“I Live Here, Too” : How to Survive a Toxic Relationship

Toxic, too much – Living Together

It’s no secret, and truth is out there. That living in an abusive relationship can be harmful to your physical and mental health, as well as your self-esteem, but it’s not always so easy to figure out how to get out of one. It takes time for days, months, and even years to leave a toxic relationship. Sadly, some never leave the relationship, and the abuser takes the life of the victim.

Recognize the signs of a toxic relationship
Unfortunately, we don’t always know when we’re in a toxic relationship. There are signs that can help you identify the toxicity and get out of it before it hurts your life any more than it already has.
-The person always criticizes you and never agrees with what you say or do. -They make you feel like everything is your fault. -You’re always walking on eggshells around them and they don’t seem to care how they make you feel. -No matter what you do for them, it’s never good enough. You just end up feeling frustrated and powerless.
-Nothing is ever their fault; it’s always yours.
-It feels like no matter what happens, this person will have an excuse for why things went wrong. They’ll find ways to blame you for anything and everything that goes wrong in their lives too. -Nothing is ever their fault; it’s always yours.
-Be honest with yourself about whether these behaviors happen only sometimes, frequently or all the time. If these behaviors happen all the time, then there’s a high chance your partner is not being respectful of you.

Set boundaries with your partner
In order to survive in a toxic relationship, you have to set boundaries with your partner. For example, don’t answer the phone when they call or text you. If they come over, tell them it’s not safe for you right now and that you’ll talk later. The next time they come over, say no and ask them to leave your house. You can also try changing your cell number if necessary. When they make contact again, do not speak to them. Write down everything they do and document it so you will know what repeated behaviors to look out for in the future. Seek help from friends and family who support you. Find an outlet (such as writing) to release any pent-up emotions from dealing with this situation. Keep yourself busy to avoid having too much idle time on your hands. Talk to people close to you about how they feel about what is happening because it helps and gives them peace of mind knowing they are there for you.

Create a support system
The only way you can survive an abusive relationship is by building up your support system. You need family, friends and even strangers that will be there for you no matter what. This will help you feel less isolated and like you’re not the only one going through this. If they know how bad it’s gotten, they might also be able to offer ideas on how to deal with it or ways you can get out. If these people don’t want to take on the burden of being involved in your life all the time, find some who do! Just because he doesn’t want to fix his problems doesn’t mean you have to stay at home crying and waiting for him. Spend time with friends, join groups, go online- anything that gets you out of the house.

Seek professional help
If you are in an abusive or toxic relationship, it is time to get help. You deserve happiness and shouldn’t have to stay in a relationship with that kind of environment. We encourage you reach out for the help you need. There is always someone there for you if you need them; whether it be family, friends, or professionals who can help with your situation. Remember, life isn’t meant to be miserable. Make sure that if you decide to leave a relationship like this, do so safely and don’t take anything from the other person that may jeopardize your safety – including social media passwords. The first few days after leaving will feel like the end of the world, but know that they will pass and things will start to seem better. Find new hobbies that make you happy, as well as meet new people who will support your decisions (even if they’re not perfect).
You deserve happiness and don’t have to stay in a relationship where you’re constantly unhappy because this is how it’s supposed to be. Life isn’t meant to be miserable! Know that you deserve happiness and shouldn’t be staying in a relationship where you’re constantly unhappy because this is how it’s supposed to be. one day soon you’ll realize all of this has been worth it.

Know when to walk away
There are many reasons why you may need to end your relationship. Are you being mistreated? Has your significant other been unfaithful? Does he/she refuse to do anything with you? The list goes on and on. It can be hard to make the decision, but know that there is life after the breakup. The first step is acknowledging the problems in your relationship, then deciding if it’s worth trying for change or if it’s time for him/her to go. To reach this conclusion, ask yourself these questions:
-Does your partner get jealous easily and try to control what you wear, who you talk to, etc.?
, stay in the relationship. If they’re not respecting your boundaries, they don’t deserve you. If they’re not respecting your boundaries, they don’t deserve you. If their not respecting your boundaries,they don’t deserve you. I live here too. When love goes bad, sourness fills the room daily. Pain of cheating, abuse, and demands. But I live here too, it is my favorite word. No love, just anger, and tears. Not married or married, or together for too long. It’s hard but it passes in time. You are a priority, you matter most. Sometimes overtime, we wake up and know it’s time to go. May tomorrow be your day, so happiness fills your soul once again. You deserve love, peace, and happiness. 💕

Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋

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