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About Everyday Minds Matter

Hello World! 🦋 As a resourceful creative writer, life and mental health are priority. This blog is designed to support positive thinking, wellness and well-being. Offer insight on variety of topics relating to our minds and life challenges. To be focused and sharp minded is critical determination for one's well-being and existance. Being mindful provides opportunity for self awareness, be responsible for our actions and behavior. This blog is part of my own mental health awareness and life challenges, how I overcome my personal obstacles. As we age, our healthy habits change throughout life. Shared experience, tips, and ideas to help focus on the importance of maintaining healthy mental habits. In my experience elders have such great impact on our lives. Take time out to experience the wisdom of an elder friend or family member. The wisdom offered can shed light on - how to create your own productive life.. Be mindful to opportunities for improvement. Physical and mental health are the foundation to happiness. Join in our discussions, share your thoughts and comment on post that could offer advice or help, to someone needing guidence. Until our Mind's meet again. Be safe out there, much love & blessings.. And Remember Everyday Mind's Matter! 🦋

The Unbelievable Truth About Life After Death: What Our Panoramic Visions Can Tell Us


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The latest scientific studies have revealed some incredible things about what happens to us after we die, most of which you won’t believe until you see it with your own eyes! This blog post discusses the latest discoveries and what they mean for the future of humankind.

How we view life after death
So what does all of this mean? This is a glimpse into the future. These are visions of what life after death looks like. At its simplest, we see that there is more going on than just the binary living or dead state. It’s not just black and white, but rather multicolored with many shades of gray. In other words, there might be some sort of afterlife after all, and it’s something we should keep an open mind about if we want to answer the ultimate question of life. However, for now, let’s focus on being alive. There is so much more to do and experience in this world before crossing over – at least for most people – and the best way to enjoy that time is by opening our minds up to new ideas and experiences.

Why do we have near-death experiences?
Near-death experiences are thought to happen due to a release of life-saving chemicals called neurotransmitters and endorphins. These naturally occurring compounds can potentially lead to an out-of-body experience in which there is an awareness of one’s own death, passage into another world, or an immersion in one’s own thoughts. It could also be the result of hallucinations caused by oxygen deprivation or head trauma as the body tries to protect itself from oxygen loss during its final moments. In rare cases, it may be related to epilepsy. There are also many theories that try to explain why we have near-death experiences; some say it is because we’re about to rejoin our loved ones who have passed away while others say it is because we’re about to leave this world for good.

What are the main causes of near-death experiences?
One of the main causes of a near-death experience is lack of oxygen. Studies show that there are two basic brain function patterns that take place in a near-death experience, hypoxia and hypercarbia. The hypoxia is when there’s not enough oxygen in the body and the person becomes sleepy and has trouble concentrating; this usually only lasts for about 10 seconds before it makes its way to the more serious hypercarbia. Hypercarbia means there’s too much carbon dioxide in the blood stream which can be caused by any number of things including heart attack or suffocation. If a person survives with their brain functioning, they’ll have memories of what happened during the time they had limited oxygen.

Why aren’t we all reporting NDEs?
We can only guess, but it is possible that most people who experience this simply don’t report it because they feel like their experiences are not unusual. Many people have heard stories of NDEs and deathbed visions from older relatives or friends, but those older relatives and friends never share these stories because they’re afraid to worry the younger generation. It’s also possible that a person may be in denial about their own death, so when an NDE happens, they may choose to believe it was just a dream or hallucination. It could also be the case that some people have been embarrassed by a frightening experience (such as feeling trapped in darkness) and so never tell anyone about it.

How does the soul leave the body?
People, especially in Western society, often ask how does the soul leave the body? This process can happen in three different ways. The first is from the physical body. As we grow older, our cells die and deteriorate to a point where we no longer have a functioning body. When this happens, there’s an absence of life coming from the person and it’s likely they have died as well. The second way is when a person who dies has their spirit take over another living being. In other words, the dying person takes possession of someone else’s body in order to live on. The third way is through an out-of-body experience (OBE). It’s said that OBEs occur for two reasons:
1) death may be imminent and the spirit needs time to prepare for what will come next; or
2) at any given moment one might not be aware that he or she has left his or her physical body and will return soon enough.

Purpose of Our Panoramic Visions
We’ve all heard the horror stories of people who have had near-death experiences and were pronounced clinically dead, only to awaken later in a hospital with stories of seeing heaven. But what does this all mean? Is there life after death? Where do we go when we die? Is there an afterlife? These are some of the questions that many philosophers and spiritual leaders ponder. Near-death experiencers (NDErs) who come back from the brink of death tell us about their visions and memories, but it’s hard to know if they’re just making it up or really saw something. One possible explanation is that these panoramic visions are nothing more than hallucinations. In other words, they’re products of our own imagination – while we still live on earth – as a way for our brain to cope with dying. NDErs may experience tunnel vision or a sensation of weightlessness before going through the tunnel, but then find themselves floating above themselves at the moment of death. They then see themselves in darkness; often experiencing vivid images such as family members and friends waiting for them on the other side. Some even report meeting God during their experience. It’s possible that NDEs give people hope at times when things look bleakest, since so many describe meeting loved ones and feeling peace during these moments. Furthermore, they provide evidence that there may be life after death and point to a possible truthfulness of Christianity. And yet, skeptics argue that it’s impossible to prove the existence of an afterlife because we can’t disprove its nonexistence either. We will never know for sure whether there is life after death until we finally pass away ourselves. That said, I’ll bet you wouldn’t mind taking your chances if you knew you could meet your deceased loved ones again. To me, it seems like there has to be more to the story. While living humans can generate images of their own imagination within the last seconds before death, I would like to believe that there is something beyond death’s threshold waiting for me. I am willing to accept my fate as long as my soul doesn’t stay alone forever. In Mt personal experience, my eyes has experienced the realm that awaits. Not a hallucination that some claim. In moments of unexpected , visions and NBE’s have taught me about death and life after. It’s an option for each of us to believe or to not believe. But to have the experience is something worth sharing with those around you.

Can We See the Afterlife?
Not only can our panoramic visions tell us about the afterlife, but they can also help us reach spiritual enlightenment. These visions act as a reminder of who we are and what’s happening in the world around us, ultimately allowing us to live a life that is more satisfying than anything we could have imagined before. Many people today are searching for the meaning of their existence, or looking for some type of spirituality. They turn to ancient religions and practices because they want an answer from someone else – an answer from someone other than themselves. With a panoramic vision these people may find their answers through an awakening into consciousness so deep it makes them realize how insignificant their worries really were. In this way, this form of visual art can be used as a tool for personal transformation and growth toward spiritual enlightenment. Each day we live life as we know it. Yet this life doesn’t compare to the spiritual realm that comes in the right time. It’s an inner peace of freedom to live life joyfully.

Those who are dying don’t cry, preparing for eternal life
The end of life as we know it is a difficult and often dreaded concept. But for those who have faced death, there is something different that lies beyond—the possibility of eternal life. In recent years, more and more individuals have reported having panoramic visions during near-death experiences, which are said to offer glimpses into what lies ahead in the afterlife.
These visions have been described as being incredibly vivid and profound. They may involve a range of phenomena, from hearing beautiful music or feeling a strong sense of love and peace, to seeing loved ones who have already passed away or travelling through a tunnel of light. According to those who have experienced these visions, they can offer insight into the afterlife, allowing us to understand more about what may be waiting for us after death.
For those who are dying, these visions can provide great comfort and reassurance. Many report not feeling afraid or worried during their vision, even when faced with the ultimate mystery of mortality. Instead, they often feel a profound sense of peace and acceptance as they prepare for their journey towards the afterlife.
These panoramic visions can also provide an important opportunity for the dying to gain closure with their loved ones. By getting a glimpse of what awaits them after death, the dying can take comfort in the fact that they will soon be reunited with those who have gone before them. In this way, these visions can be incredibly powerful in helping to provide solace and comfort during an otherwise difficult and frightening time.
It is clear that these panoramic visions offer a unique window into the afterlife. Whether they are interpreted as literal depictions or as metaphorical representations of what awaits us on the other side, they can offer insight into life after death and help bring peace to those facing the end of their earthly life. These visions reveal that, although life after death might be difficult to comprehend, it doesn’t need to be feared. If you think of the transition of a loved one, tears never surfaced. The inner peace is visual to the point of a happiness in transition. What awaits can’t be real until we make the transition for ourselves. Until then we can believe that eternal life is everything we hope for.

What Happens When We Die?
You might have an idea about what happens when we die. It’s easy to guess that when the body dies, our spirit or essence moves on or goes somewhere else. While there are many possibilities of what could happen at death, one thing is for sure; your life as you know it will cease to exist. But this doesn’t mean that everything stops with death. There is a lot more happening in the universe than what we can see from Earth and this includes energy, light and love going on past physical death.

Hallucinating before death
Hallucinations are usually a result of neural activity in the brain, brought on by disease or injury. This is true for hallucinations that occur before death as well. For those who experience hallucinations before death, what they see will most likely come from their own thoughts and imaginings. There are stories of people with Alzheimer’s creating their perfect world before passing away, even if it means ending their life prematurely to be free from mental distress. It has been documented that children with terminal illnesses may have visions about heaven prior to dying. These cases are rare, but show how much we can learn about life after death through our panoramic visions. We don’t know exactly what these visions mean or where they come from. It could be a hallucination brought on by neural activity in the brain, an afterlife projecting their desires onto this reality, or a glimpse into another dimension we cannot comprehend. All of these explanations are plausible at this point; more research needs to be done so that one day we can finally understand the afterlife.

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The idea of life after death has long been a source of debate and fascination. While it remains impossible to definitively answer the question of what happens after we die, our panoramic visions can offer some insight into what might be in store. Our visions offer a glimpse into a potential afterlife, where we can continue to explore our spiritual nature and enjoy eternal peace. By understanding what our panoramic visions can tell us about life after death, we can better understand our own mortality and ultimately find peace.
In this post, we’ve explored what our panoramic visions can tell us about life after death. We’ve seen that these visions provide a unique opportunity for us to gain insight into what may lie beyond the veil of death. We’ve discussed how our visions offer the promise of a potential afterlife, filled with peace and serenity. Lastly, we’ve considered how understanding our panoramic visions can help us come to terms with our own mortality and ultimately find peace.
As we reflect on life after death, we can draw strength from our panoramic visions. These visions provide us with an invaluable opportunity to explore our spiritual nature and come to terms with the inevitable end of our earthly lives. With each vision, we gain insight into a potential afterlife that is filled with peace and serenity. We can draw strength and comfort from our panoramic visions as we strive to make the most of the time we have in this world.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋

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When Depression is Crippling: The True Face of Mental Illness

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Mental illness is something that affects us all, whether directly or indirectly. Unfortunately, it often goes unseen and misunderstood. The day has come and gone, you accomplished the same as yesterday – nothing. A numbness we question, Why do I feel this way? What triggered such numbness? When did this happen? Who notices the change in my routine and isolation I have created? How am I going to face the world? The feelings are crippling that effect production, motivation, and our mind. A constant struggling battle faced daily.

Depression is one such condition that can be difficult to comprehend, as it is not always visible on the outside. But for those living with depression, it can be an all-encompassing experience that cripples the ability to live a normal life. This blog post will explore the true face of mental illness when depression is crippling, and how to best support those who suffer from it. Mental illness is an often-misunderstood condition that affects millions of people around the world. It can be difficult to understand what it is like to live with depression, yet it can be all too easy to judge someone who suffers from it. It is important to remember that depression is a very real and very serious condition that can have a crippling effect on those who experience it. This blog post aims to provide an insight into what it is really like when depression is crippling, exploring both the mental, emotional, and physical pain associated with it, as well as the negative stigma that often follows those who struggle with depression. Mental illness is a serious and growing problem in society today. Despite this, many people still have a hard time understanding the reality of what it’s like for those living with mental health conditions. Depression, in particular, is a condition that affects millions of people around the world, yet it is often misunderstood and underappreciated. Here this post aims to discuss the true face of depression and how it can be crippling for those who suffer from it.

The Mental, Emotional, and Physical Pain
Depression is a debilitating illness, one that can leave you feeling overwhelmed and helpless. The mental, emotional, and physical pain it causes can be difficult to put into words. It might look like nothing is wrong on the outside, but on the inside, there’s a world of hurt.
Living with depression can be incredibly challenging. It’s a constant battle between trying to stay positive and feeling like you’re not enough. You can feel like you have no control over your own life and are just a passenger in it. It’s important to remember that you are not alone in this struggle.
The physical toll that depression takes can be overwhelming. You may feel drained and exhausted, even if you haven’t done anything physically strenuous. You might experience headaches, joint pain, stomach issues, or insomnia. The mental strain of depression can cause fatigue and make it hard to focus or concentrate.
On an emotional level, depression can leave you feeling numb or disconnected from the world. You may find yourself struggling to feel joy or pleasure in activities that used to bring you happiness. Depression can also lead to feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and hopelessness.
Depression is not something that should be taken lightly. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, it’s important to seek help. There are many treatments available that can help alleviate symptoms and improve quality of life. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support. No one should have to face depression alone.

Looking Normal
When people think of depression, they usually think of sadness and feelings of hopelessness. But for those of us who have experienced it, we know that there is so much more to it. Depression can be a crippling mental illness, leaving us feeling helpless and unable to cope with our lives.
It is easy to look at someone and not realize how much they are struggling internally. From the outside, they may look like they are doing alright, but inside their mind is a war zone. We all have good days and bad days, but when depression is at its worst it can feel like an eternity of darkness.
It can be difficult to express these emotions, as they can often be misunderstood or misinterpreted by those around us. We may feel ashamed or embarrassed of our struggles, even though they are completely normal. We might be tempted to push people away or distance ourselves in order to avoid dealing with our inner turmoil.
Depression doesn’t always have a physical manifestation and can be difficult to spot in someone else. This can make it hard for others to understand what you are going through. It’s important to remember that you are not alone in your struggle and there is help available. Reaching out and asking for support can be one of the most difficult steps but also one of the most rewarding.
No one should have to face their mental illness alone. If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, reach out and talk to a professional or a trusted friend or family member. You deserve to get the help and support you need.

Hell Inside My Mind
Depression is a debilitating condition that can cause immense physical, mental, and emotional pain. Unfortunately, it is often difficult for those suffering from depression to outwardly express the level of anguish they are feeling inside. This leads to many misunderstandings, judgments, and criticism from others.
While depression can take on many forms and severity levels, those who suffer from it will understand that the intensity of their feelings is not something that can be easily explained or understood by outsiders. It can be hard to explain why, even on a seemingly normal day, we can feel so much inner turmoil.
The truth is that living with depression can be like living in Hell – an unrelenting state of despair and helplessness that cannot be broken by outside forces. It’s hard to see a way out of the deep darkness that depression creates, and it’s equally hard for our loved ones to comprehend the immensity of our suffering.
Living with depression requires compassion, understanding, and patience from both ourselves and those around us. We must recognize and honor our own struggles, while also recognizing that we don’t need to suffer in silence.
No matter how deep the darkness may seem, there is always hope for a better tomorrow. Reaching out for help is one of the best steps we can take towards recovery and finding peace within ourselves. No one should have to face this challenge alone. If you know someone who has been diagnosed with depression, reach out and offer them support. Offer to do things together that might lift their spirits. Do what you can to show them that you love them – all of them – even when they’re at their lowest point. Help make sure that they know they’re not alone in their struggle against this illness!

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

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Why Can’t You Cry? The Connection Between Schizoid Personality Disorder and Alexithymia

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Many mental health disorders, such as depression and anxiety, are marked by their emotional symptoms. People who suffer from major depressive disorder can feel down in the dumps and often struggle to get out of bed each day; people with panic disorder may have recurring attacks that cause them to fear public spaces; people with social phobia may be so afraid of rejection that they avoid most social situations altogether. But what if you have no emotions at all?

What is schizoid personality disorder?
Schizoid personality disorder is a mental health disorder that is characterized by difficulty in forming social relationships and little to no interest in activities of a social nature. People with schizoid personality disorder often avoid close relationships, even with family members, and are often seen as aloof, detached, and indifferent. They may also have a hard time expressing emotions and tend to be loners. While it is not completely clear what causes this disorder, it is believed to be a combination of genetic factors and environmental influences. The symptoms of schizoid personality disorder can vary from person to person, but usually involve avoidance of social activities and lack of interest in people and relationships. Additionally, individuals may lack the ability to express emotions or experience pleasure in activities that other people enjoy. In extreme cases, they may become apathetic and uninterested in self-care. Due to their difficulties with interpersonal relationships and emotional expression, people with schizoid personality disorder can find themselves lonely or isolated. In some instances they might turn to alcohol or drugs as a means of self-medicating these feelings. However, this typically leads to more problems such as addiction.
Schizoid personality disorder
can cause sufferers to feel very alone and disconnected from those around them or anyone at all for that matter.

What is alexithymia?
Alexithymia is sometimes found in individuals with Schizoid Personality Disorder. Schizoid Personality Disorder is a mental health disorder characterized by a lack of interest in social relationships, emotional detachment, and a tendency to focus on inner thoughts and feelings rather than external events or relationships. People with this disorder may also have difficulty expressing themselves in a socially acceptable manner.
Individuals with Schizoid Personality Disorder often present with difficulty recognizing and expressing emotion, which can manifest itself as alexithymia. This can create challenges in communication, as the individual may not be able to accurately express their feelings or understand the feelings of others. This can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings between them and the people around them.
Alexithymia is an important part of Schizoid Personality Disorder, and understanding it is key to recognizing and treating this disorder. It is important for individuals suffering from this disorder to receive proper treatment to help them manage their symptoms and improve their quality of life.

How are the two conditions related?
Schizoid personality disorder and alexithymia are both mental health conditions that can have a profound effect on an individual’s life. While the two disorders have distinct differences, they can also be closely related.
People with schizoid personality disorder are typically isolated, withdrawn, and disinterested in relationships or social activities. They may lack empathy and find it difficult to connect emotionally with others. Alexithymia is an inability to identify, express, and understand one’s own emotions. It is also characterized by a limited range of emotional experiences, and difficulty in recognizing the feelings of others.
The link between schizoid personality disorder and alexithymia lies in the fact that people with schizoid personality disorder often struggle to recognize, express, and process their own emotions. This is a key symptom of alexithymia. Additionally, those with schizoid personality disorder may lack the motivation to engage in social activities, leading to a greater difficulty in forming meaningful relationships and identifying the emotions of others.
Therefore, it’s not surprising that research has shown a strong correlation between schizoid personality disorder and alexithymia. It is important to note, however, that the two conditions are distinct and should be treated as such. While it may be difficult for those with schizoid personality disorder to recognize and express their own emotions, it is possible with proper treatment. Therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes can all help individuals with schizoid personality disorder better understand their emotions and improve their overall quality of life.

What are the treatment options for schizoid personality disorder and alexithymia?
When it comes to treating schizoid personality disorder and alexithymia, there are many options available. Depending on the severity of the disorder, treatment may include psychotherapy, medication, lifestyle changes, and support groups.
Psychotherapy is often recommended as the primary treatment for schizoid personality disorder. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) has been shown to be effective in treating this condition by helping people learn better coping skills, identify triggers for their negative behavior, and learn how to express their emotions in a healthier way. In addition, supportive psychotherapy can help individuals better understand their condition and build confidence in their ability to engage with others.
Medication may also be used to help manage symptoms of schizoid personality disorder. Commonly prescribed medications may include antidepressants and mood stabilizers. These medications can help manage depression and anxiety related to the condition.
Lifestyle changes are important for those dealing with schizoid personality disorder. Exercise and stress reduction techniques such as yoga, meditation, or tai chi can help manage stress levels and improve overall well-being. Socializing is also important, as it can help individuals practice communication skills and gain confidence in social settings.
Finally, support groups can be an invaluable source of support for those with schizoid personality disorder. Connecting with others who understand what you’re going through can help reduce feelings of isolation and provide hope for recovery.
No matter what treatment option is chosen, it’s important to find a qualified mental health professional who understands your needs and can create an individualized treatment plan that best suits your lifestyle. With the right support and treatment, those with schizoid personality disorder and alexithymia can lead a fulfilling life.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

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Fall into Season 🍁

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What is it about fall and winter that makes us feel some kind of a way? The changing of leaves, beautiful scenery, holidays, cool evenings, winter boots, flannel shirts, and cuddling in front of the fireplace. These months are darkened by the time change (falling back/springing forward), but that’s where I find my favorites; comforting outfits and foods to warm me up from the inside out when it starts to get chilly! As the nights cool to a brisk chill, time change days are shortened, and the changing of the leaves. It’s part of mother nature to clean from all the mess we made during spring and summer months. Fall is cooler to kill off germs, bacteria, and sickness. Changing of leaves reminds me of the “out with the old,in with the new”. A time to regroup ourselves. Everything seems to slow down in pace, comfort is more noticeable than spring and summer months. It reminds me of cleaning our minds and inner being. As time creates laziness, “me time”, and our thoughts fall in season.

🍁 The changing of leaves 🍂
As the days begin to shorten and the temperature drops, the leaves start to change and create a stunning visual all over the world. The trees, normally alive with greens and browns, transform into a canvas of reds, oranges, and yellows. With the changing of leaves comes a subtle reminder of the changing of seasons.
The changing of leaves is not only beautiful to look at, but it can be a source of comfort as well. It serves as a reminder that despite the darkening of days and the chill in the air, new life is around the corner. The leaves may be dying and falling off, but they symbolize the hope that spring will come eventually. This hope brings warmth to our hearts and minds as we enter into a season of darkness and cold.
The changing of leaves also gives us an opportunity to take part in outdoor activities while enjoying nature. Whether it’s going on a hike to see the changing foliage, or just taking a leisurely stroll through the park, there are plenty of opportunities to appreciate and admire nature’s seasonal 🍁transformation.
The changing of leaves is truly a magical experience that brings with it the promise of brighter days ahead. As we take in the beauty of this special time of year, may we all find comfort in knowing that the light will eventually return.

🦋 Beautiful scenery
As the days get shorter and the temperatures start to drop, we are reminded of all the beauty that the fall and winter months bring. The changing of leaves creates a stunning display of vibrant oranges, reds, and yellows that blanket the ground. Trees become adorned with colorful foliage, 🍂making them look like a masterpiece crafted by an artist. The scent of pumpkin spice, cinnamon, and fresh apples fills the air, bringing warmth and comfort.
The crisp autumn air gives us the perfect opportunity to take a walk and admire the natural beauty of nature. The chilly evenings provide us with an excuse to curl up by the fire and enjoy some hot cocoa. And, of course, who could forget winter snowfall? The sight of snowflakes falling from the sky can be mesmerizing; it’s like a winter wonderland. ❄️
The fall and winter months offer so much beauty and tranquility, it’s no wonder why we feel some kind of a way when they roll around. From the changing of leaves to the winter snowfall, these two seasons provide us with a unique experience that can only be appreciated in person. So grab your scarf, wrap yourself up in a cozy blanket, and go out and explore all that these months have to offer.

❄️ Holidays
There is something truly special about the fall and winter months. Whether it be the changing of leaves, the beautiful scenery, or the holidays, these months bring out a unique sense of comfort and joy in all of us. During this time, evenings become cooler, sweaters come out, boots are worn and many of us find ourselves cuddling up in front of a warm fireplace. 🔥
Holidays are an integral part of the fall and winter months. From Halloween to Christmas, there are so many opportunities to spend quality time with family and friends, share stories and create memories that will last a lifetime. Celebrating holidays is a great way to celebrate tradition and make each season special.
For those who find themselves living far away from family and friends during the holidays, there are still plenty of ways to experience the joys of the season. One way is to celebrate alone by indulging in favorite holiday activities such as baking treats, decorating the house, or wrapping presents. Doing these activities alone can bring just as much joy as spending time with others.
No matter how you choose to spend your fall and winter months, remember to cherish each moment and create wonderful memories that will last forever.

🆒 Cool evenings
As the summer months come to an end, we are blessed with cooler evenings and the changing of leaves. The sun sets earlier and earlier, leaving us with a peaceful darkness to embrace. These cool evenings can be the perfect time to cozy up and relax with your loved ones. Grab a blanket and a mug of hot cocoa, light up a fire in the fireplace, and curl up on the couch. It’s the perfect atmosphere to share stories or simply enjoy each other’s company without feeling the heat of summer. Whether you’re out taking a night stroll or enjoying a movie indoors, these cool evenings offer something special that can’t be found anywhere else.🍿
And let’s not forget about the gorgeous scenery of fall that comes with it. The changing of leaves from green to red, orange, and yellow make for some stunning visuals that can be admired from any angle. Taking the time to observe all the beauty this season has to offer will put your heart and soul at ease.
So, don’t miss out on these lovely cool evenings. Take some time to appreciate the little moments in life that make it so special.

👢 Winter boots
It’s no surprise that winter boots are one of the most essential items to have during the fall and winter months. Not only do they keep your feet warm and dry, but they also add a stylish touch to any outfit. Whether you’re heading out for a night on the town or just wanting to stay cozy around the house, there’s nothing like slipping into a pair of warm and stylish winter boots.
From slip-on ankle boots to fur-lined shearling styles, there are so many options to choose from when it comes to winter boots. Look for weatherproof materials such as leather, suede, rubber, and synthetic fabrics to ensure your feet stay warm and dry. When shopping for winter boots, make sure you pick a pair that fits snugly and provides support for your feet – this will help keep you comfortable throughout the colder months.
If you’re looking for some serious warmth and coziness, try pairing your winter boots with thick wool socks or thermal liners. This is a great way to keep your feet extra warm in cold climates. You can also dress up your winter boots with a pair of thick leg warmers or leg protectors for extra coverage.
No matter what style or type of winter boot you choose, there’s no doubt that these cozy footwear essentials are perfect for battling the chilly temperatures of fall and winter!

🧥 Flannel shirts
The cooler months of fall and winter bring with them a unique set of feelings that can be hard to put into words. Whether it’s the changing leaves, cozy evenings, or winter fashion, something about this time of year just feels special. One of the most iconic winter staples is the flannel shirt.
Flannel shirts offer the perfect balance of comfort and style. Not only are they warm and comfortable, but they can also add an element of style to any outfit. You can pair a flannel shirt with jeans for a casual, relaxed look or dress it up with trousers for a more formal occasion. You can find flannel shirts in a variety of colors and patterns, allowing you to express your individual style.
Flannel shirts also make great gifts for friends and family. They’re versatile enough that anyone can enjoy wearing them, from young children to elderly adults. Whether you’re looking for something practical or simply a way to show someone you care, a flannel shirt is a great option.
So if you’re looking to embrace the coziness of fall and winter, consider adding a flannel shirt to your wardrobe. With their timeless style and comfort, you’ll soon see why these shirts have become such a beloved part of the cooler months.

🔥Cuddling in front of the fireplace
As the days become shorter and cooler, it’s the perfect time to hunker down inside and get cozy. One of the most beloved winter activities is gathering around a fireplace with loved ones for some warmth and comfort. It can be a great way to make memories, bond with family or friends, or just relax and reflect. Not everyone has a traditional wood-burning fireplace in their home, but there are still many options available to replicate the experience. Electric fireplaces are becoming increasingly popular, and they’re relatively inexpensive and easy to install. Or if you’re feeling creative, you can build a makeshift fire pit outside and enjoy the beautiful night sky.

No matter how you choose to enjoy the warmth of the fire, it’s sure to bring some peace and joy during the cooler months. So take some time to snuggle up with your family, friends, or pets in front of the fireplace and create lasting memories.

As the winter months offer a peace of mind. To regroup, spend time with family and friends – welcome the memories. The cozy evening in front the fireplace 🔥or in the kitchen baking holidays candies – Fall into Season. Snowflakes will soon glimmer through the night under/over the colorful festive lights. Let it snow – the season may give shorter & darker days, but cheerful lights can brighten the mood to blink the nights away.🎄 Are you into the season? What’s holiday traditions that gets you in the Holiday Spirit? ❄️

🎄 Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

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Can’t Read Emotions? You Might Have Alexithymia

Emotions - Unable to Connect
Emotions, separation in connecting

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Sometimes we may connect with those we never imagined. In return is a remarkable experience at times. We may even have a hard time relating or interacting with others.. A person with alexithymia may have trouble identifying their emotions and communicating those feelings to other people. They might not even be able to imagine what other people are feeling or thinking, and this can make it difficult to socialize with others and engage in close relationships. However, the symptoms of alexithymia are not part of any specific mental illness; rather, it’s an emotional deficiency that can be treated through therapy, training and self-awareness.

What is alexithymia?
Alexithymia is thought to affect about 10% of the population. Although the cause of this condition is unknown, it has been linked to genetic predisposition and environmental factors. For example, people who were raised in an environment where their feelings were not acknowledged or validated may develop alexithymia.
People with alexithymia may find it difficult to identify and name their own feelings. They may also have difficulty interpreting the emotions of others. This can lead to misunderstandings, communication difficulties, and problems forming relationships.
When identifying alexithymia, it is important to note that everyone experiences emotions differently. Just because someone has difficulty understanding their own or others’ emotions does not necessarily mean they have alexithymia. If you are concerned that you or someone you know may have alexithymia, it is best to speak to a mental health professional for an assessment.

Causes of alexithymia
Alexithymia can be caused by a number of factors, including genetics, environmental factors, and even physical trauma. It has been linked to various psychological disorders, such as anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and schizophrenia.
Research has suggested that alexithymia may be related to an inability to recognize or process emotions accurately. This could be due to a disruption in the neural pathways between the amygdala (the area of the brain responsible for emotions) and other areas responsible for language, cognition, and social behavior.
Environmental factors, such as trauma or abuse, can also contribute to alexithymia. Those who have experienced severe emotional trauma may develop difficulty identifying and expressing their emotions, leading to alexithymia.
It is important to note that not everyone who experiences trauma or has a mental health disorder will develop alexithymia. However, it is important to be aware of the potential signs and symptoms, so that those who are affected can get the help they need.

  • *Symptoms of Alexithymia
    Alexithymia is a condition that affects how a person processes and expresses emotions. It can make it difficult for someone to identify and express their own emotions, and can also impair the ability to recognize and respond to others’ emotions.
    While it is not a mental health disorder, people with alexithymia may have problems maintaining relationships and taking part in social situations. Knowing the signs of this condition can help those affected recognize what they are experiencing, so that they can seek the help they need.
    Signs of alexithymia include difficulty identifying one’s own feelings, difficulty describing feelings to others, difficulties understanding feelings in other people, an inability to use emotions to think, relying on physical cues to express feelings, being easily overwhelmed by emotions, and/or having no interest in discussing emotions. People with alexithymia may also display signs of anxiety or depression, have difficulty sleeping, or exhibit physical symptoms such as chronic pain.
    If you or someone you know is displaying signs of alexithymia, it is important to reach out for professional help. Therapists can help those affected identify and express their emotions, learn how to recognize others’ emotions, and develop better relationships. Additionally, medications may be prescribed if necessary.
    By understanding the symptoms of alexithymia, you can get the help you need to lead a healthier life.

Treatments for alexithymia
Alexithymia is a difficult condition to manage, as it can cause people to be unable to express and identify their own emotions. While there is no specific treatment for alexithymia, there are strategies that can help improve emotional awareness and communication skills.
The first step in managing alexithymia is to seek professional help. A mental health professional can help you identify the underlying issues that may be contributing to the difficulty in expressing your emotions. They can also provide insight into strategies to help you better understand and communicate your emotions.
It is also important to learn about how to recognize and respond to your emotions. Taking part in activities such as mindfulness and meditation can be beneficial in increasing awareness of emotions and learning how to control them. This can be especially helpful for people with alexithymia, as they often struggle with recognizing and expressing their feelings.
In addition, engaging in creative activities, such as drawing or writing, can also be beneficial in helping to identify emotions and process them. It can also help build communication skills, which can be beneficial when speaking with a mental health professional or loved ones.
Finally, building meaningful relationships with family and friends can also be helpful in managing alexithymia. Connecting with others who understand your condition can help you feel less isolated and provide an outlet for expressing your emotions. These relationships can also provide the support and encouragement needed for trying new strategies for managing alexithymia.
Overall, while there is no one-size-fits-all approach to managing alexithymia, these strategies can be beneficial in helping people gain a better understanding of their emotions and improve their ability to communicate them. If you think you may have alexithymia, it is important to speak with a mental health professional so they can work with you to develop a plan that works best for you.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

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Narcissist: Why it’s so Hard to Love and Live with them

Power of Control or Attention

We all know narcissists are very demanding and they can be so arrogant too. Well, what you don’t know is how hard it is to actually love and live with them. Whether you are in a relationship with one or you are dealing with your boss on the job, having to deal with this type of person can be very stressful and sometimes depressing. But do you know why narcissists act this way? Do you know what goes on behind those eyes? The heart of a narcissist is confusing, or is it? You will find the answers here.

* What is a narcissist?
A narcissist is someone who has a sense of entitlement, self-importance, superiority and egotism. Narcissists typically have an inflated ego or sense of self-worth. They do not take responsibility for their actions, but instead blame others or the world at large for everything that happens. They expect special treatment but do not extend the same courtesies to others.

They are preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, beauty or love. They need constant admiration from others in order to feel fulfilled. You may find yourself feeling drained by a narcissist’s excessive need for attention or admiration – which often leads you to being overly accommodating and caring. The problem is that this too can be taken advantage of by the narcissistic person because they want you to be attentive all the time . Even when they are just sitting around on the couch watching TV, and you’re doing housework! A narcissist may demand your affection while you are busy. A narcissist will leave you feeling they are priority over anything and everyone else. Being overwhelmed by constant confusion is just the mind game of a narcissist. The motive is to bring you below their own sorrows to feel better about their poor behavior. They see no wrong in their actions and turn the table to, “she is crazy”. They will always come out looking great at your cost. In time mental, emotional, and physical anguish will make you question your own mental health.

No matter what you do, the narcissist will always come up with a reason to criticize your behavior, like taking care of your own needs. It’s important to understand that this tendency doesn’t necessarily stem from maliciousness or ill intent; it’s more about how much they believe themselves above everyone else. The narcissist lives only for him/herself, usually paying little regard to anyone else in the process. In addition to treating other people badly, a narcissist also acts as if he/she does not exist (e.g., having no feelings). He/she feels entitled to certain privileges or things that most people don’t think he/she deserves such as praise and fame, even if he/she hasn’t done anything remarkable. They act arrogantly and use others to meet their own needs without considering the consequences. No expression of guilt or mercy after insulting or criticizing others is noticed. Narcissists hide behind a fake impersonation, cheating, lying, deceit, and manipulation. Narcissistic personality disorder is one of the 10 types of personality disorders recognized by medical professionals.

* How does one become a narcissist?
Most people become narcissists because they were praised excessively as children. As they grow up, they come to believe that they are superior to others and deserve special treatment. Narcissists also often have a sense of entitlement, which means they feel like the world owes them something. They may try to take advantage of other people or act in ways that don’t consider other people’s feelings. For example, a narcissist will create confrontation or drama to dominate their needs. If you are planning to spend time with family or friends, a narcissist will crash the day, your emotions, and act as nothing happend. A bogus demand that’s nonsense, to prove power and control to inflict guilt on you. As the narcissist was not included in your plans. Everyone needs interactions with others for the well-being of mental and physical health. Narcissists will ruin your mood to make you feel some kind of a way. A way that leaves you questioning “why?” and “what” just happend. The end result, overtime happiness is out of sight. A slow distance with friends and family takes place to avoid arguments or punishment. A narcissist will punish you for having fun, having friends, – the quality of “yourself” will begin to crumble. One day you just look in the mirror, and your not the same person you once were.

At this point, time has passed, your emotions and thoughts have altered. Those “in love” strings have thinned out. Your feelings have changed towards the narcissist. The positive energy from the relation has gotten bitter. Excuses no longer has meaning, as truth is told. A broken down puppet who has been reprogrammed by the hands of a master. “gHoSteD” with ripple effects of confused emotions, mental anguish, and physical pain. The “gHoSteD” trauma is crippling when you realize somethings not right. A blind side effect of love – cockhold syndrome. Unaware of the attachment formed by pure hell. Degrading, mental, physical, and emotional abuse has become routine. A victim of abuse, empowered by control, neediness, and mental illness, -masterminded manipulation, guilt, and deceit. Conditioned that the abuse from a narcissist is not his/her fault. To avoid further conflict, a narcissist will play victim and reap the pleasure of another win.

Is there hope?
Yes, there is hope. If you’re reading this, then you maybe in a relationship with a Narcissist. And if that’s the case, I’m sorry. But don’t give up hope! You can still find happiness – just not with that person. Your happiness will come from within yourself. The most important thing for you to do right now is take care of your needs and self-care before trying to take care of others or their needs. The damage inflicted did not happen overnight. The love you once felt is love you once knew. Those feelings have been reconstructed to accommodate the narcissist. Don’t beat yourself up for the behavior you tolerated from the narcissist. If something feels wrong, trust your intuition and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Take inventory of what makes YOU happy (what brings joy into YOUR life) and then make decisions based on those things going forward.
Finally, know that this about “YOU”. You are capable, you are strong, you are your own defence – An army of one. Today is the day to be happy again. Have hope in your being, that life is so much more. The hurt will pass, but your well-being is priority.

* The level of involvement in the relationship The involvement depends on the mindset at the moment. The personality challenges can be hectic. At one moment the neediness can be overwhelming as you are demanded at all times.. You become the control operation as a puppet. A master who is degrading the source of everything – You. Everything is done by demand and control. The level is high demand for attention and admiration for your hard work. The credit and appreciation is to their need for appraisal at all cost. Because of you, your narcissist reaps all appraisal and benefits of your accomplishments. You are not weak. You are tired but look at all you been through. Your strength pushed you harder than you ever imagined. Now it’s time to rest. Strengthen your mind and push through the time to let go. You gave all and got nothing more than being tired of no help. When you were told you “couldn’t” you accomplished “I conquered”. The involvement from the narcissist was to push you to your limits. The hell of “couldn’t” proved your worth. Be proud for your ability as a person, an army of one, and be your own #1 fan. Nothing is can stop 🛑 – “YOU”. Never under estimate the power of your mind.

Why do narcissists behave this way? Control is the motive, by the lack of self-confidence. The insults get deeper in time, with emotional, mental, and physical abuse. One would believe it gets better, truth is, it gets worse. The more you resist or challenge a narcissist… It fuels the demand ego for control. The right now moment which only pushes button on the victim. Fueled by fear of you leaving, scared of being alone, and lack of connection to communicate. Narcissist lack empathy, leaving them confused about right or wrong behavior. Being acceptable to wrong intention, judgemental responses, react with poor behavior, and by remorse or guilt. Inflicted behavior to control another person is damaging and unacceptable. A narcissist lack the ability to connect emotional and physical pain – leaving others confused when feelings are involved

* Dealing with a narcissist. At first you might be smitten by a narcissist charm, good looks, and inviting false character. When you think it’s to good to be true, believe it, it’s true. Walk real fast or run when this behavior is noticed. It can be hard to not lash out in anger towards a narcissist. This is just a game to push your buttons. Silence and kindness will confuse a narcissist, who seeks a reaction to their mind games. Beating a narcissist at their own games, this is in a safe way. Fighting back, arguing, threatening, or criticizing a narcissist will only cause more problem. It does not get better. Overtime once you are secure, plan to leave. Don’t look back, yes it will hurt like hell. That hurt will soon be a faded memory, that gave you strength. As you conquer and overcome in the days ahead. Remember a narcissist, taught you how to be hard, find your inner strength, and most of all overcome what you thought was impossible. Tomorrow is a new day being an army of one. And soon after, the days after tomorrow. When your least expected, Hope will show up unexpectedly. An your army of one becomes two. That’s when teamwork becomes reality of life.

We can all say “I would not”, “there is no way”, and we end up with that person. Who is a narcissist. Those narcissist change who we are and who we become. But in time we learn bout our mental, physical, and emotional strength that we never knew. Our minds are challenged by Narcissistic ways that we learn to overcome. It’s not okay to control or demand another person’s attention. Tomorrow is a new day, you can over come and enjoy life once again, it’s up too you.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter-Della 💞🦋

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The Art of Gathering

Times and Gathering

Oh, how the times of gatherings have lost the shine. Interactions and communication are fundamental values to our well-being. The laughter, tears, sorrows, and happiness that others give us in this lifetime. Simple moments that fill our lives with a sense of purpose. Those moments that take place when we gather. During holidays, birthdays, important milestones in our lives. Why gatherings are important and why gatherings help maintain mental health. If you’re wondering where people are gathered today – well the importance of the “Art of Gatherings” is for you.

* Gatherings I can remember as a child family gatherings included large groups of people. Family that included long friends of the family and many more. Gatherings of lots of drinking, grilling out, kids running in the yard, playing horseshoes, volleyball, badminton, belly hurting laughter, and just good times. Those memories create my foundation to my own character. We learn from our childhood how we treat and respect others. The Art of Gatherings are important elements that give opportunity for memories. As a child I had uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins, nephews, nieces that I grew up with. Those are family members that help shape who I am and have become.

* Time Changes with Age Time changes those gatherings overtime. The gatherings get smaller as loved ones age and leave this earth. We don’t notice until those gatherings are memories of those that once attended aren’t there. An empty chair at the dinner table. Those faces are with their children and grandchildren. Or maybe they have passed on. Our group has branched off to subdivide into other group gatherings. It’s not personal or your fault, life is what happened. Do they get busy with life and fail to attend gatherings? Or do they have larger functions and gatherings elsewhere? Do people still gather? Has the loss of loved ones put a toll on your Art of Gatherings?

* Picture of Who? The old black and dark colored photos in old albums your parents or grandparents kept. Albums that pictures are falling out of. Old albums that have such high value. One thing we can’t ever replace -photos. If found please keep and protect. Who has photo albums in 2022? Who has a physical camera that takes photos? Has gatherings changed the way we create photo albums? Photo albums are antique, physical pictures are precious diamonds. Who looks at old faded books or albums of photos, these days? Honestly, I do. Those photos are one of two things that live on after we expire. Photos are forever if properly stored and valued. (The other thing that continues after we expire is your signature).

Photo albums for 2022 are cell phones. Everyone has one and those photos should be available to show off daily. But do you glance at those photos after they are saved to your phone? Friends those phones will not hold the value to a photo album. Most of us can say, dang I had 1200 photos on my old phone. Impressive, right? Then the phone broke and those photos are gone. There is no replacement for those moments. That image is stored in memory of our mind. Sadly, we can describe a perfect moment, but our minds can’t print that picture in time.

The Art of Gatherings have a purpose for memories and photos. Take time to use a camera and create a family photo album. An album you created today, is worth a million words to those who inherit the photo album. Do yourself a favor if anything else. Take time to teach your children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, neighboring children – The Art of Gatherings. Educate our future generation the value of appreciation of gatherings memories, and photo albums. The creation of a scrapbook or a family photo album teaches the value and appreciation to life. Mentally, emotionally, and physically form an attachment to memories and gatherings. The lost art of love can be reborn. Love is created by us who spread the word. Don’t continue to let technology form our future children’s beliefs. Gatherings is in person with photos to place in a photo album. Not the space and time spent on the web/internet that fills illusions of life.

In the final thoughts, The Art of Gatherings, help us deal with challenges. Challenges offer the opportunity to be “live in person”. Where feelings are felt, the good, bad, ugly raw emotions that create us. Feelings that teach us sadness, respect, happiness, love, anger, pain, and the value of an Art of Gatherings. Today is an opportunity to teach a lost value, that can live on longer after you expire. Are you teaching today? Tomorrow? Or sometime soon? I know you have amazing teaching skills. You lived life in the Art of Gatherings. You are a piece of Art that is forever through photos and your signature. Share your teaching skills, everyone’s teachable.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

Children’s needs depend on you – Be Responsive

Your Children Need You
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Everyday we all know, our list of things to do, continue to grow. As your children grow they look at you, full attention is on you. How you respond, attend, and show up is a priority to developmental growth. All eyes on you is a fact to life. Children want to grow and develop to be strong adults in life. It’s important how the parent relays facts to life. Be present, show up, and listen. Children crave you, your attention, your affection, and your time.

It’s important to be responsive

It is important to be responsive to your child’s needs. This means meeting their needs promptly and consistently. When you respond quickly and appropriately to your child’s needs, they learn that they can rely on you. Trust and honesty are what a child needs to feel safe and secure. This teaches children to be honest and good adults in life.

The importance of consistency

It is important to be consistent in your parenting. This means establishing routines and sticking to them. Children feel secure when they know what to expect from their parents. Consistency allows children to feel connected to their parents. A child can grow and develop emotions and mental health in a positive direction. Children need consistency to promote healthy mental health.

Hold and cuddle your child often

One of the best ways to create a secure attachment with your child is to hold and cuddle them often. This physical affection helps your child feel loved and secure, and can go a long way in establishing a strong bond between you and your child. Try to make a point of cuddling with your child every day, even if it’s just for a few minutes at bedtime or during morning snuggles. Like the ole’ saying goes, “Hugs go along way, even when they aren’t near”.

Respond promptly to your child’s needs

Another important tip for creating a secure attachment is to respond promptly to your child’s needs. This doesn’t mean you need to drop everything every time your child cries or call off work whenever they’re sick – but it does mean being attentive and responsive when they really need you. If possible, try to have at least one parent or caregiver available who can respond quickly to any major needs or issues that arise. Being attentive helps your child develop positive emotional connections. Connecting with others is an excellent ability to establish.

Establish routines and stick to them

Finally, another helpful tip for creating a secure attachment is to establish routines and stick to them as much as possible. Having consistent routines gives children a sense of security and predictability, which can help reduce anxiety and promote feelings of safety and well-being. Try to maintain regular mealtimes, bedtimes, bath times, etc., as much as possible, and let your child know what to expect ahead of time so they can feel prepared and comfortable. Routine can help a child feel responsible and safe. It’s okay to give your child a schedule to adhere to.

A secure attachment between parent and child is vital for the healthy development of the child. Attachment provides children with a sense of safety and security, which is essential for their emotional well-being. There are many ways to create a secure attachment with your child, but some of the most important include bonding, responsiveness, and consistency. By following these tips, you can give your child the foundation they need to thrive.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

In Love With Someone: When Life Is Perfect, Why Does That Love Turn To Hate Over Time?

Change in Love

We’ve all been there: you finally find the one, the person who you know will make you happy for the rest of your life and create beautiful babies with, and you once can’t imagine life without them. But before too long, this love turns to hate, and that person that you once loved so much now seems like an enemy who wants to make your life as difficult as possible. What happened? How did such pure love turn into pure hate? A lot of it comes down to two factors: expectations, and external circumstances. Let’s understand each of these factors in turn.

The Infatuation Stage
When you first start dating someone new, it’s like you’re in love. You can’t get enough of each other and you want to spend every waking moment together. You have this intense need for the person that never goes away. It feels so good to be with them and when you’re not with them, you can’t stop thinking about them. All your time is spent imagining what they might be doing and why they haven’t replied to your last text. They consume your thoughts and nothing else seems important or even interesting anymore. But then, as you spend more time together, something starts to change. Gradually you find yourself wondering if maybe this was all just a temporary feeling – an infatuation stage – and not true love after all. There are times where they seem almost too perfect, so much so that it becomes hard to see any flaws. And you find yourself questioning everything – the relationship, your compatibility and whether or not they’re right for you.

The Dealing with Imperfections Stage
It’s not uncommon for a couple to enter the Dealing with Imperfections stage. This is when you realize that life isn’t perfect and that you are no longer in love with your partner. You see their flaws and it can be difficult to overlook them. It’s important to understand that this is a natural stage in the relationship and it does not mean there is anything wrong with you or your partner. All relationships have highs and lows and this is just one of those low moments. The best way to get through this phase is by being patient, open-minded, and working on improving yourself before expecting too much from your partner. The time will pass and things will return to normal.

It might take some time but patience is key to making things better. Remembering what you loved about each other and what made you happy in the past is also a good idea. If all else fails, don’t hesitate to seek professional help! It may seem scary at first, but it could end up saving your marriage. Marriage counseling is an excellent way to address these problems as well as many others like communication problems or intimacy issues. No matter how dark things seem now, remember that these difficulties won’t last forever if you work together.

The Resentment Stage
Stage one of the love-hate relationship is often called the resentment stage. In this stage, the couple’s love has morphed into something else. It’s not as intense or passionate. The romance is gone. But there’s still a sense of attachment to each other and most importantly a sense of ownership in the relationship. That one partner you will never let go of or give up on. This can be felt by both partners in varying degrees. Some couples are able to bounce back from it and get back into an even greater feeling. But others can’t seem to shake the feeling off no matter what they do.
For some people, it’s easier said than done because their hurt is so deep that they lash out at their partner. With anger and bitterness which only makes things worse between them. And yet others just don’t feel like they’re enough for their significant other any longer.
And when these feelings boil to the surface all at once, it doesn’t take much for a fight to break out and for one person to say something unforgivable that sends everything crashing down around him/her. When someone feels pushed too far, he/she snaps. And the one who was pushed over the edge finally explodes–lashing out in anger, unleashing his/her wrath–in hopes that it would make everything better. However, most often times nothing changes and instead becomes even more toxic. There are arguments about how money should be spent or how plans were made without input from the other party. Whatever reason for fighting about things, issues just continue to grow until eventually one partner either gives up on the relationship entirely (walking away) or reconciles and tries again to work things out (only to have another argument).
What many people forget is that relationships are hard work.

The Break-Up Stage
It’s a cycle that so many of us have been through. You’re in love with someone. You’re happy and life is perfect. And then it all falls apart. Without warning and without reason, you just wake up one day and find yourself hating the person you once loved so much. The reasons for these break-ups vary from person to person – it could be due to betrayal or just losing interest over time – but there are some commonalities that we can identify here. First, after being together for a long time, we start to take each other for granted. We stop appreciating what we have and only focus on what’s wrong instead. Second, resentment starts building up between both people until finally it breaks out into anger or fighting.
Third, we start comparing ourselves to other people because we don’t think our relationship is enough anymore or because things get really tough during hard times like when one partner loses their job or gets sick. Lastly, at this stage, we often want different things than our partner. One of them may want children while the other doesn’t want kids at all; one may want marriage while the other isn’t sure about commitment; one might feel that they need space but the other wants to stay together no matter what. These differences can create problems even if one of the partners agrees to compromise. All these factors play a role in why relationships fall apart and why we end up hurting the ones we love.

Communication and commitment are important factors to help relationships. The challenges take a lot of work. In return it takes both parties to overcome the challenges. If you fail to put in the work, naturally it crumbles in time. It’s not easy to leave, but it’s a wonderful feeling to be happy once again.

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞💞

“I Live Here, Too” : How to Survive a Toxic Relationship

Toxic, too much – Living Together

It’s no secret, and truth is out there. That living in an abusive relationship can be harmful to your physical and mental health, as well as your self-esteem, but it’s not always so easy to figure out how to get out of one. It takes time for days, months, and even years to leave a toxic relationship. Sadly, some never leave the relationship, and the abuser takes the life of the victim.

Recognize the signs of a toxic relationship
Unfortunately, we don’t always know when we’re in a toxic relationship. There are signs that can help you identify the toxicity and get out of it before it hurts your life any more than it already has.
-The person always criticizes you and never agrees with what you say or do. -They make you feel like everything is your fault. -You’re always walking on eggshells around them and they don’t seem to care how they make you feel. -No matter what you do for them, it’s never good enough. You just end up feeling frustrated and powerless.
-Nothing is ever their fault; it’s always yours.
-It feels like no matter what happens, this person will have an excuse for why things went wrong. They’ll find ways to blame you for anything and everything that goes wrong in their lives too. -Nothing is ever their fault; it’s always yours.
-Be honest with yourself about whether these behaviors happen only sometimes, frequently or all the time. If these behaviors happen all the time, then there’s a high chance your partner is not being respectful of you.

Set boundaries with your partner
In order to survive in a toxic relationship, you have to set boundaries with your partner. For example, don’t answer the phone when they call or text you. If they come over, tell them it’s not safe for you right now and that you’ll talk later. The next time they come over, say no and ask them to leave your house. You can also try changing your cell number if necessary. When they make contact again, do not speak to them. Write down everything they do and document it so you will know what repeated behaviors to look out for in the future. Seek help from friends and family who support you. Find an outlet (such as writing) to release any pent-up emotions from dealing with this situation. Keep yourself busy to avoid having too much idle time on your hands. Talk to people close to you about how they feel about what is happening because it helps and gives them peace of mind knowing they are there for you.

Create a support system
The only way you can survive an abusive relationship is by building up your support system. You need family, friends and even strangers that will be there for you no matter what. This will help you feel less isolated and like you’re not the only one going through this. If they know how bad it’s gotten, they might also be able to offer ideas on how to deal with it or ways you can get out. If these people don’t want to take on the burden of being involved in your life all the time, find some who do! Just because he doesn’t want to fix his problems doesn’t mean you have to stay at home crying and waiting for him. Spend time with friends, join groups, go online- anything that gets you out of the house.

Seek professional help
If you are in an abusive or toxic relationship, it is time to get help. You deserve happiness and shouldn’t have to stay in a relationship with that kind of environment. We encourage you reach out for the help you need. There is always someone there for you if you need them; whether it be family, friends, or professionals who can help with your situation. Remember, life isn’t meant to be miserable. Make sure that if you decide to leave a relationship like this, do so safely and don’t take anything from the other person that may jeopardize your safety – including social media passwords. The first few days after leaving will feel like the end of the world, but know that they will pass and things will start to seem better. Find new hobbies that make you happy, as well as meet new people who will support your decisions (even if they’re not perfect).
You deserve happiness and don’t have to stay in a relationship where you’re constantly unhappy because this is how it’s supposed to be. Life isn’t meant to be miserable! Know that you deserve happiness and shouldn’t be staying in a relationship where you’re constantly unhappy because this is how it’s supposed to be. one day soon you’ll realize all of this has been worth it.

Know when to walk away
There are many reasons why you may need to end your relationship. Are you being mistreated? Has your significant other been unfaithful? Does he/she refuse to do anything with you? The list goes on and on. It can be hard to make the decision, but know that there is life after the breakup. The first step is acknowledging the problems in your relationship, then deciding if it’s worth trying for change or if it’s time for him/her to go. To reach this conclusion, ask yourself these questions:
-Does your partner get jealous easily and try to control what you wear, who you talk to, etc.?
, stay in the relationship. If they’re not respecting your boundaries, they don’t deserve you. If they’re not respecting your boundaries, they don’t deserve you. If their not respecting your boundaries,they don’t deserve you. I live here too. When love goes bad, sourness fills the room daily. Pain of cheating, abuse, and demands. But I live here too, it is my favorite word. No love, just anger, and tears. Not married or married, or together for too long. It’s hard but it passes in time. You are a priority, you matter most. Sometimes overtime, we wake up and know it’s time to go. May tomorrow be your day, so happiness fills your soul once again. You deserve love, peace, and happiness. 💕

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋