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👐 My Story My Version: Touched by an Angel 👐

Gift of an Angel
Touch of An Angel

May of 1987, celebrating the first birthday of my cousin. Laughter and voices filled the air, splashes of pool water throughout the day; memories made. As the day grew old, darkness was closing in. My uncle and brother headed to the car to retrieve hanging lights to continue the celebration. Unable to go, hiding by the garbage cans, I waited. Watching as they crossed the street, then slowly followed to the edge of the street. In a distance my eyes locked on to a red and white Coke-Cola sign. Hung from a local Pub or Bar. One step in the street—.

An old blue station wagon struck me in the right side. That moment everything went dark. Complete darkness when a soft swift felt under my body. A bright white light covered my eye lids, as tranquility flowed through my body. In the darkness of the moment, a soft voice whispered in my ear. Unable to understand the words, calming music or instruments was heard. Opening my eyes to a pure bright white light. The ray of beauty of an Angel that held me in her presence. A moment of tranquility filled my body, no pain, sadness or tears. My eyes fixed on the angel who glowed with peace and love.

What then seemed to be a real moment of watching as a car hit my body. Tossed in slow motion, a blue head band flung in the air. The sound of screeching echoed in the air, from the tires braking to dodge the child in view. Instantly my body flew in the air like a sling shot. Roughly 15 ft. as a solid dropped childs body bounced off the windshield. A final roll of what appeared as a rag doll, smacked the hood of the car. Only to tumble in a final hard drop, ending with the pavement. The rolling of a blue head band was heard as it spun to a complete stop. As a witness ran to the body of the young child. Appeared laying lifeless in the street. Nearby, the childs uncle and brother also had witnessed the accident. As a crowd gathered round, the passenger door of the car opened, when a gun fell in the street. The two occupants of the car had just shot and buried a family dog. Commotion got loud, realizing the two men had been in-laws to the family.

  • (I want to make this side note ) – I believe the impact caused the unconsciousness.  If this was a dream or if I died it would be confusing. With no open gashes, wounds, scratches, head trauma or injury noticeable.  It confusing as the next two paragraphs are blurred.  I have struggled for years to write the meaning and detail – theres no right words or structure. Able to witness and experience at the same time.  Here goes..)*

** the presence of a beautiful angel. As we watched the accident play on a big screen – real-life. Nothing at the moment felt pain or sadness. I couldn’t hear talking or feel anything as the ambulance arrived. )**

During the experience, shadows I could see many people the seemed very busy. If they were people, they would appear in a distance not noticing me. I don’t remember any noise of like production work or any chaos. Instrument sounds played softly and a voice of a man was heard, “the time come, exact form will flow like a river – a gift”.  Waiting to see a face or person, neither revealed. I could only remember those words clearly. Yet never able to hear the clear words the angel had whispered in my ear. Those words were of a man, aren’t 100% since never seeing a face. Even though the voice was calm and clear, to me was a mans voice. Those words I didn’t understand. “The time come, exact form will flow like a river – a gift”.

The ambulance arrived, taking me to the nearby hospital. Every moment the beautiful angel held me in her arms. Watching life in real time, I could hear soft glamorous sound of music. A music that was soothing peaceful, happy, and complete joy. To feel the tranquility to amazing to be real. Time to time my angel would whisper in my ear. The voice so clear and stable never explained what was happening. Thankful for the presence, comfort, yet confused to  – Am I dreaming? Reality of where I was in this experience. I could see people that were in real-time. I couldn’t communicate or hear – its confusing to describe the stuck in between moments. I could hear a formilar voice and a hard pull at my ear. Being tossed on to a bed, lights were bright, a woman said, “You remember me”? My oldest brothers mother-in-law. I didn’t get to respond, my little body hurt so bad. Opening my eyes, as I woke up, I began to vomit. The pain was over baring, why did everything hurt? All of a sudden, a lady was jerking at my ear, trying to remove my earrings. Mrs. D, my brothers, mother-in-law took charge. Gently removed both earrings. Preparing me to have a CAT scan. Not feeling well at all, I continued to vomit. Mrs. D gave me a shot, so the vomiting would stop. I must have fallen asleep momentarily, mom and dad was sitting next to my bed. I thought I was going for CAT scan but that was done when I fell asleep. Dad helped me up, and mom walked me to the bathroom. Now a urinalysis test was needed before being discharged. Closing the door in the restroom as I went alone, while mom was talking to Mrs. D outside the door. I felt horrible, weak and tired… I tried so, so hard to urinate. I couldn’t, I wanted to cry. As I sat on the toilet, my (Angel) stood in a smoke fog by the door. She just smiled at me, if she had words to say – nothing was heard or spoken. She was so beautiful and smiled the prettiest smile. I was so happy to see her I started to pee. She waved and disappeared through the door. Had I realized I used the bathroom? Mom open the door and asked if I was okay? I told her I couldn’t go, Mrs. D said “you did go honey”. Not long after releasing and we went to my aunts to stay the night.

Had I been touched by an Angel? Absolutely! Was this an out of body experience and did I go to heaven? I wouldn’t say heaven for sure. However, I did experience a moment out of body. That short time, felt amazing and peacefully heartfelt. Was there a purpose? Of course, it took me quite sometime to adjust. To fully understand the purpose – Trying to understand one day, I asked my mamaw. She read a big book that, was always placed on her coffee table. Reminder as nothing is to be on the book – the “Bible.” Asking her if the invisible man was part of the Bible? “Yes, the good Lord’s work, Jesus”. I tried to explain how when I got hit by the car, an Angel sweep down and saved me. My mamaw told me Angels was around us all the time. Angels help us through situations and work for Jesus. She explained the bible. I was young and didn’t grasp the understanding. I never told anyone, writing was my understanding and awareness to this so called “gift”. Unable to ask questions about the beautiful angel that gifted me. My mind always looked for answers. I had heard about this man Jesus, invisible or a higher power. Mamaw gave me some information but I needed to know more. Some said he made miracles happen. Never had I met him or heard from him. One day after writing in my journal, looking around my room.- no one was there just me. Not knowing how to contact this man, I figured maybe if I just talk to him. – Just maybe this higher power would help me understand. Remind you. I am 9 years old, – The 5th grader and learning a few things. Not really, clueless by all means, to any grown up stuff. So here I am, ready set go. Exact words I had said. Higher power that’s invisible. Crazy how I never forgot this day. Its clear as ever nearly (34 years later). Anyway, Higher power that’s invisible, I got hit by a car and I knew the guys. They are relation to my brother. Well Higher power, this lady very beautiful – my angel lady held me while this dream happened. The dream was real when the car hit me. I started to feel like I was having a real-life conversation with higher power. He was invisible but little by little words or bits and piece of talking I could hear. A kid – higher power I can’t hear you. Almost like a radio with static seemed to be heard, clear words, static, static, then I would feel warm or cold. I would have these visions or pictures in my head, and then like on big screen. Trying to squint my eyes, wanting to see the message, given me. Lord, I’m a kid, can you tell me what “the time come, exact form will flow like a river, mean? Everything went silent, why did he stop talking to me?

Every now and then, if I squinted hard enough I could see the view clearer. The struggle to see got easier and easier. The radio talking had less static more clear voice. That radio had messages that scared me. After a little while I could feel my body temperature change and see unpleasant views. Hearing voices that had negative energy. Those at times weren’t comfortable. I didn’t like those visions of evil – mad people. It was hard to understand.

One day after school, getting off the bus felt like I stumbled. I felt dizzy and very hot. Stopping at mamaws trailer, the front door was cracked, immediately it was hot in there. All stove burners red hot, nothing on the stove. Potato peels on the floor, something was wrong. Mamaw was so confused, I got the stool and turned the burners off, having mamaw sit down. She wasn’t feeling well, she was very hot. Calling mom and dad, dad came up and he said mamaw was trying to cook. Her daughters were coming to visit from Florida. Dad and mom took mamaw to the hospital to have her checked out.

Later that evening, dad, mom, brought mamaw to stay at our house. My aunt – dads sister came to stay also. The doctor said mamaw had, had several mini strokes. The plan was to take her to the family doctor in the morning. My aunt slept in the room with my mamaw, I slept on the couch in the living room. Waking to my aunt and dad talking, dad told me to go back to sleep. They both went into the bedroom. My aunt had mamaws head in her lap. Whipping mamaws head with a wash cloth and talking to her. Mamaw took a drink of gatorade and said “that was good, nice and cold”. Waiting to see, I went closer to the bed as dad stood by the door. My aunt put my hand with mamaws, she said to me “no matter what, I will always be with you as you carry my name”. I started to cry she said “I love you.” Dad came and got me I went into the living room. Mamaw passed, my first experience of death. My uncle and aunt that lived a couple of minutes away came up. Waiting for the corner to arrive, dad called mamaws sisters in Ohio. Aunt Mary answered dad told her about mamaw, she said Georgia (other sister) was sleeping that she was up earlier and didn’t feel well. So she would let her know later after she woke up. An hour later, Aunt Mary called saying she decided to go ahead and wake Georgia. To give the news and she had passed as well in her sleep. Two sisters two hours of passing and not knowing of each others death.

Trying to grasp this so called death – experience was confusing. Then these people brought a stretcher through the house. As I sat on the couch, a few minutes later they took mamaw out in a zipped up bag. My aunt said, I should have not seen that image. Its in my head still to this day. Death is a mysterious moment that stings our mind at times. There are no preparations to death. I had never seen my dad cry – Until that day, mamaw passed. This day had changed my life, in so many ways. That my next post My Story My Version – The Gift will be in-depth to death. How the impact to my life was positive and negative. How the out of body experience possibly prepared me for death experiences.

Look for 🙏My Story My Version – The Gift 🙏 coming soon.. Thank you reading my story and allowing my to share the experience. Until our beautiful minds meet again. Be safe out there, many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter – Della💗🦋

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👁️ My Story My Version – 💫 Finding My Way – Caregiver

Where we land – a Foundation Forms

Oh! What a beautiful world we live in. The creation of humans, an honest act of intimate sexual behavior. The need to look around, isn’t necessary. The sexual act to reproduce is going strong. 😋 Though have you ever just got stumped and wondered- what if lives came with instructions, a blue print to our lives? The mystery to living would be pretty simple, boring, and overall faulty. Yes, I said faulty.😊 Nothing would be realistic to operate and function. Guidelines responsible for behavior, intelligence, growth, appearance would be the same. An most importantly, different is what makes the beautiful characters we have designed ourselves. The moment one takes that first breathe of life, everyday moment matters. By experience, environment, and one’s developmental growth, character begins to form one’s inner core – the foundation. Mental and physical health are priority to ones foundation that give us insight into adulthood.

Our instruction are clear as children that are unconsciously presented young. The core foundation had developed before our actual future was present.

A business – foundation who we are, what one becomes, The core purpose to life. We sell ourselves to the world everyday: the product. -“You”. Once you look back the whole process can be impressive. My foundation My Story My Version – Finding My Way.

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Finding My Way – Caregiver

My business became natural to my routine as a young girl. My neighbors were an older couple, Clyde and Evaline. An older model trailer renovated on my parents property. If they were here to tell the story, they enjoyed my company. Or I would of assumed for the most part.. I can only remember it being late 80’s. It was daily my brother and I would visit Clyde. As he would sit out back with Shep his Collie dog and piddle in his shed. Many things he taught us, or talked about his life. Kids being kids we would eat the cherry tomatoes from his garden. I would go in and talk with Evaline or help her do little chores. A quick friendship formed being that close to them on a regular basis.

One day my brother and I were outside playing, when we heard a loud explosion. Running to see what happend, the shed was on fire. Clyde’s pants were burnt off and he was standing by the shed.. I ran back home and got my uncle. Evaline called the fire department, as my uncle was trying to put out the fire. Clyde was disoriented, the pain on his face was heart felt. Evaline was scared with the shed built next to their mobile home trailer. Clyde explained the cause of the fire. Working on repairing a lawn mower, Clyde was trying to see if the spark plug had fire. A spark hit a gas can nearby causing the explosion. Once fire department arrived my uncle had smothered out most the fire. Clyde was livid as burns on his legs were 3rd degree, refusing to go for treatment. But after long negotiation, he was taken to the hospital. It seemed as he was away a long time for treatment. Once returning home, I would visit helping Evaline to treat the wounds. As a child it was such sight to see the burnt skin. The higher degree burn areas were freshly open wounds. Skin drafts from other areas of the body to aide healing. Wrapping and cleaning the burn wounds was a natural for me. I took pride in my ability to help Clyde in his recovery.

Unconscious act as a child, my learning and willingness – a core foundation – to being a natural born caregiver. Clyde had started to recover quickly, his ambition to get back in the shed was intense. Even with the wounds healing the process took quite sometime.. Evaline had days she seemed very unhappy. The relationship had some arguing regularly and ups and downs.

One day after school, I knocked on the door. Clyde said Evaline had fell hanging curtains. He said when she got home he would call and I could visit. A few days later a van showed up. Delivering a hospital bed, that was put in the living room. I knew Evaline was coming home soon I was very excited. Waiting for her to arrive, that day sitting on the porch. She gave me a hug and I had to know everything, for her best recovery.. That mid-day her daughter told me she fell broke her hip. Evaline did a lot of crying, her pain was very intense. Didn’t realize the medicine just never gave her much relief. She refused pain medicine at first, until. I told her it would help her as much as possible. To get up was impossible, so helping her on a bed pan wa normal but it surely put pain in her hip..

Caregiver become priority each day, after school. Positioning pillows, laundry, or help with other household chores, I was there. Helping her with therapy to mobilize WA fun and rewarding. Watching her take steps and being able to dress herself with little if my assistance. Just as her strength improved, she started using a walker, happiness covered my face.  Her recovery gave me joy since it took a lot of work.  Friendship had a special place deep in the heart. 

One afternoon after school; knocking on the door- no answer. The car was gone but she was always home. Something was different. Mom was outside as I walked down the driveway. Starting to cry, mom hugged me saying she will write or call. She went to live with her daughter in Indiana.  Her husband Clyde wasn’t home. They argued a lot so I didn’t understand that situation.

Unable to say good-bye, my heart broke, thinking my best friend didn’t say good-bye.  Days walking past the trailer, wondering if she thought of me. Being a young girl, I didn’t like the feeling of emotions, a smothering anxiety that just happens or just the sadness overall was uncomfortable. That day carried a weight–; good-bye’s hold so much emotion of love and friendship– bring tears to my eyes.  Clyde had moved away when I was in school, not long after Evaline moved.

Good-byes was hard to understand. We cry happy tears and painful tears connected to good-byes. Reunited visits with family or friends capture the heartfelt love of joy. And we all know the final days of life (death) good-bye’s, can’t be prepared for – create endless tears….

As a young girl, everything inside torn apart. Weak feeling, crying, and angry, wanting to be alone. What had happened? Kids aren’t suppose to be sad.  Every part of me, from the experience, hurt. Waiting for a letter or phone call from my friend. Mom and I had tried a few times, to contact her. The phone number she left– no answer.  Not a single letter in the mail.

To ease the pain, I wrote my friend many letters.  With no response, writing in a journal gave my heart relief. Over time, thinking about her well- being. In my world, I knew she lost my address and number, to me she lived forever somewhere.

A plan was created written in crayon, marker, sealed with stickers and pink nail polish. Written by a brown eyed, brown haired 7-year-old- just in case she forgot about me.

  Everyday Minds Matter – mental health and well-being set the path for everyone. Establish practice to focus, retention, and concentration; healthy habits to prevent obstacles in mental status.  Overcome mental health challenges faced that affect daily routine. 

Writing that filled notebooks, diaries, and scrap paper- focused on my future dream.

In little time, old man Clyde move away. To my surprise my mamaw- (fathers’ mom) moved in the trailer.  The void was filled. Not skipping a beat; my brother and I had mamaw to aggravate.  With no time to waste, enjoying my childhood– documented every step of the way. It was nice to spend time with mamaw. After all I was named after her and my mothers mom. – Della Louise – Mamaw was teaching me to crochet. I was about eight years old, so learning to make a baby blanket was exciting. She was teaching me how to fix mess ups, then one day after school. Knocking on the door as it was slightly open. Suddenly noticing it was very hot in there. Mamaw was in the kitchen, every burner – red hot. Nothing on the burners, which was freighting. Calling mom and dad I told them what was happening. Dad said my aunt and uncle from Florida were coming to visit. Mamaw wanted to cook for them, something wasn’t right . All four stovetop burners on high, potato peelings on the floor, and so hot in there. Dad came up told mamaw that she needed to go o the doctor. That evening my other aunt came to stay the night to help take care of mamaw, since my mom had pneumonia. Doctor visit that day indicated mamaw had several mini strokes. Then she had a stroke on the right side. Which effected the opposite side of the body and motor skills. I still remember she didnt have much or little feeling on her left side. At times she would smile, as her mouth and eye was effected. I was able to help her as much as possible. That night my aunt slept in th room with mamaw as it shared two beds. I slept on the couch an was woken by my dad on the phone talking.

It was about 2 am in the morning, my dad was standing in the doorway were my mamaw slept. I stood beside the dresser, when I seen my aunt seating on the bed with mamaws head on her lap. As she rubbed mamaws head talking to her. Dad told me to stay back, mamaw said let her here. Standing next to her and my aunt. My aunt put my hand with hers. Mamaw said ” no matter what I will always be with you, you carry my name”. She said “I love you.” My aunt was talking to her and when I walked away. She took her last breathe and passed. My dad had called mamaws sisters in Ohio to let her know of mamaw passing. Mary one the sisters answered the phone saying Georgia the other sister had been up but didnt feel well and went back to sleep. They would tell her after while since she hadn’t felt well. Mamaw passed about 3 am. Aunt Mary called back about 5 am – deciding to wake Georgia to let her know of mamaw passing. Only to discover Georgia had died in her sleep. Same day, a couple hours apart and not knowing of each others death.

As the world then had a reason for two sisters to pass the same day. With a higher power to have such occurrence for such to take place. From that day forward life had calling to care and love for those around you. Naturally as I grew older I had cared for others and watched as loved one passed. A moment that set life apart is that life is so precious. Having the blessing to be there every step of the hell of one’s final days. The good, the bad, and pain of loss and endless tears. Those moments are raw footage to living and experiencing life. Experience that root into our core to create the beautiful person we become. And with the finding my way as a caregiver. I can say by experience the days might be challenging. That’s okay! Because when life plays its role and those final days have come and gone. One thing I know for sure, the inner peace to love and grief hurt. But that hurt is a special blessing. That says im content with the experience. As it helps us grow and learn to accept death and the ability to grieve and be okay.. I hope that doesn’t sound bad. I guess once you have that understand through experience. One day it might give hope to those that are grieving. However, I will write on grieving and loss of loved ones in time.

Until our beautiful minds meet again. Be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter – Della 🦋

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The next My Story My Version soon to be coming.. May of 1987, celebrating my cousins first birthday. One step in the street- – Touched by An Angel. .stay toned for updates to come soon.

Until our minds meet again.. Be safe out there and remember Everyday Minds Matter – Della🦋

🧭 Anxiety

    An unsettling moment when the chest and body become tight clammy, warm feeling that smothers the body unexpectedly, making it difficult to breathe, just like gasping for air. The feeling is unpleasant, uncomfortable as anxiety just shows up. Uninvited with a struggling intense fear, emotion, or trigger induced anxiety attack.

Learn to Recognize the Signs of Excessive Worry Anxiety disorder is the most common mental disorder in the United States, affecting up to 18 percent of the population. Anxiety disorders are a category of mental health diagnoses that result in excessive nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry. These disorders change the way a person processes emotions and behaves, as well as causing physical symptoms. People with these disorders experience feelings of fear and insecurity that interfere with daily activities and last for 6 months or more.    

People with anxiety disorders often experience intense, excessive, and persistent worry and fear about everyday situations. People with GAD worry endlessly about everyday issues such as health, money, or family issues, even when they realize there is little reason to worry.    

Anxiety is an intense feeling of anxiety or discomfort, often a situation with uncertain outcomes, when we are faced with something stressful. At lower levels, anxiety, often referred to as “stress,” can be a healthy and motivating response to a specific life situation.    

It can be difficult to relate to these issues, and as a result, many people don’t know how best to help a person with anxiety. If you feel that your anxiety is excessive, distressing, and/or interfering with your daily activities or functioning, it is important to see a mental health professional. When anxiety is frequent, intense, severe, and prolonged, causing constant discomfort and suffering, it is important to discuss this with your doctor. Illness-induced anxiety disorder includes symptoms of severe anxiety or panic that are directly related to health problems.    

Typically, anxiety disorders involve recurring episodes of intense anxiety and sudden bouts of fear or terror that peak within minutes (panic attacks). Everyone experiences these panic attacks from time to time, but with panic disorder, the attacks are regular and a source of anxiety in themselves. When a person experiences repeated panic attacks and is concerned about future panic attacks or their consequences (e.g.    

It’s not always easy to recognize when anxiety is causing you to feel or act differently. If you’re feeling anxious, it’s important to understand what’s causing it, how it’s different from normal stress, and what types of anxiety you might be experiencing.    

In severe cases, such as some we’ll see below, anxiety can lead to uncontrollable disorientation, fear or anxiety, and the inability to think clearly or make good decisions. Social anxiety disorder causes people to avoid social situations and interpersonal contact so that everyday life becomes extremely difficult.    

Each person experience anxiety in different ways. Knowing how your situation can be triggered can reduce future attacks. Once you are aware of the intensity of your anxiety attack. Different medications and techniques can help prevent future anxiety attacks. Its okay to ask for help. Take care of yourself.

Until our minds meet again. Be safe out there. Blessings and much love.. Remember Everyday Minds Matter 🦋

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👣 My Story My Version – Superhero👣

Superhero

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As a child, we all had/still have that superhero favorite character. The superhero who saves the world, takes all your sadness away, without saying a word. Needless to say, saved us from the boogie man under the bed- multiple times. Of course, ninja turtles, batman, Big Bird, Elmer Fdd, Robinhood, Bugs Bunny, etc., As the list goes on. That choice of superhero character grows in us as we grow with knowledge and wisdom. Consciously those characters come alive from within, unexpectedly to help us through tough times. Until age starts to help our mind relate to life, our superhero is the shit. Not one person can tell us different. Regardless what anyone has told you, our hero could hold secrets, clean up messes, keep us from an ass whipping, and fly to space; have lunch with Alf, be back by bedtime. Pretty impressive, right?

Nothing could prove us different or otherwise. Our superhero character built the image of who we are. That’s part of our driving force in life. Now your probably thinking, how is that possible if you were born in an age of no television? Well as I asked many elders in my days.. They all had the same answer. A made up vision or version of who they wanted to be. Or someone they known with special superhero powers.

Pretty amazing, our minds create a false impression or supped up character without a visual in reality to copy. If you try to vision something, you may see this guy. At one point this guy pictured below did a lot of crazy stuff. 😊

Stickman by Tom Fulp 1990’s

I bet your laughing right now. Never expected this guy – Stickman, huh? I believe its interesting to a fascination; how our memory puts something in storage and when that rotary spins around or shuffled, there it be – Stickman. With a smile on the face – incredible, Stickman made breaking news.. Resurfaced 30 years later and he still in search of his clothes. 😁

Just like our childhood superhero or favorite character, they show up least excepted.

My superhero showed up when I was only a few months old. In 1978, the house was occupied by five or more relatives. The curtains managed to tangle in a nearby box fan causing a house fire. All the commotion of getting all those in the house out. Everyone gathered outside, my oldest brother asked “where’s the baby”? Without hestitation, my big brother rescued me from the fire, smoke inhalation, and save my life. Guessing everyone, assumed someone had got me, being the bady, no one did. My superhero showed up with an invisible cape, much love, and a quick response.

As a baby, I couldn’t remember any of the event that took place. Remembering, the act of bravery once of, told and aware of the situation as a baby. Until your mind accepts reality, the impact of experience can’t be imagined. For myself, its something I am consciously appreciative to the importance of life and value of others. Why? My brother had a choice, and that choice he acted to save me is a blessing everyday. I have carried that pay it forward mentality all my life, due to his actions. His role carries a demonstration to help others, be a man, be yourself, laugh, enjoy life, and the smile he carries – is his own. Special design, created of his true character – superhero – to me my big brother – 💜

A big part of who I am, for his bravery to save my life. Some might say the house wasn’t in gulfed in flames. Or the fire was overbearing, smoke filled the house and curtains caused the house to catch fire. I was inside and anything could have prevented him from my rescue. Smoke exhaustion, inhalation, being trapped in the house, unable to reach me, or inhaling smoke being an infant all are dangerous and life-threatening. As he attempted to enter a burning house fire, my brother didn’t need a superhero suit, or a fire fighter degree, he did it out of love and character. Skills and knowledge we inherit throughout life. These are superhero skills that define our character and our person. No suit or helmet is required. Strength and awareness is required a plan of action that takes control. Thinking without thinking, acting with limits or boundaries – impulse.

This image is my original strawberry shortcake doll, ( maybe from the late 80’s. My niece played with as a child around 2013. It wasn’t her favorite character – Dora the Explorer was her chosen character. Strawberry shortcake had my heart, as my favorite childhood character. Maybe the sweet, innoncent, happy, caring, and smell good, (yes, she smelled of strawberries) was her image. Played a big role in *most my life growing up. Reflection to help others, be kind, happy, caring, and smell good. I put forth my best effort to be helpful to others; as much as possible throughout life.

Strawberry shortcake doll
My own image – Della Lonaker 2013

No matter what superhero you choose as a childhood favorite, it follows you throughout life. Our creation of character is built on our enviroment, our special thoughts, development of inner soul. Our creation is our own that no one else can copy.. No copy, repeat, image or resemblence can be deplicated. You are one special beautiful superhero. 🦋

As a reflection to my childhood, take a moment and compare your superhero or favorite character. How does your superhero compare to your own self reflection? Do you still have conscious superhero powers that get you through life struggles and challenges, current or present? We might grow in age, yet those childhood excitements never leave us.. We are just big kids that gain knowledge and height, the kid never fades away.. Its okay to be that kid at times.. It allows us to be ourselves, while we age and who we need to be.

Until our minds meet again. Be safe out there, much love and blessings. Remember, Everyday Mind’s. Matter 🦋

– Much💜, Della 🦋

😴Tuesday Tired – Extended Weekend

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Alarm goes off, eyes blurred and body says ” No, not today”. Feeling tired and blah fatigue – back to work. Sometimes; I feel like the extra days off, contribute to feeling more tired. In short time, our body fall out of routine. Extra day to lose control of bedtime, extra “me” time. Unconsciously, its okay, consciously our Tuesday is a tired Monday – knowingly the results are painful at times. Its okay, bouncing back before we even realize; its okay to be out of routine from time to time. Our journey doesn’t stop because of holidays, sick days, or lazy days.. Our mind continues to guide us to the next stop. Everyday unconsciously we work to achieve that goal in life. That goal is to be comfortable being our best for ourselves. Until we get there we must work to reach that destination. Once we arrive, we are renting the campsite.. The campsite has to be maintained, the work must be done routinely. That maintenance to your destination is up to you.. You can only determine how long that destination is your peek. If you fail to maintain your destination, the road map has unlimited options. Those options are your choices and decision to your next destination. The work never ends.. Don’t stop at comfortable, drive til you fall in love with happiness. Where motivation meets you there with a vision to maintain your campsite.

My days are blurred at times, but my heart is blessed, knowingly I can’t rest if I plan on reaching my destination. Today, I must keep moving be productive, tired and heavy eyes, I must push on. My support team is amazing and always watching, listening, and rooting for me. Last thing, even at the lowest, highest, or resting point, the peek – is always waiting my arrival. My eyes maybe blurred but my vision is stored in my mind. That vision can be updated as needed, but the determination will bring me to my destination – reality. I am looking forward to that day, moment – be pinched, feel the woe, tears of joy. Reach that purpose to My journey – called “Life”.

Soon I plan to post My Story My Version. A road map to my journey of Life, where detours and challenges weren’t always blacktop. Gravel roads are bumpy, but mountian view is beautiful at times. The climb seems so far from sight. As I am still trying to reach that peek, stopping to seize the moment, couldn’t be more motivating. Let today be a day to look over your roadmap. What does your journey look like? Are your at a campsite that’s happy and motivating? Or is your roadmap getting dusty and need updated?

Until our minds meet again, be safe out there. Blessings and much love.. And Remember Everyday Mind’s Matter 🦋

🦋Minding My Business – May 28th, 2022

Waking up on the weekend. A nice pretty day, in Kentucky. The roses around the community are blooming. Such a beautiful creation, pink rose bushes at full of bloom. All the recent rain did a great job!

Smell of spare ribs and collard greens fill the air, balcony door open, birds chirping. 🐦 Surrounded by tranqility, at times we forget to enjoy the moment. For me it puts a soft smile on my face and a cozy feeling. With several projects at hand, its a sense of ” Me time”. As I refer to as “Minding My Business.”

Having projects, errands, and always tons to do. I still get the happy feeling when minding my business. I doubt anyone ever complains about having time to themselves, then again some people can’t be alone.

Since that subject is not my sytle, I will ✂ subject back to minding my businesd.

“Quiet” just feels good! This was pretty neat, as I looked out the balcony door two birds sat. Captured picture: one in air flying away. Just neat the picture did not blur, screen is almost unnoticed.

Birds – enjoying the day too

My crafty projects – if I have a bad day, crafts pulls my head out of my ass. Something with crafts make me perk up, focus, concentrate and create decoratives or door wreaths. Hobbies should be part of everyone’s routine. Either once a week or few times a month.

Why not mind your business doing something you love, and relieve mental stress? If you dont have a hobby; look into an assortment of interest. We tend to be good at a lot of things, just grabbing time to find the fit – excuse vs. effort. Once that minding my business hobby is found, happiness is an added bonus.

Having several hobbies and interest, rarely am I bored. A completed project just minding my business, can be a feeling of being productive. With totes of supplies and a mind full of ideas.. – time can be limited.

Picture owned by Della Lonaker🦋

A Saturday minding my business. I would like to encourage you to mind your business😁 What does Minding My Business look like for you? lt only takes a million thoughts or a good idea, to make one nice finished project. Share your happiness with us.. To continue my day, and until our minds meet again. Be safe out there, blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Mind’s Matter🦋

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May 27th – 2022

Morning Coffee

As our day begins, a simple cup of coffee goes a long way. The thoughts of whats ahead starts before our eyes open. The power of the mind works when we are asleep and awake. A never ending cycle to the conscious and unconscious world – so called thoughts. Regardless, when your day begins; now, mid-day, or at night – those stressful times still linger.

A child birthday party: happy thoughts right? Yet you still got the wheels turning about preperation, invites, the weather, regardless its your design to have the best party ever. Mow the grass, clean the house or book an event center. All the planning, plus normal routine activities. Its seems never ending, we somehow pull the whip ass out of our pocket and get it done. Take a moment and smile. Your doing a great job!😁

Of course the small things are forgotten. To remember the purple forks, well its okay. Who said eating cake with your hands is not allowed? Whoever it was needs a little creative lesson, and today is the day. John ate cake the first time with his hands at the age of 36. So no big deal, right?

If we beat ourselves up everyday over small stuff; looking pretty rough on an average day would be routine.

Purple forks : stressed out!

Its okay, today is another day. Whatever the day offers give your best. Tomorrow might be the day – learning to eat cake with your hands is an experience for another. 🦋

May your day be blessed. Until our minds meet again, blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter🦋

✂ Mental Unemployment

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How to Overcome Mental Unemployment: A blog about overcoming mental unemployment and being a life hobbyist.

Have you ever felt like your brain is on autopilot? Like you’re just going through the motions of life, but you don’t feel like your mind is engaged? You’re not alone.

Mental unemployment is when your brain is in neutral and needs a jumpstart to get going again.

Do you feel like your brain is always foggy?

Are you constantly forgetting where you put things?

Do you seem to have amnesia when it comes to basic facts, like what day it is or what year we’re in?

Do you feel unmotivated and uninterested in life?

If any of these sound like you, then you may be suffering from a condition called “mental unemployment.”

It can be caused by stress, uncertainty, or lack of motivation. It’s also common if you’ve recently experienced a big change in your life—like getting a new job or moving to a new neighborhood—and need some time to adjust.

The good news is that mental unemployment isn’t permanent! All it takes is some time to refocus on what matters most to you and get back into the swing of things.

I once saw a man on the side of the street with a placard that said, “The Struggle is real, but so is hope.” I have no idea who he was or where he came from, but that quote stuck in my mind. We all have struggles, and sometimes they seem insurmountable. Yet we must remember that there are people out there who care and want to help. We cannot allow ourselves to fall into despair or self-pity. We must keep our chins up and continue to persevere in spite of our setbacks.

Mental unemployment is a state of mind that occurs when you feel like your life is not moving forward. You feel stuck in a rut, like you’re not doing anything with your time or talents. You feel like there’s nothing out there for you to pursue, even if it’s something you really want to do.

This can be caused by many things, including the fact that we live in a world where the economy is constantly shifting and changing, which means that we often have to change our mindsets along with it. We may also have trouble finding our own path or understanding what we really want out of life because it seems so overwhelming—there are so many options available!

But here’s the thing: You don’t have to drown yourself in stress and worry about what’s next for your career! Instead of stressing out over everything that might go wrong (or right), try focusing on what makes you happy in the moment.

You may already know what makes you happy; maybe it’s playing an outdoors sport, ( fishing, hiking, swimming, baseball, etc.,) or taking pictures or writing stories—whatever it is! If not, try thinking back on some interest you wanted to pursue, just never got started. Now could be that time to begin.. Participating in. A hobby or interest can relieve stress and give a productive achievement.

Moving forward, in-depth understanding to build mental employment. Some may not want to talk about the struggles they face. As change can be overwhelming and cause more added stress. We must learn:

What is mental unemployment?

Mental unemployment is when you are unemployed and not looking for a job. You’re enjoying life, but you feel like your mind is still in the workforce, and that you should be doing something productive.

Mental unemployment occurs when you feel like you’re wasting time and not contributing to society or yourself. You may have a lot of ideas for potential businesses or projects, but don’t know where to start or how to move forward with them.

What can I do about it?

One way to overcome mental unemployment is by becoming a life hobbyist. A life hobbyist is someone who does what they enjoy as a hobby, rather than as a job. This means that they don’t get paid for their work, but they do it because they love it! The benefit of this approach is that it allows you to pursue your passions without feeling guilty about being unproductive, because at least you’re doing something that makes you happy!

Acknowledge and accept that things have changed

This is the first step in taking control. It’s also not a passive one, because acceptance doesn’t mean giving up or not trying to change things. It just means acknowledging that your situation has changed and will continue to change, for better or for worse.

Acceptance is about accepting reality as it is right now, not how you’d like it to be—and there’s no shame in that! No matter what happens next, this isn’t going away overnight: We’re all humans with brains that need downtime every once in awhile. So why not make the best of it?

Express your feelings by talking to someone, writing about them, or even shouting them out loud on your own

When you’re feeling down, it can be hard to put your feelings into words. It’s even more difficult when you feel like everyone around you is doing just fine and has no idea what it’s like for you. The best thing to do when this happens is talk to someone about how you’re feeling—someone who will listen without judgment or advice. You could try talking to a family member or close friend, but if those people aren’t available. Talking about the situation will help reduce stress., it allows you to find a solution to the problem. That is simply talking it out loud. If no one is available, try recording your thoughts. Make a recording of your thoughts or situation. Listen to the recording as your helping a friend. Write down your plan of action to fix the situation. This will help improve your motivation which takes us to the next tip:

Keep Active

It’s important to keep your body in good shape, not just for its own sake but also because it can help you stay mentally healthy. Regular exercise has been shown to reduce anxiety and depression symptoms by increasing the amount of endorphins—the brain’s feel-good chemicals—in your bloodstream. And if you’re worried about being outside or around other people, then do some exercises that don’t require social interaction: there are plenty of videos online from which you can learn various exercises (like yoga or Pilates), or simply practice at home with a set of dumbbells or resistance bands.

If possible, try to get out into nature when you choose your activities: walking in parks is a great way to unwind while enjoying the outdoors and letting go of stressors thanks to its calming effect on the mind and body alike.. What could be any better than to do something that brings happiness?

Do something you enjoy every day

  • Don’t blame yourself for your unemployment. If you’re looking for work and haven’t found anything yet, it’s easy to start blaming yourself. You might think that if you just tried harder or worked longer hours then things would be different. And if only the economy was better…or if I had a better degree…but don’t do this! It won’t help anything and will probably make things worse. Remember:
  • Make a list of things you enjoy doing (and keep adding to it). Think about what activities bring you joy and write them down in one place so that they’re easy to find later on (this will be very helpful). What activities do you love doing? What do they have in common? Why do they make you happy?
  • Do one thing from the list every day. Even if it’s just sitting outside and watching people walk by, try something new once per week. If there are days when nothing on your list seems appealing or possible based on time constraints, then find ways around these obstacles so that at least some part of your list gets crossed off every day!
  • Lastly, when its easy to fall into the cycle of doom and depression. Its always there for a moment, that deepens the obstacle.. The next tip;

Be sensible about drinking alcohol

The idea that alcohol can make you feel better is a myth. It’s an old myth, but it’s still wrong. Alcohol is a depressant and has many negative side effects in the long run, including:

  • Problems with your sleep
  • Relationship problems like arguments and fights
  • Mental health issues such as depression or anxiety

Avoid drugs and smoking

Avoid drugs and smoking.

  • Smoking is bad for your health, and it’s also addictive.
  • Drugs are bad for you, and they’re addictive as well.

Instead of smoking or using drugs:

  • Get a job that you enjoy doing! This will help keep you busy while you’re unemployed (and it’ll be good for your mental health). Try new things like volunteering or taking up a hobby like knitting or playing board games with friends!

Eat a healthy diet

The first step in dealing with mentally unemployed is to make sure you are eating a healthy diet. A healthy diet is one that contains the right amount of nutrients and calories, helps you maintain a healthy weight, and doesn’t contain too many unhealthy ingredients.

It can be hard to tell whether your current diet is healthy or not—it may not seem like it’s enough for your body, but it could be too much if you aren’t active enough. The best way to find out what your specific needs are is by getting a nutritionist who can help guide you toward making changes that will improve both your energy levels and overall health.

In general terms, here are some guidelines:

Don’t run away from your problems; face them head-on

If you are suffering from mental unemployment, it’s important that you face your problems head on. Don’t run away and try to ignore them; instead, try to face them in a way that allows you to deal with them. If they’re too big, don’t be afraid of asking for help or letting someone else look at the problem with fresh eyes.

Plan for the future but don’t get too bogged down worrying about it

While it’s important to plan for the future, don’t get bogged down with worrying about what may or may not happen in the distant future. Worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet is a waste of mental and emotional energy. Instead, be optimistic about what could come next for you. You’ll feel better about yourself and your outlook on life if you focus on positive outcomes instead of negative ones.

Find ways to manage your stress and stay positive regardless of being unemployed

You’re in a tough place right now. The best way to get through it is by finding ways to manage your stress and stay positive regardless of being unemployed. How do you do that? You can try any number of things:

  • Find a job that you like, if possible. If it’s not possible, find another one
  • Find a job that you love, if possible—and maybe even get paid for it!
  • Find a job that will pay you a lot of money—or at least enough so that you won’t feel guilty about spending money on things like food and shelter.
  • Find a job that you can do at home instead of going into an office every day. This could also include helping people online as well as creating content for websites and blogs. Since the pandemic delivery and shopping jobs are available.. These can be fit for flexibility. Be your own boss can be rewarding. There are many ways to make money without having to go into an office every day—and there are plenty of jobs out there where the work itself takes place either remotely or in your own home anyway! Employment opportunities are available in different forms. So why not take advantage?

So much information provided here to move forward to mental employment. Try the tips to find what works for you. Your mental employment can change as the economy is unpredictable. Resources and tips in this blog can offer happiness. Nothing is guarenteed without hard work and commitment. These tips can be applied to those who are not able to be employed. Either by choice or medical reasons mental health habits can be adjusted for your situation or needs.

Until our minds meet again. Be safe out there. Blessings and much love. Remember, Everyday Mind’s Matter🦋

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👫 Time, Relationships And “You”

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Now is the time to talk about relationships. The time spent to balance life and yourself can be challenging. Given daily routine, stress and life events can effect time put in a relationship. How we manage our time to balance relationships is important. Today, time management is our starting point to establish healthy relationships. Let’s get started…

The goal here is to find positive balance in relationships.

Some of us were given quality time with our partners, family, friends, or live in etc. during the covid-19 shutdown?. How was spending more time with another person nearly 24 hours a day? For days in and weeks in at a time? Did you welcome the time spent? Or did you spend time alone? How does your relationship make you feel? How you feel about each other, talk about the conflict between you, and ask what you can do next week to make your partner feel loved. If you or your partner notice a change in the way you express your love and desire to spend time together, it may be time to consider whether your relationship is happy or not. 

If you want a healthy relationship, you need to learn to recognize the signs that you need to spend more time together. Having quality time with your partner is the best way to keep your relationship healthy and strong. In fact, one of the most common reasons relationships fail is because couples don’t spend enough time together.

Every couple needs to spend time together for the relationship to grow and develop. The more you improve the quality of your time together, the more your relationship will grow, even if you don’t spend as much time together as you would like. When spending time together, it is important to find the perfect time balance that will benefit your particular relationships. Communicate regularly, create new plans together, learn hobby together. Adding fun time help balance the enjoyment of the relationship.

If you spend time together regularly, there are many different signs that your relationship will last. Here’s what to look out for. In the early stages of a relationship, you can’t always spend as much time with your partner as you want, so you need to make the most of the time you have. The point is, if being in love feels good when you spend time together, then you need to make time for the relationships in you life. Quality time should feel satisfying. You want extended time with a person or person’s. The time will form a connection to want more stimulation. This forms a bond or level of comfort to stay connected. Of course over time, more time spent you learn more about a person. Time is important to the quality in a relationship.

Sometimes it’s hard to tell when you’re not spending enough time in a relationship. It could be that time is running out for the relationship. One partner wants to learn and develop further, while the other is at a point in their life when they are tired of change. One of the most common complaints between couples is that their partner doesn’t invest enough time in the relationship. Over time the relationship becomes completely one-sided.    When the relationship offers stress, discomfort, and forced the relationship is unhealthy. Unhealthy relationships are unfit with time or no time spent together. The relationship will take time to end, if not ended sooner.

Being in a relationship doesn’t have to take up all of your time. Even the healthiest relationships have communication breaks. When you make time for yourself, be sure to communicate you need time for yourself. Let your partner understand it’s not because of relationship problems.  It can be a positive benefit to take a breathe of fresh air. Have time to yourself to regroup and recharge. Healthy relationships support each other when free time or me time is needed. Allowing your thoughts to realign with your needs and wants. A peace of mind to miss the other person or relationship.   

If you want to prioritize your relationship, you need to start making time for your partner. It’s easy to have a healthy relationship if you make it priority to spend time together.

I am interested to know what the time problem looks like in your relationship. Time in a relationship can be seen as a personal sense of whether now is the right time to be intimate and involved with someone. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms in a relationship, know that quality time spent together can reverse the negative effects of the above symptoms.  The pandemic has negative effects on relationship causing divorce rate to increase. If quality time helps a relationship, how does to much time spent together, effect the relationship?

Feel free to comment and share your experience. Until our minds Meet again. Be safe out there, blessings and much love. Remember, Everyday Mind’s Matter 🌸

Journaling Daily 🌺

Paper, Pen, & Positive Results

Today we are going to talk about the benefits of daily journaling that will change your life so you can improve yourself. Keeping a daily diary can help you become more self-aware, which will help you increase your knowledge of what is right for you. One aspect of journaling that makes it so effective is that journaling can become a key habit to help you focus your energy and attention on where it will be most effective. Of course, every time you can keep an effective diary, that time is well spent, but the best practice is to keep a regular daily diary.    

It’s often helpful if you keep a journal regularly, even if you don’t have to do it every day. You can certainly learn more about yourself by looking back at what you do every day, but journaling is often more than just recording everyday events. As mentioned, journaling can help you reflect on yourself, sort out your feelings, and gain a deeper understanding of the various events that occur in your daily life. Let’s look at the importance of journaling and how to incorporate this powerful habit into your daily routine.    

You can use a diary to write down affirmations that will help you reach your goals or keep track of memories so you can reflect on how your life is going. Journaling allows us to put our emotions on paper, separate them from ourselves, organize our thoughts, our days, our intentions. Writing about feelings, environment, and activities without judgment can help you be more present in everyday life. Simply writing about your feelings and frustrations will help you focus on what is really going on in your life and mind so you can find solutions to your problems.  Most importantly, journaling can help problem solve situations. Fixing relationships or issues by understanding the problem. Then a solution can be organized and resolved.  You are more aware of the thoughts and feelings now they are written out.Most importantly, journaling can help problem solve situations.  Fixing relationships or issues by understanding the problem. Then a solution can be organized and resolved.  You are more aware of the thoughts and feelings now they are written out.

For example, talking about specific relationship problems can help you better understand your emotional needs and how to meet them. Writing can help you tune into the situation and “feel” if something is wrong with the other person or situation. A journal is also a useful tool to help you make emotionally clouded decisions and know when it’s time to make changes because you’ve been writing the same thing day in and day out for weeks at a time. Creating a writing routine and scheduling time for journaling can help keep you on track even on days when you don’t feel inspired.    

One of the best things you can do to set yourself up for success when you figure out how to start a daily diary (or any other habit) is to make it as accessible as possible. If you want to make it a habit, choose a time of day for journaling and make it a non-negotiable in your life. 

When we have a daily journaling routine, we reap the many benefits of journaling, such as increased self-esteem, self-awareness, awareness, and positivity, every single day. A diary should not be just the act of writing paper on paper and recording the mundane events of your day. For example, incorporating a 20-minute diary into your nightly routine can help you relieve heavy feelings of stress before bed.  

Importance of journaling has so many benefits. Time is only your favor to journal in habit. Once routine takes place, in no time you can better understand yourself. Having opportunity to feel, and acknowledge your needs and desires are rewarding.

Until next, keep that pen moving, enjoy the writing experience- of journaling. Until our minds meet again. Be safe out there, blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Mind’s Matter.🌸👣