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As the spread of COVID-19 progresses around the world, it is clear that this crisis is an immense physical health threat, as well as an equally daunting mental health challenge. In order to best understand the effect of this pandemic on our economy, it is crucial to grasp the psychological and emotional implications it carries.
The current global economy has a profound effect on everyone, regardless of background or resources. The very psychology of how we think about money has shifted in recent years. People are worried about surviving, whether they have enough money to live off of and whether or not their finances will last. The fear of having faded dollars and not being able to maintain a quality of life has left many individuals and families feeling unsure of their future. It is important that we take proactive steps to learn life skills to better manage our resources and build a strong financial foundation.
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Fear has invaded our daily lives
Fear and uncertainty are major components of the current economy. The public’s widespread anxiety and concern over the virus can significantly harm consumer confidence. This is demonstrated through people’s tendencies to avoid public places and travel, thus leading to a drop in spending. Likewise, the feeling of uneasiness and worry regarding the markets have also taken a toll, affecting investing, borrowing, and other economic activities. But there are also deeper, long-term effects caused by the pandemic. We can observe financial pressure and loss of jobs, along with a widening of the income gap and heightened digital surveillance. When all of this is taken into account, it is understandable to feel overwhelmed by this magnitude of change and powerless against it. Despite the fact that humans naturally prefer to seek out immediate rewards and outcomes, this pandemic requires that we tackle the complexity of the economy and acknowledge our emotional and nostalgic tendencies. The path towards economic resilience post-pandemic lies in creative solutions and collective action. By studying and examining the psychological implications of this virus, we can gain greater empathy and develop a better approach to our economic system. By understanding the impacts of this pandemic on our mental wellbeing, we can start to take steps to protect ourselves and our communities, such as saving and investing cautiously, forming healthier financial habits, and taking care of our physical and mental health. By facing the psychological impacts of this virus head-on, we can work towards building a better and more sustainable economy for the future.
Survival Mode
In this ever-changing economic climate, it’s important to remain mindful of the psychology that drives our survival instinct, as well as the economic forces that threaten our sense of security. With news of fading dollars, job losses, and unemployment at all-time highs, it’s understandable to feel anxious and worried. However, we must remember that knowledge and education can be our saving grace in times of distress. That being said, having the right life skills can also be a huge help. When dealing with fear and anxiety, take some time to look into ways to manage and understand your finances. A basic understanding of budgeting and credit score can help build a secure foundation to support you in times of trouble. Learning to recognize and distinguish between different financial products like stocks and bonds, and understanding how investing works can help you make sound financial decisions. Knowing how to read market signals, and being prepared to respond quickly to potential risks can be critical. Avoid overspending, while trying to stock up on essential items. Learn to grow a garden, use coupons, valve the fungal concept, use resources that are available, and help others who are unable to help themselves.
Money management is key when dealing with financial challenges. Being able to distinguish between a need and a want is the first step in budgeting and being mindful of our spending. Start tracking where your money is going each month, create a budget that reflects your spending and make sure to create an emergency fund in case something happens and you find yourself without resources.
Wisdom is investing in yourself
Investing in yourself by continuing to acquire knowledge and develop the skills that you need in times of uncertainty is key. Staying connected to other professionals, engaging with online communities and platforms that provide reliable resources can provide valuable insight on how to best respond to economic stressors. Finally, and most importantly, taking steps to maintain and develop your mental health is crucial. Reach out to loved ones, spend time in nature, take deep breaths, meditate and use other tools to support you.
Times can be tough, and these tips and tricks might seem daunting, but learning the skills to manage these financial worries is paramount in preparing for a better future. Keep your eye on the horizon and find comfort in the knowledge that life, and finances, are constantly changing and evolving.
Finally at the end of the day, know your not alone. These psychological effects have us all unsure of the economy. Not only is it scary, it is mentally effecting our ability to focus. Now is the time to plan ahead. Make small changes to secure your future. There is no promise for tomorrow. However, being more aware of the resources available to you, can bring clarity to the days ahead. Focus on positive strength, practice mindfulness, and the psychological results will follow.
Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
Do you have cash in pocket, on hand at this moment? Has your monies, turned into a ‘real” digital wallet? Every purchase we make are digital in terms of debit or credit cards. Have you ever balanced a checkbook? The times has changed our view on money management. Each day we let the concept of money slip through our hands, as the paper exchange has faded do to digital currency transactions. The current economy is far from the prosperity we enjoyed only a decade ago. As wages stagnate, prices go up and job security has never been more tenuous, people are desperately trying to keep up with their expenses. However, plastic debit cards have long taken precedence over paper money as the main means of transaction, as a way of seemingly having greater control over our finances.
Yet what happens when our accounts are maxed out? The time-honored tradition of paying in cash may have seemed to lose its value, but paper money can still serve an important purpose in a struggling economy. The old-fashioned paper trail that comes with a cash purchase helps ensure financial stability and gives the user a greater sense of control.
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Here are 5 ways you can help appreciate and recognize the value of paper money.
1. Prioritize and Budget – Being mindful of how much money you spend is essential in times of hardship, so establishing a budget is key. Give yourself an allowance in cash each month and use it to pay for essentials such as groceries, bills and other unavoidable expenses. By using paper money you will be more aware of what you’re spending, as you can visually track how much you have left to spend each month.
2. Use Cash When Possible – Despite its convenience, the use of debit or credit cards for small purchases can really add up. Small items can really accumulate and blow a hole in your budget. To avoid being over-indulgent and potentially plunging into debt, opt to use paper money as much as possible.
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3. Save It Up – Collect spare change and use it to accumulate paper money. Keep a jar or a special piggy bank at home, and each time you get change or some paper money, put it in. This can be a great way of encouraging saving and not letting any money slip through the cracks.
4. Shop with Care – Be conscious of what you buy. Before heading out, do some research to find the best deals or check out second hand stores for potential savings. Being thrifty in how you shop can save you both money and the stress of worrying about being unable to pay for the things you want.
5. Pay It Forward – Even small amounts of paper money can make a big difference to those who are most in need. A simple act of generosity such as donating spare change or giving to a charity is the ultimate recognition of the importance of paper money. Although cash may seem antiquated, its value and necessity still holds true in a struggling economy.
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Paper money may have been forgotten in favor of digital spending, but acknowledging its value and appreciating its power is important. To save, as well as help others, can be life-changing. In order for the US dollar to bounce back, we must practice cash in hand. The power of paper money will always be knowledge gained. Paper money exchange is an intelligently life skill that is no longer taught in our digital world. Why not start today? It’s just that simple to – Hand it over. That transaction will impact your next purchase, and the next purchase, and the practice is rewarding. – it’s reality behind the exchange that triggers our senses. Just something powerful that It feels good to have physical money. Share your thoughts on what it feels like to have physical paper money in hand. Is your financial value in “real time” or in “digital dollars”? Has the digital wallet impacted your financial mental health?
Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
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Are we born with mental health issues? In this blog post, I’d like to explore the potential root cause of mental health and deive into whether mental health issues are truly inborn or are a product of the environment in which we are born. The human body is a complex combination of many different organs and components working together in harmony. In addition to this, the human brain and nervous system have the incredible capacity to process a multitude of sensory inputs, creating unique and varied experiences. The delicate balance between our physical, psychological, and emotional needs can cause a significant disruption if any of these aspects are neglected or off balance. Interested in learning how this inheritance and environment of mental health is determined? Look no further..
Mental health is one such condition which is determined by a complex mix of biological, environmental, and psychological factors. The question we must ask ourselves is, how much of this delicate balance can we be born with? Are there certain inherited factors which contribute to mental health issues?
Example born with mental health :
Depression and anxiety can be difficult to manage for anyone, but for those of us who have been inborn with mental health issues such as these, life can be an even greater challenge. Living with a mood disorder like depression or an anxiety disorder can be an incredibly difficult thing to experience and it’s important for us to find ways to cope and build resilience to these mental health issues. Depression and anxiety during teenage years, at times can make one feel helpless and overwhelmed. It can be tough to handle day to day tasks while also feeling down and anxious. I learned early on to recognize the warning signs and understand when it was time to ask for help or to make changes to help manage my mental health. One of the most helpful things I did to manage my depression and anxiety was to become aware of my triggers and recognize when they were happening. I made sure to prioritize rest and self-care and tried to build a routine that I stuck to. It also helped to create positive outlets for my thoughts, such as writing and journaling. When we’re inborn with mental health issues, it can be hard to accept them and ask for help, but we all deserve support and kindness, and it’s important that we don’t feel ashamed or scared to reach out and seek the help we need. Together, we can work on building resilience and a healthy coping plan.
Example of environmental mental health:
Our mental health is a delicate thing and can be affected by numerous factors in our environment. This could include anything from personal experiences to our physical environment, and even the natural environment around us. While many of these environmental factors can have positive impacts on our mental health, there are a few that can have negative effects, such as depression and anxiety. When it comes to depression, some environmental factors to be aware of include long-term unemployment, exposure to trauma or abuse, living in a place of conflict, living in a socially isolated environment, and financial stress. For those suffering from anxiety, environmental triggers may include exposure to a traumatic event, exposure to loud noises or overcrowding, chronic stress due to high expectations, changes in environment such as relocation, and living in an area of high pollution. Fortunately, with the right strategies in place, we can lessen the impacts of these environmental factors on our mental health. That could include reaching out to a mental health professional to work through experiences, seeking out more social support and connection with family and friends, creating a balanced and healthy lifestyle, and managing your exposure to negative influences in the environment. It’s important to be mindful of how our environment is impacting us and our mental health, and take the necessary steps to minimize negative environmental triggers when we can. Everyone’s journey to mental wellness is unique, but together, we can help each other create healthy and supportive environments to promote better mental health.
The truth is that the exact answer to this question is unclear, but research does suggest that some biological and genetic elements may play a role in mental health. For example, some mental health issues such as bipolar disorder and depression can appear to run in families, suggesting a certain level of inherited factors. Similarly, the environment we are born in can have a significant influence on our mental well-being. Growing up in a challenging and/or traumatic environment can affect our mental health in profound and long-lasting ways. All in all, while some aspects of mental health may be determined by inherited factors, environmental factors still play an incredibly important role in developing mental health. Therefore, in answer to the original question posed, the truth is that we are not born with mental health issues. However, it is a complex balance of inherited and environmental factors that can contribute to our mental well-being. Therefore, it is essentials that we are aware of these issues, and learn to protect ourselves, so that we can work towards a better understanding of mental health and maintain balance in our lives.
It’s important to be mindful of how our environment is impacting us and our mental health, and take the necessary steps to minimize negative environmental triggers when we can. Everyone’s journey to mental wellness is unique, but together, we can help each other create healthy and supportive environments to promote better mental health.
Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
Has anyone told you, how important your mental health is today? My friends, your mind matters everyday, all day – for your own self awareness and those around you. Here we are 2023, mental health is no laughing or joking matter.
It’s no secret that our mental health plays a crucial role in determining our overall quality of life. We may have the best job, be surrounded by amazing family and friends, and have plenty of hobbies to stay entertained – but without mental well-being, the good times won’t be nearly as enjoyable. That’s why I am here to offer some essential tips for unlocking your mind and creating the happiest life possible. Are you ready to unlock the happiness you been waiting for? If so, read more to get started today..
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Your mental health should always be a top priority. Self-care activities such as meditation, journaling, taking baths, and going on walks, will do wonders for your mind. This allows you to practice positive self-talk and focus on building healthy habits that nurture your mental health. Every day, take time for yourself to relax and reflect on your day. Make it a goal to set aside at least fifteen minutes for self-care activities. Spend this time allowing your body and mind to relax. Take this time to focus on positive thoughts, gratitude, and good self-talk. You can also use this time to identify unhealthy habits that may be causing your stress and develop new, healthier habits. Self-care is essential for managing mental health, and setting aside dedicated time to focus on it will make you stronger.
Eliminate Toxic Relationships
Surround yourself with people who encourage, motivate, and bring out the best in you. Let go of anyone who only adds negativity or chaos to your life. Being able to do this takes courage and strength, but ultimately it can be freeing and liberating. It can be hard to step away from people in your life that don’t make you feel good about yourself or help you become a better person, but sometimes it’s necessary for personal growth. Surrounding yourself with people who believe in you and can motivate you to become your best self; can help you accomplish great things. Ditch those negative people who only bring chaos and negativity and embrace those who help lift you up. The freedom you feel from no longer being weighed down by toxic relationships will help make your journey to self-fulfillment that much easier.
Practice Gratitude
When you start focusing on the positive aspects of your life, it shifts your attention away from stress, worry, and unhappiness. Every morning, take the time to write down a few things that you’re grateful for and end the day doing the same. Every morning, wake up with a sense of purpose and the determination to make the most of the day. To get the day started right, focus your energy on being thankful and recognizing the things that your grateful for. Today, I’m grateful for the cozy bed that allowed me to have a good night’s sleep, the opportunity to have a job that pays the bills, the love and support from my family and friends, the time I get to spend enjoying nature and life, and the strength I find within myself to be my best. Having the understanding of being kind to others and acknowledge difference.. Writing down these positive thoughts and reflecting on them at the end of the day allows me to appreciate all the good in my life and reminds me to stay positive, despite whatever challenges I may be facing. Each day incorporating positive gratitude in your day will offer enrichment in no time. Gratitude can be contiguous, when you welcome the positive energy. Well that flow of energy radiates more positive.
Do Something that Inspires You
We all have something that lights a spark in us and encourages our creativity. For some people, it’s drawing or writing, for others, it’s playing music or woodworking. Doing something that fuels your passion can have a profound effect on your mental health and happiness.
I just love sitting down to write a story or even create something beautiful with crafts. Writing has always been my go-to for a creative outlet, it helps me express my feelings, express myself in ways I couldn’t in other situations. There’s something therapeutic about having your words form something tangible. When it comes to crafting I always try to create something that looks professional and the best thing is, it doesn’t always have to be a specific outcome, you can let the creativity lead you in whatever direction you want to go. Taking the time to craft or write lets me forget all of my worries and enjoy the process of creating something that I’m passionate about. Doing something that inspires me always fills my soul with joy and creativity, so no matter what, it’s important to take the time to do what makes you feel fulfilled.
Show Compassion for Yourself and Others
This doesn’t just mean showing others kindness, but learning how to be compassionate towards yourself as well. When you do something wrong, be forgiving, patient, and understanding. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. understand that the greatest form of compassion is that which we give to ourselves. We can easily be our own biggest critics, which is why it’s so important to be forgiving, understanding and kind to ourselves when we make mistakes. We are not perfect and no matter how hard we try, it’s almost inevitable that at some point in our lives, we will fail or slip up in some way. This is part of the beauty and complexity of life – we have the ability to grow, learn and become better people by recognizing our errors and allowing ourselves the opportunity to pick ourselves up and try again. In addition, learning to extend that same kindness and compassion to others is a great way to enrich your own life. Compassion for other people allows us to form deeper and more meaningful connections with those around us, which can make all the difference in our everyday lives. This doesn’t necessarily mean to turn a blind eye when someone else is in the wrong, but rather, be compassionate in how we communicate and be willing to listen and learn. Being compassionate towards ourselves and others can have a profoundly positive impact on our lives. We should always be mindful of the way we think, act and speak and try to apply a sense of kindness and understanding in our daily lives. By showing ourselves and others compassion and forgiveness, we are giving ourselves the opportunity to form meaningful relationships, practice self-care and create more harmony in our lives. Understanding the power of kindness and its ability to impact the way we interact with ourselves and with those around us can go a long way in improving our overall mental, physical, and spiritual well-being.
Focus on one or two of these tips, applying them daily and don’t be hard on yourself. Practice these as often as you like, before you know it it becomes part of who you are.
What are you waiting for? Start applying these five tips to your daily life and your on your way to happiness. It’s such a wonderful journey creating a life of happiness and mental well-being. All you need to do is prioritize your self-care, be aware of toxic relationships, practice gratitude, engage in activities that inspire you, and show compassion to yourself and others. If you take these things seriously, the results will speak for themselves.
Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
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“Five Tips to Unlock Your Mind and Reach Your Highest Potential”
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Having an open mind is essential to being your best self. Acknowledging your thoughts, motivations, and desires can give you clarity on your goals and pave the way to personal growth and a more fulfilling life. We all face hardships, and having a strong, healthy mindset is crucial to getting through those tough times. Your inner voice can often be your truest source of guidance, especially in those challenging moments. Listening to your instincts and inner truth can be the path that leads to happiness and peace. One way to tap into your internal wisdom is to practice mindfulness, which can give you greater self-awareness and perspective. Learning to understand yourself more deeply will help you develop a strong inner strength that can support you during any tough situations that arise. Not only is it important to have an open mind, but also to teach others to cultivate an open mind as well. With mental health becoming increasingly more important in our lives, it’s essential to recognize our own worth and promote an attitude of self-love and positivity to help those around us. Understanding that each day can bring a fresh opportunity to learn, to grow, and to love ourselves will empower us to seek out opportunities to become the best versions of ourselves.
No matter what life throws your way, understanding how to tap into the power of your mind can make the world of difference in the pursuit of a happy and successful life. Learning how to open your mind and harness the power of your inner strength can be a rewarding journey of self-discovery.
1. Connect With Your True Thoughts & Motives:
* You need to take the time to get in tune with your own thought process. Reflecting on your current emotions and understanding your personal values can be helpful in achieving personal growth. Don’t let any outside opinions or judgments cloud your truth. If it’s hard for you to see your true character ask a good friend to offer opinion and insight. Sometimes we don’t see the reflection unless we are told by someone close to us. Don’t get offended if your friend tell you the truth. It’s a time for growth and awareness. You will be glad to develop from within knowing who your are being for your self-.awareness.
2. Overcome Adversity:
** There will always be ups and downs, but you can use those moments as learning experiences to fuel future endeavors. Believe in yourself and never be afraid to confront the adversities of life. Be true to your goals and intentions. The rewards will show in reflection of your mental health and well-being.
3. Appreciate Your Worth:
*** Every day, take time to celebrate and appreciate yourself and your inner power. Practicing self-love is the key to discovering your worth and how much your mind can offer to the world.
4. Learn from Others:
**** Sometimes our minds are too limited to achieve certain goals. Take the time to listen and learn from those who may be going through similar situations. Empower others by providing words of wisdom and support, so they too can start their own journey to reaching their potential. 5. Be Mindful of Your Health:
***** To access the power of your mind, your physical and mental health must be at their peak. Don’t be afraid to take a break when you feel mentally drained. Exercise, nutrition and proper rest will be the ultimate keys to success. Through practice, and by keeping these tips in mind, you’ll be able to unlock the hidden power of your mind and create a happier and more meaningful life. Good luck!
We can open our minds and hearts to positive thoughts, accept guidance from within, and choose our attitudes in the face of any situation. Taking care of our mental health by paying attention to our thoughts and cultivating a mindset of compassion, self-acceptance, and open-mindedness can help us live a life of gratitude, resilience, and contentment. Your value is important to growth and development, make your mental health a priority.
Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
Oh the ride through life. . . And my fortune cookie (3/16/2023) reads:
🦋🍀💞💖 (This should always be your mindset- overcome the battle win in life, being your best inspiration to others). In the positive way, overcome negative energy, with a smile, walk away and come back, in your positive resolve to win). Positive feels amazing). .🍀💞💖🦋
This is true to my character. As in My Story My Version: The Ride, the Drive, and in Park, this is my viewpoint to the world (Life) we use as our roadmap, (gps if you will.)..
The Ride
The Ride, sit in the passenger seat and as you ride through life, taking in the scenery. We are collecting all the information along the way. It’s peaceful and educational, it’s the beating and the praise that life offers us. For learning, experience, and the knowledge that makes us fail or successful. Sometimes the ride isn’t enough, so we must push for a driver to teach, guide and help us gain insight. It’s a privilege to ride, it’s a honor to ride, but our driver must influence life skills to help us not hurt us. Meaning reach good intentions and steer us from bad habits/tendencies. (You get it!) We gathering tools to make good life decisions, we explore and experience the pain, tears, and bruttle truth. We share love, joy, happiness, and compassion. The experience that guides us in life, emotional, mental, and physical awareness tools. Without these experiences we are limited to our personal growth. Development to be your best self is incomplete. Our developmental growth should never stop unless medically determined. Knowledge is a continual need to live. Just as we need water to live, something’s we can not live without.. I know everyday I’m searching for knowledge (our personal storage of wisdom) 😁 to breath and live life. The Ride is our blessing to be understanding, knowledgeable, and awareness of being good people by nature. Take in the scenery, learn and educate yourself every chance you get. It’s best if practiced daily💞 make it routine, it increases your value to life. 🦋
The Drive
The Drive is the tools applied to our life. What we are doing? Where we are going? How we are doing? And Why we are doing? It’s the purpose of who we are. The tools are used to get us through this roadmap of life. And hopefully the gps takes us to paradise one day. The fact is your belief on your terms. Mine is the Road to paradise to meet my God and praise the glory of his eternal life he has made for me or (us). Our drive is the motivation that determines our abilities to live life to it’s full potential. Be kind, be helpful, be creative, be dedicated, be honest, be hard-working, be the best you can be here on earth. What you didn’t accomplish today, tomorrow will determine your eligibility to continue your ride, drive, and park. It’s not promised, but your legacy is being documented. Your drive is here for others to remember, leave your mark with positive writing, energy, and time. Remember we are crowded here on earth, our legacy can be replaced very quickly. Think about that? Kind of a scary thought, that I did nothing with my time on earth. “Forgotten is invisible to the world” – I believe I matter more than those words. I want to help others see and be the happiness that our God foresee’s. In hopes that happiness is within my soul, shit, pain is the least need or want in my path. If all possible I will detour the road with positive energy embracing the experiences as needed to grow and learn. To enable and produce negative in my life is blocked for construction if all possible. To avoid negative, a road closure will help me fix the problem with understanding and knowledge so the road can reopen with a positive outcome. Don’t you believe you have value to life here on earth? You matter, your time is important. Fix the negative with positive energy. One thing I use as needed, when a negative energy is presented. Example: a negative person, to use kindness is a reflection of my character. If someone feels a certain negative way, that’s their inner character. To embrace positive is not in their ride, the scenery has influenced that ride. I can’t ride with them. But at the moment I can drive the positive to them. If they catch that knowledge with the experience. Then the ride can change the scenery. And hopefully when in park, the influence changed the ride. It’s the ride you choose. I can offer the ride and the park to educate your drive. But I can’t drive that route of negative. Sorry, my road trip has a detour for that ride. Just think about your road trip, it’s your choice to influence the trip. Are you gassing up for a remarkable drive to leave a positive impression..? I know, I’m trying my best 😁🦋
In Park
And finally in Park. . . We are at our thinking and our reflection in our minds and body. Actions, behavior, words, awareness, understanding and mindset We reflect how we are presented. How was your day? Was it a lazy day? That’s okay! In Park is the position in life that reflects our needs, desires, and drive. Thoughts push us in time to drive our purpose. Was it a busy productive day? The physical beating on your body but the feeling of accomplishment? How impressive, great job! No matter what your day presented, your reflection is a stepping stone. A stepping stone that represents you. What your drive determines is what, where, how, and why are life’s drive of understanding, knowledge and purpose. In park is the time to see, feel, and express cultivate your inner drive. You are checking the maintenance of your mind, body, and soul purpose. The- What’s next? What can I do to make my life positive, more for filling to my own being?
What is true happiness? All those questions are answered in Park. Our true being is found, determined, and that is Life’s happiness. Happiness is an awesome feeling. Happiness is healthy. Happiness and Love is the ride, drive and in park – purpose to Life and guide/direction to paradise. Love and let Love!!
As I have share the meaning of human life – purpose. The Ride, Drive and in Park, we can take one promise away from this blog post. A promise of learning, learning to be your best person. First for yourself to be happy- and we all know happiness feels wonderful. Second, is for others, inspire and influence positive energy. If your unsure where to start, I have a blog post for that.. ( will update soon with a link to help improve positive energy). But let me warn you it’s contagious😁 and final… .. 🍀💖
Finally, you don’t have to impress anyone. The trip is yours to enjoy and be blessed. You have to impress your final appraiser. And that judgement day is your will. Your belief and your final destination. Now, with that being said, like I said before, if paradise is my final destination – I’m going to enjoy this road trip with positive energy in hopes to have a big smile on my face when I reach – PARADISE🍀💖🦋
Life is full of the good, bad and ugly. As I know we all had the blessings of love,peace, and happiness- those negative influences have put us through “HELL”! 🍀The battle may be fierce but so is your resolve to win.🍀 My battle has made me stronger, wiser, and aware of who I am. With that being said, I worked to damn hard to go to “Hell” and burn all my valuable work! 💞💖 So I be damned, if I’m giving in to give my hard work, determination, and happiness to the Devil. Not today, Satan👹 – Resolve to win 💕💖🦋
Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Much love and many blessings. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋
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At 5 am, many of us might be peacefully sleeping in our beds, unaware of the struggles and fears of those living in an abusive relationship. This story will explore of one such individual who felt such a painful deviation. Anxiety began filling the vessels of every nerve throughout her body. Tears surfaced from deep clenched pain that had no mercy. Once the whiskey evil words of hatred and violence were near – chilling pain and tension surfaced, Rooted fear without camouflage. Knowing those words would turn into punches – Coming from the person who was supposed to love and protect her. Read more about power of fear and the courage it takes to break free and survive.
Meeting the abuser The first time I ever encountered my abuser was an unforgettable experience. It was a cold December day, we both worked for the same company. I had just finished up my work for the day. I turned around to find a dark handsome stranger smiling at me. He introduced himself and told me he had been watching me for a while and wanted to get to know me better. I was charmed by his good looks and charisma, so I agreed to meet him after work the following day. Little did I know, this seemingly charming man would soon turn into my worst nightmare. When we met the next day, he seemed kind and caring. He was attentive, nice, and funny.. In no time the weekends were spent together, out of town visits, and my heart held a special place for him. Somewhere in a hidden spot in my stomach, I felt unsure, love played the tune. When the song was in tune, it had a beat that was great. On occasion the tune was unsettling from time to time.
Time played its course with all the sweet, kind gestures he offered. My heart wasn’t new to love but he just knew those walks in the park were heartfelt.
– As we soon decided to move in together after 3 years of living apart. In my heart, I didn’t feel the “want to” but my heart cared too much to say “no”. I had known of a woman he dealt with, the details were only told by her. Our conversations were meaningful, yet my heart wore special glasses. Not knowing the truth or getting his story I didn’t question him further. The ups and downs were because of cheating and lying that began to cultivate from his past. Needless to say, in a sick way I seen the reality soon after we meet. It seemed like I wore special glasses that blocked so much, I couldn’t see the truth. However my mind was right on point with whatever was taking place. A guard seemingly was around my heart. It had no hurt or tears as the days continued to pass.
Life seemed good and our needs were filled, the bills paid, and our want for nothing was balanced. Simple life seemed to be good for the most part.
Nice cars, nice home, friends, family nothing was off or questionable. One day after work, outside talking with my neighbor, greeting him after his work day – a not so pleasant eye. Immediately, he stated “I am in the house”. I laughed it off and continued conversation with my neighbor. After awhile, I went into the house, a very hard hit, blow to the face. My heart shattered like a perfect glass to unrepairable pieces of a broken heart. Lost for words, numb, confused, hurt was far from the impact left. That burning feeling on my face had no reality to what happens inside my soul.
The days when love gave your soul the jitters, a beautiful wave that same call “love”. The smile that covers your face and the giggle and laughter that explodes to be released, a silly thing “some call love”. The moment you kiss and your body wants more, a spontaneous gift some call “love”. Days and nights had the beautiful waves of what “some call love”. That what some call “love”, takes time to build and create. One blow to the face – destroyed that what some call love – just two seconds. Those two seconds “can not”, I repeat “can not” give back that jittery wave of what some call love feeling – again. That blow to the face stung for a moment, confusing every word, thought, or intention for awhile. Nothing was the same, the wounds were deep and the patches were cheap. You can’t repair a cheap thought, action, or words, when trust has a high value. Every word was processed differently, analyzing every moment, every step. The hit didn’t hurt, what hurt was I didn’t understand. Everything about me, I fine combed in 3 days. Soul searching to why? The wound was gapped to deep to stitch. Everything changed that day and many days to come, a zombie that died and crawled through life. A mind that heard no beauty to life, nothing made sense at all. We were not okay in my eyes, he seemed I had a problem. And 4 years in – time, time, time. That played in my mind over and over.
However, it soon became apparent that this man had an evil side. As he became more comfortable with me, his true colors started to show. He would become angry and controlling whenever I disagreed with him or didn’t do what he wanted. At first, the abuse was verbal. He would call me names and belittle me. But it soon escalated into the physical abuse. He would grab me by the arm, hit me or push me against the wall. The fear of not knowing what he would do next left me feeling helpless and trapped in an abusive relationship. I eventually mustered up the courage to leave him, but I always went back. Learning to adjust is difficult, trying to grasp the emotions and mental pain. The physical abuse is painful at the moment. However the emotional and mental turmoil is permanent. But the emotional scars remain and the memory still haunts me. No one deserves to be treated like that, especially not from their significant other. Sometimes you have to give yourself permission to let go of those who hurt you. One thing is for sure though: I will never let anyone take control of me again. I am living proof that there is life after abuse and pain.
The early signs of abuse We’ve all heard the stories about abusive relationships, but for many of us, it’s hard to spot the early signs. It’s easy to think that these types of relationships only happen in movies or to people we don’t know, but in reality, it can happen to anyone. In the story above, the early signs of an abusive relationship were present. The first sign was the fear created by the whiskey-fueled words. These words are often used to manipulate and control a partner, which can lead to a cycle of fear and hurt in the relationship. The second sign was the hand reaching out to grab the arm. This type of physical aggression is a clear warning sign of an abusive relationship. It can be a sign of dominance, control, and intimidation. It’s important to remember that abuse doesn’t always begin this way. It often starts with small things, like criticism or yelling. Over time, these behaviors can become more extreme and dangerous. If you see signs of an abusive relationship in yourself or someone you care about, it’s important to reach out for help. Support from family and friends, as well as professional resources, can be invaluable in helping someone get out of an abusive relationship. It’s also important to seek support if you’re unsure whether your partner is abusive. According to research, there are several questions that may indicate whether a person may have an abusive personality:
1) Does your partner criticize you?
2) Is your partner possessive?
3) Does your partner yell at you?
4) Does your partner force intimacy without consent?
5) Does your partner threaten violence against you or others?
6) Does your partner use drugs or alcohol to keep you under control?
7) Has your partner ever hit, kicked, choked, bite, shoved, pinned down, burned or threatened any pets while they were angry at them? These are clear indication someone may have aggressive behavior.
No matter how many apologies are said, they are not real. These are just words of pitty to keep you from leaving. You build a defense that is anger from the hurt of deception, lying, cheating and self destruction. You feel embarrassed by letting this happen for so long. You feel stuck and sadly you stay. It’s a horrible cycle that cycles more abuse in time. When you think it would get better, it’s hell to pay to try to leave. It gets much worse, than it had been before. A vicious cycle where trying to survive is unpredictable. It becomes a known feeling it’s time to leave. It’s only something you know for yourself.
The breaking point It had been months, those months became years, since the whispers of his anger had begun. At first, it seemed like something I could ignore, a feeling of unease that was brushed off as nothing more than a passing emotion. But as the days turned into weeks, and the weeks into months, and years, it became clear that this wasn’t just some passing feeling—it was something far more sinister. The outbursts had grown in intensity, turning into full-blown tantrums filled with screams, shouts, and threats. It was like living in an emotional minefield, never knowing when I might set off an explosion. And then, on that fateful morning at 5:14am, the breaking point was reached.
His hand had reached out and grabbed my throat, and for the first time, I felt completely powerless. The terror I felt in that moment was something I will never forget. All of my senses were heightened, and all I wanted was for it to end. But as his whiskey-soaked breath spewed out more vile words, I knew that there was no going back. This was the moment when I realized that I had to get out of this abusive relationship. In the days that followed, I made the difficult decision to leave. Despite the heartache and pain that came with it, I knew that it was the only way to free myself from this dark situation. Looking back now, it’s hard to believe that I allowed myself to be trapped in such an abusive environment for so long. But thankfully, I have been able to move forward and heal from this traumatic experience.
Today, I am still thriving to find a healthy relationship with someone who respects me and treats me well. Where there is no longer any fear or anxiety surrounding what he might say or do next; instead, be able to talk through our problems together and find solutions that work for us both. Someone who will help me to reclaim my independence and build up my self-esteem again after years of being told how worthless I am. Even though you’re well aware of the words falsely tossed in the air. No matter how strong you are, those words still affect you in time.
When you are stuck in an abusive relationship, it can feel like you are walking on eggshells every day, never knowing when you might trigger your partner’s rage again. Just know that you don’t need to put up with abuse anymore–there are plenty of resources available that can help you take control of your life again!
Every day she thought about leaving but found herself constantly battling an inner voice that was too scared to move forward. As much as she wanted to escape, she was petrified of facing life alone, so she stayed locked in a perpetual cycle of suffering. The inner demon is a battle itself. I want to be free but my heart speaks a different language. Staying is a cycle that can’t be explained. You’re in a situation that you know is wrong, you know it’s horrible and a powerful mind game that keeps you there. It’s something you can’t express or explain.
That is my home too. It’s a painful way knowing it’s not a choice. It’s a mind game…. To be continued
Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Much love and many blessings. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋
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