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Letting Go

A Guide to Accepting the Loss of a Loved One

Letting Go
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Losing somebody you love is difficult and can be difficult to cope with. It can be hard to know how to go on, or even what to say to someone who is grieving. You may feel stuck in a rut, or that you are doing everything wrong. Losing a loved one is a natural part of life, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the world. In this post, I will discuss some of the most important aspects of losing a loved one so that you can proceed with your life. You may feel many different emotions, pain, and shed lots of tears. It’s normal to grieve and heal from a loss of a loved one.

1. What do you need to know about grief?

It is hard to accept the loss of a loved one, especially when you are still grieving. It is important to remember that you are not alone in your grief. There are many other people who are grieving the same loss as you. It is also important to remember that grief is a process and that time heals all wounds. It is essential to have someone to help you through the process. You can find a grief counselor to help you through the grieving process. There are also many books that can help you with the grieving process. There are also many other ways to help yourself through the grieving process. You will only know what feels right and what feels uncomfortable. Do not make quick decisions too soon. Your loved ones belongings are in no rush to be bothered with. Making drastic choices or decisions; should be on hold. To get rid of the belongs or let others make decisions for you can be a heavy mistake later. If you feel uncomfortable assistance is available to help with your grievance process. It takes time to heal the loss of loved ones. Some individuals take months and years to begin to feel acceptable to the loss. It’s okay to take your time to process the grief, cry and to feel multiple emotions. You can not rush grievance, only time heals the loss.

Sometimes how we grieve can and will differ from others. If you’re feeling the need to hear your loved ones voice – listen to a saved voicemail, a video from an event. It’s okay to feel these emotions. Missing a loved one can and will create new feelings. These feelings you may have never experienced before. Grief is painful as hell and does not go away over night. Over time we ” get used to the absence”. But it doesn’t necessarily heal the heart. Keeping the memories, pictures, and remembrance close, can give a peace of mind to your life without them. In some cases, some individuals would rather let go. To some letting go -not talk about, see pictures, or live the memories as they are painful. Everyone is different what one person does may not work for you. It’s clearly normal and perfectly okay. In the process, if you feel more out of character reach out for help. If you have children, siblings, or close relatives in the household, keep in mind they are grieving as well.

2. What can you do to help someone who is grieving?

When someone you love dies, it is natural to feel a sense of loss and sadness. This is the time to hold on to the memories and focus on the new memories that will be made in the future. It is important to talk about the loss and the grief with others, as this can often help. Following are some ways you can help someone who is grieving: – Show up to support the person and be there for them – Offer your time and energy – Offer your space – Offer your support – Offer your love – Offer your comfort – Offer your caring. Most of all listen to their needs and choices. They may struggle to make arrangements or ask for help, give your best self, as a friend, supporter, and assistant. They will thank you in time, don’t make a person who’s grieving feel belittled by not saying “thank you” at every moment. Remember that most people grieving are unable to think clearly or focus at situations. Task can be overwhelming, ask if your help is needed with household task or errands. Yet let one have space as well. Some individuals would rather be alone, and that’s okay as well. Our emotions and behavior can be affected drastically. If you feel someone is out of mind or character, try to help them. Grief can cause dangerous behavior or even turning to substance abuse or alcohol. Be cautious of self destruction, not eating, drugs, alcohol or uncommon behavior. Don’t expect big or quick decisions for your grieving loved one. Let them share how they feel and what is needed to handle situations, as they arise. Never demand a grieving person into uncomfortable situations. In time those unsettling, decisions can be more damaging to their well-being. Be kind, respectful, and don’t take their unmindful words to heart. Grief can cause one to lash out and be unpleasant. Yet not meaning it, personally it’s grief emotions that can be harsh. If the lash out or extreme disrespectful words are consistent then other support may be needed. Trying to please a grieving person can be challenging. It can be best for all to walk away if need be. It’s okay, grieving can be difficult to cope with.

3. What should you do to support someone who is grieving?

When someone you care about is grieving, you want to be there for them. It is difficult to watch someone you care about struggle with the loss of a loved one. It is important to put your own feelings aside and support the person grieving. There are a lot of things you can do to help someone grieving. Some of these things include: – Being there for the person – Listening to the person – Helping the person find resources – Helping the person to find solace – Helping the person find a way to feel good again – Helping the person find a way to heal. – Let the person grieve as what works for them – Offer to bring food or join them for dinner. Sadly during grievance we fail to eat. It’s important to look for unhealthy habit as well. Over eating, alcohol abuse, or even drugs should be avoided. The pain is real and we all want to hide from pain. It hurts like hell but the grieving process will get better in time. We can only do so much for one who is grieving. Remember you are trying to help. Don’t take charge of situations without entitlement. More conflict can occur and situations can be hard to settle. Ask questions to help your loved one understand what is needed from them. Let them address their concerns as they may have a good reason to feel a certain way.. The loss can be devastating for many and in some cases some never get over a loss.

There are various ways to cope with the loss of a loved one. This post also suggests that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, and it is important to find a way that works for you. Time heals the loss of a loved one. Don’t feel rushed because there is no time limit. Just know that it may take months or years to heal. In time you can feel normal again, if you feel you can’t manage to cope, speak to a medical advisor. Assistance is there at all times or hours of the day. Take care of yourself, the struggle can impact your well being.

Overall it’s important to understand the grieving process. Grieving is mourning the loss of your loved one, crying, sharing, memories, celebrating the life of your loved one. Releasing the emotional ups and downs of pain and love is healing. Time will get us through, it’s up to us to understand… Nothing about grief can be rushed, healing can only be done with time. Take your time and take care of yourself.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋


Can’t Read Emotions? You Might Have Alexithymia

Emotions - Unable to Connect
Emotions, separation in connecting

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Sometimes we may connect with those we never imagined. In return is a remarkable experience at times. We may even have a hard time relating or interacting with others.. A person with alexithymia may have trouble identifying their emotions and communicating those feelings to other people. They might not even be able to imagine what other people are feeling or thinking, and this can make it difficult to socialize with others and engage in close relationships. However, the symptoms of alexithymia are not part of any specific mental illness; rather, it’s an emotional deficiency that can be treated through therapy, training and self-awareness.

What is alexithymia?
Alexithymia is thought to affect about 10% of the population. Although the cause of this condition is unknown, it has been linked to genetic predisposition and environmental factors. For example, people who were raised in an environment where their feelings were not acknowledged or validated may develop alexithymia.
People with alexithymia may find it difficult to identify and name their own feelings. They may also have difficulty interpreting the emotions of others. This can lead to misunderstandings, communication difficulties, and problems forming relationships.
When identifying alexithymia, it is important to note that everyone experiences emotions differently. Just because someone has difficulty understanding their own or others’ emotions does not necessarily mean they have alexithymia. If you are concerned that you or someone you know may have alexithymia, it is best to speak to a mental health professional for an assessment.

Causes of alexithymia
Alexithymia can be caused by a number of factors, including genetics, environmental factors, and even physical trauma. It has been linked to various psychological disorders, such as anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and schizophrenia.
Research has suggested that alexithymia may be related to an inability to recognize or process emotions accurately. This could be due to a disruption in the neural pathways between the amygdala (the area of the brain responsible for emotions) and other areas responsible for language, cognition, and social behavior.
Environmental factors, such as trauma or abuse, can also contribute to alexithymia. Those who have experienced severe emotional trauma may develop difficulty identifying and expressing their emotions, leading to alexithymia.
It is important to note that not everyone who experiences trauma or has a mental health disorder will develop alexithymia. However, it is important to be aware of the potential signs and symptoms, so that those who are affected can get the help they need.

  • *Symptoms of Alexithymia
    Alexithymia is a condition that affects how a person processes and expresses emotions. It can make it difficult for someone to identify and express their own emotions, and can also impair the ability to recognize and respond to others’ emotions.
    While it is not a mental health disorder, people with alexithymia may have problems maintaining relationships and taking part in social situations. Knowing the signs of this condition can help those affected recognize what they are experiencing, so that they can seek the help they need.
    Signs of alexithymia include difficulty identifying one’s own feelings, difficulty describing feelings to others, difficulties understanding feelings in other people, an inability to use emotions to think, relying on physical cues to express feelings, being easily overwhelmed by emotions, and/or having no interest in discussing emotions. People with alexithymia may also display signs of anxiety or depression, have difficulty sleeping, or exhibit physical symptoms such as chronic pain.
    If you or someone you know is displaying signs of alexithymia, it is important to reach out for professional help. Therapists can help those affected identify and express their emotions, learn how to recognize others’ emotions, and develop better relationships. Additionally, medications may be prescribed if necessary.
    By understanding the symptoms of alexithymia, you can get the help you need to lead a healthier life.

Treatments for alexithymia
Alexithymia is a difficult condition to manage, as it can cause people to be unable to express and identify their own emotions. While there is no specific treatment for alexithymia, there are strategies that can help improve emotional awareness and communication skills.
The first step in managing alexithymia is to seek professional help. A mental health professional can help you identify the underlying issues that may be contributing to the difficulty in expressing your emotions. They can also provide insight into strategies to help you better understand and communicate your emotions.
It is also important to learn about how to recognize and respond to your emotions. Taking part in activities such as mindfulness and meditation can be beneficial in increasing awareness of emotions and learning how to control them. This can be especially helpful for people with alexithymia, as they often struggle with recognizing and expressing their feelings.
In addition, engaging in creative activities, such as drawing or writing, can also be beneficial in helping to identify emotions and process them. It can also help build communication skills, which can be beneficial when speaking with a mental health professional or loved ones.
Finally, building meaningful relationships with family and friends can also be helpful in managing alexithymia. Connecting with others who understand your condition can help you feel less isolated and provide an outlet for expressing your emotions. These relationships can also provide the support and encouragement needed for trying new strategies for managing alexithymia.
Overall, while there is no one-size-fits-all approach to managing alexithymia, these strategies can be beneficial in helping people gain a better understanding of their emotions and improve their ability to communicate them. If you think you may have alexithymia, it is important to speak with a mental health professional so they can work with you to develop a plan that works best for you.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋