use them to create the life we’ve always dreamed of living. But with all the pressures of life, it can be easy to forget that we have such a precious and wonderful tool in our minds. That is why it is so important to remember that the butterfly-like power of our minds should be treasured and appreciated. To cherish your mind and unlock the creative power within, it is essential to take the time to do the things that make your heart flutter. Whatever it is that you enjoy, carve out a place in your life where you can escape and find time for the free and creative explorations that your butterfly mind deserves. Without making this a priority, you could easily be depriving yourself of your true potential. We all have the power to unlock our inner butterfly – it’s just a matter of taking a moment to remember to cherish our minds and give ourselves permission to explore. With this precious tool, our lives become far richer, more meaningful, and infinitely more interesting. Let your inner butterfly take you on a magical journey today – your future self will thank you.

Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Much love and many blessings. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

Increase in Mental Health – Leaves Us Distant

Grow with knowledge
Grow with Knowledge

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It’s no secret that mental health issues are on the rise. With the COVID-19 pandemic, anxiety, depression, OCD, bipolar disorder, PTSD, and dementia have all increased dramatically. So what or why caused this rise in mental health issues? A major contributing factor to the increase in mental health issues has been the impact of social media, social distancing, and lack of real-world engagement. We’ve become so accustomed to living our lives online, behind screens, that we are becoming detached from real-life interaction and learning. This form of isolation has taken away the sense of connection and interpersonal skills needed to navigate life’s most complex situations.

The history of manual labor and physical strength was not just to build homes or bridges, but also to build relationships, help with problem solving and establish critical thinking skills. Manual labor connected people in the same ways as today’s technology; the hands on aspect enabled conversations, friendship, teaching and learning from each other in order to work effectively. Having the physical health required to build mental stability went hand in hand. Effectively in history, life skills were interactions face to face, hands on, and stepping stone to mental health stability. Technology has it’s upsides, and the flipsides. Due to the rise of social media, as well as technology, this style of communication is quickly declining. As a result, mental health is taking a toll from this “I’m too busy on my phone to talk to you” mentality, and instead of people leaning on each other and learning essential life skills, they are turning to virtual solutions to these issues.

The younger generations in particular are learning life skills more from their peers through social media instead of having real-life, face-to-face experiences that build skills such as empathy and interpersonal communication. Over a course of time, physical involvement has faded leaving a struggling impact on future generations. In a world where survival is critical in every aspect mentally, physically, and financially. As parents, caregivers, or teachers lacking stability of life skills, challenges the quality of a child’s congitive development. The impact of social media and a lack of real-life engagements has caused what can be considered a “lazy” form of knowledge. It’s impacting our ability to problem solve, think outside the box, and feel motivated to reach our goals. This kind of mentality, when not managed well, can result in mental health issues such as anxiety and depression. The impact leaves us scratching our heads. Simply because life skills and values don’t seem important or essential to future generations.

My friends, there’s two resources to be “rich” in life : the first is knowledge.. one fact is, there is no price on the power of the mind. Your potential of life skills; knowledge and education can not be taken away from you. Congratulations! It’s yours for as long as you maintain the quality. We all know there are two keys to achieving success in life – knowledge and hard work. You might think that a thousand-dollar Iphone 14 is beautiful, but can it really secure a bright future for you? We all know that money isn’t everything in life. There’s no price tag on knowledge and having an open, eager mind to continue to learn and better yourself is worth much more in the long run. Learning valuable life skills, gaining an education and tapping into your own potential will always be available to you. You don’t need to pay a penny for it, but rather, dedicate your time and energy to unlocking these natural talents within yourself. Money may buy material things and make your life a little bit easier, but when it comes down to it, knowledge and your commitment to the quality of work are far more important for securing a prosperous future. Make sure you make time for education and invest in building your own skills, that way you can be sure of your future no matter what happens.

And number two: hard work, physical and mental abilities. Once we were told that it was creative, thinking outside the box can be a key to future success. This couldn’t stand true anymore in a struggling world. Hard work comes with life skills of experience. Our gains if experience is through interactions with others. A connection to the minds of knowledge and experience. In which wisdom is gained for growth and development. Over time COVID 19 has impacted the connection with others. “Social Distancing” as we know it.

This form of ‘social distancing’ has a large impact on mental health due to the lack of knowledge, skills and overall connection between individuals. Rather than taking the time to learn essential life skills like communication, problem-solving, or thinking outside the box, we are turning to our peers for advice on these topics. Unfortunately, this shift in communication has resulted in what some may describe as ‘lazy thinking’, which greatly impacts motivation and progress. If we hope to break this cycle of increased mental health issues, we must turn to our trusted institutions, whether it be government, healthcare, or even educational, to help support and offer resources to those affected by these issues. Mental health should be an important priority, especially during these difficult times. As individuals, we should also take the time to look out for one another, lend a helping hand and engage in meaningful conversations whenever we can. With collective action, together, we can make a positive impact.

So what’s the solution?

While it’s important to remember that social media is a great tool that can keep us connected to the outside world, it’s essential to practice real-life engagement and learning life skills. Setting aside screen time and reaching out to those around you will go a long way to reducing the impact of mental health issues in today’s world. So, take the time to rekindle the old ways and physical communication, engage in meaningful conversations, help those around you with their mental health, and work together to form a stronger bond and better understand each other. The power of relationships is what helps to sustain mental health in the long run, so put your phone down, lend a helping hand and create meaningful connections.

Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Much love and many blessings. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋

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“If walls could talk”, the walls of a hundred-year-old farmhouse would tell history.. Built in 1923, solid wood, and the finest material money could buy. A farmhouse structured to settle on many acres surrounding to harvest and farm, a farmhouse foundation to riches of life.

My wood has witnessed so much over the years, including the bustle of family gatherings, the hum of conversations, and the laughter of children playing late into the night. I’ve seen birthdays, holidays, and Sunday afternoons. I remember long summer days when the wind rushed in through the open windows, carrying with it the smell of grass and lilac and honeysuckle. I have witnessed years of changes and watched as people moved away and others took their place.

The walls of this old farmhouse have seen much joy and sorrow over the years. For generations, families have come to gather and live, building memories around the fireside, laughter from the long tables, and the warmth of a hearty meal. But behind the walls, in the spaces between, the stories the walls tell can never truly be told. Perhaps in the rooms and hallways, voices are heard and memories fade in and out of existence, echoing throughout the structure. From newlyweds giggling and enjoying the days of love and naivety to families trying to make sense of tragedy, the walls saw and heard it all. As babies were born and a family started, laughter erupted, along with stories and arguments. Evil hands that covered innocent faces. Not every story would be humored or joyful. The walls carry dark troubled times as well.

Within these walls, church was held, class was taught, bank trading, and deals were done. Hard labor was manual and respect was taught. Values had priority in order to learn wisdom. Walls structured for challenges and hope, peace, and love. Weather would test its structure over time. Someone always came along and fixed me up making proper repairs.

On winter nights, cold and snow seeping in through cracks and gaps, the walls became an intimate theatre, displaying deep conversations between people in love, grappling with hope, heartache and deep questions. From the attic to the barn and beyond, if the walls could talk they’d speak of deep connections and loyalty between neighbors, help that came when least expected and giving when it wasn’t asked. These walls saw sleepless nights, painful memories and special occasions all become memories stored away forever, like so much dust and dirt tucked into every nook and cranny of this family home. The walls are strong, but their secrets still linger. Each generation is added to this story, creating new ones to replace the fading ones of years past. Though time passes and generations come and go, these walls are steadfast in their silence. But if they could talk, what stories would they tell?

The farm house had seen its share of joys and sorrows over the years. If the walls could speak, it would tell the story of families living through a devastating harvest failure. Struggling to make ends meet and make their land last. Late nights filled with sorrow and fear of losing their family’s legacy. But in the same breath, the walls would speak of the immense joy and love felt within these four walls. Through times of great celebration, it saw couples get married, grandchildren playing in the living room, and homemade meals enjoyed with family and friends.

Harvest failures, desperate hopes, tears and sweat, and the pain of the family members all weighed heavily on the old house. One could imagine the strained conversations held by the family members over whether or not they would make it through the season. There were surely times of deep sorrow, as members of the family had to let go of beloved parts of the farm as financial struggles worsened. And as the walls held in the past, they witnessed each successive generation gather together, trying their best to keep the old farm alive, their sweat and efforts creating an invisible bond between the generations, uniting them despite the distances of time. If the walls could talk, surely their voices would be those of perseverance and courage, ringing through the halls of the farmhouse and resounding in the memories of its inhabitants.

The stories would speak of hope and dreams, love and loss, faith and doubt. They would bring joy and pain, laughter and tears. For generations, these walls have held a unique place in this family’s lives, providing strength and shelter. Though the stories within may remain forever unheard, they remain held deep within the structure of this old farmhouse.

One hundred years, 2023 my structure has loosened, and the seeking noise of broken shutters, rattle with the wind. The farm has decreased as family sold to develop. New fancy houses are closing in. Those houses are top of the line, here surround, just an old farmhouse.

I am here, silently absorbing it all, like a repository for the collective memories of generations of families. I can only imagine what the walls of this old farmhouse would say if they could talk. Stories of heartache and happiness, successes and failures, hope and despair. And so I plead with you – don’t let development erase my history. Don’t tear me down. Keep me standing, so that I may continue to be part of this incredible journey. Renovate history with a little love and care.

This old farmhouse has so much history to share. If only the walls could talk? Please let this old farm house stand proud just as the history that lives within these walls.

Sadly, in today’s day and age, my structure may not be long for this world. I stand, empty and forlorn, for a development threatens to tear me down and rob my life of its history and memory. Don’t let it be! I am a testament to a life once lived and a living piece of history that shouldn’t be forgotten. Please save me and remember what I stand for.

Until our minds meet again be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

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5 a.m. – The Story of the Abusive Relationship

My Story My Madness

Physical pain vs. emotional or mental pain – it’s abuse
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At 5 am, many of us might be peacefully sleeping in our beds, unaware of the struggles and fears of those living in an abusive relationship. This story will explore of one such individual who felt such a painful deviation. Anxiety began filling the vessels of every nerve throughout her body. Tears surfaced from deep clenched pain that had no mercy. Once the whiskey evil words of hatred and violence were near – chilling pain and tension surfaced, Rooted fear without camouflage. Knowing those words would turn into punches – Coming from the person who was supposed to love and protect her. Read more about power of fear and the courage it takes to break free and survive.

Meeting the abuser
The first time I ever encountered my abuser was an unforgettable experience. It was a cold December day, we both worked for the same company. I had just finished up my work for the day. I turned around to find a dark handsome stranger smiling at me.
He introduced himself and told me he had been watching me for a while and wanted to get to know me better. I was charmed by his good looks and charisma, so I agreed to meet him after work the following day.
Little did I know, this seemingly charming man would soon turn into my worst nightmare.
When we met the next day, he seemed kind and caring. He was attentive, nice, and funny.. In no time the weekends were spent together, out of town visits, and my heart held a special place for him. Somewhere in a hidden spot in my stomach, I felt unsure, love played the tune. When the song was in tune, it had a beat that was great. On occasion the tune was unsettling from time to time.

Time played its course with all the sweet, kind gestures he offered. My heart wasn’t new to love but he just knew those walks in the park were heartfelt.

– As we soon decided to move in together after 3 years of living apart. In my heart, I didn’t feel the “want to” but my heart cared too much to say “no”. I had known of a woman he dealt with, the details were only told by her. Our conversations were meaningful, yet my heart wore special glasses. Not knowing the truth or getting his story I didn’t question him further. The ups and downs were because of cheating and lying that began to cultivate from his past. Needless to say, in a sick way I seen the reality soon after we meet. It seemed like I wore special glasses that blocked so much, I couldn’t see the truth. However my mind was right on point with whatever was taking place. A guard seemingly was around my heart. It had no hurt or tears as the days continued to pass.

Life seemed good and our needs were filled, the bills paid, and our want for nothing was balanced. Simple life seemed to be good for the most part.

Nice cars, nice home, friends, family nothing was off or questionable. One day after work, outside talking with my neighbor, greeting him after his work day – a not so pleasant eye. Immediately, he stated “I am in the house”. I laughed it off and continued conversation with my neighbor. After awhile, I went into the house, a very hard hit, blow to the face. My heart shattered like a perfect glass to unrepairable pieces of a broken heart. Lost for words, numb, confused, hurt was far from the impact left. That burning feeling on my face had no reality to what happens inside my soul.

The days when love gave your soul the jitters, a beautiful wave that same call “love”. The smile that covers your face and the giggle and laughter that explodes to be released, a silly thing “some call love”. The moment you kiss and your body wants more, a spontaneous gift some call “love”. Days and nights had the beautiful waves of what “some call love”. That what some call “love”, takes time to build and create. One blow to the face – destroyed that what some call love – just two seconds. Those two seconds “can not”, I repeat “can not” give back that jittery wave of what some call love feeling – again. That blow to the face stung for a moment, confusing every word, thought, or intention for awhile. Nothing was the same, the wounds were deep and the patches were cheap. You can’t repair a cheap thought, action, or words, when trust has a high value. Every word was processed differently, analyzing every moment, every step. The hit didn’t hurt, what hurt was I didn’t understand. Everything about me, I fine combed in 3 days. Soul searching to why? The wound was gapped to deep to stitch. Everything changed that day and many days to come, a zombie that died and crawled through life. A mind that heard no beauty to life, nothing made sense at all. We were not okay in my eyes, he seemed I had a problem. And 4 years in – time, time, time. That played in my mind over and over.

However, it soon became apparent that this man had an evil side. As he became more comfortable with me, his true colors started to show. He would become angry and controlling whenever I disagreed with him or didn’t do what he wanted.
At first, the abuse was verbal. He would call me names and belittle me. But it soon escalated into the physical abuse. He would grab me by the arm, hit me or push me against the wall. The fear of not knowing what he would do next left me feeling helpless and trapped in an abusive relationship.
I eventually mustered up the courage to leave him, but I always went back. Learning to adjust is difficult, trying to grasp the emotions and mental pain. The physical abuse is painful at the moment. However the emotional and mental turmoil is permanent. But the emotional scars remain and the memory still haunts me. No one deserves to be treated like that, especially not from their significant other. Sometimes you have to give yourself permission to let go of those who hurt you. One thing is for sure though: I will never let anyone take control of me again. I am living proof that there is life after abuse and pain.

The early signs of abuse
We’ve all heard the stories about abusive relationships, but for many of us, it’s hard to spot the early signs. It’s easy to think that these types of relationships only happen in movies or to people we don’t know, but in reality, it can happen to anyone.
In the story above, the early signs of an abusive relationship were present. The first sign was the fear created by the whiskey-fueled words. These words are often used to manipulate and control a partner, which can lead to a cycle of fear and hurt in the relationship.
The second sign was the hand reaching out to grab the arm. This type of physical aggression is a clear warning sign of an abusive relationship. It can be a sign of dominance, control, and intimidation.
It’s important to remember that abuse doesn’t always begin this way. It often starts with small things, like criticism or yelling. Over time, these behaviors can become more extreme and dangerous. If you see signs of an abusive relationship in yourself or someone you care about, it’s important to reach out for help. Support from family and friends, as well as professional resources, can be invaluable in helping someone get out of an abusive relationship. It’s also important to seek support if you’re unsure whether your partner is abusive. According to research, there are several questions that may indicate whether a person may have an abusive personality:

1) Does your partner criticize you?

2) Is your partner possessive?

3) Does your partner yell at you?

4) Does your partner force intimacy without consent?

5) Does your partner threaten violence against you or others?

6) Does your partner use drugs or alcohol to keep you under control?

7) Has your partner ever hit, kicked, choked, bite, shoved, pinned down, burned or threatened any pets while they were angry at them? These are clear indication someone may have aggressive behavior.

No matter how many apologies are said, they are not real. These are just words of pitty to keep you from leaving. You build a defense that is anger from the hurt of deception, lying, cheating and self destruction. You feel embarrassed by letting this happen for so long. You feel stuck and sadly you stay. It’s a horrible cycle that cycles more abuse in time. When you think it would get better, it’s hell to pay to try to leave. It gets much worse, than it had been before. A vicious cycle where trying to survive is unpredictable. It becomes a known feeling it’s time to leave. It’s only something you know for yourself.

The breaking point
It had been months, those months became years, since the whispers of his anger had begun. At first, it seemed like something I could ignore, a feeling of unease that was brushed off as nothing more than a passing emotion. But as the days turned into weeks, and the weeks into months, and years, it became clear that this wasn’t just some passing feeling—it was something far more sinister.
The outbursts had grown in intensity, turning into full-blown tantrums filled with screams, shouts, and threats. It was like living in an emotional minefield, never knowing when I might set off an explosion. And then, on that fateful morning at 5:14am, the breaking point was reached.

His hand had reached out and grabbed my throat, and for the first time, I felt completely powerless. The terror I felt in that moment was something I will never forget. All of my senses were heightened, and all I wanted was for it to end. But as his whiskey-soaked breath spewed out more vile words, I knew that there was no going back. This was the moment when I realized that I had to get out of this abusive relationship.
In the days that followed, I made the difficult decision to leave. Despite the heartache and pain that came with it, I knew that it was the only way to free myself from this dark situation. Looking back now, it’s hard to believe that I allowed myself to be trapped in such an abusive environment for so long. But thankfully, I have been able to move forward and heal from this traumatic experience.

Today, I am still thriving to find a healthy relationship with someone who respects me and treats me well. Where there is no longer any fear or anxiety surrounding what he might say or do next; instead, be able to talk through our problems together and find solutions that work for us both. Someone who will help me to reclaim my independence and build up my self-esteem again after years of being told how worthless I am. Even though you’re well aware of the words falsely tossed in the air. No matter how strong you are, those words still affect you in time.

When you are stuck in an abusive relationship, it can feel like you are walking on eggshells every day, never knowing when you might trigger your partner’s rage again. Just know that you don’t need to put up with abuse anymore–there are plenty of resources available that can help you take control of your life again!

Every day she thought about leaving but found herself constantly battling an inner voice that was too scared to move forward. As much as she wanted to escape, she was petrified of facing life alone, so she stayed locked in a perpetual cycle of suffering. The inner demon is a battle itself. I want to be free but my heart speaks a different language. Staying is a cycle that can’t be explained. You’re in a situation that you know is wrong, you know it’s horrible and a powerful mind game that keeps you there. It’s something you can’t express or explain.

That is my home too. It’s a painful way knowing it’s not a choice. It’s a mind game…. To be continued

Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Much love and many blessings. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋

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Just A Story to Tell

“Just a story to tell”

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The world was spinning, day in and day out, with endless tasks and endless responsibilities. Everything seemed so meaningless, so fleeting. In a society plagued with economic decline and suffocating debt, where nothing was as it should be, life was a challenge. Everywhere you looked, there was pressure and expectation. Jobs that didn’t provide enough, costs that kept growing and time slipping away, creating a constant, stressful atmosphere. People had to adapt, learn new skills and try to create something of their own to make it through. I was one of those people. Feeling weighed down by all that life was throwing at me, I searched for something meaningful and stable.

I decided to go back to something that had been in my heart since I was a child: writing. I decided to focus on writing/ storytelling. My goal was to express stories of joy and hope, as well as sorrow and fear. By using my words to transport people to a different world, even if just for a moment, I wanted to remind them that there was always a chance for a better tomorrow. My writing was far from perfect, but with practice I was slowly becoming a better writer/storyteller. Soon, I was creating content for and reaching an ever-widening audience. The monetary rewards are unavailable, was always great, but the greater reward was the joy and contentment of doing something that I truly loved. Today, I am still a storyteller, creating stories that bring joy, laughter and knowledge to people in a world filled with fear and doubt. As my words reach more and more people, I know that I am making a difference in their lives and giving them hope in a chaotic and troubled world.

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Once upon a time, in a small playground nestled in a rural corner of the world, the life of the children who used to gather there was far different than it is today. Long ago, there was little thought of economic or financial woes, or of where their future may lie. The days were filled with carefree play and youthful laughter as children tested their physical and mental boundaries on the equipment, finding solace in being able to freely express themselves in a safe, happy environment. But, with the onset of a global financial crisis and growing levels of inflation, the playground and its children have had to make a significant adjustment in the way they approach life. Where once the days were spent creating forts and towers, playing hide and seek and games of tag, the kids must now spend their free time gathering and growing their own food, scavenging for materials to barter, and devising strategies to make a living from their available resources. Gone are the days of simplistic enjoyment of one another’s company. For many of the kids at the playground, a job is the only viable way of providing for themselves and their families. There is little room for failure in the face of increasing hardship and mounting debt.

But amongst the change and upheaval of their current life, the playground kids have still managed to find time for self-expression. The vibrant colors of the play structures have been painted with poetry and images of hope, while some have taken up the art of story telling to capture their collective experience of the ever-evolving world around them. In a world where nothing is certain, one thing remains the same: the kids of the playground still keep hold of the powerful spirit of camaraderie and ingenuity, which ensures that even when the landscape of their life has changed, their stories of survival still remain.

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Writing : A Life Skill inspired by Mental Health

Lost for Words

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What is the purpose of life? We all may have a different view or perspective. To live and be happy, build a family, work., The list goes on and on. Truth is to live through the spirit of God. To achieve knowledge, wisdom, and be your best self. Finding our purpose of life is within our gifts of skill and talent given to us.. Many people discover this purpose early in life and some never grasp the meaning to life, or care to find purpose.

The purpose of life is determined by our higher power and our true character. In order to achieve a life of purpose we need experience that gives up skill. Having these skills will help give more definition to the purpose of life. And through the history of evolution, trace of ancient life left in written words.

Writing Skills

History of ancestors and ancient times have proven life due to writing skills. Writing is a key function that motivated us. Writing is a vital skill that should be learned and practiced throughout life. It can be essential to communicate with others, solve problems, or improve your health. What makes up good writing skills? How they can help you in your everyday life, and more!

Writing is our language to connect and communicate our needs, desires, our intentions, and our inner voice. Knowing the logic to writing is basic, but can be difficult if you lack understanding. Writing is a way to release what we intend to take action towards. A form of written word that addresses quality of understanding. An ability to acknowledge understanding of information presented. Everyday life is in the form of writing skills. The workplace from the application to the job description is a writing skill that demonstrates -“you”. Life purpose requires the highest levels of writing skills possible. To achieve the best quality purpose of life, continuously practice writing skills throughout life. Gain knowledge in writing skills.

Education

Writing is a life skill needed in everyday life. Education is the fundamental core to mental health. The ability to write well is undervalued, but it’s an essential part of being able to communicate effectively and to effectively solve problems.

In order for you to be able to express yourself clearly, you need some skills in critical thinking and evaluation. This can be done through reading and practicing comprehensive mental exercise. Life experiences can influence wisdom and offer ways to mentally explore life. How we express our thoughts can vary. The key to efficient communication is how we write, say, or write words. Writing is a purpose to relay our needs and intention. It’s easy to write as we talk or think. Allowing our thoughts to help process the meaning. To fully grasp the writing skill, continuously requires educating our minds regularly. The more we explore life opportunities our ability to understand, communicate, and process information becomes wisdom. Wisdom is a quality of knowledge gained through the ability to understand and develop insight.

Wisdom

Wisdom is the ability to apply knowledge, experience, understanding and common sense in making decisions and solving problems. Wisdom can be acquired through education or training but it can also come from your own life experiences. You may have had a moment where you were faced with a difficult decision and chose the best possible outcome. This is an example of wisdom! Knowledge of insight on how to accomplish a project or life situation. Wisdom is one thing that can’t be taken from you. Wisdom is the contemplate knowledge using an action of common sense, education, experience, and good judgement. Resulting in solving a situation with best perspectives. Wisdom is simply made by decisions, advice and ability to achieve the best outcome.

Communication

Communication is a skill that can be learned, and it’s important for every person to have good communication skills. In the workplace, being able to communicate effectively with your coworkers, clients and supervisors will help you get along better with them. It’s also important in relationships with family members, friends and romantic partners because they will rely on you for information or advice at times when they need it most.

When it comes to social situations such as parties or casual gatherings where there might be alcohol involved (which some people may or may not drink), communicating clearly about what kind of behavior would be acceptable helps everyone feel comfortable while having fun together!

Social Skills

Social skills are important for every job. They allow you to interact with others, work in a team and communicate effectively.

  • Interact with others: Social skills help you get along with your coworkers and clients; for example, they help you understand their problems or needs better.
  • Work in teams: A good social worker can easily work on tasks that require teamwork—for example, creating an action plan for a client or helping them resolve an issue with their insurance company.
  • Communicate effectively: The ability to express yourself clearly is one of the most important things about any job where words are used (whether writing reports or giving presentations).

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a skill that can be learned, and it’s important to practice it regularly. Mindfulness is about being aware of the present moment in your life, whether you’re working or relaxing. You’ll notice thoughts, feelings and sensations as they come up during this time. You might feel stressed out or tired; other times you might have a lot on your mind—maybe even something specific like an upcoming doctors appointment, a new project at work or a research paper due at school tomorrow.

Mindfulness helps us stay grounded in reality so we don’t get caught up in our own minds’ stories: “You’re not going to make it through today.” “What was I thinking? This was such an epic fail!” It’s important not only for self-care but also because being mindful makes us more empathetic towards other people around us who may be struggling with similar issues right now (or even just experiencing things differently than we are). Mindfulness is a practice to achieve a more productive life. Influenced by positive thoughts and energy. Understanding thoughts, emotions, and empathy that can change at any given time. Mindfulness can help reduce stress as situations throughout life take place.

Writing skills is a priority skill needed in life.

Writing skills are a priority skill needed in life. Writing is an essential part of many jobs, careers, and businesses. It’s also necessary for communication with clients or customers via email or phone calls. For example:

  • Salespeople need to write persuasive pitches so they can get more clients.
  • Doctors need to give accurate medical advice based on their experience and expertise as well as their training at medical school or residency programs for doctors who specialize in certain areas like pediatrics (childhood) or internal medicine (internal conditions).
  • Writers need to develop ideas for new products or services that will sell if consumers want them enough to buy them!
  • Function on a day to day basis requires writing skills. Efficient communication skills are routine to function in life. Everything we do depends on life skills to process functions.

A well-written essay is not just about the words, but also the way you put them together. Writing skills are important for everyone and can help you express yourself better. It’s never too late to start improving your writing skills through reading, practice, and hard work. As we begin to age, having the wisdom of writing is essential. Not everyone will have the same level of writing skills. However, to achieve a higher quality is just in practicing. Understanding your quality of writing; will allow you to recognize your improvements fairly quickly. Improving your writing skills will have positive impacts to your mental health, as well.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, get a writing, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋