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The Monologue of the Inner Voice: Who Is Listening?

We have all heard of the voice in our heads that speaks to us – we often refer to this voice as the crazy voice or that of a psycho. In different ways we can refer to the monologue voice. This inner voice actually has a name and purpose. So what is the inner monologue voice and why do we hear it? The inner monologue is our subconscious talking to us and giving us messages about ourselves and the world around us. This is often seen as a way of connecting to our deeper consciousness and giving us insight into ourselves. It helps us to form opinions and gives us insight into our emotions and feelings. Do all people have the monologue voice in their heads? Not necessarily – some people don’t necessarily have this inner dialogue. The reason why some don’t hear it, could be because they have blocked it out, either consciously or unconsciously, due to trauma or painful experiences. It can be said that this inner monologue is an important part of self-awareness and understanding who we are as people. By allowing ourselves to be more open and connected to this inner dialogue, we can get to know ourselves better and make better decisions about our life choices.

Guidance – just listen

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So next time you find yourself caught in the endless thoughts of your mind, take some time to pay attention and really listen to what your inner monologue has to say. It can help you discover a greater knowledge and understanding of yourself.

Have you ever had an inner voice that suddenly comments on something you are thinking or doing? Many people believe that this voice is the product of being a “crazy person,” but what if there is more to this inner dialogue? This monologue of the inner voice is, in essence, our own self-awareness. We may not all have the same thoughts that race through our head, but they all ultimately come from a part of our psyche that recognizes who we are. This inner voice is how we observe and reflect on our lives and our decisions. But why do some people have an inner monologue that is so active and vibrant while others appear to have little to none? Is it psychological or something else entirely? It could be a mixture of factors. Our brains can be complex and varied, which means our thoughts and perceptions can differ widely from one another. People with certain mental illnesses, such as anxiety and depression, may have heightened inner monologues. Others may have a slower inner monologue or none at all, possibly due to a more balanced psychological makeup. There is also a direct connection between the inner voice and our psychology.

Our inner monologue has the ability to both construct and tear down our thought process. If we focus on positive things, then our inner monologue will reflect that in how we view the world around us. Conversely, if we think negatively, then the inner voice will start to give us self-destructive thoughts. The inner monologue is a powerful tool for understanding who we are and our relationship to our inner self. Learning to take control of it and managing it is a huge step forward in terms of emotional and mental health. Learning how to quiet our inner voice and focusing on more positive aspects can be life-changing, both in how we think and how we interact with the world around us. Understanding our inner voice and learning how to listen to it can give us the insight and understanding of ourselves that is essential in living our best life. So take a few moments to listen and see what your inner monologue has to tell you.

My inner monologue can often feel overwhelming. On one hand, it is the voice of my intuition, guiding me in my choices. But on the other hand, it is like a running commentary that doesn’t ever turn off. The volume and intensity of the monologue depends on the psychological and emotional makeup of the individual. Some have very vivid, active inner monologues, while others may have less. But in both cases, this inner voice can be incredibly informative, providing insight into our thought processes, our lives, and ourselves. The inner monologue also can shape our thoughts and emotions in a profound way. Our thought patterns, behavior, and attitude all develop as a direct result of this ongoing dialogue between our inner self and our conscious thoughts. Negative thought patterns can cause us to believe untrue things about ourselves and fuel negative thinking, while positive thinking can keep our mind in a healthy and constructive state. This is why managing and learning how to control our inner voice is an essential step in cultivating good mental and emotional health. The voice of our inner self should not be ignored, but should be listened to and respected. There is power and strength in recognizing our inner thoughts, and taking steps to quiet the monologue, if only for a few moments. Doing this allows us to observe, reflect, and think on our lives with a clear and balanced head. It is when we take time to listen to our inner monologue, without judgement, that we gain insight into who we truly are, and we open ourselves to the possibility of understanding ourselves and our place in the world in a deeper way. Being capable of endless possibilities we can only gain positive results if we are fully invested to our inner voice. Are you listening? It’s okay it’s your inner voice… It’s not crazy, it real guidance, right there always.

Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there.. Many blessings and much love.. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💕🦋

Remember, When?

Mental Health
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It’s not easy aging, how often do you forget little common things? As we age, many things cross our minds regarding health, finances, and what the future will be. It’s normal to be scared as we age. It can actually get very scary when your mind slowly to progressively declines. Left in a world that changed so quickly, due to faded memory. Not remembering recent events, or people you spent a lifetime with, you become aggressive because it’s a deep concern. In this post, we will look more into the mind. If you’d like to understand the memory loss, then read more.

One of the most devastating mental concern I’d have to say would be dementia. Dementia is an umbrella term for various degenerative brain diseases that cause progressive deterioration of a person’s memory and cognitive abilities. While it is typically associated with older adults, it can affect people of any age. As the disease progresses, individuals may experience difficulty recognizing family members and friends, misplace things, and struggle to keep up with daily activities such as bathing and cooking. Unfortunately, it can also lead to emotional changes such as irritability, aggression, anxiety, and depression. The cognitive decline associated with dementia can be especially hard on loved ones, who must cope with watching someone they care about forget who they are. Your loved one needs to know they are safe and will be taken care of.

In these cases, it is important to keep engaging with the individual and not become overwhelmed with their struggles. Role-play can be a beneficial activity for strengthening the connection between people with dementia and their family members, particularly if the individual no longer knows who the family members are. It can be heartfelt when a loved one calls you by another name. Just take a deep breath and enjoy the bonding, let your loved one engage in activity that may help remember time. This can involve participating in everyday activities such as shopping, baking, and telling stories together. Through role-play, family members can help create positive, meaningful experiences for their loved ones, no matter their stage of dementia. As hard as it is, dementia does not discriminate. One thing that’s hard to accept is the mind is so powerful and dementia – wins overtime.

If they could only remember, when? Or who? Or why? These questions can leave a loved one confused often to even being disoriented. Dementia progresses differently with each individual, in varies ways. Interaction is important to help slow the stages of dementia. As dementia stages progress many changes take place.

Dementia can also cause individuals to become irritable and mean, and this behavior can be a source of stress and confusion for those who know and care about the person. When it is necessary, it can be helpful to gently redirect them towards other activities to reduce the agitation, while providing support and reassurance.

Additionally, it is important to recognize that dementia can affect people in many different ways and the challenges it poses can vary significantly between individuals. Finding ways to keep communicating and creating new memories with your loved one is one of the best ways to deal with these challenges.

Cognitive decline can cause dementia by reducing the overall efficiency and ability of the brain to process and store information. This may include short-term memory issues, difficulty making decisions, difficulty speaking and understanding, difficulty with activities of daily living, difficulty in understanding and interpreting language, and difficulty recognizing people or things. Over time, this can lead to changes in behavior and further mental health issues, and may eventually lead to dementia. Living with dementia can be difficult, both for the person affected and for their family and friends. As such, it is important for everyone involved to be supportive and to create an environment in which the person can receive help and support. With early diagnosis and proper treatment, the progression of dementia can often be slowed down and managed.

Have you ever wondered if there’s a cure for dementia? It’s an incredibly sad and complex illness, with no single cause or solution. However, advances in the field of psychology have brought us one step closer to unlocking the mystery of dementia. There’s no one-size-fits-all cure for dementia, as every case is different. That’s why psychologists are focusing on tailored treatments that aim to improve the quality of life for those living with the condition. From environmental stimulation and lifestyle changes to medications and cognitive training, a holistic approach to treatment is often recommended. For example, research has found that ‘talking therapies’ such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be helpful in addressing behavioral problems caused by dementia. CBT aims to provide cognitive, behavioral, and emotional guidance to individuals with dementia in order to help them adjust to their condition and live as happily as possible. On a physical level, medications such as cholinesterase inhibitors are being used to help boost levels of neurotransmitters in the brain, aiding in cognitive functions.

Let’s take a dementia can be an extremely challenging condition for sufferers and their loved ones. However, thanks to psychological research and advances in treatment, we can be hopeful for a better understanding of dementia in the future. We still don’t know if a cure for dementia exists, but with more research, we can take steps towards a better quality of life for those affected by it. With modern research and medicine, maybe in the near future a cure is found.

Until then, when our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

5 a.m. – The Story of the Abusive Relationship

My Story My Madness

Physical pain vs. emotional or mental pain – it’s abuse
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At 5 am, many of us might be peacefully sleeping in our beds, unaware of the struggles and fears of those living in an abusive relationship. This story will explore of one such individual who felt such a painful deviation. Anxiety began filling the vessels of every nerve throughout her body. Tears surfaced from deep clenched pain that had no mercy. Once the whiskey evil words of hatred and violence were near – chilling pain and tension surfaced, Rooted fear without camouflage. Knowing those words would turn into punches – Coming from the person who was supposed to love and protect her. Read more about power of fear and the courage it takes to break free and survive.

Meeting the abuser
The first time I ever encountered my abuser was an unforgettable experience. It was a cold December day, we both worked for the same company. I had just finished up my work for the day. I turned around to find a dark handsome stranger smiling at me.
He introduced himself and told me he had been watching me for a while and wanted to get to know me better. I was charmed by his good looks and charisma, so I agreed to meet him after work the following day.
Little did I know, this seemingly charming man would soon turn into my worst nightmare.
When we met the next day, he seemed kind and caring. He was attentive, nice, and funny.. In no time the weekends were spent together, out of town visits, and my heart held a special place for him. Somewhere in a hidden spot in my stomach, I felt unsure, love played the tune. When the song was in tune, it had a beat that was great. On occasion the tune was unsettling from time to time.

Time played its course with all the sweet, kind gestures he offered. My heart wasn’t new to love but he just knew those walks in the park were heartfelt.

– As we soon decided to move in together after 3 years of living apart. In my heart, I didn’t feel the “want to” but my heart cared too much to say “no”. I had known of a woman he dealt with, the details were only told by her. Our conversations were meaningful, yet my heart wore special glasses. Not knowing the truth or getting his story I didn’t question him further. The ups and downs were because of cheating and lying that began to cultivate from his past. Needless to say, in a sick way I seen the reality soon after we meet. It seemed like I wore special glasses that blocked so much, I couldn’t see the truth. However my mind was right on point with whatever was taking place. A guard seemingly was around my heart. It had no hurt or tears as the days continued to pass.

Life seemed good and our needs were filled, the bills paid, and our want for nothing was balanced. Simple life seemed to be good for the most part.

Nice cars, nice home, friends, family nothing was off or questionable. One day after work, outside talking with my neighbor, greeting him after his work day – a not so pleasant eye. Immediately, he stated “I am in the house”. I laughed it off and continued conversation with my neighbor. After awhile, I went into the house, a very hard hit, blow to the face. My heart shattered like a perfect glass to unrepairable pieces of a broken heart. Lost for words, numb, confused, hurt was far from the impact left. That burning feeling on my face had no reality to what happens inside my soul.

The days when love gave your soul the jitters, a beautiful wave that same call “love”. The smile that covers your face and the giggle and laughter that explodes to be released, a silly thing “some call love”. The moment you kiss and your body wants more, a spontaneous gift some call “love”. Days and nights had the beautiful waves of what “some call love”. That what some call “love”, takes time to build and create. One blow to the face – destroyed that what some call love – just two seconds. Those two seconds “can not”, I repeat “can not” give back that jittery wave of what some call love feeling – again. That blow to the face stung for a moment, confusing every word, thought, or intention for awhile. Nothing was the same, the wounds were deep and the patches were cheap. You can’t repair a cheap thought, action, or words, when trust has a high value. Every word was processed differently, analyzing every moment, every step. The hit didn’t hurt, what hurt was I didn’t understand. Everything about me, I fine combed in 3 days. Soul searching to why? The wound was gapped to deep to stitch. Everything changed that day and many days to come, a zombie that died and crawled through life. A mind that heard no beauty to life, nothing made sense at all. We were not okay in my eyes, he seemed I had a problem. And 4 years in – time, time, time. That played in my mind over and over.

However, it soon became apparent that this man had an evil side. As he became more comfortable with me, his true colors started to show. He would become angry and controlling whenever I disagreed with him or didn’t do what he wanted.
At first, the abuse was verbal. He would call me names and belittle me. But it soon escalated into the physical abuse. He would grab me by the arm, hit me or push me against the wall. The fear of not knowing what he would do next left me feeling helpless and trapped in an abusive relationship.
I eventually mustered up the courage to leave him, but I always went back. Learning to adjust is difficult, trying to grasp the emotions and mental pain. The physical abuse is painful at the moment. However the emotional and mental turmoil is permanent. But the emotional scars remain and the memory still haunts me. No one deserves to be treated like that, especially not from their significant other. Sometimes you have to give yourself permission to let go of those who hurt you. One thing is for sure though: I will never let anyone take control of me again. I am living proof that there is life after abuse and pain.

The early signs of abuse
We’ve all heard the stories about abusive relationships, but for many of us, it’s hard to spot the early signs. It’s easy to think that these types of relationships only happen in movies or to people we don’t know, but in reality, it can happen to anyone.
In the story above, the early signs of an abusive relationship were present. The first sign was the fear created by the whiskey-fueled words. These words are often used to manipulate and control a partner, which can lead to a cycle of fear and hurt in the relationship.
The second sign was the hand reaching out to grab the arm. This type of physical aggression is a clear warning sign of an abusive relationship. It can be a sign of dominance, control, and intimidation.
It’s important to remember that abuse doesn’t always begin this way. It often starts with small things, like criticism or yelling. Over time, these behaviors can become more extreme and dangerous. If you see signs of an abusive relationship in yourself or someone you care about, it’s important to reach out for help. Support from family and friends, as well as professional resources, can be invaluable in helping someone get out of an abusive relationship. It’s also important to seek support if you’re unsure whether your partner is abusive. According to research, there are several questions that may indicate whether a person may have an abusive personality:

1) Does your partner criticize you?

2) Is your partner possessive?

3) Does your partner yell at you?

4) Does your partner force intimacy without consent?

5) Does your partner threaten violence against you or others?

6) Does your partner use drugs or alcohol to keep you under control?

7) Has your partner ever hit, kicked, choked, bite, shoved, pinned down, burned or threatened any pets while they were angry at them? These are clear indication someone may have aggressive behavior.

No matter how many apologies are said, they are not real. These are just words of pitty to keep you from leaving. You build a defense that is anger from the hurt of deception, lying, cheating and self destruction. You feel embarrassed by letting this happen for so long. You feel stuck and sadly you stay. It’s a horrible cycle that cycles more abuse in time. When you think it would get better, it’s hell to pay to try to leave. It gets much worse, than it had been before. A vicious cycle where trying to survive is unpredictable. It becomes a known feeling it’s time to leave. It’s only something you know for yourself.

The breaking point
It had been months, those months became years, since the whispers of his anger had begun. At first, it seemed like something I could ignore, a feeling of unease that was brushed off as nothing more than a passing emotion. But as the days turned into weeks, and the weeks into months, and years, it became clear that this wasn’t just some passing feeling—it was something far more sinister.
The outbursts had grown in intensity, turning into full-blown tantrums filled with screams, shouts, and threats. It was like living in an emotional minefield, never knowing when I might set off an explosion. And then, on that fateful morning at 5:14am, the breaking point was reached.

His hand had reached out and grabbed my throat, and for the first time, I felt completely powerless. The terror I felt in that moment was something I will never forget. All of my senses were heightened, and all I wanted was for it to end. But as his whiskey-soaked breath spewed out more vile words, I knew that there was no going back. This was the moment when I realized that I had to get out of this abusive relationship.
In the days that followed, I made the difficult decision to leave. Despite the heartache and pain that came with it, I knew that it was the only way to free myself from this dark situation. Looking back now, it’s hard to believe that I allowed myself to be trapped in such an abusive environment for so long. But thankfully, I have been able to move forward and heal from this traumatic experience.

Today, I am still thriving to find a healthy relationship with someone who respects me and treats me well. Where there is no longer any fear or anxiety surrounding what he might say or do next; instead, be able to talk through our problems together and find solutions that work for us both. Someone who will help me to reclaim my independence and build up my self-esteem again after years of being told how worthless I am. Even though you’re well aware of the words falsely tossed in the air. No matter how strong you are, those words still affect you in time.

When you are stuck in an abusive relationship, it can feel like you are walking on eggshells every day, never knowing when you might trigger your partner’s rage again. Just know that you don’t need to put up with abuse anymore–there are plenty of resources available that can help you take control of your life again!

Every day she thought about leaving but found herself constantly battling an inner voice that was too scared to move forward. As much as she wanted to escape, she was petrified of facing life alone, so she stayed locked in a perpetual cycle of suffering. The inner demon is a battle itself. I want to be free but my heart speaks a different language. Staying is a cycle that can’t be explained. You’re in a situation that you know is wrong, you know it’s horrible and a powerful mind game that keeps you there. It’s something you can’t express or explain.

That is my home too. It’s a painful way knowing it’s not a choice. It’s a mind game…. To be continued

Until our beautiful minds meet again be safe out there. Much love and many blessings. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋

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Twisted, Tilted, and Tested

Balancing: Body and Mind – Army of One

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2023 is a tumultuous year, where the world is still operating on an unbalanced and unsteady axel. This analogy applies to our own lives as well – with so many responsibilities weighing us down, we can find ourselves off-kilter and struggling to regain balance. It’s our duty to get back up on our feet again no matter how often life knocks us down. The idea of falling down and getting back up again may seem cliché but it’s a necessary step in life’s journey. Standing back up to balance can be crippling depending on the situation to overcome.

As we struggle with work, relationships, family, and other everyday tasks. We must remind ourselves that there will always be times of great stress when we have no choice; but to fall down in order to move forward. Each of us is responsible for ourselves – for finding stability in a world that seems constantly chaotic. There are no guarantees in life, so when we inevitably fall, it’s important that we stand up and look for the next path forward without fear or hesitation. We should focus on growing from our struggles rather than simply giving into despair or pessimism. This is the only way we can continue building towards a better future where balance can truly be found once more. We all want the same thing – a world that turns in the proper direction without wear and tear from being burdened by such heavy loads. Until then, however, each of us has to strive towards this vision through taking small steps while never letting failure discourage us from believing in better days ahead.

Life is still filled with obstacles and hardships. Our paths have often become twisted and tilted, leading us in unexpected directions that we never thought possible. While it can be discouraging at times, it’s also essential to learn how to overcome these struggles as it teaches us to build resilience and fortitude within ourselves. Despite our obstacles, one of the things we strive for is a world that turns in a proper direction and provides a platform for everyone to succeed. This can be difficult because of the amount of wear and tear that comes with carrying such a heavy load but this only pushes us forward and helps us learn to navigate our way through unfamiliar territory. It requires hard work, dedication, commitment and above all else, determination. Though the journey ahead can seem intimidating, remember you are never alone. We all face challenging circumstances from time to time and if we stumble or get thrown off balance there is always an opportunity to fall down and start again. Whether it’s dealing with loss or finding new ways of moving forward, building a world where we are allowed to grow on our own two feet should be our primary focus in order to create a more equitable future for generations to come.

It’s a difficult and lonely journey at times, to go through life feeling unbalanced, weak and uncertain. You may have faced tragedy or struggle, like so many of us, that leaves you feeling completely drained and with little hope for the future. But it is possible to find balance, strength and courage even in those difficult moments when everything seems lost. All it takes is taking one step at a time, just one finger on the ledge. Though you may feel overwhelmed by pain and exhaustion, there is still a deep-seated strength inside you that can push you forward – even if it doesn’t seem like it in the moment. That inner voice, telling you “you got this” is the most important thing to listen to. That little whisper from within is the only friend who will always be there for you – no matter what happens in life. So listen to it! Use it as your guiding light whenever times are tough and darkness descends around you. Your mind is powerful beyond measure and will see you through whatever comes your way.

The power of life lies in the feet – two for balance and one for each body and mind. During hard times our faith is tested, we may lose hope, or feel that we are standing on the edge of disaster. But instead of letting fear take control, focus on what’s next: grip that ledge and climb up bit by bit, even when every fiber of your body screams in pain. Life edges may be sharp with deep rugged roads but inside us lives a strength so great it can help us make it through any challenge.

This inner strength has its own voice which tells us “you got this!” A reminder that we can push forward even when it feels impossible. This friend within us helps us conquer the obstacles in our way, gives us courage, fire and fearlessness – the perfect companion to see us through the toughest situations. A dedicated cheerleader that lifts us up and pushes us to our limits. So when life gets tough, remember to look within yourself for answers as your mind will always be there to save you.

*in my previous post, I discuss the importance of becoming your own best friend. That relates to keeping the body and mind balanced throughout Life.. You can check out that link here: 🗄An Army of One – Learning To Be Your Own Best friend

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

Learn, Life and Love

What have you learned in your life about love?

I believe before one can love, they must understand the value of learning, quality of life, and know what love is.

(1)- (An ability to Learn) Learning is an emotional tag, that allows the brain to understand and process information. One must acknowledge and comprehend hard work. How to: problem solve, have compassion, listen, and value human nature. Educate the mind regularly to face and overcome life challenges.

(2)- (Life skills) To experience life’s challenges and have life skills is part of managing self concepts. Understand the quality of life and those around you. Life skills offer dedication, motivation, and purpose to one’s life. Emotional intelligence, support, psychological and interpersonal abilities.

(3)- (Love) Self-concept to understand yourself and acknowledge what love is. Self respect, value, appreciation, help others, kindness, happiness.

I’ve learned that love requires a lot of work and effort from both parties in order to succeed. It’s important to remember that even though love is hard, it is also one of the most rewarding things in life and worth fighting for. Ultimately, love should be based on mutual understanding, respect, and compassion.

To love unconditionally, a person has to learn by experiencing the nurturing, bonding, trust, compassion, and empathy. Love is an action that’s formed by intimate emotional bonding. Love is not just a feeling; it’s an emotional bond that grows and deepens through shared vulnerability and support. It doesn’t just happen on its own – we have to nurture it and build it over time with intentional actions. When we put effort into creating loving relationships, they can become more intimate, secure, and fulfilling over time. It takes time to love and be committed to love.

Most importantly, love can take years to love unconditionally. And just seconds to destroy. Once love is shattered, no amount of work can restore it. Be careful of your words, your actions, and behavior as it can affect physical, mental and emotional health.

Love is something so powerful and indescribable that we may often mistakenly think of it as a feeling. While feelings certainly play a role, love is ultimately about the intimate bond that two people build together through mutual vulnerability and support. Rather than just expecting to feel love, we must work to build it by taking actions that show how much we care for our partner. We can show our commitment to the relationship in ways such as being supportive, honest, attentive, and kind. Over time, these small gestures will become habitual and create an unbreakable bond between two people that cannot be expressed with words. This bond is what true love really is– an emotional connection that has been formed over time through meaningful actions of kindness and support. Love isn’t something you can expect to happen overnight; rather, it’s something you must nurture with patience and care if you want it to last forever.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

Co-parenting : Balance Developing Minds

Set me up for success, don’t be cool and let me fail.

Children want and need the real you
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Co-parenting is becoming more and more popular, especially among divorced parents. While there are some positive aspects to it, such as providing children with a sense of security by having both parents in their lives, there are also some challenges that come with co-parenting. One of the biggest issues is striking the right balance between discipline and unconditional love.

When it comes to co-parenting, it can be a difficult situation for children to deal with. There are conflicting opinions on what is right and wrong, especially when one parent may take the ‘discipline’ role while the other may be more lenient or affectionate – it can be hard to create an equitable balance between the two that best serves the child’s mental health.

It’s essential that both parents strive to be fair when it comes to disciplining their children, despite having different ways of teaching and expressing love for them. When parents can come together in agreement about the kind of values they want their children to learn, it will provide much-needed consistency in how those values are presented and reinforced. Additionally, being willing to talk about each parent’s individual style of parenting openly and honestly can go a long way in finding a healthy middle ground for everyone involved.

Creating regular communication between both parents also helps build trust which can lead to better problem-solving abilities when dealing with complex parenting issues. This communication should also include opportunities for collaboration where both parents can talk through any differences they may have when it comes to raising their children. Establishing clear boundaries is another important step as this will give all family members some clarity around expectations while minimizing potential conflicts down the line.

Finding balance in co-parenting is not easy but having an open dialogue between all parties involved is a great place to start. Once all parents are willing to listen and compromise with one another, it becomes much easier to come up with strategies that serve both parents’ goals while also allowing their children to develop and grow in a healthy environment that encourages understanding and empathy towards others.

The good news is that it’s possible to work together as parents and develop a fair approach to discipline, no matter what your differences might be. Here are some tips for creating a successful co-parenting plan:

1) Set consistent expectations: Setting clear rules with consistent expectations gives children security, especially when two households are involved. It can also prevent disagreements between parents about how to handle certain situations. Make sure both households adhere to the same standards when it comes to bedtimes, meal times, chores and other rules that your children need to follow.

2) Create positive reinforcement: No matter what household they’re in, reward positive behaviour whenever possible. Focus on encouragement rather than punishments so that your child feels valued and has an incentive to continue making healthy choices. Encouraging positive behaviour helps them build confidence and teaches them that their efforts are appreciated by both of their parents.

3) Communicate effectively: As co-parents it’s essential to have regular communication in order to make sure you’re both on the same page when it comes to raising your child/ren. Make sure both parents understand each other’s expectations and listen carefully if there are any differences in opinion – find ways of resolving conflicts peacefully and respectfully, keeping your children’s best interests at heart.

4) Be flexible: Try not to be too rigid with rules – recognise that circumstances change, including kids needs at different ages and stages in their lives. Remain open minded so you can adjust quickly if something isn’t working or compromise if necessary so that everyone is happy with the outcome of each situation.

These four tips should help create a balanced approach for co-parenting – encouraging respect, fairness and understanding while providing consistency across both households. All these elements are essential in order for children to grow up feeling secure and well supported by both their parents – which ultimately benefits everyone involved!

Finally, parents should practice active communication and cooperation – rather than engaging in passive-aggressive conflict or trying to one-up each other in front of their children – which will help foster a respectful relationship between them and create an atmosphere of mutual understanding in each household.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋


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The last window

The world was a barren wasteland, a product of its own destruction. The Earth had been wracked by years of wars and natural disasters, leaving it little more than a barren rock with hardly any living creatures. The few humans who had survived had been forced to adapt in whatever ways they could, often having to resort to violence in order to survive.

Last window

Raj was one of these survivors. He’d grown up in the wastelands, barely making it day-to-day with only the sparse supplies that he scavenged from the remains of civilization. But he was lucky – he had stumbled across a relic of times gone by – an old window that still shone brightly when the sun hit it just right. The realm is being fond of such history from mass destruction that took place. Civilization crumbled and the government resources were punishment for the survivors. The window played that role of security strengthened hope and life forward. When no strength for a future was possible the last window, gave hope.

For Raj, this window served as more than just something to gaze at during his rare moments of reprieve – it served as a reminder that not everything in life was doom and gloom. He would sit for hours watching the sun dance off the glass, creating vibrant shapes and patterns in its light. It felt like he could almost make out faces and landscapes in its brightness. To him, this window represented hope, even if he was too far removed from anything good to ever truly experience it. A fairly new creation that shaped life as Raj would know it. In dust filled air, a wind of swirling dust quietly posed a form of life.

Then one day something miraculous happened – outside the window there was movement! A group of people emerged from behind some rocks on the horizon – their clothing worn and their expressions tired but alive nonetheless! For a moment Raj simply couldn’t believe what he was seeing but then joy surged through his veins like a jolt of electricity as his mind accepted that humanity wasn’t doomed after all!

He quickly rushed down from his spot on the mountain side and raced toward the small gathering below. His heart pounded harder and harder as he approached until finally he stopped directly before them and made his announcement: “I’ve found the last window!” In great surprise and chuckles heard in the crowd, ‘last window?”

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋


What is? Why does it matter?

Landing is easy, staying focused is tough.

Have you ever thought about your personal story? Could your story or experience help others? Writing is a form of self-help. We never realize but in some cases, if we listen to our inner being we can help ourselves through challenges. If you’re ready to take your life in a new direction, let’s talk! Your experience and story can open a new found you. Just by creating a direction to help others.

Sharing stuff that matters

Writing is a great way to share your knowledge with the world, your story with the world, and your experience with others. You can also use Writing to share your knowledge about something that matters to you—like how to improve your health, find love!, Or rebuild a lawn mower. Endless topics,it’s your knowledge to share with others.

Gratitude – Prayer of “Thank you”

Gratitude is the key to happiness, success, health and everything.

Gratitude is a daily practice. The more you practice gratitude, the more it will become your default mode of thinking and behavior.

One step at a time – self-motivation.

The first step is to accept that you need help. This may seem like an obvious statement, but there are plenty of people who refuse to admit it and instead push themselves into a corner where they can’t escape. Don’t make this mistake!

Once you’ve accepted the fact that your life might not be as easy as it seems at first glance (and sometimes even later), consider taking some time off from your goal if necessary. If nothing else works then try giving up on one part of the task every few days until something else clicks into place and all problems disappear!

Emotions are real, I feel that.

Emotions are real, I feel that.

Emotions are a part of the human experience, and it’s important to acknowledge and understand them. Feelings are just feelings; they’re not always negative or positive—they just exist as a part of who we are. It can be difficult for people to deal with their emotions in an effective way, but it’s worth learning how to do so because there are many benefits from doing so:

On one hand, if you learn how to manage your own emotions effectively then you’ll be able to better handle stressful situations while also being able to feel confident moving forward in life

Self-talk is real, I speak it.

Self-talk is real. It’s the way we talk to ourselves, and it can be positive or negative.

When you’re feeling down, telling yourself that everything will be okay might help you get through the day. When you’re feeling happy about something, telling yourself that nothing is going to go wrong can keep your mind at ease until it’s time for bed (or work). In other words: self-talk helps us achieve our goals by helping us focus on what we want and letting go of what we don’t need anymore—and since we’ve already been talking about how important this skill is for achieving success in life, let’s continue!

Worry is real, I worry because its my story if i make it so.

Worry is real and it can be a useful tool if you use it correctly, but it’s not the only method for motivating yourself. In fact, worrying about things that haven’t happened yet can actually cause you to feel worse than if you hadn’t worried at all!

Instead of worrying about what might happen in the future, focus on taking action today instead. How? By setting goals and tasks for yourself that will help take control over your life by making simple changes like reducing sugar intake or finding time for exercise every day (or at least trying). Making slow progress is the first step. The rest generally falls in place if you continue to move forward.

By focusing on positive actions rather than pessimistic thoughts, I’ve found myself feeling more confident with my decisions because they were made consciously—and those decisions have been easier because we’re seeing results right away!

Section; Self-Belief is my gift. I believe in me and so do others.

Self-belief is a gift.

I believe in me and so do others.

Believe in your ability to solve problems, help others and earn success for yourself. It’s a gift that you give yourself by believing in yourself.

Why do I write? Because we are here to help someone else – solve their problems with theirs!

I write because it makes me feel good.

Writing helps me to express myself, and that is what we all need in life. We have so much to learn from each other and from our experiences, so why not share them?

I know that this is a lot of information and it’s hard to keep all this stuff in your head at once, but don’t worry! If you follow this advice, we will help you with everything. Writing is about taking action and doing things that matter. So just start one step at a time. You will get there sooner than you think!

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

Where Every thought is processed


Personal Quotes By – Della

“Fear triggers Wisdom, connecting knowledge to life” – Della Lonaker🦋

“Without experience, Life shows no Emotion”. – Della Lonaker 🦋

“Life has a way to bruise us up, those scars are being barefooted along the way” – Della L.🦋

“Love is hard, Love is deep, Love is universal- hot glue; without it we crumble”. – Della L.🦋

“Fly once – enjoy the view, Fly twice you repeat the ride, and third time you’re ready for a new route. To Fly one must have different scenery to live Life”. -Della L🦋

“To cry is cleansing the soul, to hold back tears, – backing up emotions, don’t spoil a good heart.”. -Della L.🦋

“If you run fast enough, you miss the most important part – stop and pace yourself – not everyone gets to run again tomorrow “. – Della L.🦋

“Life has two features play or stop – pause and rewind are not options.” – Della L. 🦋

“Play fair and carefully, Life’s sudden twisted changes, determines who comes out to play tomorrow”. -Della L. 🦋

“The mind is like a butterfly, wondering from flower to flower. A gust of wind can change direction, as a damaged wing, can delay the journey. And the power of the mind can speed up recovery.”. – Della L🦋