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Children’s needs depend on you – Be Responsive

Your Children Need You
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Everyday we all know, our list of things to do, continue to grow. As your children grow they look at you, full attention is on you. How you respond, attend, and show up is a priority to developmental growth. All eyes on you is a fact to life. Children want to grow and develop to be strong adults in life. It’s important how the parent relays facts to life. Be present, show up, and listen. Children crave you, your attention, your affection, and your time.

It’s important to be responsive

It is important to be responsive to your child’s needs. This means meeting their needs promptly and consistently. When you respond quickly and appropriately to your child’s needs, they learn that they can rely on you. Trust and honesty are what a child needs to feel safe and secure. This teaches children to be honest and good adults in life.

The importance of consistency

It is important to be consistent in your parenting. This means establishing routines and sticking to them. Children feel secure when they know what to expect from their parents. Consistency allows children to feel connected to their parents. A child can grow and develop emotions and mental health in a positive direction. Children need consistency to promote healthy mental health.

Hold and cuddle your child often

One of the best ways to create a secure attachment with your child is to hold and cuddle them often. This physical affection helps your child feel loved and secure, and can go a long way in establishing a strong bond between you and your child. Try to make a point of cuddling with your child every day, even if it’s just for a few minutes at bedtime or during morning snuggles. Like the ole’ saying goes, “Hugs go along way, even when they aren’t near”.

Respond promptly to your child’s needs

Another important tip for creating a secure attachment is to respond promptly to your child’s needs. This doesn’t mean you need to drop everything every time your child cries or call off work whenever they’re sick – but it does mean being attentive and responsive when they really need you. If possible, try to have at least one parent or caregiver available who can respond quickly to any major needs or issues that arise. Being attentive helps your child develop positive emotional connections. Connecting with others is an excellent ability to establish.

Establish routines and stick to them

Finally, another helpful tip for creating a secure attachment is to establish routines and stick to them as much as possible. Having consistent routines gives children a sense of security and predictability, which can help reduce anxiety and promote feelings of safety and well-being. Try to maintain regular mealtimes, bedtimes, bath times, etc., as much as possible, and let your child know what to expect ahead of time so they can feel prepared and comfortable. Routine can help a child feel responsible and safe. It’s okay to give your child a schedule to adhere to.

A secure attachment between parent and child is vital for the healthy development of the child. Attachment provides children with a sense of safety and security, which is essential for their emotional well-being. There are many ways to create a secure attachment with your child, but some of the most important include bonding, responsiveness, and consistency. By following these tips, you can give your child the foundation they need to thrive.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

In Love With Someone: When Life Is Perfect, Why Does That Love Turn To Hate Over Time?

Change in Love

We’ve all been there: you finally find the one, the person who you know will make you happy for the rest of your life and create beautiful babies with, and you once can’t imagine life without them. But before too long, this love turns to hate, and that person that you once loved so much now seems like an enemy who wants to make your life as difficult as possible. What happened? How did such pure love turn into pure hate? A lot of it comes down to two factors: expectations, and external circumstances. Let’s understand each of these factors in turn.

The Infatuation Stage
When you first start dating someone new, it’s like you’re in love. You can’t get enough of each other and you want to spend every waking moment together. You have this intense need for the person that never goes away. It feels so good to be with them and when you’re not with them, you can’t stop thinking about them. All your time is spent imagining what they might be doing and why they haven’t replied to your last text. They consume your thoughts and nothing else seems important or even interesting anymore. But then, as you spend more time together, something starts to change. Gradually you find yourself wondering if maybe this was all just a temporary feeling – an infatuation stage – and not true love after all. There are times where they seem almost too perfect, so much so that it becomes hard to see any flaws. And you find yourself questioning everything – the relationship, your compatibility and whether or not they’re right for you.

The Dealing with Imperfections Stage
It’s not uncommon for a couple to enter the Dealing with Imperfections stage. This is when you realize that life isn’t perfect and that you are no longer in love with your partner. You see their flaws and it can be difficult to overlook them. It’s important to understand that this is a natural stage in the relationship and it does not mean there is anything wrong with you or your partner. All relationships have highs and lows and this is just one of those low moments. The best way to get through this phase is by being patient, open-minded, and working on improving yourself before expecting too much from your partner. The time will pass and things will return to normal.

It might take some time but patience is key to making things better. Remembering what you loved about each other and what made you happy in the past is also a good idea. If all else fails, don’t hesitate to seek professional help! It may seem scary at first, but it could end up saving your marriage. Marriage counseling is an excellent way to address these problems as well as many others like communication problems or intimacy issues. No matter how dark things seem now, remember that these difficulties won’t last forever if you work together.

The Resentment Stage
Stage one of the love-hate relationship is often called the resentment stage. In this stage, the couple’s love has morphed into something else. It’s not as intense or passionate. The romance is gone. But there’s still a sense of attachment to each other and most importantly a sense of ownership in the relationship. That one partner you will never let go of or give up on. This can be felt by both partners in varying degrees. Some couples are able to bounce back from it and get back into an even greater feeling. But others can’t seem to shake the feeling off no matter what they do.
For some people, it’s easier said than done because their hurt is so deep that they lash out at their partner. With anger and bitterness which only makes things worse between them. And yet others just don’t feel like they’re enough for their significant other any longer.
And when these feelings boil to the surface all at once, it doesn’t take much for a fight to break out and for one person to say something unforgivable that sends everything crashing down around him/her. When someone feels pushed too far, he/she snaps. And the one who was pushed over the edge finally explodes–lashing out in anger, unleashing his/her wrath–in hopes that it would make everything better. However, most often times nothing changes and instead becomes even more toxic. There are arguments about how money should be spent or how plans were made without input from the other party. Whatever reason for fighting about things, issues just continue to grow until eventually one partner either gives up on the relationship entirely (walking away) or reconciles and tries again to work things out (only to have another argument).
What many people forget is that relationships are hard work.

The Break-Up Stage
It’s a cycle that so many of us have been through. You’re in love with someone. You’re happy and life is perfect. And then it all falls apart. Without warning and without reason, you just wake up one day and find yourself hating the person you once loved so much. The reasons for these break-ups vary from person to person – it could be due to betrayal or just losing interest over time – but there are some commonalities that we can identify here. First, after being together for a long time, we start to take each other for granted. We stop appreciating what we have and only focus on what’s wrong instead. Second, resentment starts building up between both people until finally it breaks out into anger or fighting.
Third, we start comparing ourselves to other people because we don’t think our relationship is enough anymore or because things get really tough during hard times like when one partner loses their job or gets sick. Lastly, at this stage, we often want different things than our partner. One of them may want children while the other doesn’t want kids at all; one may want marriage while the other isn’t sure about commitment; one might feel that they need space but the other wants to stay together no matter what. These differences can create problems even if one of the partners agrees to compromise. All these factors play a role in why relationships fall apart and why we end up hurting the ones we love.

Communication and commitment are important factors to help relationships. The challenges take a lot of work. In return it takes both parties to overcome the challenges. If you fail to put in the work, naturally it crumbles in time. It’s not easy to leave, but it’s a wonderful feeling to be happy once again.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞💞

The Perspective: How Psychology Affects Every Aspect of Your Life

Power of the Mind

You probably spend a lot of time thinking about the things that make you – you. You might be interested in knowing how your personality affects your work, relationships and hobbies. But how much do you know about how psychology affects every other part of your life? Psychology is a fascinating subject if you take some time to explore it further. It can also be an incredibly useful one, helping us to understand ourselves and others better so we can lead happier, healthier lives. There are many different areas of psychology that can help you gain new insights into yourself and the people around you. Some famous psychologists have even had a tremendous impact on society as a whole, such as Sigmund Freud, who originated the psychoanalytic theory within psychoanalysis, or Jean Piaget, who pioneered the study of cognitive development in children. When reading this about how psychology affects every aspect of your life, keep in mind that there are many more sub-specialties listed here. This list is intended as a general overview that can give you insight into what these fields involve and whether they might be something you’d like to learn more about.

*The Psychology of Everyday Life
Some aspects of everyday life have been studied by psychologists for decades. Some of these areas might seem unrelated to psychology at first glance, but they can actually give us a lot of insight into what makes us tick. Psychologists have studied the subconscious mind and its effect on everyday life for years. This is one way that psychology can affect everyday life that most people don’t realize is a part of the subject. The subconscious mind is the part of the mind that operates below the level of our consciousness. It is responsible for many of our automatic actions and decisions, such as how we drive a car or how we feel about a certain topic. A lot of research has been done into how the subconscious mind affects our lives. Some common findings include:*The Psychology of Everyday Life
Some aspects of everyday life have been studied by psychologists for decades. Some of these areas might seem unrelated to psychology at first glance, but they can actually give us a lot of insight into what makes us tick. Psychologists have studied the subconscious mind and its effect on everyday life for years. This is one way that psychology can affect everyday life that most people don’t realize is a part of the subject. The subconscious mind is the part of the mind that operates below the level of our consciousness. It is responsible for many of our automatic actions and decisions, such as how we drive a car or how we feel about a certain topic. A lot of research has been done into how the subconscious mind affects our lives. Some common findings include:

* How Psychology Affects Relationships
As with many other aspects of life, relationships are heavily influenced by our personalities and our subconscious minds. Psychologists have found that many relationship issues can be traced back to the participants’ different communication styles. There are various types of communication styles, and each of these is related to a certain personality type. You can take a quiz to find out your communication style and your partner’s communication style, so you can improve communication in your relationship. Psychologists have also found that certain mental illnesses can have a negative impact on relationships. Some of these illnesses include anxiety, borderline personality disorder, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, and schizophrenia.

*How Psychology Can Help You At Work
Do you ever wonder how some people seem to excel at their jobs while others struggle? Part of the difference might be explained by personality traits and how they affect how people perform at work. Some personality traits are linked to better job performance, while others are associated with poorer performance. For example, people who are more conscientious tend to excel at work. They tend to be more thorough and careful, which are both important qualities in any job. A person who is more extraverted might excel at public speaking, but might get overwhelmed and freeze up if asked to give a presentation to a small group. We all have our own way of interacting with others. Learning about yourself will improve your ability to relate and interact with others. Overall communication to express oneself is important, how perspective to understand thinking of others falls in place. To avoid misunderstanding, how the thought process relates in life.

* The Influence of Cognitive Psychology
Cognitive psychology is the study of how people think. You may be surprised to learn that much of our thinking happens below the level of our consciousness, and much of it is irrational! Cognitive psychologists have found that people’s memories are not perfect records of events, but instead they are more like creative reconstructions of the past. They’ve also discovered that people often don’t make decisions based on logic, but instead base their choices on emotion, such as a desire for pleasure or a fear of loss. Cognitive psychology has also revealed that people regularly use mental shortcuts, or heuristics, when thinking. A heuristic is a rule-of-thumb or quick-and-dirty mental shortcut that gets us to our destination quickly and efficiently, but often with less accuracy than a more rigorous approach.

* The Importance of Developmental Psychology

Developmental psychology is the study of how people change over time. It can tell us what factors influence our development, and it can help us understand which phases of life are most important for certain aspects of our growth. Developmental psychology can help us understand what stage of life is best for marriage, raising children, choosing a career, and more. For example, the stages of development that are most important to success in a career are early childhood, early adulthood, and mid-adulthood. This doesn’t mean that you can’t be successful in your career if you haven’t reached these stages yet. It just means that the earlier you get started on a career path, the better your chances are of being successful in that career when you’re an adult.
The way that psychology affects everyday life is far-reaching, and the areas of psychology listed above are just a few examples. Psychology is a fascinating subject that can help you understand yourself and the people around you better. If you’re interested in learning more about how psychology can affect every aspect of your life, psychology has a large variety of studies to explore.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋