It’s been called needy, codependent and other names, but when it’s someone close to you and you love them dearly, nothing else seems to matter. You want to take care of them and make them happy; you want to be there whenever they need you and anticipate their needs as if they were your own.
- * Feeling like you’re always needed
I often feel like I’m needed all the time, which is great because it’s an ego boost. However, sometimes it gets to be too much. I find myself constantly checking my phone or thinking about who needs me next. I have to remind myself that I need me too, and take some time for myself. Sometimes when I do this, I notice how it affects other people in a positive way. They are more productive and happier when they’re not worried about me being there for them at any moment. Being needed has its upsides, but also has its downsides. For example, as soon as you stop needing someone else, they start feeling neglected. It can be hard to balance the highs and lows of wanting to help others while still caring for yourself.
- *Having to be in control all the time
The neediness can be overwhelming at times, but it has its perks. You know you have people who rely on you. It’s empowering to be needed. But some days, I just feel like I’m a puppet being pulled around by my strings, with no say in what goes on in my life or theirs. I don’t want to be co-dependent or codependent, but it seems inevitable when you’re involved with someone who needs you all the time. When they ask for your opinion and validation, even if they already know what you’re going to say because they already asked before, it makes me feel so important. ( A thought that doesn’t cross my mind) And then there are the moments where everything comes crashing down and they make me feel powerless. Moments where they demand things from me, not knowing how much I’m struggling myself. Moments where you try to be strong and put on that happy face, but inside you’re dying. It leaves me wondering if this is worth it? Those are just overwhelming emotions that come with being needed. In time, those trying moments do pass.
*Dealing with the emotional ups and downs
There are many challenges that come with being needed all the time. It can be very rewarding, but you also have to find your balance. You always need to make time for yourself, or else it can get overwhelming. There will be days when you feel like everything is going well, and then there are days where you are at rock bottom with no one to talk to about what’s going on in your head. On those days, finding someone who understands how you feel is crucial.
It is important to remember that not everyone experiences this feeling on a daily basis; some people do not even experience this feeling at all!
There are ways of self-care that may seem silly, but they really work. These things may include journaling , deep breathing, or listening to music. I’ve found that during times when I’m feeling so anxious I don’t know what to do with myself, writing down my thoughts gives me clarity and helps me put things into perspective again. You need to take care of yourself before you are able to take care of others – and even if it means saying “no” from time to time! I know that word “no’ is far fetched from my vocabulary. It’s okay to say ‘no” to feel your own inner needs at times. One”no” I can’t today, will give you a feeling of clarity. Clarity of peace of mind and a moment of fresh breathe. It’s okay because it generally works out. Everything is okay, saying yes or no. It’s just fine, and everyone is okay, 😁
- *The physical toll it takes
Neediness is draining. It’s one thing to have an emotional attachment to someone else, but it’s another when you’re expected to be at their beck and call. You start feeling more like a servant than a significant other. And you’re not even sure if it’s just this person or all people in general, which doesn’t make things any better for your self-esteem. If anything, they are doing you a favor by accepting your company at all – so they must want to see you too? Sometimes it feels as though there is no real meaning behind anything. There is no love or emotion involved in what should be relationships. When I am needed, I feel desired. I love how much he needs me when he wakes up in the morning before going to work. He can barely get out of bed without holding onto my arm first and having me with him while he drinks his coffee. When I’m not needed anymore, I need to be able to give myself permission to say no. My friends keep telling me that these feelings will pass, that it’s not worth getting caught up in something that won’t last. But how do you know until it ends? How do you know if something is worth giving up your life for now because tomorrow may never come?
*The mental challenges
I’ve found that being needed all the time can have its highs as well as its lows. One day, you may be feeling like you are the most important person to someone else, but then another day they’ll ignore your text message or call. You start to question what they’re doing with their life, and why they don’t want you around. It’s hard not to take it personally, especially when you’re putting in so much effort. It becomes difficult to maintain composure when things seem like they are going downhill. One minute, you’re at the top of your game – making a difference in this world and impacting people’s lives. And then the next moment, you feel powerless again because something goes wrong and there is nothing left for you to do. You feel useless because there was no way for you to control it or prevent it from happening
- *Life happens Sometimes we meet up with challenges that are beyond our control. Life takes turns for the worst sometimes, and we can only hope for better days ahead. When we face these challenges head on instead of letting them overcome us, we gain more than just relief from stress.. We gain wisdom and strength in knowing how to handle similar situations in the future!. These challenges push us out of our comfort zones, which can be both mentally and physically exhausting. But overcoming these obstacles leaves you feeling powerful! Not many other things in life leave you feeling this strong after getting through it!
Feeling needed is great at times. The neediness catches up to our well-being, unexpectedly. Leaving us feeling that another person may inhibit doing for themselves when able. Taking advantage of your time and your own personal space. If you feel overwhelmed, it’s okay. The feelings will pass when you regain your space and time. Being needed is a rewarding feeling. Those feelings can be overwhelming when challenges occur. It’s okay to set boundaries and maintain your own need of physical and mental health.
Until our beautiful minds meet again, be safe out there. Many blessings and much love. Remember Everyday Minds Matter -Della 💞🦋