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What makes a good leader?

Leadership is an important role that requires certain qualities and traits to be successful. An effective leader needs to have good communication and interpersonal skills in order to be able to inspire and motivate their team. They need to possess self-confidence, vision, integrity, empathy, and a commitment to making positive changes. They should also be decisive, open-minded, organized, humble, passionate about their work, and willing to take calculated risks. Additionally, they should have the ability to delegate tasks efficiently while keeping the end goal in mind. Ultimately, good leaders recognize the strengths of their team members and create a positive environment that encourages collaboration.

– Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

Unexpected Challenges

Life Challenges
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Life can be full of unexpected challenges that can feel like too much to handle. It can feel like a heavy burden when stress and financial struggles are combined with other major challenges, leaving us feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope with the mental strain. This feeling is not uncommon and it’s important to remember that we’re never alone in facing difficult times.

Challenges We’ve all been there at some point in our lives, feeling completely overwhelmed and stressed due to the overwhelming challenges that life has presented us with. From financial struggles, work-related stress, or major life changes, we can often find ourselves feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope with the mental mess we are faced with. It’s important to remember that these situations are incredibly common and that you’re not alone. The key to managing overwhelming circumstances is developing strategies that allow you to find balance and create space between the overwhelming feelings and what you can do about them. Keep an organized notebook of important information. Try to plan a weekly routine, activities included. This can help manage time as well, so your not overwhelmed at last minute. When challenging situations arise, they won’t be so disruptive to your routine. It’s easy to overload our schedules and allowing time management to fall short in completing important task.

Manage Stress To help manage stressful situations, there are many activities you can try such as taking some deep breaths, talking with friends or family, doing something creative or trying meditation or mindfulness. Even getting some exercise or sleep can make a huge difference in our outlook and how we handle difficult circumstances. Taking some time for yourself to do activities you enjoy and setting achievable goals will help take your mind off of your troubles for a bit, allowing for greater clarity and focus when you face them again. Additionally, considering professional counseling can be incredibly beneficial when struggling with overwhelm, providing valuable insights into improving self-awareness, personal effectiveness and productivity in challenging times. No matter how tough things may seem right now, remember that we all go through hard times. There is relief, if we persevere and develop strategies to manage overwhelming feelings before they take control of our lives. So take a deep breath – you got this!

Thinking Positive In times of high stress and strain it is essential to ensure that we take care of our mental health first. We can do this by creating a positive mindset and trying to reframe negative thoughts into something more productive and encouraging. Positive thinking is essential when dealing with difficult circumstances as it helps us break through the barriers and access a calmness of mind which will help to better understand our current situation.

Taking breaks throughout the day from the stresses of life is essential in managing feelings of overwhelm. Having an escape such as reading a book, exercising outdoors, cooking or playing music will help provide a much-needed break for our minds which helps combat against any stresses or anxiety felt during these times.

Additionally, prioritizing your tasks and having an action plan in place is also beneficial in keeping on top of workloads. As it creates order rather than chaos; which again can aid in providing peace within ourselves when working towards completing objectives.

Talk it Out If you feel like your stress levels have become too much, it is important to talk to someone about how you’re feeling. Talking about what’s causing you distress can really help lift a weight off your shoulders. A therapist can provide professional support during tough times, or alternatively speaking to friends or family who will be understanding of your current struggles can be helpful.

Although there may be periods in life where we feel overly overwhelmed with pressures being placed upon us; remembering that we are not alone during these challenging moments. It’s vital as others around us will share similar stories they have faced in life’s turmoil’s. Taking time out for self-care such as meditating, exercise or hobbies provides welcome distractions whilst engaging in talks with therapists/friends/family is incredibly important in seeking assistance where/when needed. You got this👍

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋


What is? Why does it matter?

Landing is easy, staying focused is tough.

Have you ever thought about your personal story? Could your story or experience help others? Writing is a form of self-help. We never realize but in some cases, if we listen to our inner being we can help ourselves through challenges. If you’re ready to take your life in a new direction, let’s talk! Your experience and story can open a new found you. Just by creating a direction to help others.

Sharing stuff that matters

Writing is a great way to share your knowledge with the world, your story with the world, and your experience with others. You can also use Writing to share your knowledge about something that matters to you—like how to improve your health, find love!, Or rebuild a lawn mower. Endless topics,it’s your knowledge to share with others.

Gratitude – Prayer of “Thank you”

Gratitude is the key to happiness, success, health and everything.

Gratitude is a daily practice. The more you practice gratitude, the more it will become your default mode of thinking and behavior.

One step at a time – self-motivation.

The first step is to accept that you need help. This may seem like an obvious statement, but there are plenty of people who refuse to admit it and instead push themselves into a corner where they can’t escape. Don’t make this mistake!

Once you’ve accepted the fact that your life might not be as easy as it seems at first glance (and sometimes even later), consider taking some time off from your goal if necessary. If nothing else works then try giving up on one part of the task every few days until something else clicks into place and all problems disappear!

Emotions are real, I feel that.

Emotions are real, I feel that.

Emotions are a part of the human experience, and it’s important to acknowledge and understand them. Feelings are just feelings; they’re not always negative or positive—they just exist as a part of who we are. It can be difficult for people to deal with their emotions in an effective way, but it’s worth learning how to do so because there are many benefits from doing so:

On one hand, if you learn how to manage your own emotions effectively then you’ll be able to better handle stressful situations while also being able to feel confident moving forward in life

Self-talk is real, I speak it.

Self-talk is real. It’s the way we talk to ourselves, and it can be positive or negative.

When you’re feeling down, telling yourself that everything will be okay might help you get through the day. When you’re feeling happy about something, telling yourself that nothing is going to go wrong can keep your mind at ease until it’s time for bed (or work). In other words: self-talk helps us achieve our goals by helping us focus on what we want and letting go of what we don’t need anymore—and since we’ve already been talking about how important this skill is for achieving success in life, let’s continue!

Worry is real, I worry because its my story if i make it so.

Worry is real and it can be a useful tool if you use it correctly, but it’s not the only method for motivating yourself. In fact, worrying about things that haven’t happened yet can actually cause you to feel worse than if you hadn’t worried at all!

Instead of worrying about what might happen in the future, focus on taking action today instead. How? By setting goals and tasks for yourself that will help take control over your life by making simple changes like reducing sugar intake or finding time for exercise every day (or at least trying). Making slow progress is the first step. The rest generally falls in place if you continue to move forward.

By focusing on positive actions rather than pessimistic thoughts, I’ve found myself feeling more confident with my decisions because they were made consciously—and those decisions have been easier because we’re seeing results right away!

Section; Self-Belief is my gift. I believe in me and so do others.

Self-belief is a gift.

I believe in me and so do others.

Believe in your ability to solve problems, help others and earn success for yourself. It’s a gift that you give yourself by believing in yourself.

Why do I write? Because we are here to help someone else – solve their problems with theirs!

I write because it makes me feel good.

Writing helps me to express myself, and that is what we all need in life. We have so much to learn from each other and from our experiences, so why not share them?

I know that this is a lot of information and it’s hard to keep all this stuff in your head at once, but don’t worry! If you follow this advice, we will help you with everything. Writing is about taking action and doing things that matter. So just start one step at a time. You will get there sooner than you think!

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

Intermittent Explosive Disorder

Intermittent explosive disorder (IED) is a mental health condition marked by frequent impulsive anger outbursts or aggression. The episodes are out of proportion to the situation that triggered them and cause significant distress.

Do you feel like your emotions are often out of control? Do you sometimes find yourself in situations where you feel overwhelmed and suddenly lash out with uncontrollable anger? If so, it is possible that you may be suffering from intermittent explosive disorder (IED).

IED is a mental health condition characterized by frequent episodes of intense and impulsive aggression. These episodes are usually disproportionate to the situation or event that has triggered them and cause significant distress for the individual as well as those around them. While most people experience feelings of anger or aggression from time to time, IED sufferers may experience these feelings more intensely and more frequently than other individuals.

Symptoms of IED can include: difficulty controlling emotions; excessive emotional reactivity; angry outbursts; impulsiveness; irritability; physical aggression toward objects or other people; verbal aggression such as shouting or threats.

If left untreated, IED can have a detrimental effect on one’s quality of life. Sufferers often struggle with social relationships, job performance, financial difficulties and even legal problems due to their inability to manage their behavior. It can also have long-term consequences if not addressed such as an increased risk of heart disease, stroke and even early death.

Fortunately, there are effective treatments available for those who suffer from IED. A combination of psychotherapy and medication can help to reduce the intensity and frequency of symptoms while also helping the individual learn healthier ways to cope with difficult situations. It is important for those who believe they may be struggling with IED to seek help from a qualified mental health professional. With the right support, it is possible to lead a happy, fulfilling life free from frequent episodes of uncontrolled rage and aggression.

Understanding Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED)

If you or someone you know struggles with frequent episodes of outbursts or aggression, they may have a mental health condition known as Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED). This disorder is marked by impulsive anger outbursts or aggressive behavior that are significantly more intense than the situation that triggered them. These episodes cause distress for the individual experiencing them and can make it difficult to cope with everyday life.

Living with IED can be difficult and there is still a lot to learn about this condition. While there isn’t one single cause of IED, research suggests it may be caused by a combination of genetic, biological, environmental and psychological factors.

Common symptoms associated with IED include irritability, an increased tendency to easily get angry, difficulty managing one’s emotions, low self-esteem and explosive behaviors that range from verbal to physical aggression. It’s important to note that not all episodes are violent and often times individuals will simply experience extreme emotional distress without outward signs of aggression.

Individuals who suffer from IED can benefit greatly from therapy, support groups, lifestyle changes and medications. With appropriate treatment and self-care practices in place many people suffering from this disorder find success in controlling their anger outbursts or aggression and improve their overall quality of life. If you or someone you know is living with IED seeking help from a professional is essential for long term success in managing symptoms associated with this condition.

Dealing with someone with IED

If you are dealing with someone who has intermittent explosive disorder (IED), it is important to understand that they are going through an emotional and behavioral condition that can be challenging. IED involves intense outbursts of aggression, usually lasting less than 30 minutes, in response to a perceived insult or frustration. It is not easy to deal with someone with IED, but there are strategies that can help make it easier for both you and the person you are dealing with.

First and foremost, it is important to be patient and understanding when communicating with someone with IED. Let them know that their emotions are valid and try not to get frustrated if their mood swings between feeling good and angry. Speak calmly to the person so that they don’t feel overwhelmed or attacked. Avoid being confrontational and instead focus on being supportive. If the situation starts getting out of control, try distracting the person by suggesting an activity or engaging in a meaningful conversation.

It is also important to avoid triggers when possible. Ask the person what things might trigger an episode of IED, such as certain conversations topics or certain people, and then do your best to avoid them if possible. Doing so may help prevent outbursts from occurring in the first place.

It’s also helpful to seek professional help for both yourself and the individual with IED. Talking to a mental health professional about how to manage episodes of IED may be beneficial for both of you. Therapy can also provide support and guidance in managing symptoms while helping you better understand what’s happening on an emotional level.

Finally, it is important to remember that although IED can be difficult for everyone involved, there is help available. With patience, understanding, compassion, and support from mental health professionals, those affected by IED can learn how to cope more effectively.

2023: How to Survive in a World Without Jobs

It’s 2022, and the world has changed drastically. Jobs are scarce and money is tight. Making ends meet has become increasingly difficult, and many people are wondering how they’ll be able to afford the basics of life like building a house, buying a car, or even putting food on the table. With the world in such an uncertain state, it’s no surprise that people are worried about how to survive in 2023. In this blog post, we will explore how to make it through the coming year without relying on traditional employment.

What happened to all the jobs?
It’s no secret that the job market has changed drastically over the past few years. The global pandemic and its economic repercussions have left many people struggling to make ends meet. In the wake of this shift, many are left wondering what happened to all the jobs and how they can survive in 2023 without them.

The truth is that traditional employment is no longer the norm. Many people have turned to freelancing, side hustles, and self-employment to make a living. For example, the gig economy has become an attractive option for those seeking flexible working hours and greater control over their income. It is estimated that over 40 percent of the US workforce will be participating in some form of independent work by 2023.
In addition, advances in technology have allowed for the automation of certain jobs and industries, resulting in fewer available jobs for humans. This means that workers may have to be more creative when it comes to making money. Investing in stocks or cryptocurrency, building a business from the ground up, or even launching a blog or podcast can all be viable ways to generate an income.
Finally, there are ways to access funds without a job. Government benefits such as unemployment insurance and food stamps can help provide a financial safety net while one looks for other opportunities. Furthermore, there are crowdfunding platforms such as Patreon or GoFundMe that can help individuals raise money for projects or causes they care about.
In short, there is hope for those looking to make ends meet in 2023. With a bit of creativity and resourcefulness, one can find alternative ways to generate an income in an economy without traditional jobs.

The rise of the gig economy
As the economy shifts, traditional jobs are becoming harder to come by. The gig economy is quickly becoming the new normal, with more and more people turning to freelance work or contract positions in order to make ends meet. This can be incredibly challenging for those who have been accustomed to the stability of a full-time job.
The gig economy presents unique opportunities for those seeking flexible employment, but also comes with its own set of challenges. Without the same benefits and security that a traditional job might provide, it can be difficult to budget and plan for the future. It’s important to consider all aspects of the gig economy before committing to any project, as well as doing research into the type of work that best suits you.

It’s also important to take advantage of the support systems available in the gig economy, such as task management platforms and online communities that allow freelancers and contractors to share tips and advice. Taking advantage of these resources can make it easier to manage projects, stay organized, and maximize your earning potential.
For those looking to build a career in the gig economy, it’s important to establish yourself as a reliable and hardworking individual. Making sure that your portfolio is up-to-date and showcasing your best work is essential for getting noticed by potential employers. Additionally, keeping up with industry trends and staying informed about the job market can help you stay ahead of the competition.
Overall, navigating the gig economy can be difficult, but with the right knowledge and resources, it is possible to make a comfortable living. With dedication and hard work, it’s possible to create a sustainable career in the gig economy and succeed in 2023.

How to make ends meet
In the current economy, it’s becoming increasingly difficult for people to make ends meet with a traditional 9-5 job. The fact of the matter is, jobs are becoming scarce and the ones that do exist tend to pay poorly. This leaves many people wondering how they’ll manage to survive in 2023 without a steady paycheck.
The good news is that there are plenty of ways to make a living without relying solely on a job. Here are a few strategies you can use to build a future without a steady paycheck:

  1. Become an Entrepreneur – Entrepreneurship has become increasingly popular in recent years. People are finding new and innovative ways to make money without relying on a traditional job. Whether you decide to start an online business, become a freelancer, or invest in rental properties, there are plenty of opportunities out there for aspiring entrepreneurs.
  2. Live Frugally – Living frugally doesn’t have to be boring or extreme. It simply means finding creative ways to cut down on costs and save more money. This could involve making simple changes like cutting back on dining out, buying generic brands, and taking advantage of coupons and deals.
  3. Build Passive Income Streams – While passive income streams won’t make you rich overnight, they can provide you with some much needed financial stability. Some popular options include investing in stocks, building an online store, and creating an eBook or course.
  4. Take Advantage of Government Benefits – There are a number of government benefits available for those who are unemployed or underemployed. These can include food stamps, housing assistance, and healthcare benefits. Do your research to see what kind of assistance you may be eligible for.
    Although the future may seem uncertain without a steady paycheck, there are plenty of ways to make ends meet and build a successful life without relying solely on a job. With some creativity, hard work, and determination, you can create a bright future for yourself and your family.

Building a future without a steady paycheck
As the world changes, so do the ways people make a living. With the advancements of technology, automation, and artificial intelligence, traditional jobs are becoming obsolete and many people are left wondering how they can survive without a steady paycheck.
For those looking to build a better future without relying on a single source of income, there are several strategies that can help.
First, start by exploring different ways to create multiple streams of income. There are now more options than ever for earning money outside of a 9-5 job. From freelancing and selling products online to investing in rental properties and cryptocurrency, there are plenty of ways to diversify your income and reduce your reliance on a single job.
Second, focus on building wealth instead of increasing your income. This can be done by making wise investments and taking advantage of compound interest, as well as by reducing your expenses and saving more money. The more money you save, the less reliant you will be on a steady paycheck.
Finally, explore different ways to reduce costs. Many of us spend more than we need to on things like housing, food, transportation, and entertainment. Consider ways to save money on these items by using budgeting tools or finding alternative options that cost less. You could also consider living with roommates or moving to a cheaper city to reduce your living expenses.
These strategies can help you survive without a steady job, build a secure future, and achieve financial freedom. Remember, there are still plenty of opportunities out there, you just have to think outside the box.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋


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🪟 Open to the Public

How we present ourselves to the world

Everyday – is an opportunity

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Open to the public, reflects how we present ourselves to the world. Just as no business is open til the lights are on, doors unlocked & first customer comes in.  Its the first welcome of attitude, Just like waking up in the morning. 

Positive gratitude influences what mood starts the day. What will the day become? How many encounters will you have? Will you have new customers or new business opportunities?  Everyday is a new beginning no matter what yesterday offered. Time changes with no regret. Why not build new ideas, give advice or be productive in advance? A simple change in how you present the day, changes the outlook and outcome.

Until the door unlocks and opens, the mind predicts what the future awaits. What mood is the door that let’s the type of energy come through for the day. I give my all to promote a smile everyday. As a conversationist, happiness is always welcome and presented. Don’t be fooled, as I don’t have such good days from time to time. Where I am quiet and conservative, and reserved, like downtime. As I am taking in the world around me. Some days are just a struggle. No matter what that pushing yourself to motivate can’t be tough. It’s up to you to change the day, mood, or challenge. It is the power of your mind that jump starts the moment.

Open to the public is a perception to think outside the box. We are a business regardless of having a business license. We sell ourselves to the world. Everything we do in life is communication, contact, and interaction with others. A good business promoter knows how to interact, influence, and attract opportunities for success. Attitude is of great value in life. As a person if you want 😊 happiness; promote it, it will come in return.

Our minds can pull energy in to help provide our needs and desires. Allowing our mind and body to connect and align is important. Thinking of great ideas is important, but leaving them as thoughts are wasteful. Take the courage to try new opportunities of your own chance. You might be surprised if you created a great opportunity. Nothing is easy, everything worth it, takes time, most of all dedication, and a lot of hard work.

If you want nothing, do nothing, and get nothing. It’s that simple. If life has no purpose then nothing will seem important. Those are thoughts that need encouragement and new thinking to create positivity in the day. A new way of life to feel productive, worthy, and inspired. So when your day is satisfying, it does give comfort in how well you sleep.

At the end of the day, what you put into your day is what matters. That will also determine how welll you sleep. If your day is very fulfilling with physical activity- sleep should fall in routine. If your mind is overworked your physical and mental alignment may suffer. Leaving nights of toss and turning to sleep. Finding that right pattern and balance may take time. In the long run taking time to find that balance is important to your health. Sleep plays a huge role in our everyday lives. Being able to concentrate, focus, solve problems, intellect functions, and being present. When we are open to the public we should be ready. Ready to inspire the world as who we are.

Being you in your own way is important. Your presentation is what people value. If a poor presentation is visible then that quality is left to your viewers. Not everyday will be perfect or as good, but your smile and contact can be noticed. The timing of your presentation can take place anytime of day. It’s important to be ready.

Ready to help, support, influence, and be valuable. If we are to love, to receive love, we must promote it. If you watch and listen that will reflect back with love. The energy of positivity feels amazing. The feet have a nice comfort as you continue the day. Your posture is aligned with the inner feeling of positive energy. You are now open to the public with a reliable presentation. This presentation you created is because of your time, dedication, and hard work.

Are you open to the public? Are you under construction, fixing the presentation for public viewing? You are the future no matter if you’re 12, 31, 54, or 80 years old, your presentation is forever. Be the blessing to someone else. Be contagious, with a positive energy, that everyone wants to experience. I know life can throw rocks, but if we smile and love life. Those rocks can soften to a lighter hit. It’s just a cycle of energy that we create and put out. What’s returned is the energy left behind. Influence, promote, and inspire positivity and the attractive energy is an everyday blessing. 🦋

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

Letting Go

A Guide to Accepting the Loss of a Loved One

Letting Go
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Losing somebody you love is difficult and can be difficult to cope with. It can be hard to know how to go on, or even what to say to someone who is grieving. You may feel stuck in a rut, or that you are doing everything wrong. Losing a loved one is a natural part of life, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the world. In this post, I will discuss some of the most important aspects of losing a loved one so that you can proceed with your life. You may feel many different emotions, pain, and shed lots of tears. It’s normal to grieve and heal from a loss of a loved one.

1. What do you need to know about grief?

It is hard to accept the loss of a loved one, especially when you are still grieving. It is important to remember that you are not alone in your grief. There are many other people who are grieving the same loss as you. It is also important to remember that grief is a process and that time heals all wounds. It is essential to have someone to help you through the process. You can find a grief counselor to help you through the grieving process. There are also many books that can help you with the grieving process. There are also many other ways to help yourself through the grieving process. You will only know what feels right and what feels uncomfortable. Do not make quick decisions too soon. Your loved ones belongings are in no rush to be bothered with. Making drastic choices or decisions; should be on hold. To get rid of the belongs or let others make decisions for you can be a heavy mistake later. If you feel uncomfortable assistance is available to help with your grievance process. It takes time to heal the loss of loved ones. Some individuals take months and years to begin to feel acceptable to the loss. It’s okay to take your time to process the grief, cry and to feel multiple emotions. You can not rush grievance, only time heals the loss.

Sometimes how we grieve can and will differ from others. If you’re feeling the need to hear your loved ones voice – listen to a saved voicemail, a video from an event. It’s okay to feel these emotions. Missing a loved one can and will create new feelings. These feelings you may have never experienced before. Grief is painful as hell and does not go away over night. Over time we ” get used to the absence”. But it doesn’t necessarily heal the heart. Keeping the memories, pictures, and remembrance close, can give a peace of mind to your life without them. In some cases, some individuals would rather let go. To some letting go -not talk about, see pictures, or live the memories as they are painful. Everyone is different what one person does may not work for you. It’s clearly normal and perfectly okay. In the process, if you feel more out of character reach out for help. If you have children, siblings, or close relatives in the household, keep in mind they are grieving as well.

2. What can you do to help someone who is grieving?

When someone you love dies, it is natural to feel a sense of loss and sadness. This is the time to hold on to the memories and focus on the new memories that will be made in the future. It is important to talk about the loss and the grief with others, as this can often help. Following are some ways you can help someone who is grieving: – Show up to support the person and be there for them – Offer your time and energy – Offer your space – Offer your support – Offer your love – Offer your comfort – Offer your caring. Most of all listen to their needs and choices. They may struggle to make arrangements or ask for help, give your best self, as a friend, supporter, and assistant. They will thank you in time, don’t make a person who’s grieving feel belittled by not saying “thank you” at every moment. Remember that most people grieving are unable to think clearly or focus at situations. Task can be overwhelming, ask if your help is needed with household task or errands. Yet let one have space as well. Some individuals would rather be alone, and that’s okay as well. Our emotions and behavior can be affected drastically. If you feel someone is out of mind or character, try to help them. Grief can cause dangerous behavior or even turning to substance abuse or alcohol. Be cautious of self destruction, not eating, drugs, alcohol or uncommon behavior. Don’t expect big or quick decisions for your grieving loved one. Let them share how they feel and what is needed to handle situations, as they arise. Never demand a grieving person into uncomfortable situations. In time those unsettling, decisions can be more damaging to their well-being. Be kind, respectful, and don’t take their unmindful words to heart. Grief can cause one to lash out and be unpleasant. Yet not meaning it, personally it’s grief emotions that can be harsh. If the lash out or extreme disrespectful words are consistent then other support may be needed. Trying to please a grieving person can be challenging. It can be best for all to walk away if need be. It’s okay, grieving can be difficult to cope with.

3. What should you do to support someone who is grieving?

When someone you care about is grieving, you want to be there for them. It is difficult to watch someone you care about struggle with the loss of a loved one. It is important to put your own feelings aside and support the person grieving. There are a lot of things you can do to help someone grieving. Some of these things include: – Being there for the person – Listening to the person – Helping the person find resources – Helping the person to find solace – Helping the person find a way to feel good again – Helping the person find a way to heal. – Let the person grieve as what works for them – Offer to bring food or join them for dinner. Sadly during grievance we fail to eat. It’s important to look for unhealthy habit as well. Over eating, alcohol abuse, or even drugs should be avoided. The pain is real and we all want to hide from pain. It hurts like hell but the grieving process will get better in time. We can only do so much for one who is grieving. Remember you are trying to help. Don’t take charge of situations without entitlement. More conflict can occur and situations can be hard to settle. Ask questions to help your loved one understand what is needed from them. Let them address their concerns as they may have a good reason to feel a certain way.. The loss can be devastating for many and in some cases some never get over a loss.

There are various ways to cope with the loss of a loved one. This post also suggests that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and it is important to find a way that works for you. Time heals the loss of a loved one. Don’t feel rushed because there is no time limit. Just know that it may take months or years to heal. In time you can feel normal again, if you feel you can’t manage to cope, speak to a medical advisor. Assistance is there at all times or hours of the day. Take care of yourself, the struggle can impact your well being.

Overall it’s important to understand the grieving process. Grieving is mourning the loss of your loved one, crying, sharing, memories, celebrating the life of your loved one. Releasing the emotional ups and downs of pain and love is healing. Time will get us through, it’s up to us to understand… Nothing about grief can be rushed, healing can only be done with time. Take your time and take care of yourself.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋


When Depression is Crippling: The True Face of Mental Illness

Depression behind the mask
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Mental illness is something that affects us all, whether directly or indirectly. Unfortunately, it often goes unseen and misunderstood. The day has come and gone, you accomplished the same as yesterday – nothing. A numbness we question, Why do I feel this way? What triggered such numbness? When did this happen? Who notices the change in my routine and isolation I have created? How am I going to face the world? The feelings are crippling that effect production, motivation, and our mind. A constant struggling battle faced daily.

Depression is one such condition that can be difficult to comprehend, as it is not always visible on the outside. But for those living with depression, it can be an all-encompassing experience that cripples the ability to live a normal life. This blog post will explore the true face of mental illness when depression is crippling, and how to best support those who suffer from it. Mental illness is an often-misunderstood condition that affects millions of people around the world. It can be difficult to understand what it is like to live with depression, yet it can be all too easy to judge someone who suffers from it. It is important to remember that depression is a very real and very serious condition that can have a crippling effect on those who experience it. This blog post aims to provide an insight into what it is really like when depression is crippling, exploring both the mental, emotional, and physical pain associated with it, as well as the negative stigma that often follows those who struggle with depression. Mental illness is a serious and growing problem in society today. Despite this, many people still have a hard time understanding the reality of what it’s like for those living with mental health conditions. Depression, in particular, is a condition that affects millions of people around the world, yet it is often misunderstood and underappreciated. Here this post aims to discuss the true face of depression and how it can be crippling for those who suffer from it.

The Mental, Emotional, and Physical Pain
Depression is a debilitating illness, one that can leave you feeling overwhelmed and helpless. The mental, emotional, and physical pain it causes can be difficult to put into words. It might look like nothing is wrong on the outside, but on the inside, there’s a world of hurt.
Living with depression can be incredibly challenging. It’s a constant battle between trying to stay positive and feeling like you’re not enough. You can feel like you have no control over your own life and are just a passenger in it. It’s important to remember that you are not alone in this struggle.
The physical toll that depression takes can be overwhelming. You may feel drained and exhausted, even if you haven’t done anything physically strenuous. You might experience headaches, joint pain, stomach issues, or insomnia. The mental strain of depression can cause fatigue and make it hard to focus or concentrate.
On an emotional level, depression can leave you feeling numb or disconnected from the world. You may find yourself struggling to feel joy or pleasure in activities that used to bring you happiness. Depression can also lead to feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and hopelessness.
Depression is not something that should be taken lightly. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, it’s important to seek help. There are many treatments available that can help alleviate symptoms and improve quality of life. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support. No one should have to face depression alone.

Looking Normal
When people think of depression, they usually think of sadness and feelings of hopelessness. But for those of us who have experienced it, we know that there is so much more to it. Depression can be a crippling mental illness, leaving us feeling helpless and unable to cope with our lives.
It is easy to look at someone and not realize how much they are struggling internally. From the outside, they may look like they are doing alright, but inside their mind is a war zone. We all have good days and bad days, but when depression is at its worst it can feel like an eternity of darkness.
It can be difficult to express these emotions, as they can often be misunderstood or misinterpreted by those around us. We may feel ashamed or embarrassed of our struggles, even though they are completely normal. We might be tempted to push people away or distance ourselves in order to avoid dealing with our inner turmoil.
Depression doesn’t always have a physical manifestation and can be difficult to spot in someone else. This can make it hard for others to understand what you are going through. It’s important to remember that you are not alone in your struggle and there is help available. Reaching out and asking for support can be one of the most difficult steps but also one of the most rewarding.
No one should have to face their mental illness alone. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, reach out and talk to a professional or a trusted friend or family member. You deserve to get the help and support you need.

Hell Inside My Mind
Depression is a debilitating condition that can cause immense physical, mental, and emotional pain. Unfortunately, it is often difficult for those suffering from depression to outwardly express the level of anguish they are feeling inside. This leads to many misunderstandings, judgments, and criticism from others.
While depression can take on many forms and severity levels, those who suffer from it will understand that the intensity of their feelings is not something that can be easily explained or understood by outsiders. It can be hard to explain why, even on a seemingly normal day, we can feel so much inner turmoil.
The truth is that living with depression can be like living in Hell – an unrelenting state of despair and helplessness that cannot be broken by outside forces. It’s hard to see a way out of the deep darkness that depression creates, and it’s equally hard for our loved ones to comprehend the immensity of our suffering.
Living with depression requires compassion, understanding, and patience from both ourselves and those around us. We must recognize and honor our own struggles, while also recognizing that we don’t need to suffer in silence.
No matter how deep the darkness may seem, there is always hope for a better tomorrow. Reaching out for help is one of the best steps we can take towards recovery and finding peace within ourselves. No one should have to face this challenge alone. If you know someone who has been diagnosed with depression, reach out and offer them support. Offer to do things together that might lift their spirits. Do what you can to show them that you love them – all of them – even when they’re at their lowest point. Help make sure that they know they’re not alone in their struggle against this illness!

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

Narcissist: Why it’s so Hard to Love and Live with them

Power of Control or Attention

We all know narcissists are very demanding and they can be so arrogant too. Well, what you don’t know is how hard it is to actually love and live with them. Whether you are in a relationship with one or you are dealing with your boss on the job, having to deal with this type of person can be very stressful and sometimes depressing. But do you know why narcissists act this way? Do you know what goes on behind those eyes? The heart of a narcissist is confusing, or is it? You will find the answers here.

* What is a narcissist?
A narcissist is someone who has a sense of entitlement, self-importance, superiority and egotism. Narcissists typically have an inflated ego or sense of self-worth. They do not take responsibility for their actions, but instead blame others or the world at large for everything that happens. They expect special treatment but do not extend the same courtesies to others.

They are preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, beauty or love. They need constant admiration from others in order to feel fulfilled. You may find yourself feeling drained by a narcissist’s excessive need for attention or admiration – which often leads you to being overly accommodating and caring. The problem is that this too can be taken advantage of by the narcissistic person because they want you to be attentive all the time . Even when they are just sitting around on the couch watching TV, and you’re doing housework! A narcissist may demand your affection while you are busy. A narcissist will leave you feeling they are priority over anything and everyone else. Being overwhelmed by constant confusion is just the mind game of a narcissist. The motive is to bring you below their own sorrows to feel better about their poor behavior. They see no wrong in their actions and turn the table to, “she is crazy”. They will always come out looking great at your cost. In time mental, emotional, and physical anguish will make you question your own mental health.

No matter what you do, the narcissist will always come up with a reason to criticize your behavior, like taking care of your own needs. It’s important to understand that this tendency doesn’t necessarily stem from maliciousness or ill intent; it’s more about how much they believe themselves above everyone else. The narcissist lives only for him/herself, usually paying little regard to anyone else in the process. In addition to treating other people badly, a narcissist also acts as if he/she does not exist (e.g., having no feelings). He/she feels entitled to certain privileges or things that most people don’t think he/she deserves such as praise and fame, even if he/she hasn’t done anything remarkable. They act arrogantly and use others to meet their own needs without considering the consequences. No expression of guilt or mercy after insulting or criticizing others is noticed. Narcissists hide behind a fake impersonation, cheating, lying, deceit, and manipulation. Narcissistic personality disorder is one of the 10 types of personality disorders recognized by medical professionals.

* How does one become a narcissist?
Most people become narcissists because they were praised excessively as children. As they grow up, they come to believe that they are superior to others and deserve special treatment. Narcissists also often have a sense of entitlement, which means they feel like the world owes them something. They may try to take advantage of other people or act in ways that don’t consider other people’s feelings. For example, a narcissist will create confrontation or drama to dominate their needs. If you are planning to spend time with family or friends, a narcissist will crash the day, your emotions, and act as nothing happend. A bogus demand that’s nonsense, to prove power and control to inflict guilt on you. As the narcissist was not included in your plans. Everyone needs interactions with others for the well-being of mental and physical health. Narcissists will ruin your mood to make you feel some kind of a way. A way that leaves you questioning “why?” and “what” just happend. The end result, overtime happiness is out of sight. A slow distance with friends and family takes place to avoid arguments or punishment. A narcissist will punish you for having fun, having friends, – the quality of “yourself” will begin to crumble. One day you just look in the mirror, and your not the same person you once were.

At this point, time has passed, your emotions and thoughts have altered. Those “in love” strings have thinned out. Your feelings have changed towards the narcissist. The positive energy from the relation has gotten bitter. Excuses no longer has meaning, as truth is told. A broken down puppet who has been reprogrammed by the hands of a master. “gHoSteD” with ripple effects of confused emotions, mental anguish, and physical pain. The “gHoSteD” trauma is crippling when you realize somethings not right. A blind side effect of love – cockhold syndrome. Unaware of the attachment formed by pure hell. Degrading, mental, physical, and emotional abuse has become routine. A victim of abuse, empowered by control, neediness, and mental illness, -masterminded manipulation, guilt, and deceit. Conditioned that the abuse from a narcissist is not his/her fault. To avoid further conflict, a narcissist will play victim and reap the pleasure of another win.

Is there hope?
Yes, there is hope. If you’re reading this, then you maybe in a relationship with a Narcissist. And if that’s the case, I’m sorry. But don’t give up hope! You can still find happiness – just not with that person. Your happiness will come from within yourself. The most important thing for you to do right now is take care of your needs and self-care before trying to take care of others or their needs. The damage inflicted did not happen overnight. The love you once felt is love you once knew. Those feelings have been reconstructed to accommodate the narcissist. Don’t beat yourself up for the behavior you tolerated from the narcissist. If something feels wrong, trust your intuition and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Take inventory of what makes YOU happy (what brings joy into YOUR life) and then make decisions based on those things going forward.
Finally, know that this about “YOU”. You are capable, you are strong, you are your own defence – An army of one. Today is the day to be happy again. Have hope in your being, that life is so much more. The hurt will pass, but your well-being is priority.

* The level of involvement in the relationship The involvement depends on the mindset at the moment. The personality challenges can be hectic. At one moment the neediness can be overwhelming as you are demanded at all times.. You become the control operation as a puppet. A master who is degrading the source of everything – You. Everything is done by demand and control. The level is high demand for attention and admiration for your hard work. The credit and appreciation is to their need for appraisal at all cost. Because of you, your narcissist reaps all appraisal and benefits of your accomplishments. You are not weak. You are tired but look at all you been through. Your strength pushed you harder than you ever imagined. Now it’s time to rest. Strengthen your mind and push through the time to let go. You gave all and got nothing more than being tired of no help. When you were told you “couldn’t” you accomplished “I conquered”. The involvement from the narcissist was to push you to your limits. The hell of “couldn’t” proved your worth. Be proud for your ability as a person, an army of one, and be your own #1 fan. Nothing is can stop 🛑 – “YOU”. Never under estimate the power of your mind.

Why do narcissists behave this way? Control is the motive, by the lack of self-confidence. The insults get deeper in time, with emotional, mental, and physical abuse. One would believe it gets better, truth is, it gets worse. The more you resist or challenge a narcissist… It fuels the demand ego for control. The right now moment which only pushes button on the victim. Fueled by fear of you leaving, scared of being alone, and lack of connection to communicate. Narcissist lack empathy, leaving them confused about right or wrong behavior. Being acceptable to wrong intention, judgemental responses, react with poor behavior, and by remorse or guilt. Inflicted behavior to control another person is damaging and unacceptable. A narcissist lack the ability to connect emotional and physical pain – leaving others confused when feelings are involved

* Dealing with a narcissist. At first you might be smitten by a narcissist charm, good looks, and inviting false character. When you think it’s to good to be true, believe it, it’s true. Walk real fast or run when this behavior is noticed. It can be hard to not lash out in anger towards a narcissist. This is just a game to push your buttons. Silence and kindness will confuse a narcissist, who seeks a reaction to their mind games. Beating a narcissist at their own games, this is in a safe way. Fighting back, arguing, threatening, or criticizing a narcissist will only cause more problem. It does not get better. Overtime once you are secure, plan to leave. Don’t look back, yes it will hurt like hell. That hurt will soon be a faded memory, that gave you strength. As you conquer and overcome in the days ahead. Remember a narcissist, taught you how to be hard, find your inner strength, and most of all overcome what you thought was impossible. Tomorrow is a new day being an army of one. And soon after, the days after tomorrow. When your least expected, Hope will show up unexpectedly. An your army of one becomes two. That’s when teamwork becomes reality of life.

We can all say “I would not”, “there is no way”, and we end up with that person. Who is a narcissist. Those narcissist change who we are and who we become. But in time we learn bout our mental, physical, and emotional strength that we never knew. Our minds are challenged by Narcissistic ways that we learn to overcome. It’s not okay to control or demand another person’s attention. Tomorrow is a new day, you can over come and enjoy life once again, it’s up too you.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋

The Art of Gathering

Times and Gathering

Oh, how the times of gatherings have lost the shine. Interactions and communication are fundamental values to our well-being. The laughter, tears, sorrows, and happiness that others give us in this lifetime. Simple moments that fill our lives with a sense of purpose. Those moments that take place when we gather. During holidays, birthdays, important milestones in our lives. Why gatherings are important and why gatherings help maintain mental health. If you’re wondering where people are gathered today – well the importance of the “Art of Gatherings” is for you.

* Gatherings I can remember as a child family gatherings included large groups of people. Family that included long friends of the family and many more. Gatherings of lots of drinking, grilling out, kids running in the yard, playing horseshoes, volleyball, badminton, belly hurting laughter, and just good times. Those memories create my foundation to my own character. We learn from our childhood how we treat and respect others. The Art of Gatherings are important elements that give opportunity for memories. As a child I had uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins, nephews, nieces that I grew up with. Those are family members that help shape who I am and have become.

* Time Changes with Age Time changes those gatherings overtime. The gatherings get smaller as loved ones age and leave this earth. We don’t notice until those gatherings are memories of those that once attended aren’t there. An empty chair at the dinner table. Those faces are with their children and grandchildren. Or maybe they have passed on. Our group has branched off to subdivide into other group gatherings. It’s not personal or your fault, life is what happened. Do they get busy with life and fail to attend gatherings? Or do they have larger functions and gatherings elsewhere? Do people still gather? Has the loss of loved ones put a toll on your Art of Gatherings?


* Picture of Who? The old black and dark colored photos in old albums your parents or grandparents kept. Albums that pictures are falling out of. Old albums that have such high value. One thing we can’t ever replace -photos. If found please keep and protect. Who has photo albums in 2022? Who has a physical camera that takes photos? Has gatherings changed the way we create photo albums? Photo albums are antique, physical pictures are precious diamonds. Who looks at old faded books or albums of photos, these days? Honestly, I do. Those photos are one of two things that live on after we expire. Photos are forever if properly stored and valued. (The other thing that continues after we expire is your signature).

Photo albums for 2022 are cell phones. Everyone has one and those photos should be available to show off daily. But do you glance at those photos after they are saved to your phone? Friends those phones will not hold the value to a photo album. Most of us can say, dang I had 1200 photos on my old phone. Impressive, right? Then the phone broke and those photos are gone. There is no replacement for those moments. That image is stored in memory of our mind. Sadly, we can describe a perfect moment, but our minds can’t print that picture in time.

The Art of Gatherings have a purpose for memories and photos. Take time to use a camera and create a family photo album. An album you created today, is worth a million words to those who inherit the photo album. Do yourself a favor if anything else. Take time to teach your children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, neighboring children – The Art of Gatherings. Educate our future generation the value of appreciation of gatherings memories, and photo albums. The creation of a scrapbook or a family photo album teaches the value and appreciation to life. Mentally, emotionally, and physically form an attachment to memories and gatherings. The lost art of love can be reborn. Love is created by us who spread the word. Don’t continue to let technology form our future children’s beliefs. Gatherings is in person with photos to place in a photo album. Not the space and time spent on the web/internet that fills illusions of life.

In the final thoughts, The Art of Gatherings, help us deal with challenges. Challenges offer the opportunity to be “live in person”. Where feelings are felt, the good, bad, ugly raw emotions that create us. Feelings that teach us sadness, respect, happiness, love, anger, pain, and the value of an Art of Gatherings. Today is an opportunity to teach a lost value, that can live on longer after you expire. Are you teaching today? Tomorrow? Or sometime soon? I know you have amazing teaching skills. You lived life in the Art of Gatherings. You are a piece of Art that is forever through photos and your signature. Share your teaching skills, everyone’s teachable.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋