When you see your behavior as a reaction to other people’s actions, it can help you handle the situation differently. This is because it shifts your focus away from trying to control their behavior, which you have no power over. Instead, take time to think about what they might be doing with their behavior and what this means for you.
It’s important to remember that even though we may not always have control over another person’s actions, we do always have control over our own responses and behaviors. If someone else makes a decision that affects us negatively (for example by leaving us without adequate notice), then we need to let go of any expectations that they should behave differently in the future so that we don’t continue feeling upset about it or blaming them for how we feel now or in the future.
The next area of human behavior we examine is emotions. Emotions are the result of our thinking and experiences, but they can also be incredibly helpful in guiding us to make decisions that benefit us or others.
Emotions are a part of human behavior and can be positive or negative. They can help us make better decisions by helping us to see things from a different perspective and allow ourselves room for change as well as growth.
Thoughts, beliefs and assumptions
Your thoughts, beliefs and assumptions are the foundation for your behavior. You will want to be able to recognize when they are not helpful and change them so that you can be more effective in managing your behavior.
Some examples of a thought: “I’m going to lose my job.”
A belief: “If I get fired again it’s because I’m not good enough.”
An assumption: If I do not have a job then my family will suffer financially.
When we say something like “I am going to lose my job” we make an assumption based on what we think someone else might say if they were aware of our thoughts. We create this story about ourselves that often makes us feel powerless and out of control over the situation – which can lead us into feelings such as frustration or anger towards others (i.e., blaming).
Triggers behind your actions
Triggers are the reason behind your actions. They can be positive or negative.
The positive triggers are what pushes you to do things, such as when a friend asks you to go out to eat and you feel excited about it. The negative triggers are what makes you want to avoid doing things, such as when someone says they don’t want to hang out with you and it makes you feel sad or angry.
When identifying your triggers, ask yourself: “What led me here?” or “What was going through my mind at that time?” This will help determine what is causing these feelings so they can then be changed!
How can I change my trigger? If something happens that causes negative emotions in me (like feeling sad), maybe try talking about it with someone I trust instead of avoiding them like I usually do! That way we both get some support from the other person instead of just one person feeling bad about themselves because their plans have been cancelled due to their own behavior patterns!”
Commitment is the spark that lights the fire of change. The more a person is committed to an outcome, the more likely he or she will achieve it. If you want to make significant changes in your life, you need to make a significant commitment along with it.
You can’t expect one small leap forward after another to have any lasting impact on your life; however, if you are going big or going home (or both), these small leaps will add up over time and transform into something much bigger than they seem at first glance.
This applies not only to behavioral changes but also new habits as well—if you want your new habit of flossing every night at bedtime become ingrained in your routine (and ultimately part of who you are), then it’s time for some serious commitment action!
Commitments come in all sizes: some are smaller commitments like “I’m going go running tomorrow morning,” while others are larger commitments such as “I will lose 20 pounds by my 30th birthday.”
To change your behavior you must first understand it better.
The first step to changing your behavior is to understand it better. You must understand that behavior is a response to a trigger. It is not something that happens randomly or without reason, but rather it occurs because of some sort of stimulus in your environment or life. The second thing you must know before changing your behavior is that all positive changes start with motivation and commitment. If you are not willing to commit yourself fully and completely then nothing will ever change in any way shape or form!
Behavior and action, have thought us the triggers are caused by emotions, actions, and behavior. To make change its important to understand the reason of behavior. The more we understand the cause of behavior, known as the triggers, we are able to respond differently. Emotions can result to behaviors to others actions. Knowing how to stop poor behavior will reduce emotional response. Be committed to understanding triggers, so you can manage behavior and actions. Allowing the natural abilities to help reduce unpredictable actions..
Until our minds meet again. Be safe out there, blessings and much love. Remember, Everyday Mind’s Matter 🦋
Life is hard enough without spending your time trying to figure out why you’re the way you are. Unfortunately, sometimes the only way to understand yourself better is to really dig in and examine how you think, how you feel, and how you interact with other people. This can be difficult, but it’s worth the effort if you want to live a more fulfilling life! Here are some ways that you can better understand yourself and find more happiness in your day-to-day life.
What is Self Awareness? Self-awareness is also referred to as self-reflection. Self-awareness is a form of introspection, or looking within yourself and understanding what makes you who you are as an individual. Understanding who you are enables you to understand how your actions affect others and how others’ actions affect you. It also allows us to understand our values, beliefs, strengths, weaknesses and other things that make up our personality. Self-awareness takes time and work, but with consistent practice it will become easier over time.
Ask yourself What Would Others Think? Although you may be aware of your strengths and weaknesses, it can be difficult to have an unbiased opinion on how you are doing. It’s important that you see yourself from an outside perspective in order to get a good idea of how others see you. Take some time with a friend or family member that knows you well and ask for feedback. If possible, offer them specific examples about what traits about yourself that they should look for when evaluating your performance.
How Can I Feel Loved and Appreciated? One way to improve your self-esteem is by looking at how you can feel loved and appreciated. If you’re having trouble feeling good about yourself, it’s easy to get caught up in worrying about what other people think of you. Instead, it’s important that you take care of yourself first and foremost. Find ways that you can feel nurtured and supported so that your self-confidence increases. This will make it easier for other people to like you, too!
Can I Break Any Bad Habits? One of our personal goals is usually to improve ourselves, but if you’re like many of us, then you probably have a few bad habits that stand in your way. Whether it’s overeating or being late for work, it can be difficult to change longstanding behaviors. Luckily, there are several ways you can kick any bad habit—no matter how long you’ve had it. Keep reading for tips and techniques on how to fix negative behavior once and for all.
What Are My Strengths? Make a list of your strengths. They can be characteristics or skills—basically anything that you do well. Once you’ve listed them, ask yourself what your strengths mean for your career and life in general. You may find that one strength carries over into multiple aspects of your life, or you may discover a few new directions in which to take things. Either way, take some time to make sure that you’re playing up all of your strengths as much as possible.
What Do I Do Well? If you’re going to be your own self-evaluator, it helps if you have a firm grasp on what you do well. Spend some time thinking about your best traits and natural gifts—things that make it clear why certain people like and trust you (and why employers should, too). On another piece of paper, write down things that could get in your way professionally: behaviors or personality quirks that might cause someone to question whether or not they want to hire you.
Am I Really Happy Right Now? ppl are often surprised when they discover that their happiness is not what they thought it was. For example, you might think you’re happy because you have a new car or a promotion at work, but in reality, you may be unhappy because your marriage is falling apart or your kids are driving you crazy. To get a better idea of what true happiness looks like for you, ask yourself these questions: What are my top three sources of happiness? What am I doing that contributes to my overall happiness?
Who Is In My Corner? Getting in touch with your deepest, truest self can be difficult. Often we’re told that we need others—our families, friends, or significant others—to understand who we are. But ultimately, it’s not those people who know us best; it’s us. Whether you want to better understand yourself or someone else, these tips will help you get there.i
Am I At Peace With The Past? Most of us struggle with our past from time to time, wondering if we could have done things differently or if we missed out on some important moments in life. If you’re not at peace with your past, you can learn how to move forward by learning how people who are at peace with their pasts handle similar situations.
Which Relationships Are Positive Ones For Me? The number of relationships in your life can impact your mental health—particularly if they’re unhealthy. It’s important to look at each relationship you have and decide whether it’s making you happier or healthier. If not, then you need to think about how that relationship makes you feel, and how it might be impacting your life negatively. Read more about it here…
At the end of each day, we are who we acknowledge to be. It takes time to understand the difference in our true self. Continue to take responsibility for your actions and behavior. Self-evaluate the things your good at and improve your flaws. We all struggle on a regular day to day basis. Helping yourself is a reward of its own. Everyday is a new day to try again or continue to learn “you”. Take time to be your best self by understanding your feelings, thought, and well-being.
Until our minds meet again. Be safe out there, blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Mind’s Matter 💗
Meet the Flintstone’s, a time in history when life was priceless. I am honored to be a Flintstone. Dad worked, mom took care of the household. A rotary phone, shared with everyone in the house.. There was no secrets, ear hustling- no one listened to conversations. We ran back outside to play if someone was on the phone. If you made a phone call- either no one was home or the line was busy. If it were important we went to their house. Going through those big phone books, searching names that offered endless laughter. Prank calls, the laughter of being a silly kid. No being able to trace the call had it’s purpose- at the moment. Following the cord or picking up the other phone- an awkward silence at times.
Gas stations and some grocery stores were closed on Sunday’s. A day when families enjoyed drives /rides, visiting friends or family out of town. Families had in person quality time. Sitting in the living room or outside conversation about everything. Listening to older relatives childhood stories, had offered knowledge and laughter. If we wanted to know something, hands on was taught through physical labor. Manual labor had no limit or boundaries. Chores had appreciation, respect, love, and support behind it.
Communication has no barriers. Calling relatives were every week on certain days. Routine and frequently kept for years. Staying in touch was priority for family and friends for connect was important. Sleepover with friends- no problem our parents met in person. Being dropped off and picked up- only source of GPS. Brown bag or a lunchbox with thermos- total excitement for a school field trip. Your lunch ticket- your ability to prove responsibility. Relationships with others in school, were influences to how we interact and communicate. These skills from peers and teacher were priority stepping stones; needed, later in life.
Riding bikes, catching frogs, gardening, barefoot and bee strings
Developmental skills learnt at childhood, are triggers, and reinforces needed to become an adult. Every experience as a child, reflect coping abilities, and knowledge of life. Not everyone has the same knowledge to cope with anger, loss, or pain. Catching frogs, riding bikes, or barefoot getting stung by a bee, are testing abilities of character. Reaction to a bee sting is tolerance and strength. Those little pest can hurt, but mentally can prove one’s tolerance to pain. Balance is technique used to establish coordination to ride a bike. These are just simple task performed and applied to developmental growth. Being Open-Minded is fundamentals applied to learning practices. Education and resources utilized, enhance experiences that offer personal growth and new opportunities.
Flintstones main source for building; manual labor- hands on and experience. Most reasonable creative abilities, were by imagination and mental technique. How to make the best from supplies available. Using your feet sourced transportation. Transportation, in which, had no complaints. Toughness of feet provided movement. No battery, radio, or rear view mirrors were known of.. Yet survival to maintain – those did just fine. As Flintstones life was Yabba- Dabba, dooo… Appreciation and respect was in every home. Conflict was rare, as basic supplies were the essentials to live. As the world began to populate, intelligence developed. From dinosaur speed and peace of mind, happiness, and comfortable. Humans evolved to speed and advancement. We become greedy wanting more.. more of everything, our need grew and grew…. And soon out of the sky!!!
Meet The Jetson’s – WIFI Speed
The little man was bought out, cost of living went up. A world of speed, greed, and the mighty dollar took control. Both parents had to work, and children had sitters. Gardens had no purpose, as demand grew artificial intelligence took charge. Boxed and canned food demand created processing factories. Speed had generated intelligence to control the world. Advanced technology, took the world and shook the little man. The hand made of manual labor lost its shine, when the ole’ mighty dollar came alive.
A separation in class divided the rich and poor. Children picked at or criticized other kids by financial status. A change took over so fast in the late 1990’s rotary phones became cordless, you could now leave messages on an answering machine. A monitor and keyboard – a computer, wow how expensive they were. Advancement of intelligence, at high demand in the world.
A simple life in history, as chaos, filled conflict, stress, and cable television- opened the news. News around the world, A new age, violence, robbery, crime of multiple levels, influence that created problems. Negative news; ripped and stole positive energy of our youth, neighbors, family, and friends. A moment in time, the need for speed influenced, greed. Greed to out do, be better, make more money, and advance with speed a Jetson. Friends fell out, family turned on one another. The daily news seemed to open negative influences into homes. Created challenging motives to empower money and self imagine. We have created a monster that continues to grow. Rapid speed..
And an extremely powerful connection happened. An artificial intelligence. The stepping stones, to modern light, to what we live today. Evil technology speed that controls our lives. Intelligence that destroyed family, friends, jobs, children’s developmental values. Communication is texting, social media vs. talking in person. Discipline is not an option, because knowing your child or friend is interaction. Interaction and productive communication no longer exist. Relationships have went to shit. Children and grandchildren depend on parents & grandparents, now days. Those important connections are broken by technology. No time fot interaction or personal involvement.
Children don’t know the struggles of looking up “capsule” in a dictionary or “mars” in an encyclopedia. We helped each other if we didn’t know or understand something. Parents have used technology as sitters. Truth is technology has raised our children. Friends are online- no longer outside to interact or play… Bullying is the new cyber playground. Instead of helping each other – to hurt someone or belittle is the new trend. Structured families are rare. * If you remember; getting up to change the cable channel, (having to slide the ticker to a channel), on a floor model tv. Most of all; we gathered in the living room to watch a movie, had popcorn, or watch weekly shows together. – continuing these practice- you are parents of 1970’s to 1980’s Flintstone’s. Big Yabba- Dabba Do, well accomplished.**
In history, tools needed in today’s world, no longer exist. Resources offered are fading away. As new advancements awaken, the manual labor is pushed out. The final destination has arrived; Technology.
Time Evolved Chaos Happened “” NO“” Longer Offer Generation Youth
This my friends, new generations have no youth development morals or survival skills. Today the technology advancement– destroyed manual labor and hands on skills and work ethic. Manual labor– the mind advanced artificial intelligence, a human robot. The ability preformed manual labor into a operation through Proof that Everyday Mind’s Matter. Technology has ruined relationships, destroyed morals, and formed addictions….
Bitter truth, we face is the history can not erased or re-written. What we created is artificial intelligence to comfort and addiction. Poisonous entertainment coverage from phone to phone. Education has lost the core of intelligence. An escape and easy way to answers, solution, and divorce. We can’t visit Aunt Sally 2 miles away. But you better believe, face-time and snap chat sent with emojis, your busy will be sent. Excuses to visit in person, we are so busy doing social media shit, that social distancing is history. Social distancing had played into our busy lives, it was a “thing”; hideous barriers set to avoid live connections. Addictions of technology has mental health at a record high level.
Technology has raised our children. Children don’t know the meaning of affection and love. Robbed by technology we don’t even realize… Yes, I say this with heartfelt pain. Our level of acceptance, to love has lesser value. Our closeness to others are at a social stand still.
Take a minute and take this in…. Have you attended any funerals in the past couple years? Has the world lost emotions? Sentimental touch? Empathy or compassion? Tears must be left at the door or of history. Do we not see what our time has created? Are relationship at such social distancing; that, pain has no time or place for tears? Have relationships changed before our eyes, that it’s normal to no longer express emotions? Hell no, we are conditioned with stimulus. And without a deep connection, there are no emotion connection to tears. My friends, take a deep breath. Life is a precious gift. Time can not be place on pause to rewind.. When your final days approach- will your legacy be written in Flintstone’s – Stone Age? Or will your legacy Fly with the Jetsons – lost in speed? Or lastly- will the addiction of technology; form the trace of your legacy? Are you a man who covered social media with endless post on women’s profiles? A man who wanted to experience life to ultimate highs. Blocking emotions and attachments to others, selfish pleasure– to satisfy your desire and needs? Or a women who preyed on dating sites, — aging with time to find a sugar daddy vs. real love? Technology has deleted our connection to empathy, compassion, and our real character. Our needs, desire, and greed has created addiction within our minds.
Our relationships are not built on love. Love has settled to a comfort zone, that we believe is okay — overtime.. Lust and temptations have no boundaries. After all there’s no emotional ties to comfort. Our excuse is we’re busy. We don’t have time. Right, we don’t take time to understand ourselves. Our happenings, our worlds have been rocked by divorce, deceit, lies, broken homes, and overtime– we accept– nothing. We just find a replacement. Our mind and body are off balance. Acting in impulse, no one wants to feel pain. So we condition the pain, — a false emotion to hide behind. To communicate with our partners, in person has faded. Why? In our world today– an ability to perform a live connection– just conflicts creating a barrier. Corrupted our minds to shut off– a secret auto pilot that gets us by. In no time, social distancing has expanded in outside relationships. Tucked in our own shell of excuse or existence. Conditioned to no longer deal with feelings, emotions, or cope with uncomfortable situations. Why not convert to being open-minded? Change your relationship status to live connection and welcome conversation. Bring back history, close temptation; reconnect with Dial-Up. You might find something meaningful; you never experienced. Maybe take a step behind- – create the Flintstones life. Jetsons or technology life has depleted manual labor. But you can still grow a garden, limit texting and open dinner time as a family. Everyone sit at the table no cell phones, talk about your day. Enjoy the interaction to express your character. Its great to be a Flintstones, no stress, no chaos, no distractions. Live connection, that’s says ” I am right, here”! A feeling that you can’t deny– a connection heart to heart.
Until our minds meet again, Be safe out there, much love and blessings.. Remember Everyday Minds Matter! 😘😇
Everyday Minds Matter was envisioned from thoughts or brain storming written regularly. Those writings from a seven year old. The brown hair, brown eyed girl, designed a dream; written with crayon and marker – Everyday Minds Matter. The final dream; folded up, sealed with a heart, that shined in pink nail polish. Protected within a jewelry box that latched without a lock. Security was tight, upon opening the box; music played as the ballorina circled in dance formation. Everyday Mind’s Matter protected in deep secret held for 34 years. A secret only known by the designer, treasured for many years.
A treasured dream to helping others overcome mental challenges and obstacles faced daily. Offering resources, techniques, and personal connections that support each individual needs.
Everyday Minds Matter goal is to welcome everyone regardless of your challenges. As our own challenges differ not every one shares the same results. What helped me work towards a happy space isn’t always best for another. It’s okay to not be okay. Sometimes trial and error is experienced before the proper treatment is found.
Sharing your personal story, life events, and experience can be anothers blessing. To recognize positive and negative influencers can influence proper changes to avoid triggers. Educate and the practice of mind exercises can improve mental health habits.
5 Key Benefits of Everyday Mind’s Matter
1-*• Importance of Childhood Mental Development
Childhood mental health development are fundamental values that influence character and behavior, into adulthood. Just as we have always been told, “what you do today, determines your tomorrow”. Mental health has the same rules. All the environmental influences positive or negative, create behavioral response. The main areas are physical (motor), language, communication, cognitive, and social/emotional. The action that creates response can only be learnt overtime. To improve mental health; practice mind exercises applied to daily routine, like reading, writing, or audio, interaction boost cognitive development. Without fostering important skills at an early age, a child could show signs of mental health issues.
2-*• Mental Health Stages
Mental health stages are presented in stages. Acknowledge the symptoms of mental health concerns present. Being aware of a condition that’s causing issues is important. (examples: confusion, stumbling, behavioral changes, reaction delays, functioning abilities, social skills). Yes, we all ignore these normal signs. Listen to the body, mostly pay attention to sudden changes. Mental or physical delays to function and disrupt daily routines can appear quickly. In some cases, health concerns gradually build, and the issues become emergencies. These signs or early symptoms need attention of professional examination for developmental diagnosis.
3-*• Strategies Customized for You
Mental or physical evaluation determines a diagnosis for addressing the concerned issue. Understanding the mental health issue will help the recovery process. Following your Healthcare providers instructions to treatment is important. Healthcare providers such as therapist, psychologist, neurologist, counselors, customize a treatment plan to your needs.
4-*• Mind My Business
Maintaining Mind My Business means be committed to improving mental health issues. Be determined to utilize all professional care as needed. Mental health is priority to well-being, which an effect physical health create more issues. Ask questions, use resources, practice developmental skills for your diagnosis. Mind My Business is making your own mental health, healthy once again. Your Mind is important business. Be committed to the importance of healthy mental health practices.
5-*• Acknowledge, Educate, & Mindfulness
It’s not easy to accept mental health issues or concerns, when they develop. Acknowledging the effects and causes can help future prevention. Educate yourself with abilities to improve and treat the diagnosis. Understanding that assistance and resources are available. No concern or question is foolish, don’t feel ashamed to ask questions. Your mental health is the foundation to a healthy happy you. Find others who share the same experience. Sharing your story could change someone else’s life. Expressing abilities to function in everyday challenges are elements for improving well-being.
Final thoughts to acknowledge development issues can help one to take action. Early childhood mental health issues can be clearly obvious. ( anxiety, depression, motor or speech illness, more in-depth mental conditions). Mental disorders or mental illness effect thinking, behavior, mood, emotional, or combined conditions determine the disorder or illness. Mental health and physical health work together to support well being. If one is effected the other can begin to deteriorate soon, as well.
Until our minds meet again. Be safe out there, much love and blessings. Remember, Everyday Mind’s Matter🦋 – Della 🦋