Living a good life is something that we all strive for, but it can be difficult to pinpoint what exactly is needed in order to achieve this goal. While there are countless factors that can contribute to happiness and satisfaction, I believe that there are three key ingredients that are essential for a fulfilling life: mental health, love, and knowledge.
First and foremost, mental health is crucial when it comes to living a good life. This encompasses everything from feeling emotionally stable to having a strong sense of purpose and fulfillment in life. When our mental health is thriving, we are better able to manage stress and adversity, maintain positive relationships, and achieve our goals. Taking care of our mental health can include practicing mindfulness and meditation, seeking support from loved ones or professionals, and engaging in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment.
Another crucial aspect of living a good life is love. This can come in many forms, whether it be romantic relationships, friendships, or close family bonds. Love helps us to feel connected and supported, and it provides a sense of meaning and purpose in life. When we feel loved and valued, we are more likely to be happy, confident, and resilient in the face of challenges.
Lastly, knowledge is a vital component of a good life. This doesn’t necessarily mean having an Ivy League degree or knowing everything there is to know about a particular subject. Rather, it’s about having a curious and open-minded approach to the world around us. When we seek out knowledge and understanding, we are able to grow and evolve as individuals. We become more empathetic, compassionate, and capable of navigating the complexities of life. In conclusion, living a good life is about more than just material possessions or fleeting moments of happiness. It’s about cultivating a strong foundation of mental health, love, and knowledge.
I am sure you might be thinking what about money? If you have the three key essentials mental health, love, and knowledge. Well the money will always be there. By prioritizing these three elements, we can create a life that is both fulfilling and meaningful. Importantly, these things needed are invisible, they can never be taken away from you. It’s up to you to create and maintain these things to have a good life.🍀🦋
Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
Clifford was a children’s book written by Norman Bridwell in 1963, and the story revolved around a small girl named Emily Elizabeth and her pet dog Clifford, who was larger than life. This charming story told the tale of a young girl who lived with her dog in a big city. While Emily loved Clifford dearly, there were times when having a giant-sized pet could be a challenge.
One of my favorite moments in the book is when Clifford and Emily play fetch with a tree branch. Clifford brings the whole tree back instead of the stick! Emily and Clifford’s playtime ends when the fire brigade must be called in to free Clifford from a parked truck he’s gotten himself stuck in.
The charming story made me fall in love with Clifford’s character and wish that children had known of this amazing book. What I enjoyed most about Clifford was how the story touched on some fundamental lessons in life that children could relate to. Through the antics of Clifford and his owner, the book encouraged kids to appreciate and embrace their unique characteristics. The book also touched on themes such as empathy, self-confidence, and accepting others who are different from us. Even though, Im an adult now, the memory of Clifford has stuck with me. Whenever I see a large dog, I can’t help but think of him! Norman Bridwell created a fantastic world that took me away from the stresses of the world as a child and gave me an opportunity to see that anything was possible. Clifford taught me important life lessons that still resonate with me today, and for that, I’ll always have a soft spot for this charming dog.
As an adult, it’s nice to revisit our childhood stories. Either they be in a book, an event, or just a person who touched our lives. Our childhood has a story of who we are and who we become.
Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
Congratulations on your bundle of joy! The arrival of a baby is a time of excitement and celebration, but it can also come with its fair share of challenges. One of those challenges is postpartum.
Becoming a mother is undoubtedly one of the most exciting and life-changing experiences for a woman. The arrival of a baby can fill the heart with overwhelming love, joy, and hope. However, it’s also a challenging time that can trigger postpartum symptoms in new mothers. Postpartum, commonly referred to as the ‘baby blues,’ is a period of physical and emotional adjustments that happen after giving birth.
Being a mother is not an easy feat, it’s a lifetime commitment that begins the moment the baby arrives. It’s full of challenges that require perseverance and strength. One of the most under-discussed challenges is postpartum depression.
Many different changes
So what exactly is postpartum? Postpartum is a stage that every mother goes through after the baby is born. It’s a time of adjustment and learning how to care for a new life. It’s often said to be a happy period filled with joy and love, but this is not the case for all new moms. Postpartum depression is a real issue that many women experience after childbirth. Postpartum depression is often caused by hormonal changes in the body, sleep deprivation, and stress. A combination of these factors can lead to mood swings, anxiety, and irritability. Symptoms include feeling sad, hopeless, worthless, and uninterested in activities you once enjoyed.
It’s a time when the body undergoes significant changes as it recovers from pregnancy and childbirth. At the same time, new mothers experience changes emotionally,mentally, and physically. The mixed tension conflicts with our new space of life. To balance life can become overwhelming, and practice only gives us understanding of new life. The depression state can be challenging and difficult to overcome. This period of change can be difficult, leading to a variety of postpartum symptoms. Postpartum is different for every woman, and symptoms can range from mild to severe.
Some of the common symptoms of postpartum include fatigue, mood swings, anxiety, irritability, sadness, and lack of concentration. The symptoms usually start within the first week after delivery and can last up to several months.
Mental depression can exacerbate postpartum depression, leading to deeper mental health issues. It can be challenging for new moms to take care of themselves and seek help, but it’s essential. Mental health should never be neglected, especially for new mothers. There are plenty of resources available, from therapy to medication. The key is to identify the problem early on and take the necessary steps to overcome it. Postpartum depression can lead to a range of symptoms, including sadness, guilt, hopelessness, lack of energy, and sleep disturbance. The longer postpartum depression is left untreated, the more profound the impact it can have on mental health.
Ways to Reduce Postpartum
We learn that, postpartum depression is a real issue that new moms can experience after childbirth. It’s important to recognize the signs and seek help. New mothers should never feel ashamed or afraid to reach out for support. The more we talk about postpartum depression, the more we can break the stigma and help women get the support they need. Don’t let postpartum steal your happiness. It’s a time to enjoy motherhood and as a mother, the times is yours to welcome a new life. Congrats!
What triggers postpartum depression? There’s no one answer to this question. Every mother is unique, and every case of postpartum depression is different. But one common factor that can contribute to it is the feeling of being overwhelmed. It can be caused by a range of issues, including financial stress, lack of support, and feeling like you’re not coping with motherhood.
Postpartum is triggered by various factors, including hormonal changes, physical and emotional stress, and sleep deprivation. Hormones such as estrogen and progesterone that rise during pregnancy and plummet after birth can affect a woman’s emotional well-being, leading to symptoms of postpartum.
What can be done to reduce the symptoms of postpartum depression after the baby arrives? There are a few things that can help ease the symptoms of postpartum depression. One is to make sure that the mother is getting enough sleep and rest. Having a good support system in place, like family or friends, is also important. It’s also important for the mother to maintain a healthy diet, stay active, and take care of herself. Find a routine and practice a routine. With trial and error motherhood gets better. Take time to understand emotional and mental challenges. Bonding with baby is important to feel happiness and love.
Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Many blessings and much love.
Mental health has been a topic of conversation for quite some time now. However, there is still a lot of stigma and misunderstanding surrounding it. Mental health refers to a person’s psychological well-being and is just as important as physical health. Our mental health plays a crucial role in everything we do, including work, relationships, money, health, success, and much more.
In this blog post, we will explore how mental health affects our daily lives. Our mental health is more crucial than we give it credit for. It is easy to go through life and feel like everything is running smoothly, but if you don’t address the underlying mental health concerns, you could be setting yourself up for failure. There’s an intimate connection between our mental state and our work, relationships, money, health, and even success. And this article seeks to enlighten you on how mental health affects all aspects of our lives.
First, let’s take a moment to look at how things have changed over time. Our world has evolved in the last century, but with the good has come the bad. While the conveniences we enjoy today are second to none, our lives have also become increasingly more complicated. Society is fast-paced, and as a result, people have become prone to different mental health issues. You don’t have to look far to see that a lot of us have issues with our mental state. It could be because of the high demands at work, relationships that drain us, the never-ending pursuit of financial stability, or the fear of failing in life. The problem is that most of us ignore the signs and symptoms that we may have a mental health condition, leading to mood swings and poor behavior.
Work: Mental health affects work performance. Depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues can negatively affect job performance, causing absenteeism, decreased productivity, and decreased work quality. Furthermore, chronic work stress can worsen mental health, leading to burnout and emotional exhaustion.
Relationships: Good mental health improves communication and reduces conflicts in relationships. Conversely, mental health problems can affect interpersonal relationships, leading to strained relationships and social isolation. Depression and anxiety, in particular, can affect a person’s social life and limit their interactions with friends and family.
Money: Mental health can have a significant impact on a person’s finances. Mental health problems can cause a decline in work performance, leading to lost income.
Moreover, mental health conditions such as addiction can lead to financial ruin due to excessive spending.
Health: Mental health problems can affect physical health, and vice versa. For instance, poor mental health can lead to poor eating habits and lack of physical exercise, which can result in poor physical health outcomes. Additionally, physical health conditions such as chronic pain can worsen mental health, leading to a cycle of negative physical and mental health outcomes.
Success: Mental health affects the ability to achieve goals. Negative thought patterns, low self-esteem, and anxiety can affect motivation, leading to a lack of goal achievement. In contrast, positive mental health can improve self-confidence and encourage goal-setting.
So we learn, mental health is integral to our daily lives and impacts various areas such as work, relationships, money, health, and success. However, the lack of understanding and stigma surrounding mental health still needs to be addressed. It is crucial to prioritize mental health and seek professional help when needed. Remember, mental health is just as important as physical health. Think about it 😁🦋
Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
Childhood is a precious time in a person’s life, and the experiences we have during this period can have a significant impact on our future as adults. Unfortunately, not all experiences are positive, and some can be downright traumatic. One of the most significant wounds that a child can experience is that of abandonment. When a child is abandoned by someone they love, whether it be a parent, guardian, or other caregiver, it can be a devastating blow.
Abandonment can happen to anyone, anytime in life, even in adulthood. The trauma of being abandoned is life altering and can have long term effects that are physical and mentally unhealthy.
The experience of being left alone can feel like psychological death, causing intense emotions and an overwhelming feeling of terror. It is not uncommon for this experience to manifest as the borderline personality disorder. This heightened state of arousal that arises due to abandonment is both psychological and physiological, meaning that the experience triggers the fight or flight response in the body. In essence, the body is reacting to the threat of psychological death, and the need to survive kicks in. The core emotion driving this response is rage. For those who have experienced abandonment, the effects can linger long into adulthood. The fear of being abandoned again can be pervasive, leading to a lifelong fear of rejection. It can also lead to an intense desire to control their surroundings and the people around them to avoid being abandoned once again.
However, it’s not all doom and gloom. Those who have experienced abandonment can heal, but it takes work and the help of professionals. Healing involves confronting the root causes of the abandonment wound, understanding and managing emotions and feelings of rage, and developing healthy coping mechanisms for managing fear and anxiety.
Ending with understanding, abandonment is a core wound that can feel like psychological death for children. It triggers intense emotions and a heightened state of arousal, which is both psychological and physiological. The core emotion that arises is rage, and its effects can be felt long into adulthood. With professional help, it is possible to heal and move on from this wound, developing healthy coping mechanisms and moving towards a happier, more fulfilling life.
Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there.. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
I would say “Yes, I practice religion”. In my sense it’s continuing to build my relationship with God. For myself this is a full-time job. Sometimes I often get mad even having a connection to the other world. I never give up on God and my belief. Sometimes I feel impatient, I suppose. Most times when stress levels are high or things seem impossible. But it’s a matter of just letting God and everything happens in his time. With that being said, it’s hard to remember God does things for a reason. When things change God is moving to make a better change. It doesn’t always seems right or fair, but after you think about the situation, then the results make more sense. My days of practice are to understand God’s time and understanding signs from God. The other day, I was beyond stressed I was locking my front door and a small picture of Jesus was on my door step. And my practice keeps him near, even when I’m to overwhelmed to be patient. It’s just God saying, ” I’m right here! I’m with you!
Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
I have always prided myself on being independent and self-sufficient, but sometimes life throws us a curveball that we never see coming. For me, that curveball was my car jumping time, leaving me without transportation. As a DoorDasher, Uber Eats, and Shipt shopper/delivery worker, my income is entirely dependent on having a vehicle to get me from place to place. The irony of my situation is not lost on me. Here I am, someone who loves helping others by delivering food and goods, but now I am in need of assistance myself. It’s been challenging for me to come to terms with this and ask for help, but I have come to realize that sometimes we all need a little support.
As I sit here typing away, I can’t help but feel a sense of vulnerability. It’s not easy to ask for help. In fact, it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. But here I am, in need of assistance, hoping that someone out there will lend me a hand.
It’s a tough situation to be in, especially considering the current state of the world. The pandemic has made things even harder, and finding a job isn’t as easy as it once was. I feel like I’m in a never-ending cycle of despair.
As the days pass, the clouds of depression seem to linger over my home. It’s a dark place to be in, and it’s not a fun one either. I try my best to keep a positive mindset, but it’s becoming increasingly difficult as time goes on. That’s why I’m turning to the community for help. I’ve spent countless hours giving back through my various delivery jobs, and now I’m asking for a helping hand. I need help paying my rent, and I’m hoping that someone out there can assist me. I know that times are tough for everyone, but if you’re in a position to lend a hand, I would greatly appreciate it.
Even the smallest amount can make a big difference. As I sit here, I’m reminded that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of strength. It takes courage to admit when you’re struggling and to reach out for support. So I am reaching out to you, my visitors and readers, to ask for your assistance in helping fund my rent. Any contribution, no matter how small, would be greatly appreciated and would go towards helping me get back on my feet.
Please pay it forward to help others. The smallest gestures can do wonders for those struggling. And to give is blessings that God will return to you for giving to others in need. May your hearts be full of love and the blessings be endless. We shall pray for each other in these struggling times and lift our spirits with love. Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
Are you someone who experiences intense and unstable relationships, coupled with a constant fear of abandonment or rejection? Do you feel like your emotions control your thoughts and behaviors, leading to conflicts with those around you? If yes, then it is possible that you may be dealing with borderline personality disorder (BPD). BPD is a mental health condition that affects approximately 1.6% of adults in the United States, characterized by impulsivity, unstable mood, identity disturbance, and a tendency to engage in chaotic relationships. This often leads to a cycle of emotional abuse that can be detrimental to both the individual with BPD and those close to them. It’s important to remember that you are not alone, and there is help available for those experiencing BPD.
Here are some strategies that can help break free from the cycle of borderline personality and abuse: 1. Seek Professional Help It is crucial to seek professional help from a licensed mental health professional who specializes in treating BPD. Treatment can include therapy, medication, and self-help strategies that can help manage symptoms of BPD and reduce abusive behavior.
2. Join Support Groups Connecting with others who understand what you’re going through can provide you with emotional support and coping strategies to deal with challenging situations. There are many online and in-person support groups that can help you find the support you need.
3. Educate Yourself Learning more about BPD and its effects on you and your relationships can help you gain insight into your own behavior and better understand how to manage your emotions. By educating yourself, you can take more control over your thoughts and behaviors, and prevent abusive situations.
4. Practice Self-Care Self-care activities such as exercise, mindfulness, and spending time in nature can help manage the symptoms of BPD. By taking care of yourself physically and emotionally, you can reduce the stress and emotional reactivity that often contribute to abusive behavior. Breaking the cycle of borderline personality and abuse can be challenging, but it is possible.
By seeking professional help, connecting with support groups, educating yourself, and practicing self-care, you can improve your relationships and your mental health. Remember, you are not defined by your diagnosis, and there is hope for a brighter future.
If walls could talk, the walls of a hundred-year-old farmhouse would tell history.. Built in 1923, solid wood, and the finest material money could buy. A farmhouse structured to settle on many acres surrounding to harvest and farm, a farmhouse foundation to riches of life.
My wood has witnessed so much over the years, including the bustle of family gatherings, the hum of conversations, and the laughter of children playing late into the night. I’ve seen birthdays, holidays, and Sunday afternoons. I remember long summer days when the wind rushed in through the open windows, carrying with it the smell of grass and lilac and honeysuckle. I have witnessed years of changes and watched as people moved away and others took their place.
The walls of this old farmhouse have seen much joy and sorrow over the years. For generations, families have come to gather and live, building memories around the fireside, laughter from the long tables, and the warmth of a hearty meal. But behind the walls, in the spaces between, the stories the walls tell can never truly be told. Perhaps in the rooms and hallways, voices are heard and memories fade in and out of existence, echoing throughout the structure. From newlyweds giggling and enjoying the days of love and naivety to families trying to make sense of tragedy, the walls saw and heard it all. As babies were born and a family started, laughter erupted, along with stories and arguments. Evil hands that covered innocent faces. Not every story would be humored or joyful. The walls carry dark troubled times as well.
Within these walls, church was held, class was taught, bank trading, and deals were done. Hard labor was manual and respect was taught. Values had priority in order to learn wisdom. Walls structured for challenges and hope, peace, and love. Weather would test its structure over time. Someone always came along and fixed me up making proper repairs.
On winter nights, cold and snow seeping in through cracks and gaps, the walls became an intimate theatre, displaying deep conversations between people in love, grappling with hope, heartache and deep questions. From the attic to the barn and beyond, if the walls could talk they’d speak of deep connections and loyalty between neighbors, help that came when least expected and giving when it wasn’t asked. These walls saw sleepless nights, painful memories and special occasions all become memories stored away forever, like so much dust and dirt tucked into every nook and cranny of this family home. The walls are strong, but their secrets still linger. Each generation is added to this story, creating new ones to replace the fading ones of years past. Though time passes and generations come and go, these walls are steadfast in their silence. But if they could talk, what stories would they tell?
The farm house had seen its share of joys and sorrows over the years. If the walls could speak, it would tell the story of families living through a devastating harvest failure. Struggling to make ends meet and make their land last. Late nights filled with sorrow and fear of losing their family’s legacy. But in the same breath, the walls would speak of the immense joy and love felt within these four walls. Through times of great celebration, it saw couples get married, grandchildren playing in the living room, and homemade meals enjoyed with family and friends.
Harvest failures, desperate hopes, tears and sweat, and the pain of the family members all weighed heavily on the old house. One could imagine the strained conversations held by the family members over whether or not they would make it through the season. There were surely times of deep sorrow, as members of the family had to let go of beloved parts of the farm as financial struggles worsened. And as the walls held in the past, they witnessed each successive generation gather together, trying their best to keep the old farm alive, their sweat and efforts creating an invisible bond between the generations, uniting them despite the distances of time. If the walls could talk, surely their voices would be those of perseverance and courage, ringing through the halls of the farmhouse and resounding in the memories of its inhabitants.
The stories would speak of hope and dreams, love and loss, faith and doubt. They would bring joy and pain, laughter and tears. For generations, these walls have held a unique place in this family’s lives, providing strength and shelter. Though the stories within may remain forever unheard, they remain held deep within the structure of this old farmhouse.
One hundred years, 2023 my structure has loosened, and the seeking noise of broken shutters, rattle with the wind. The farm has decreased as family sold to develop. New fancy houses are closing in. Those houses are top of the line, here surround, just an old farmhouse.
I am here, silently absorbing it all, like a repository for the collective memories of generations of families. I can only imagine what the walls of this old farmhouse would say if they could talk. Stories of heartache and happiness, successes and failures, hope and despair. And so I plead with you – don’t let development erase my history. Don’t tear me down. Keep me standing, so that I may continue to be part of this incredible journey. Renovate history with a little love and care.
This old farmhouse has so much history to share. If only the walls could talk? Please let this old farm house stand proud just as the history that lives within these walls.
Sadly, in today’s day and age, my structure may not be long for this world. I stand, empty and forlorn, for a development threatens to tear me down and rob my life of its history and memory. Don’t let it be! I am a testament to a life once lived and a living piece of history that shouldn’t be forgotten. Please save me and remember what I stand for.
*this is my original work, posted on vocal. This was written for a contest challenge. And I’m sharing it here on my blog. -Della Lonaker🦋
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