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The Monologue of the Inner Voice: Who Is Listening?

We have all heard of the voice in our heads that speaks to us – we often refer to this voice as the crazy voice or that of a psycho. In different ways we can refer to the monologue voice. This inner voice actually has a name and purpose. So what is the inner monologue voice and why do we hear it? The inner monologue is our subconscious talking to us and giving us messages about ourselves and the world around us. This is often seen as a way of connecting to our deeper consciousness and giving us insight into ourselves. It helps us to form opinions and gives us insight into our emotions and feelings. Do all people have the monologue voice in their heads? Not necessarily – some people don’t necessarily have this inner dialogue. The reason why some don’t hear it, could be because they have blocked it out, either consciously or unconsciously, due to trauma or painful experiences. It can be said that this inner monologue is an important part of self-awareness and understanding who we are as people. By allowing ourselves to be more open and connected to this inner dialogue, we can get to know ourselves better and make better decisions about our life choices.

Guidance – just listen

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So next time you find yourself caught in the endless thoughts of your mind, take some time to pay attention and really listen to what your inner monologue has to say. It can help you discover a greater knowledge and understanding of yourself.

Have you ever had an inner voice that suddenly comments on something you are thinking or doing? Many people believe that this voice is the product of being a “crazy person,” but what if there is more to this inner dialogue? This monologue of the inner voice is, in essence, our own self-awareness. We may not all have the same thoughts that race through our head, but they all ultimately come from a part of our psyche that recognizes who we are. This inner voice is how we observe and reflect on our lives and our decisions. But why do some people have an inner monologue that is so active and vibrant while others appear to have little to none? Is it psychological or something else entirely? It could be a mixture of factors. Our brains can be complex and varied, which means our thoughts and perceptions can differ widely from one another. People with certain mental illnesses, such as anxiety and depression, may have heightened inner monologues. Others may have a slower inner monologue or none at all, possibly due to a more balanced psychological makeup. There is also a direct connection between the inner voice and our psychology.

Our inner monologue has the ability to both construct and tear down our thought process. If we focus on positive things, then our inner monologue will reflect that in how we view the world around us. Conversely, if we think negatively, then the inner voice will start to give us self-destructive thoughts. The inner monologue is a powerful tool for understanding who we are and our relationship to our inner self. Learning to take control of it and managing it is a huge step forward in terms of emotional and mental health. Learning how to quiet our inner voice and focusing on more positive aspects can be life-changing, both in how we think and how we interact with the world around us. Understanding our inner voice and learning how to listen to it can give us the insight and understanding of ourselves that is essential in living our best life. So take a few moments to listen and see what your inner monologue has to tell you.

My inner monologue can often feel overwhelming. On one hand, it is the voice of my intuition, guiding me in my choices. But on the other hand, it is like a running commentary that doesn’t ever turn off. The volume and intensity of the monologue depends on the psychological and emotional makeup of the individual. Some have very vivid, active inner monologues, while others may have less. But in both cases, this inner voice can be incredibly informative, providing insight into our thought processes, our lives, and ourselves. The inner monologue also can shape our thoughts and emotions in a profound way. Our thought patterns, behavior, and attitude all develop as a direct result of this ongoing dialogue between our inner self and our conscious thoughts. Negative thought patterns can cause us to believe untrue things about ourselves and fuel negative thinking, while positive thinking can keep our mind in a healthy and constructive state. This is why managing and learning how to control our inner voice is an essential step in cultivating good mental and emotional health. The voice of our inner self should not be ignored, but should be listened to and respected. There is power and strength in recognizing our inner thoughts, and taking steps to quiet the monologue, if only for a few moments. Doing this allows us to observe, reflect, and think on our lives with a clear and balanced head. It is when we take time to listen to our inner monologue, without judgement, that we gain insight into who we truly are, and we open ourselves to the possibility of understanding ourselves and our place in the world in a deeper way. Being capable of endless possibilities we can only gain positive results if we are fully invested to our inner voice. Are you listening? It’s okay it’s your inner voice… It’s not crazy, it real guidance, right there always.

Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there.. Many blessings and much love.. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💕🦋

The Art of Gathering

Times and Gathering

Oh, how the times of gatherings have lost the shine. Interactions and communication are fundamental values to our well-being. The laughter, tears, sorrows, and happiness that others give us in this lifetime. Simple moments that fill our lives with a sense of purpose. Those moments that take place when we gather. During holidays, birthdays, important milestones in our lives. Why gatherings are important and why gatherings help maintain mental health. If you’re wondering where people are gathered today – well the importance of the “Art of Gatherings” is for you.

* Gatherings I can remember as a child family gatherings included large groups of people. Family that included long friends of the family and many more. Gatherings of lots of drinking, grilling out, kids running in the yard, playing horseshoes, volleyball, badminton, belly hurting laughter, and just good times. Those memories create my foundation to my own character. We learn from our childhood how we treat and respect others. The Art of Gatherings are important elements that give opportunity for memories. As a child I had uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins, nephews, nieces that I grew up with. Those are family members that help shape who I am and have become.

* Time Changes with Age Time changes those gatherings overtime. The gatherings get smaller as loved ones age and leave this earth. We don’t notice until those gatherings are memories of those that once attended aren’t there. An empty chair at the dinner table. Those faces are with their children and grandchildren. Or maybe they have passed on. Our group has branched off to subdivide into other group gatherings. It’s not personal or your fault, life is what happened. Do they get busy with life and fail to attend gatherings? Or do they have larger functions and gatherings elsewhere? Do people still gather? Has the loss of loved ones put a toll on your Art of Gatherings?


* Picture of Who? The old black and dark colored photos in old albums your parents or grandparents kept. Albums that pictures are falling out of. Old albums that have such high value. One thing we can’t ever replace -photos. If found please keep and protect. Who has photo albums in 2022? Who has a physical camera that takes photos? Has gatherings changed the way we create photo albums? Photo albums are antique, physical pictures are precious diamonds. Who looks at old faded books or albums of photos, these days? Honestly, I do. Those photos are one of two things that live on after we expire. Photos are forever if properly stored and valued. (The other thing that continues after we expire is your signature).

Photo albums for 2022 are cell phones. Everyone has one and those photos should be available to show off daily. But do you glance at those photos after they are saved to your phone? Friends those phones will not hold the value to a photo album. Most of us can say, dang I had 1200 photos on my old phone. Impressive, right? Then the phone broke and those photos are gone. There is no replacement for those moments. That image is stored in memory of our mind. Sadly, we can describe a perfect moment, but our minds can’t print that picture in time.

The Art of Gatherings have a purpose for memories and photos. Take time to use a camera and create a family photo album. An album you created today, is worth a million words to those who inherit the photo album. Do yourself a favor if anything else. Take time to teach your children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, neighboring children – The Art of Gatherings. Educate our future generation the value of appreciation of gatherings memories, and photo albums. The creation of a scrapbook or a family photo album teaches the value and appreciation to life. Mentally, emotionally, and physically form an attachment to memories and gatherings. The lost art of love can be reborn. Love is created by us who spread the word. Don’t continue to let technology form our future children’s beliefs. Gatherings is in person with photos to place in a photo album. Not the space and time spent on the web/internet that fills illusions of life.

In the final thoughts, The Art of Gatherings, help us deal with challenges. Challenges offer the opportunity to be “live in person”. Where feelings are felt, the good, bad, ugly raw emotions that create us. Feelings that teach us sadness, respect, happiness, love, anger, pain, and the value of an Art of Gatherings. Today is an opportunity to teach a lost value, that can live on longer after you expire. Are you teaching today? Tomorrow? Or sometime soon? I know you have amazing teaching skills. You lived life in the Art of Gatherings. You are a piece of Art that is forever through photos and your signature. Share your teaching skills, everyone’s teachable.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

In Love With Someone: When Life Is Perfect, Why Does That Love Turn To Hate Over Time?

Change in Love

We’ve all been there: you finally find the one, the person who you know will make you happy for the rest of your life and create beautiful babies with, and you once can’t imagine life without them. But before too long, this love turns to hate, and that person that you once loved so much now seems like an enemy who wants to make your life as difficult as possible. What happened? How did such pure love turn into pure hate? A lot of it comes down to two factors: expectations, and external circumstances. Let’s understand each of these factors in turn.

The Infatuation Stage
When you first start dating someone new, it’s like you’re in love. You can’t get enough of each other and you want to spend every waking moment together. You have this intense need for the person that never goes away. It feels so good to be with them and when you’re not with them, you can’t stop thinking about them. All your time is spent imagining what they might be doing and why they haven’t replied to your last text. They consume your thoughts and nothing else seems important or even interesting anymore. But then, as you spend more time together, something starts to change. Gradually you find yourself wondering if maybe this was all just a temporary feeling – an infatuation stage – and not true love after all. There are times where they seem almost too perfect, so much so that it becomes hard to see any flaws. And you find yourself questioning everything – the relationship, your compatibility and whether or not they’re right for you.

The Dealing with Imperfections Stage
It’s not uncommon for a couple to enter the Dealing with Imperfections stage. This is when you realize that life isn’t perfect and that you are no longer in love with your partner. You see their flaws and it can be difficult to overlook them. It’s important to understand that this is a natural stage in the relationship and it does not mean there is anything wrong with you or your partner. All relationships have highs and lows and this is just one of those low moments. The best way to get through this phase is by being patient, open-minded, and working on improving yourself before expecting too much from your partner. The time will pass and things will return to normal.

It might take some time but patience is key to making things better. Remembering what you loved about each other and what made you happy in the past is also a good idea. If all else fails, don’t hesitate to seek professional help! It may seem scary at first, but it could end up saving your marriage. Marriage counseling is an excellent way to address these problems as well as many others like communication problems or intimacy issues. No matter how dark things seem now, remember that these difficulties won’t last forever if you work together.

The Resentment Stage
Stage one of the love-hate relationship is often called the resentment stage. In this stage, the couple’s love has morphed into something else. It’s not as intense or passionate. The romance is gone. But there’s still a sense of attachment to each other and most importantly a sense of ownership in the relationship. That one partner you will never let go of or give up on. This can be felt by both partners in varying degrees. Some couples are able to bounce back from it and get back into an even greater feeling. But others can’t seem to shake the feeling off no matter what they do.
For some people, it’s easier said than done because their hurt is so deep that they lash out at their partner. With anger and bitterness which only makes things worse between them. And yet others just don’t feel like they’re enough for their significant other any longer.
And when these feelings boil to the surface all at once, it doesn’t take much for a fight to break out and for one person to say something unforgivable that sends everything crashing down around him/her. When someone feels pushed too far, he/she snaps. And the one who was pushed over the edge finally explodes–lashing out in anger, unleashing his/her wrath–in hopes that it would make everything better. However, most often times nothing changes and instead becomes even more toxic. There are arguments about how money should be spent or how plans were made without input from the other party. Whatever reason for fighting about things, issues just continue to grow until eventually one partner either gives up on the relationship entirely (walking away) or reconciles and tries again to work things out (only to have another argument).
What many people forget is that relationships are hard work.

The Break-Up Stage
It’s a cycle that so many of us have been through. You’re in love with someone. You’re happy and life is perfect. And then it all falls apart. Without warning and without reason, you just wake up one day and find yourself hating the person you once loved so much. The reasons for these break-ups vary from person to person – it could be due to betrayal or just losing interest over time – but there are some commonalities that we can identify here. First, after being together for a long time, we start to take each other for granted. We stop appreciating what we have and only focus on what’s wrong instead. Second, resentment starts building up between both people until finally it breaks out into anger or fighting.
Third, we start comparing ourselves to other people because we don’t think our relationship is enough anymore or because things get really tough during hard times like when one partner loses their job or gets sick. Lastly, at this stage, we often want different things than our partner. One of them may want children while the other doesn’t want kids at all; one may want marriage while the other isn’t sure about commitment; one might feel that they need space but the other wants to stay together no matter what. These differences can create problems even if one of the partners agrees to compromise. All these factors play a role in why relationships fall apart and why we end up hurting the ones we love.

Communication and commitment are important factors to help relationships. The challenges take a lot of work. In return it takes both parties to overcome the challenges. If you fail to put in the work, naturally it crumbles in time. It’s not easy to leave, but it’s a wonderful feeling to be happy once again.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞💞

Structure: Fail, Fail, Fail

Structure,- Fail, Mental Health- Fail

Our Future and Mental Health

It’s no secret that our world is changing. The way we live, the way we work, and the way we interact with each other is all evolving at a rapid pace. And while there are many incredible things about this moment in time, there is also a lot of uncertainty. One of the things that we can be certain about, however, is the importance of mental health. The future can be a scary place. We don’t know what’s going to happen or how we’re going to handle it. But one thing we can do is take care of our mental health. It’s more important than ever to make sure we’re taking care of our minds. Our mind is the foundation to “what’s next” in our future. We must make it a priority to stay on top of our mental health. In this post, I will explore why mental health is more important than ever and what we can do to promote it.

The world is always changing and with that comes new challenges. We don’t know what the future holds, but we can be prepared by taking care of our mental health. It’s more important than ever to take care of our minds and be proactive about our well-being. Perception around us and the challenges of what’s ahead of us.

 Mental health is important at all stages of life, but it’s especially important as we navigate the ups and downs of life. It’s more important than ever to take care of our minds and be proactive about our well-being. We don’t know what the future holds, but we can be prepared by taking care of our mental health. Mental health is something we all have to deal with.

Mental health is vital for our overall well-being. How we make choices, how we view those around us, how our behavior and action play into our relationships. The overall obstacle is how we overcome those challenges. Right now, right now my friends, there is no Structure to face challenges. We have eliminated all the positive perspectives on mental health in the past. Right now, we are struggling with our own demons because of judgement, criticism, and embarrassment. Our ancestors have taught us that it’s okay to not be okay, – Life goes on. Being productive on a negative level is creating a bigger problem. A sense of being forced to move forward when we are crippled by mental illness or mental health problems. Our mind is pushing us, when actually there is – No Structure to help us overcome those challenges.

Deeper into Mental Health The stigma of “crazy”, “psycho”, or “nut case” has scared us of that label. What have we done? I will tell you we have failed in Mental Health. Knowing our mind is everything, we gapped the “crazy stage” and landed straight into “psycho” status. An inability to even establish a consistent mental health pattern of Hope. Criticism has over powered the whole to selfish assholes. When we should help our neighbors, friends, and family. But once again- the generation has lost the structure. Work ethic has no value, if you show up your going above and beyond. It’s okay to question that last sentence. My friends, COVID-19 in 2020 lock down “Rocked our World”. Yes, “Rocked our World”. No Structure has left us confused, scared, and bitter. It’s not your fault, it’s the world we created.. Everyone here is responsible for the creation of mental health failure. The ability to correct right from wrong has passed boundaries and unacceptable limits, that are now okay. Where are morals and values?

No Better than Your Neighbor Keeping up with Roger, your neighbor is ineffective for 2022. The house looks great from the outside. New landscaping, new cars, nice patio furniture, and everything modern. Roger and his family are consistently smiling in public. My friends, what’s on the inside – contents to mental health, just like everyone else. Just because the display is awesome or glamorous, doesn’t exclude anyone from mental health issues. We all have a point of understanding ourselves. How we handle challenges and how we overcome them. No one is better than anyone else, but our mental health provides us knowledge and understanding to get through life. Thinking inside the box to move forward can be a struggle. Thinking outside the box gives more resources to educate our minds to higher quality mental health. So have you been stuck thinking in the box lately? Maybe try to expand the resources to help promote better quality of life. Better quality of thinking outside the box is rewarding in every aspect to mental health challenges.

Without realizing, when you open your ability to educate your mind- mental health improves to promote a healthier and happier – You. Make your mental health priority, Structure, Win, Win, Win✔️

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋

“Please Don’t Yell, I’m Right Here”. – How Yelling impacts your Mental Health

"STOP" Yelling - it's harmful to both parties involved

We all know that one person or maybe your own self, who adds “yelling” to their daily routine. Is yelling really, necessary? In this blog post, we learn the science of yelling, and understand effects on one’s mental health. Yelling may seem like a harmless thing to do, but there are actually many different reasons behind why people tend to do it, as well as many unexpected effects that yelling can have on our lives and relationships. If you yell regularly, this may be something that you have done without realizing the negative impact it has had on you and those around you, so read on to find out more about the reasons why people tend to yell and how yelling effects those around them in their daily life and relationships.

* The Science of Why We Yell
Yelling has serious consequences for both the person doing the yelling and the person being yelled at. It can lead to mental health problems including anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Yelling is a sign of verbal abuse that should not be taken lightly. With these consequences in mind, it’s important to consider whether or not yelling is worth it. We might feel better momentarily but after time, those who are subjected to our anger will find themselves angry with us. We must remember that people who yell are often their own worst enemy because they end up hurting themselves more than they hurt others. When we stop caring about how we make others feel, what happens next? For many people, their mental health may start to decline. They may experience frequent headaches, poor sleeping patterns, and even an increased risk of suicide. If you want to live your best life while helping others do the same, then please don’t yell!

* How Yelling Affects the Brain
Yelling at someone can cause a range of negative emotions for both the person who’s yelling and the person who is being yelled at. It may be satisfying to yell, but it won’t make you feel good afterward. Plus, repeated yelling can have some serious effects on your brain. For example, one study found that people who were yelled at showed more activity in the part of the brain responsible for fear and panic than those who weren’t. So if you’re constantly yelling at your kids, they’re going to live in constant fear and anxiety! In addition, when we are yelled at, we show increased activity in our amygdala (the fight-or-flight response), which causes stress responses like an increased heart rate or high blood pressure. Yelling also increases inflammation levels. All this means that not only does anger hurt the people around us when we yell, but it also hurts us! We need to figure out ways to communicate with each other without using aggression. when we yell, it affects how well our voice will work afterwards. Yelling at high volumes causes tiny ruptures in the vocal chords that may not be noticeable right away but they can lead to soreness or even shortness of breath later on. In addition, yelling lowers the levels of oxygen in your blood which could lead to other health complications like decreased immunity. Remember: I’m right here, please don’t yell!

  • * Yelling doesn’t work Yelling only escalates the situation and frustrates both people involved. If yelling does happen, it’s important to apologize for being out of control – no matter how difficult it is. The next time you feel yourself getting too heated, pause for just a moment. Take a couple deep breathes and relax your mood and tone of voice. Think about the situation and is it worth the effort to yell?

Yelling seems to be a momentarily relief for some. But yelling has long term health effects, that are often ignored. Not only do you hurt the one who is being yelled at, you’re hurting yourself as well. So before you get heated, take a couple deep breathes. Change your tone of voice, walk away, and calm down. So next time you start to raise your voice, breathe in and stop. Is yelling worth hurting another person? Think about it, yelling impacts lives today, tomorrow, and permanently. Are you okay with impacting your children, family, or friends because yelling is part of your routine? “Please Don’t Yell, I am right here”.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

I’m Right, Here! The Highs and Lows of Being Needed All the Time

Being Needed…

It’s been called needy, codependent and other names, but when it’s someone close to you and you love them dearly, nothing else seems to matter. You want to take care of them and make them happy; you want to be there whenever they need you and anticipate their needs as if they were your own.

  • * Feeling like you’re always needed
    I often feel like I’m needed all the time, which is great because it’s an ego boost. However, sometimes it gets to be too much. I find myself constantly checking my phone or thinking about who needs me next. I have to remind myself that I need me too, and take some time for myself. Sometimes when I do this, I notice how it affects other people in a positive way. They are more productive and happier when they’re not worried about me being there for them at any moment. Being needed has its upsides, but also has its downsides. For example, as soon as you stop needing someone else, they start feeling neglected. It can be hard to balance the highs and lows of wanting to help others while still caring for yourself.
  • *Having to be in control all the time
    The neediness can be overwhelming at times, but it has its perks. You know you have people who rely on you. It’s empowering to be needed. But some days, I just feel like I’m a puppet being pulled around by my strings, with no say in what goes on in my life or theirs. I don’t want to be co-dependent or codependent, but it seems inevitable when you’re involved with someone who needs you all the time. When they ask for your opinion and validation, even if they already know what you’re going to say because they already asked before, it makes me feel so important. ( A thought that doesn’t cross my mind) And then there are the moments where everything comes crashing down and they make me feel powerless. Moments where they demand things from me, not knowing how much I’m struggling myself. Moments where you try to be strong and put on that happy face, but inside you’re dying. It leaves me wondering if this is worth it? Those are just overwhelming emotions that come with being needed. In time, those trying moments do pass.

*Dealing with the emotional ups and downs
There are many challenges that come with being needed all the time. It can be very rewarding, but you also have to find your balance. You always need to make time for yourself, or else it can get overwhelming. There will be days when you feel like everything is going well, and then there are days where you are at rock bottom with no one to talk to about what’s going on in your head. On those days, finding someone who understands how you feel is crucial.
It is important to remember that not everyone experiences this feeling on a daily basis; some people do not even experience this feeling at all!
There are ways of self-care that may seem silly, but they really work. These things may include journaling , deep breathing, or listening to music. I’ve found that during times when I’m feeling so anxious I don’t know what to do with myself, writing down my thoughts gives me clarity and helps me put things into perspective again. You need to take care of yourself before you are able to take care of others – and even if it means saying “no” from time to time! I know that word “no’ is far fetched from my vocabulary. It’s okay to say ‘no” to feel your own inner needs at times. One”no” I can’t today, will give you a feeling of clarity. Clarity of peace of mind and a moment of fresh breathe. It’s okay because it generally works out. Everything is okay, saying yes or no. It’s just fine, and everyone is okay, 😁

  • *The physical toll it takes
    Neediness is draining. It’s one thing to have an emotional attachment to someone else, but it’s another when you’re expected to be at their beck and call. You start feeling more like a servant than a significant other. And you’re not even sure if it’s just this person or all people in general, which doesn’t make things any better for your self-esteem. If anything, they are doing you a favor by accepting your company at all – so they must want to see you too? Sometimes it feels as though there is no real meaning behind anything. There is no love or emotion involved in what should be relationships. When I am needed, I feel desired. I love how much he needs me when he wakes up in the morning before going to work. He can barely get out of bed without holding onto my arm first and having me with him while he drinks his coffee. When I’m not needed anymore, I need to be able to give myself permission to say no. My friends keep telling me that these feelings will pass, that it’s not worth getting caught up in something that won’t last. But how do you know until it ends? How do you know if something is worth giving up your life for now because tomorrow may never come?

*The mental challenges
I’ve found that being needed all the time can have its highs as well as its lows. One day, you may be feeling like you are the most important person to someone else, but then another day they’ll ignore your text message or call. You start to question what they’re doing with their life, and why they don’t want you around. It’s hard not to take it personally, especially when you’re putting in so much effort. It becomes difficult to maintain composure when things seem like they are going downhill. One minute, you’re at the top of your game – making a difference in this world and impacting people’s lives. And then the next moment, you feel powerless again because something goes wrong and there is nothing left for you to do. You feel useless because there was no way for you to control it or prevent it from happening

  • *Life happens Sometimes we meet up with challenges that are beyond our control. Life takes turns for the worst sometimes, and we can only hope for better days ahead. When we face these challenges head on instead of letting them overcome us, we gain more than just relief from stress.. We gain wisdom and strength in knowing how to handle similar situations in the future!. These challenges push us out of our comfort zones, which can be both mentally and physically exhausting. But overcoming these obstacles leaves you feeling powerful! Not many other things in life leave you feeling this strong after getting through it!

Feeling needed is great at times. The neediness catches up to our well-being, unexpectedly. Leaving us feeling that another person may inhibit doing for themselves when able. Taking advantage of your time and your own personal space. If you feel overwhelmed, it’s okay. The feelings will pass when you regain your space and time. Being needed is a rewarding feeling. Those feelings can be overwhelming when challenges occur. It’s okay to set boundaries and maintain your own need of physical and mental health.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

The Perspective: How Psychology Affects Every Aspect of Your Life

Power of the Mind

You probably spend a lot of time thinking about the things that make you – you. You might be interested in knowing how your personality affects your work, relationships and hobbies. But how much do you know about how psychology affects every other part of your life? Psychology is a fascinating subject if you take some time to explore it further. It can also be an incredibly useful one, helping us to understand ourselves and others better so we can lead happier, healthier lives. There are many different areas of psychology that can help you gain new insights into yourself and the people around you. Some famous psychologists have even had a tremendous impact on society as a whole, such as Sigmund Freud, who originated the psychoanalytic theory within psychoanalysis, or Jean Piaget, who pioneered the study of cognitive development in children. When reading this about how psychology affects every aspect of your life, keep in mind that there are many more sub-specialties listed here. This list is intended as a general overview that can give you insight into what these fields involve and whether they might be something you’d like to learn more about.

*The Psychology of Everyday Life
Some aspects of everyday life have been studied by psychologists for decades. Some of these areas might seem unrelated to psychology at first glance, but they can actually give us a lot of insight into what makes us tick. Psychologists have studied the subconscious mind and its effect on everyday life for years. This is one way that psychology can affect everyday life that most people don’t realize is a part of the subject. The subconscious mind is the part of the mind that operates below the level of our consciousness. It is responsible for many of our automatic actions and decisions, such as how we drive a car or how we feel about a certain topic. A lot of research has been done into how the subconscious mind affects our lives. Some common findings include:*The Psychology of Everyday Life
Some aspects of everyday life have been studied by psychologists for decades. Some of these areas might seem unrelated to psychology at first glance, but they can actually give us a lot of insight into what makes us tick. Psychologists have studied the subconscious mind and its effect on everyday life for years. This is one way that psychology can affect everyday life that most people don’t realize is a part of the subject. The subconscious mind is the part of the mind that operates below the level of our consciousness. It is responsible for many of our automatic actions and decisions, such as how we drive a car or how we feel about a certain topic. A lot of research has been done into how the subconscious mind affects our lives. Some common findings include:

* How Psychology Affects Relationships
As with many other aspects of life, relationships are heavily influenced by our personalities and our subconscious minds. Psychologists have found that many relationship issues can be traced back to the participants’ different communication styles. There are various types of communication styles, and each of these is related to a certain personality type. You can take a quiz to find out your communication style and your partner’s communication style, so you can improve communication in your relationship. Psychologists have also found that certain mental illnesses can have a negative impact on relationships. Some of these illnesses include anxiety, borderline personality disorder, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, and schizophrenia.

*How Psychology Can Help You At Work
Do you ever wonder how some people seem to excel at their jobs while others struggle? Part of the difference might be explained by personality traits and how they affect how people perform at work. Some personality traits are linked to better job performance, while others are associated with poorer performance. For example, people who are more conscientious tend to excel at work. They tend to be more thorough and careful, which are both important qualities in any job. A person who is more extraverted might excel at public speaking, but might get overwhelmed and freeze up if asked to give a presentation to a small group. We all have our own way of interacting with others. Learning about yourself will improve your ability to relate and interact with others. Overall communication to express oneself is important, how perspective to understand thinking of others falls in place. To avoid misunderstanding, how the thought process relates in life.

* The Influence of Cognitive Psychology
Cognitive psychology is the study of how people think. You may be surprised to learn that much of our thinking happens below the level of our consciousness, and much of it is irrational! Cognitive psychologists have found that people’s memories are not perfect records of events, but instead they are more like creative reconstructions of the past. They’ve also discovered that people often don’t make decisions based on logic, but instead base their choices on emotion, such as a desire for pleasure or a fear of loss. Cognitive psychology has also revealed that people regularly use mental shortcuts, or heuristics, when thinking. A heuristic is a rule-of-thumb or quick-and-dirty mental shortcut that gets us to our destination quickly and efficiently, but often with less accuracy than a more rigorous approach.

* The Importance of Developmental Psychology

Developmental psychology is the study of how people change over time. It can tell us what factors influence our development, and it can help us understand which phases of life are most important for certain aspects of our growth. Developmental psychology can help us understand what stage of life is best for marriage, raising children, choosing a career, and more. For example, the stages of development that are most important to success in a career are early childhood, early adulthood, and mid-adulthood. This doesn’t mean that you can’t be successful in your career if you haven’t reached these stages yet. It just means that the earlier you get started on a career path, the better your chances are of being successful in that career when you’re an adult.
The way that psychology affects everyday life is far-reaching, and the areas of psychology listed above are just a few examples. Psychology is a fascinating subject that can help you understand yourself and the people around you better. If you’re interested in learning more about how psychology can affect every aspect of your life, psychology has a large variety of studies to explore.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

The Psychology of Addiction: How We Develop Addictive Behaviors

Addictive Behavior

Every time we get drunk or high, eat junk food, binge on TV shows, gamble compulsively, watch porn, exercise to the point of injury, or commit any other kind of self-destructive behavior, we’re engaging in addictive behavior. And like everything else in life that we engage in too much of (sex, eating candy bars) there are negative consequences.

* Adolescent Behavior – Identifying Addictive
The psychology of addiction is not about the how, why, when, what, and where behavior. The behavior that triggers the response to more.
What happens to promote addiction is the root. (creations of) That come alive within our minds during adolescent years and developmental growth are normal. Experimenting with drugs and alcohol, trying different things sexually, smoking cigarettes – all these things can cause a person to become addicted. It is hard for us as humans to have control over anything in life but this one thing which has power over us is most often the result of people’s pain or disappointments in life. Addictions can be a way of coping with negative emotions. When you feel really angry, scared, frustrated, lonely or sad it’s easy to cope by using your addiction as an escape mechanism and temporarily forgetting about those bad feelings. With long-term use an addict will feel like they need the drug just to survive because it alters their brain chemistry so that feeling good becomes synonymous with using the drug.

*Understanding Addiction Behavior – What Goes on Inside?
There are two systems in the brain that regulate how we behave and respond to substances. One is the reward system, which is fueled by neurotransmitters like dopamine. The other is the inhibitory system, which inhibits our impulses and desires for substances. When a person’s brain has been altered by chronic substance use, their balance between these two systems changes. The reward system becomes more active and the inhibitory system becomes less effective at regulating behavior. As this continues, the addict needs more and more of the substance to produce an effect—even if they start with small amounts. It becomes harder to stop using, even when they want to or know they should stop.

* Why Does Addiction Occur?
While there is no one single cause for addiction, some risk factors may include genetics or a history of trauma. Genetics plays an important role in the development of addiction, because it can influence our brain’s reward system.
For example, people with a family history of alcohol use disorder are more likely to develop this disorder themselves, and people who have experienced trauma as children are more likely to struggle with drug use disorders.
Other risk factors that may lead to addiction include environmental influences such as peer pressure and availability. In other words, living in a community where substance abuse is prevalent can increase your chances of developing an addiction. These environments affect how we think about drugs and make them seem appealing.

* When Do Addictions Occur?
Addictions typically start during adolescence, which is when the brain has a lot of development going on. Experiments with drugs and alcohol can be seen as normal at this point in life, but it is important to remember that addiction can take hold before the adolescent is even aware. In fact, 90% of cases are reported to start by age 18. With mental illnesses like depression or bipolar disorder being common among those who struggle with addiction, treatment for these conditions may help to lessen or stop the use of substances. Lastly, there have been recent studies showing that social media apps like Instagram and Snapchat can serve as triggers for those struggling with addiction due to their constant need for instant gratification. There are other factors such as biology and genetics, stressors such as trauma or abuse, and more that play into the psychology of addiction.

* What Triggers It?
In a study by the National Institute on Drug Abuse, they found that nicotine is an addicting drug because it stimulates the release of dopamine in reward areas of the brain. Studies also show that people with mental illnesses, such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, may abuse drugs and alcohol to help relieve symptoms. In other cases, people might start using drugs or alcohol because friends or family members use them. Other possible triggers for addiction include depression, anxiety, physical pain or discomfort, boredom, and stress. People who experience these conditions are more likely to turn to drugs or alcohol for relief. Some people find that when they drink alcohol, their problems seem less important than before; some report being able to forget about past mistakes while others say they feel more social while drinking; some report feeling more confident and outgoing when under the influence of substances. For others, substances are used to self-medicate serious conditions like chronic pain.

* Where Do Addictions Come From?
Addictions are the result of a complex interaction between genetic vulnerability and environmental factors. It is important to note that there is no single gene for addiction, but it does seem to be more prevalent in families with a history of addiction. In addition to genetics, childhood trauma, stress and neglect have been shown to have an effect on the development of an addiction. Stressful situations release cortisol and other hormones into the body which can lead to addiction if not dealt with properly. However, any person can become addicted regardless of their environment if they use substances regularly.

* Expanding Consciousness – Solutions
What starts out as a small, seemingly harmless habit can quickly spiral into full-blown addiction. Many factors contribute to the development of addiction, and one crucial factor is the individual’s sense of self. When people feel disconnected from their true selves, they may seek temporary relief from this disconnection through substance abuse. When people are able to connect with their core selves and feel more aligned with who they truly are, they are much less likely to develop an addiction. Once a person does start using substances in an unhealthy way, it becomes harder for them to stop on their own without professional help. The National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) reports that 90 percent of those addicted to alcohol or other drugs need help getting sober but only 10 percent actually receive treatment. Fortunately there are many avenues for support if you or someone you know needs help managing or overcoming addiction.

The truth of addictive Behavior, easy to start, is hard to quit. One may struggle for sobriety daily, changing routine and finding the root cause is the solution. Facing the issue will help find peace to self contentment. Addiction is real and it’s one day at a time. Recovery isn’t easy, but starting is the first try.

Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

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🚿 Starting Your Day With A Smile: Why Your Shower Routine Matters 🚿

Shower Routine Matters

Your morning shower routine can set the tone for your entire day. You may not think your shower has much to do with how you feel as you go about your daily business, but it does. Your morning shower should be one of the first things you do when you wake up in the morning, and it should be relaxing, invigorating and even fun so that you can get on with your day with a positive outlook and without becoming stressed out or burned out by the end of the day.

✔️ How to get up early
The morning routine consists of a few key components. Start by getting up at the same time every day, even on weekends and vacations. Once you’re up, drink a glass of water and do some light stretching or go for a short walk to help you wake up. After that it’s time to get ready for the day ahead. Wash your face with cold water to tighten your pores and give your skin a refreshing jolt, then apply moisturizer or eye cream. Now it’s time for breakfast! Make sure to include protein in your meal. Protein will keep you full until lunchtime and promote weight loss in the process. Throw in an avocado toast or Greek yogurt if you need more sustenance before heading out the door. If you don’t have time for breakfast, pack a healthy lunch before heading out into the world – this will keep hunger pangs at bay throughout the day! Make sure to stop by a coffee shop too – caffeine boosts mental energy, mood and alertness when consumed early in the day. Plus, we all know what happens when you try to function without coffee. Skip drinking caffeinated beverages late in the day because it may interfere with sleep quality later on. Stay hydrated all day long – set reminders for yourself so you never forget to drink enough water or other liquids like fruit juice or coconut water.
As soon as I’m done drying my hair, I like to make sure my teeth are clean and fresh before going back downstairs and starting my workday.

✔️ What to do before you start your day 🧼
Before you jump into your day, spend a few minutes on yourself. Take a shower, brush your teeth and comb your hair, then put on your favorite outfit or some nice cologne. Try to do this as early as possible in the morning to avoid rushing around later when you’re trying to get out the door for work. This way you’ll start off with a smile and feel better about yourself all day long. Studies have shown that people who use deodorant regularly tend to be happier and more confident than those who don’t. So make sure you use it! It will also help you feel more awake and less stressed throughout the day. When I’m feeling sluggish or worn down, I try to take a quick break for 10-20 minutes where I just sit back, relax, and focus on my breathing until I feel reenergized again. We can’t always control what happens in our lives but we can always control how we react to these things which is why starting your day with a positive attitude is so important!

✔️ How to set yourself up for success
One of the best ways to start your day off on a positive note is by starting with a shower. The scent of soap, the hot water, and the fact that you’re getting clean can all have powerful effects on your mood. Plus, it’s an easy and quick way to take care of yourself without having to do anything too strenuous. Once you’re done with your morning shower, you’ll have time for coffee or breakfast before heading out for the day. If you need some more reading material, use these tips as your guide. 1) Take some deep breaths while you focus on breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth 2) Focus on one specific thing that makes you happy 3) Count down from ten to one 4) Think about what makes you feel calm 5) Be sure to keep something fun planned for later in the evening 6) Write down five things you’re grateful for 7) Meditate

✔️ Ending your day with a smile
In the morning, starting your day with a smile is important and will help put you in a good mood for the rest of your day. In the shower, try to avoid focusing on negative thoughts or any problems that may be weighing you down. You can’t change what has happened and dwelling on it won’t help anything. Spend your time in the shower letting go of any negativity and think about all of the things that make you happy. Think about how nice it feels when you get out of the shower and how fresh and clean your skin feels. Think about waking up tomorrow morning when you’ll feel refreshed and ready to start your day off right! Focus on these positive thoughts while you’re washing yourself clean.

✔️ How an evening shower feels better than an evening nap 🚿 A nap might seem energizing when your tired. Did you know a shower is more effective? Interesting that a shower boosts mood and refreshes energy. The positive effects are remarkable just by being refreshed by a shower. The sense of a power nap, replaced by a shower. Simply effective that enhances an ability to gain quality energy, once again. Next time you’re feeling sluggish and need a boost, try taking a shower. It’s proven to promote both physical and mental health, just by showering.

A start of the day with a shower is the next step to living a clean, happy, and healthy life. When one may not believe the effects of showering. Think about this for a moment:. We have all been sick with a cold or flu. The common thing most of us do is medicate and sleep. Laying in the germs that got left behind in our bed. Sleep we believe is the cure, right? Take a shower a couple times a day while you’re sick and see how much better you feel. To reduce recovery time and increase energy levels, turn on that shower and refresh the immune system. Give it a try, Start Your Day With A Smile: Your Shower Routine Does Matters 🚿🧼

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

How To Be Honest With Yourself About Your Mental Health Status

It’s no secret that mental health is a taboo topic. We don’t like to talk about it, and when we do, we often sugarcoat the truth. But if we’re ever going to break the stigma around mental health, it’s important that we start being honest with ourselves about our own mental health status.

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Honesty is important for a number of reasons. Firstly, it can help you understand your mental health status. If you’re honest with yourself about how you’re feeling, you can more easily identify when something isn’t quite right. Secondly, honesty can help you seek help from professionals. If you’re honest about your mental health problems, you’re more likely to seek out treatment and support. Finally, honesty can also lead to better mental health outcomes. Studies have shown that people who are honest about their mental health problems are more likely to recover from them than those who aren’t.

Of course, there are also some risks associated with being honest about your mental health. Dishonesty can lead to mental health problems, as well as emotional distress. It’s important to weigh up the risks and benefits before deciding whether or not to be honest about your mental health status.

So what’s the bottom line? Honesty is always the best policy when it comes tomentalhealth. Being truthful with yourself – and with others – will help you better understand and manage yourmentalhealthstatus.

The Importance of Honesty in Mental Health

Why honesty is important

Mental health is an important part of our overall well-being. It includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices.

Good mental health is not just the absence of mental illness. Everyone has times when they feel worried, stressed, or sad. But if these feelings don’t go away or if they interfere with your daily life, it could be a sign of a mental health problem.

Mental health problems are common among adults and children in the United States. In fact, about 1 in 5 adults experiences a mental illness in any given year. And 1 in 6 children aged 6–17 experiences a mental health disorder each year. Mental health disorders are real medical conditions that affect a person’s thinking, feeling, mood, ability to relate to others, and daily functioning.

Treating mental health disorders can help people live happy and productive lives. But first, people need to recognize that they have a problem. That’s where honesty comes in.

How to be honest with yourself

The first step to getting treatment for a mental health disorder is acknowledging that you have one. That might seem like a simple task, but it can be hard to be honest with yourself—especially if you’re used to putting on a brave face or downplaying your problems.

Here are some tips for being honest with yourself about your mental health:

· Pay attention to your thoughts and emotions: Do you find yourself frequently worrying or feeling down? Do you have negative thoughts about yourself? Do you avoid socializing because you’re afraid of what other people will think? If you’re noticing changes in your thoughts or emotions that are affecting your daily life, it’s time to talk to someone about your mental health.

· Be aware of changes in your behavior: Have you been drinking more alcohol than usual? Are you using drugs? Are you withdrawing from friends and activities that you used to enjoy? Changes in behavior can be signs of underlying mental health problems.

· Talk to someone who knows you well: A friend or family member who knows you well can often spot changes in your mood or behavior before you do. If someone close to you has expressed concern about your mental state, take their opinion seriously—even if it’s hard to hear what they have to say.

· Seek professional help: If you’re struggling to cope with your thoughts or emotions, it’s important to seek professional help. A mental health professional can assess your symptoms and give you a diagnosis. They can also provide you with treatment options and support.

The Benefits of Honesty in Mental Health

Honesty can help you understand your mental health status

It is important to be honest with yourself about your mental health in order to fully understand your current state. This includes being honest about how you are feeling, what kind of thoughts you are having, and any symptoms you may be experiencing. Once you have a better understanding of your mental health status, it will be easier to identify when something is off and seek help when necessary.

Honesty can help you seek help from professionals

If you are honest with yourself about your mental health, it will be easier to identify when you need professional help. Seeking help from a therapist or psychiatrist can be immensely beneficial in managing mental health conditions. Furthermore, honesty is important when working with mental health professionals in order to get the most accurate diagnosis and treatment plan.

The Consequences of Dishonesty in Mental Health

Dishonesty can lead to mental health problems

Mental health problems can arise when people are dishonest about their feelings or thoughts. When someone is in denial about their mental state, they may begin to experience anxiety, depression, or other issues. It’s important to be honest with yourself so that you can identify any potential mental health problems and seek professional help if needed.

Dishonesty can lead to emotional distress

Emotional distress can occur when people bottle up their emotions or try to hide them from others. This can lead to feelings of isolation, loneliness, and low self-worth. If you’re not honest with yourself about how you’re feeling, it can be difficult to manage your emotions and cope with stress in a healthy way.

It is important to be honest with yourself about your mental health status in order to understand your condition and seek proper help. Honesty can be difficult, but it is worth it to get the most accurate picture of your mental health. Dishonesty about your mental health can lead to serious consequences, so it is always best to be truthful.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 🦋💕